This article has stayed with me for years after reading it. It's long, but gave me profound understanding. I highly recommend giving it your time. I can also recommend Jeff Atwood's post They Have...
This article has stayed with me for years after reading it. It's long, but gave me profound understanding. I highly recommend giving it your time.
I can also recommend Jeff Atwood's post They Have To Be Monsters, which offers a similar look at how we treat people online after a disaster. It's easier to blame others than to have sympathy, because it would mean admitting to ourselves that we are not perfect.
This article impacts you deep. I only read like a quarter of it then instapapered it, but I gotta confess: I clicked through saying "what a bloody fuckwit you need to be to do such a thing, stick...
This article impacts you deep. I only read like a quarter of it then instapapered it, but I gotta confess: I clicked through saying "what a bloody fuckwit you need to be to do such a thing, stick these into a dark cell for a lifetime", but a few paragraphs in and I was already confused, and now I am angry at myself for being so cruel within me to these people who've already lost the essence of their lives, when I think about it.
This really teaches you on nuance and on why reactionary punishment is bad.
This is one of my worst fears. I’m easily distracted and I have a 9 months old baby. I leave him at day care everyday in the morning. What I do to minimize any risk is to call my wife everyday...
This is one of my worst fears. I’m easily distracted and I have a 9 months old baby. I leave him at day care everyday in the morning. What I do to minimize any risk is to call my wife everyday after I drop him. I can’t imagine how it must be to live with such a tragedy.
We have a "getting out of the car" habit. I still do it, even though my youngest child is almost 5. I actually open the door of the backseat and check if anything has been left behind. In addition...
We have a "getting out of the car" habit. I still do it, even though my youngest child is almost 5. I actually open the door of the backseat and check if anything has been left behind. In addition to being useful to prevent myself from forgetting children, it has prevented me from leaving my laptop on the backseat of the car dozens of times.
What an absolutely heartbreaking read. I'm not sure what's worse, the way these children died or the gut-wrenching realization that the forgetful parent easily could've been me. It's incumbent on...
What an absolutely heartbreaking read. I'm not sure what's worse, the way these children died or the gut-wrenching realization that the forgetful parent easily could've been me. It's incumbent on every parent to implement mindfulness routines to prevent such a thing, but there will always be some that fail in this... it only takes a single slip-up. These parents have my full compassion.
In these clearly accidental situations, no way should criminal charges be pressed. The loss of one's child and the subsequent weight of that guilt is punishment enough.
This article has stayed with me for years after reading it. It's long, but gave me profound understanding. I highly recommend giving it your time.
I can also recommend Jeff Atwood's post They Have To Be Monsters, which offers a similar look at how we treat people online after a disaster. It's easier to blame others than to have sympathy, because it would mean admitting to ourselves that we are not perfect.
This article impacts you deep. I only read like a quarter of it then instapapered it, but I gotta confess: I clicked through saying "what a bloody fuckwit you need to be to do such a thing, stick these into a dark cell for a lifetime", but a few paragraphs in and I was already confused, and now I am angry at myself for being so cruel within me to these people who've already lost the essence of their lives, when I think about it.
This really teaches you on nuance and on why reactionary punishment is bad.
This is one of my worst fears. I’m easily distracted and I have a 9 months old baby. I leave him at day care everyday in the morning. What I do to minimize any risk is to call my wife everyday after I drop him. I can’t imagine how it must be to live with such a tragedy.
We have a "getting out of the car" habit. I still do it, even though my youngest child is almost 5. I actually open the door of the backseat and check if anything has been left behind. In addition to being useful to prevent myself from forgetting children, it has prevented me from leaving my laptop on the backseat of the car dozens of times.
What an absolutely heartbreaking read. I'm not sure what's worse, the way these children died or the gut-wrenching realization that the forgetful parent easily could've been me. It's incumbent on every parent to implement mindfulness routines to prevent such a thing, but there will always be some that fail in this... it only takes a single slip-up. These parents have my full compassion.
In these clearly accidental situations, no way should criminal charges be pressed. The loss of one's child and the subsequent weight of that guilt is punishment enough.