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  1. Comment on Does the tags position on posts seem weird to anyone else? in ~tildes

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    I have it on, but I just like taxonomies. I accept that this isn't normal.

    I have it on, but I just like taxonomies.

    I accept that this isn't normal.

    5 votes
  2. Comment on Advocating for rich civilians in ~talk

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    I am envious of that. ;) But in all seriousness, this is one of the primary tenets of libertarianism; people should be free to make as much money as they want, and then they should be free to do...

    never interacted with anyone online or off-line who defended anything remotely close to the sentence "we should hope for a benevolent billionaire to save us".

    I am envious of that. ;)

    But in all seriousness, this is one of the primary tenets of libertarianism; people should be free to make as much money as they want, and then they should be free to do what they want with that money, and we should trust that there exists people good enough to do noble things with their money. It is rarely stated as extremely as "we should hope for a benevolent billionaire", but that is the ultimate end goal; some billionaire will choose a cause and eradicate whatever problem the cause is for. If not a single billionaire, then "the rich" should be trusted to care for everyone, out of the goodness of their heart.

    It seems obvious to me that this won't work, but every libertarian I know is convinced that it is the only way forward for society, and claim it'll "get us out of the mess we're in".

    Certainly not on Tildes.

    Partially that is because of how this particular social network grows; since it is only by invitation, we do tend towards a particular kind of voice. On a small scale: I know several libertarians, and I don't want to discuss most things with them, and thus don't invite them to Tildes. I imagine I'm not the only one in that boat.

    10 votes
  3. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Today my wife and I went to Lucky Belly a great local restaurant. My wife had the Black Bean & Quinoa slider with mozzarella, slaw, guacamole, garlic sriracha aioli. It was pretty falafel-y; I've...

    Today my wife and I went to Lucky Belly a great local restaurant. My wife had the Black Bean & Quinoa slider with mozzarella, slaw, guacamole, garlic sriracha aioli. It was pretty falafel-y; I've rarely been tempted to go back to a place strictly for their veggie burger patty, but this was great, and I am already thinking about another trip just to get it. I had the shrimp po-boy taco with breaded shrimp, jalapeno corn relish, slaw, tangy aioli, sweet chili sauce, a and Caribbean taco with braised beef, grilled pineapple, slaw, garlic aioli. My wife got the sweet potato salad, and I had the a spanikopita side. It was a very delicious meal, well worth the 40 bucks.

    My father-in-law made us some fantastic rack of lamb on the weekend, and we still have some of that, along with some kebabs and biryani. Leftovers from my in-laws are always great, and they gave us a load of them.

    Last week I made probably the best burgers I've ever had; I got some ground sirloin and some ground chuck (my sister is a butcher) and formed the patties and grilled them, with just a bit of salt and pepper. I had some pepperjack cheese that I put on, and I grilled some brioche buns. I had them with a thick helping of fried jalapenos and shallots, topped with some Dixon's Whisky Mustard.

    I've been making some more hot sauces; I'm about to bottle a scotch bonnet and garlic sauce that I anticipate being quite spicy, and I've got a green thai hot sauce fermenting right now. I'm going to start a fairly low-key jalapeno and cucumber sauce that my son will probably enjoy.

    Other than that breakfast burritos have been a mainstay in my lunches; scrambled eggs with peppers, onions or shallots, mushrooms, a bit of hot sauce. Simple, fast, delicious!

    1 vote
  4. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I have been thinking about good Caribbean for a while. The last time I had good Caribbean food was in the Caribbean. Maybe once Covid is over and we get back on our "vacation out thataway" plan,...

    I have been thinking about good Caribbean for a while. The last time I had good Caribbean food was in the Caribbean. Maybe once Covid is over and we get back on our "vacation out thataway" plan, which fell through last year, I'll hit you up for restaurant specifics.

    3 votes
  5. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I haven't been to Rendez-Vous - I'll have to check it out some time. I've been to a few places downtown, and I never enjoyed them as much as the local place here, or the one I used to enjoy in...

    I haven't been to Rendez-Vous - I'll have to check it out some time. I've been to a few places downtown, and I never enjoyed them as much as the local place here, or the one I used to enjoy in Ottawa, but maybe I'll give them a shot some time; thanks for the recommendation!

    The Guelph one is certainly worth a stop if you're ever out this way for some reason.

    2 votes
  6. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I enjoy that the veggie dishes tend to be as good as the meat dishes at a lot of Ethiopian places that I've been to. And I'm also lucky having a good place within walking distance; the next...

    I enjoy that the veggie dishes tend to be as good as the meat dishes at a lot of Ethiopian places that I've been to. And I'm also lucky having a good place within walking distance; the next closest good Ethiopian place I know of is ~6hrs away.

    I wonder if they'll do the coffee ceremony here. The people who run the place are delightful, so they might do it if asked. A good long while ago, I was using an uber for something and the driver ended up being the son of the owner, and they're all just lovely people; every time I've been to the restaurant the hospitality has been more like "you are a friend, come in and enjoy" and less like "I am a waiter, what do you want".

    4 votes
  7. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    My kids are off at my parents so we have been eating things they wouldn't normally eat. The other day I made a fish curry and it was delicious. It had basa loins, shallots, garlic, peppers and a...

    My kids are off at my parents so we have been eating things they wouldn't normally eat.

    The other day I made a fish curry and it was delicious. It had basa loins, shallots, garlic, peppers and a fair amount of butter and yoghurt. We had it with flatbreads.

    We had ethiopian food one night, which is amongst my favourite genres of food. The local restaurant (The Warka Tree) is amazing, and we ate on the patio (yay for full vaccinations), and had the place to ourselves for an early dinner. I love injera, the spongy flatbread that comes with ethiopian meals.

    Lunches have mostly consisted of breakfast burritos: scrambled eggs with veggies in a wrap. A simple, great lunch.

    Tonight I'll be grilling some steaks and having a side salad.

    5 votes
  8. Comment on Bring back restaurant menus! in ~food

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    I am becoming increasingly tired of these "I don't like [x], you shouldn't like [x], let's collectively get rid of [x]" articles. Some people prefer QR codes; some people prefer menus. Any good...

    I am becoming increasingly tired of these "I don't like [x], you shouldn't like [x], let's collectively get rid of [x]" articles. Some people prefer QR codes; some people prefer menus. Any good restaurant should have either as an option, and you can take care of things however you want.

    If I go out to dinner with someone, if they told me they didn't like that I was using a QR code instead of a "real menu" I would change the subject. If it was important to them that I perform in a particular way, I would consider it based on the request ("could you please use a physical menu? I understand it's inconvenient for you, but it's part of the experience for me" - then maybe). If they were like this article, I'd just try to finish early, and try to remember to not schedule time in restaurants with that person.

    It seems very foolish to me to have a strong opinion about a matter that is entirely personal taste. It's like the crowd of people who talk about disliking pineapple on pizza; it's utterly tiresome to have a conversation about it.

    I suggest that if you don't like QR codes, you simply ask for a menu. I've never been to a half-decent restaurant that wouldn't make some sort of attempt to help when asked. If they don't have a menu, and it's a big issue, then leave and do not return; vote with your money. I am not suggesting that there's nothing valid in this article - there are lots of good points that I agree wth - but they're all based on personal preferences, and arguing that one preference is better than another is a fool's errand.

    Note: This is a grumbly comment. I may just be generally grumbly because my air conditioner is on the fritz.

    15 votes
  9. Comment on Why are nobody talking about the Euros here? in ~sports

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    I would suggest that instead of "why aren't people talking about [x]" threads, it's better to just post a thread. ~sports is one of the least popular groups, with about 1 topic and 4 comments...

    I would suggest that instead of "why aren't people talking about [x]" threads, it's better to just post a thread. ~sports is one of the least popular groups, with about 1 topic and 4 comments posted daily. If you want to see content about a topic, write the topic!

    I like disc golf, which is why you probably saw the disc golf post yesterday, but it's there because I wrote it. So write something! Make some content happen here, that's what Tildes needs. If you want people to be interested, write something interesting. Give us some links to click on; share some highlights! Talk about a crazy game, or something you were especially interested in (which is what you've done! Kudos and thanks).

    If you want to see discussion around each knockout match, post a thread! People who are interested will comment. The big difference between ~sports and r/soccer is about 2.7M people, so any discussion that you're interested in you may have to seed. And the discussion might not be big for this Euros, but if you seed it now by the next Euros it will be better!

    5 votes
  10. Comment on 2021 Disc Golf World Championships in ~sports

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    I'm happy to have done so!

    I'm happy to have done so!

    2 votes
  11. Comment on Not trying to make waves but why are articles posted to news that relate to lgbt moved? in ~tildes

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    I just want to challenge this: I'm interested in the topic, and I gave some reasoning in this comment below about my thoughts on the matter.

    I just want to challenge this:

    Users still subscribed to ~news, but that have also specifically unsubscribed from ~lgbt are unlikely to be interested in the topic

    I'm interested in the topic, and I gave some reasoning in this comment below about my thoughts on the matter.

    6 votes
  12. Comment on Not trying to make waves but why are articles posted to news that relate to lgbt moved? in ~tildes

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    It's not a bother! Have opinions and make them known - one of the joys of Tildes is that you can make a difference in how things are run, unlike some other sites.

    It's not a bother! Have opinions and make them known - one of the joys of Tildes is that you can make a difference in how things are run, unlike some other sites.

    4 votes
  13. Comment on Not trying to make waves but why are articles posted to news that relate to lgbt moved? in ~tildes

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    I'll put this out there to start: I'm a straight white cismale, so my opinion may not be that useful (and I'm straight white cismale enough to still give it, I guess). How I thought it worked was...

    I'll put this out there to start: I'm a straight white cismale, so my opinion may not be that useful (and I'm straight white cismale enough to still give it, I guess).

    How I thought it worked was that ~lgbt was for discussion amongst the community and was intended mostly for people who identified as part of the LGBT+ community. As such, I'm not subscribed there; my voice isn't an important one for LGBT people to hear on most matters, other than to say HAPPY PRIDE and I APPRECIATE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. However, I'm interested in news that touches on LGBT issues, and having a LGBT community that subsumes all the content that is related has sort of sucked that out of my feed, completely. I could (and sometimes do) subscribe to ~lgbt but then I have this issue where much of the content isn't for me, and I don't have anything to add to the discussion (which is fine, I don't have to add to every discussion, or be the focus demographic for a group).

    It's the same issue that was experienced when someone suggested a ~videos group. There are tons of videos, and they don't conform to a specific topic, and could be better placed in other groups. Similarly, ~games has LGBT issues, and ~politics does, and every single group does because LGBT people are people and they exist and are a part of every single group.

    I would love to see ~lgbt used, perhaps, as a discussion oriented space and not a catch-all place. I don't really like that ~lgbt acts as a filter for my feed. That said, I can fix the issue myself by changing what I subscribe to and read, so this could be me overthinking something that doesn't actually have much of an influence on my day to day use of the site.

    There's also another thing that I want to touch on, which is that a lot of people feel like application of tags and moving of things from groups and editing of titles is something personal and problematic. I would urge you to think of it more as an amazing core feature. Part of the reason we have this reaction is because we have this idea of "ownership" of topics that are brought up; we say things like "did you see my post about that?" but instead of the post belonging to you, the post belongs to everyone, and we can adjust it to be the best possible fit for the community. I would also say that the people who do the tagging (mostly @mycketforvirrad) are wonderful and will listen and adjust if you feel like they did something wrong.

    Edit: after reading @Deimos' comment above I want to say "all the same things, but reverse it and make it ~news instead of ~lgbt. News is the thing that shouldn't filter from other groups; it's the catch-all that shouldn't catch all, it's the problem.

    7 votes
  14. Comment on 2021 Disc Golf World Championships in ~sports

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    I can't overstate that if you enjoy competitions, that you will enjoy the Final Round. If you watch Sports Centre, the final round figured prominently in their plays of the week (I believe it was...

    I can't overstate that if you enjoy competitions, that you will enjoy the Final Round. If you watch Sports Centre, the final round figured prominently in their plays of the week (I believe it was #1). The general consensus is that this was the most exciting finale, with the best play in the history of the sport.

    Each round is remarkably close, with a very tight cluster at the top; every pro above except Paul Ulibarri brought their A-game and put on a show. Some names to watch out for especially:

    Ricky Wysocki - he has won so many tournaments this year, and is consistently on the podium.

    Emmerson Keith - fresh off a win at the courses that are being played. It's remarkable to see Emmerson play with Jeremy Koling as there is well over a foot of height difference between the two.

    Nate Sexton - you'll hear the commentators joke about "Nate Safeton" a lot, and then wonder where Nate Safeton has gone, because he goes all out for this tournament.

    James Conrad - notable for many reasons, one being that he mostly only throws backhand; most disc golfers practice forehand and backhand. Also notable for huge runups and notably aces (hole-in-one) Hole 16 on chase card coverage in one round.

    Calvin Heimburg - young guy who is consistently in the top 5 for all the major tournaments this year and in the hunt for a big win. Also worth watching anything where he has a microphone; he's hilarious.

    Paul McBeth - "McBeast" is considered by many (myself included) to be the GOAT (greatest of all time) - more major wins than any other active disc golfer, and currently under a $10M for 10 years contract with Discraft.

    Spoilers about results

    For real, stop reading if you don't want the ending spoiled.

    Results with winnings

    I was rooting for Nate Sexton and Emmerson Keith (Keith is my son's favourite), and I wasn't disappointed with the results. Sexton took home third place and $8500 and Keith came 14th and took home $1500.

    The final 3 holes - really the final 4 since the tie resulted in a sudden death playoff- were crazy. Having such a tight race between Sexton, Jones, McBeth, and Conrad right up to hole 16, and then having Jones' drive plunk down and roll into the water was just heartbreaking, especially if you know that he had some terrible luck a couple of weeks ago that cost him another tournament in a similar situation. That took it down to 3 people in it, with McBeth just out in the lead.

    17 was interesting, but hole 18... man. I think the announcers were spot on. Seeing a 250 foot blind throw in, around a corner the wrong way (the throw is much easier forehand, and Conrad threw it backhand) right after McBeth just laid up was insane.

    And the playoff was rough - watching PMcB throw it in the water was really unfortunate. He's usually stone cold and doesn't make many mistakes, but I guess the pressure got to him. What an absolutely crazy ending though!

    4 votes
  15. 2021 Disc Golf World Championships

    The Disc Golf World Championships just finished and they have been fantastic. I have watched a lot of sporting events, and this was one of the most interesting and exciting sports tournaments I've...

    The Disc Golf World Championships just finished and they have been fantastic. I have watched a lot of sporting events, and this was one of the most interesting and exciting sports tournaments I've ever seen. I'm a stereotypical Canadian boy and I am saying this about not-hockey!

    If you are not really into disc golf but perhaps interested enough to watch half an hour or so of the 7ish hours of videos that I've linked here, then here you go: Final Round starting on hole 16. If you have interest in any competitive sports (and you probably do if you're reading this) then I guarantee that you will not regret spending half an hour clicking on this link.

    This is all going to be Men's Lead Card coverage from Jomez Pro but if this sparks interest for you, check out Gatekeeper Media for Men's chase card action, GK Pro for Men's chase-chase cards, and Central Coast Disc Golf for Women's Lead card.

    • Round 1: Ricky Wysocki, Paul Ulibarri, Jeremy Koling, Emmerson Keith. Front 9 - Back 9
    • Round 2: Ricky Wysocki, Nate Sexton, Calvin Heimburg, Kevin Jones. Front 9 - Back 9
    • Round 3: Paul McBeth, James Conrad, Emmerson Keith, Calvin Heimburg. Front 9 - Back 9
    • Round 4: Nate Sexton, Calvin Heimburg, Emmerson Keith, Ezra Aderhold. Front 9 - Back 9
    • Final Round: Paul McBeth, James Conrad, Kevin Jones, Calvin Heimburg. Front 9 - Back 9

    Bonus: Mic'd up Practice Round. Jeremy Koling, Nate Sexton, Paul Ulibarri. Front 9 - Back 9

    12 votes
  16. Comment on Tildes will be down for most of this weekend in ~tildes.official

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    All great changes, lousy to have to spend a weekend on it. Good luck and godspeed.

    All great changes, lousy to have to spend a weekend on it. Good luck and godspeed.

    21 votes
  17. Comment on What it’s like to be cancelled in ~life

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    So forgive me for being more informed (gosh that sounds snarky, but it's not) - it's notable that I play Magic, I watched this unfold in real time, and had opinions on that as it happened. For the...
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    So forgive me for being more informed (gosh that sounds snarky, but it's not) - it's notable that I play Magic, I watched this unfold in real time, and had opinions on that as it happened. For the record my opinions on it are:

    • Bradley rightfully lost his job.
    • Bradley's apologies are probably mostly for his own benefit.
    • Bradley is almost certainly some kind of sociopath.
    • Bradley was a "pick up artist" style of predator, in that he wanted to sleep with women just to have sex. I do not believe that he committed any sex crimes, as is often assumed by the phrase sexual predator and he was not admitting to committing any sex crimes in his apology. He was putting forth that not all predatory behaviour is criminal.

    The last point is perhaps the most salient one - he is not a Weinstein or a Spacey, he is a minor celebrity who used his minor status to sleep with women at conventions. Important note: I do not condone doing this.

    So to move forward:

    I would say him losing his job at the time for sexually harassing women is a uh good thing. Do you disagree?

    I agree 100% - him losing his job at the time was good. I agree so much that I actually wrote a letter to WotC explaining that I wouldn't be purchasing more goods from them if they continued to use his art. It was a fairly toothless (though truthful!) threat - my spending habits won't make or break them - but I believe in voting with my wallet.

    He also still has a career. He is making art.

    He has changed careers. He is not doing the same career as before; the art is not the same. I do not begrudge him having a career, though I won't be buying anything from him.

    I don't know why I am supposed to care that this guy had a tough time for a few months.

    Nobody is asking you to care that this guy is having a tough time. You probably don't care, and that's fine. Personally, I found what he wrote to be rather interesting - it's a look at what happens when you get cancelled. Yes, it's a little bit self pitying. No, it doesn't make me feel bad for him. Yes, it's a cry for attention, because Bradley needs that attention.

    I would much rather know how his victims are doing.

    See above re: crimes. One interpretation would be that there aren't any "victims" because for there to be a victim, there has to be a crime. As far as anyone knows, he has committed no crimes, and there are no victims. There are people that he used his influence to sleep with, and yes, it would be great to know that they are okay. I want to be clear on something here - I'm not excusing or endorsing Bradley's reprehensible behaviour. I am acknowledging, though, that to the best of everyone's knowledge, this man has not committed a single crime. Do I like him? No. Do I think that his life should be ruined because he likes sleeping around? Also no. Do I endorse using scummy PUA-style tactics and minor celebrity to have sex with women? No.

    I'm also baffled by the broader response here that so many people seem to be defending this guy or are at least neutral towards him.

    I'm not defending him, but I think Bradley is a cautionary tale of the sorts of things that happen in our polarized society right now. He's not a rapist, he's not a criminal; he's just a douchebag. Being a douchebag isn't illegal, but lots of people are treating it like it is.

    I think he should be allowed to live his life. I think he has apologized for his mistakes, and I think he has committed no crimes.

    9 votes
  18. Comment on What it’s like to be cancelled in ~life

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    To be clear: this post isn't an apology. This is post is about being cancelled. He has issued many apologies, often directly to the people to whom he wronged. Why should we expect that this post,...

    To be clear: this post isn't an apology. This is post is about being cancelled. He has issued many apologies, often directly to the people to whom he wronged. Why should we expect that this post, in which he talks about the effects of being cancelled, include an apology? Once one acknowledges ones wrongs, does one need to apologize at all times moving forward?

    Also, it might be important to recognize that when he first apologized to the general public it ended his entire career, so he probably is going to be careful about issuing apologies.

    11 votes