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  1. Comment on Timasomo 2025: Week 1 Updates in ~creative.timasomo

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    I have been practicing, and that's about it, but I've played the guitar and sang every day.

    I have been practicing, and that's about it, but I've played the guitar and sang every day.

    3 votes

  2. Comment on Catfishing - the Wikipedia guessing game in ~games

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    I don't want to get all sulky about it, but I got that one wrong.

    I don't want to get all sulky about it, but I got that one wrong.

  3. Comment on Twenty-one facts about throwing good parties in ~life

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    I suspect this is highly dependent on the invitees. My wife's family is mostly brown, and if we suggest 2 as a beginning, it means some aunties will show up at noon to help, and most people will...

    I suspect this is highly dependent on the invitees. My wife's family is mostly brown, and if we suggest 2 as a beginning, it means some aunties will show up at noon to help, and most people will arrive some time between 2:30 and 6. The exception is of if you've rented a place (party room or the like) and then they will show up exactly at the listed time and there will be a lineup to get in.

    Or we have a friend group from the Caribbean, and the best we can do is nail down a day because for parties they still operate on "island time".

    The article seems pretty WASP-y.

    4 votes

  4. Comment on Timasomo 2025: Roll Call in ~creative.timasomo

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    I will record at least one rough-and-ready song (ie. very few tracks, with a "live on the floor" feeling) and post it on my site, and probably make a section on the website specifically for songs....

    I will record at least one rough-and-ready song (ie. very few tracks, with a "live on the floor" feeling) and post it on my site, and probably make a section on the website specifically for songs.

    I've started practice on a few songs:

    • In The Garage by Weezer
    • River Below by Billy Talent
    • Santa Monica by Everclear
    • Mad World by Tears for Fears
    • Both Hands by Ani Difranco

    I have to get my voice back in good singing condition. I really haven't been doing a lot of music lately.

    3 votes

  5. Comment on US solar will pass wind in 2025 and leave coal in the dust soon after in ~enviro

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    I thought this was referencing how badly the current administration is shitting the bed regarding climate change.

    US solar will pass wind

    I thought this was referencing how badly the current administration is shitting the bed regarding climate change.

    27 votes

  6. Comment on Announcing the seventh annual Tildes' Make Something Month (Timasomo)! in ~tildes

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    It's been a long while since I've taken part in one of these, and I think I'll tentatively record a few (probably cover) songs. I don't have a particularly good recording setup, so it'll be rough...

    It's been a long while since I've taken part in one of these, and I think I'll tentatively record a few (probably cover) songs. I don't have a particularly good recording setup, so it'll be rough and ready.

    I might also make some adjustments to the blog site that I did in the second Timasomo.

    3 votes

  7. Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech

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    From a technical point of view, there are a few reasons it won't work, most notably that they can go to a friend's house and access the internet there, or at school, or they can connect their own...

    From a technical point of view, there are a few reasons it won't work, most notably that they can go to a friend's house and access the internet there, or at school, or they can connect their own device to another wireless network in range.

    From a parenting point of view, there are a few reasons it won't work. It mostly comes back to not giving your kids the tools to deal with the internet, so when you take off those training wheels they will have loads of problems. This is like an "only abstinence" approach to the internet, and it doesn't work for sex, it doesn't work for alcohol, and it won't work for the internet. You have to actually talk about and educate your kids on each of these things so that they have the tools to survive once they are not under your constant supervision.

    I've got 3 kids, and one of them is almost 20. When she went to University, I was pretty comfortable with her usage of social media and her ability to interface safely with the internet, just as I am confident about her ability to be around alcohol (legal drinking age here is 19) and have relationships. A big part of that is that we gave her the tools and knowledge to grow in those areas while we were constantly there to help out when needed (and we are still nearby to help when needed). Notably different was her first-year roommate in University, who was a valedictorian with overbearing parents... who drank constantly, did no work, and eventually flunked out because it was her first taste of freedom.

    If you limit your kids from all the things, then the second they get all the things, they will have no self control over them.

    4 votes

  8. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    Some people still elect to say hateful things when I'm wearing pride paraphernalia, but I think being a behemoth does deflect a lot of it.

    Some people still elect to say hateful things when I'm wearing pride paraphernalia, but I think being a behemoth does deflect a lot of it.

    3 votes

  9. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    I like that - he's got a very kind face. This reminds me of a conversation about how we imagine the other Tilderen to look that I had with @kfwyre years ago. I like Ezra Klein as a default look.

    I like that - he's got a very kind face.

    This reminds me of a conversation about how we imagine the other Tilderen to look that I had with @kfwyre years ago. I like Ezra Klein as a default look.

    4 votes

  10. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    If you are ever in Southern Ontario, Canada, I am available. I would say that upwards of 95% of my comments that I've made have been made while wearing very informal gym shorts. I'm glad! I also...

    If I saw you with your 'free dad hugs', I'd probably approach you and politely request one, as I've never had one in my life.

    If you are ever in Southern Ontario, Canada, I am available.

    those floating digital entities are wearing business attire.

    I would say that upwards of 95% of my comments that I've made have been made while wearing very informal gym shorts.

    I would immediately feel safe if I saw someone of your stature and physique wearing that shirt in my vicinity.

    I'm glad! I also know that I look more "michigan militia" than "fiercely supportive ally" so I try to signal safety as much as I can.

    7 votes

  11. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    I appreciate the kindness. I really like that these shirts (the "You Will Have To Go Through me" ones) do directly support local trans-positive charities.

    I appreciate the kindness. I really like that these shirts (the "You Will Have To Go Through me" ones) do directly support local trans-positive charities.

    4 votes

  12. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    I would vote for that. Heck, I think I have voted for that at a local level.

    I would vote for that. Heck, I think I have voted for that at a local level.

    2 votes

  13. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    <3 Thanks, this is why I've been wearing this and my "Free Dad Hugs" pride shirt a lot more recently.

    <3

    Thanks, this is why I've been wearing this and my "Free Dad Hugs" pride shirt a lot more recently.

    10 votes

  14. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    May I inquire about how I defied expectation? Was it not being a bird made out of fire, because that comes up with some frequency.

    May I inquire about how I defied expectation? Was it not being a bird made out of fire, because that comes up with some frequency.

    6 votes

  15. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    I'm ready. Since we're in need of good feels, I'll also share a story - I was wearing this at a farmer's market in the summer, and went to purchase a sausage roll from one of the stalls. They...

    I'm ready. Since we're in need of good feels, I'll also share a story - I was wearing this at a farmer's market in the summer, and went to purchase a sausage roll from one of the stalls. They liked my shirt and didn't charge me for the sausage roll.

    19 votes

  16. Comment on What words do you recommend? in ~talk

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    I am also a fan of antiwiddershins for clockwise.

    I am also a fan of antiwiddershins for clockwise.

    3 votes

  17. Comment on US FBI readies new war on trans people in ~lgbt

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    Everything hurts and this is terrible. It is evil and vindictive. It is stupid and baseless. I want to put something affirming here because I feel like it is needed. To whomever needs this: You...

    Everything hurts and this is terrible. It is evil and vindictive. It is stupid and baseless.

    I want to put something affirming here because I feel like it is needed. To whomever needs this:

    You belong. There are people that believe in you and your rights. The world is better with you in it. Evil isn't going to ultimately triumph.

    58 votes

  18. Comment on Jimmy Kimmel pulled “indefinitely” by ABC after Charlie Kirk comments in ~tv

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    It's not a bad taste joke. "Make comedy legal again" wasn't about this sort of thing; it was about not letting people talk back to comedians when they made trans or ableist or racist jokes. Marc...

    It's not a bad taste joke. "Make comedy legal again" wasn't about this sort of thing; it was about not letting people talk back to comedians when they made trans or ableist or racist jokes. Marc Maron has a bit on single issue voting which is scathing and angry and fair warning: uses an ableist slur as the punchline, but really sums it up.

    It wasn't about making comedy legal again, it was about removing cultural pushback against middle aged white men who want to say awful things to the people they hate.

    12 votes

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  20. Comment on Does anyone here enjoy a whisk(e)y ? in ~food

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    Fun Dillon's fact: during the height of the pandemic, they switched from distilling spirits to creating hand sanitizer, at a huge loss, and while doing so, they put out a promotion to purchase...

    Fun Dillon's fact: during the height of the pandemic, they switched from distilling spirits to creating hand sanitizer, at a huge loss, and while doing so, they put out a promotion to purchase gift cards for later use. We bought a distillery tour at that time, and held onto it until last summer when we used it, and we really enjoyed the facilities, the people, and the whole vibe.

    If you can get their cocktails I definitely recommend doing so. They're pretty great.

    2 votes