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  1. Comment on New MacBook Pros in ~tech

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    It took me about a day to prefer the new keyboard over the old one, but to be fair, I had to have my last keyboard replaced 4 times, and that iteration of keyboard was hot garbage.

    It took me about a day to prefer the new keyboard over the old one, but to be fair, I had to have my last keyboard replaced 4 times, and that iteration of keyboard was hot garbage.

    2 votes
  2. Comment on I don't like coffee. Can James Hoffmann change that? in ~food

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    I thought it was incredible watching him work his way through it, talking through what his body was feeling, and how he felt about it. I did feel bad for him having to experience that, but it was...

    I thought it was incredible watching him work his way through it, talking through what his body was feeling, and how he felt about it. I did feel bad for him having to experience that, but it was pretty Tom-Scott-y to have him talk his way through the physiology of what was happening to him.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on I don't like coffee. Can James Hoffmann change that? in ~food

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    I should stipulate that I didn't take joy in his pain, but that I was happy that he shared his experience and showcased how physical reactions can manifest from panic; that was very interesting. I...

    I should stipulate that I didn't take joy in his pain, but that I was happy that he shared his experience and showcased how physical reactions can manifest from panic; that was very interesting.

    I wasn't actually happy that he was unhappy, I was happy that he was sharing, so I guess it wasn't technically shadenfreude.

    2 votes
  4. Comment on I don't like coffee. Can James Hoffmann change that? in ~food

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    I liked the caving video - I really enjoyed it, which is weird because it's just a guy having a panic attack.

    I had schadenfreude over liked the caving video - I really enjoyed it, which is weird because it's just a guy having a panic attack.

    2 votes
  5. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    I attended my brother-in-law's wedding. It had been postponed 3 times, so it was nice to finally see them get married; they've been so patient. This was my first big family "event" that I've...

    I attended my brother-in-law's wedding. It had been postponed 3 times, so it was nice to finally see them get married; they've been so patient. This was my first big family "event" that I've attended since Christmas of 2019, so it was a bit weird, but also pretty good.

    For an October wedding, the weather was glorious, if quite warm. The ceremony was delightful though I might be biased as all my kids were in the wedding party in some way or another (bridesmaid, flower girl, ring bearer). The reception was in a cool converted barn and was really well done; great food, great activities, great music. My daughters sang the first song (If I Ain't Got You by Alicia Keys, a capella duet) and it was amazing.

    Lots of great time with the family, albeit a bit distant and outside, but overall it was a lovely weekend.

    4 votes
  6. Canadian Election 2021

    CBC Coverage - CBC Poll Tracker Elections Canada CTV (live updates) Edit: CBC have projected a Liberal win. Seat Changes (Projected): Liberal: +1 Conservative: –2 Bloc Québécois: +2 New Democrat:...

    CBC Coverage - CBC Poll Tracker

    Elections Canada

    CTV (live updates)

    Edit: CBC have projected a Liberal win.

    Seat Changes (Projected):

    Liberal: +1
    Conservative: –2
    Bloc Québécois: +2
    New Democrat: +1
    Green: –1
    People's Party: 0
    Other: –1

    21 votes
  7. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    Your whole comment is a beautiful story, but this part hit me: When I was younger and living 4,500km from home, I got the call that my grandmother had passed away. It was hard; I had said my...

    Your whole comment is a beautiful story, but this part hit me:

    But also, there's a fear in the back of my mind that I'm gonna get the call that grandpa's heart gave out overnight. And that I'm gonna get that call while I'm away from home.

    When I was younger and living 4,500km from home, I got the call that my grandmother had passed away. It was hard; I had said my goodbyes to her before leaving to go west, and I had intellectually accepted when I left that I wasn't going to see her again. But intellectual acceptance is a far cry from emotional understanding, and hit me right in the chest. That was over 20 years ago, and I remember that feeling really well, and I also remember the feeling 10 years later when my grandfather passed. At that time I was in my current house; I had visited him recently. I had intellectually accepted the inevitability of his imminent passing; I had said my goodbye to him before leaving his house the week before, but as before that was far from emotional understanding, and his passing hit me right in the chest.

    With the passage of time, the thing that stuck with me was that the pain for both was similar; one was not worse because of the distance. I did not feel guilt because I'd lived my life, and I didn't feel worse because I was farther away when my grandmother passed. I just missed them both. I'm not quite sure what the point is that I'm grasping at, but maybe it's that you shouldn't fear living your nomadic life because you might get that call, because you might get that call when you live next door, and we carry the people we love with us, so regardless of our physical distance, we are always close.

    4 votes
  8. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    Holy smokes! That's 16,500-ish kilometers for my metric brethren, which is far. I've never actually been that far from my home at all, even for visiting. The farthest I've been is about 5,500km...

    Holy smokes! That's 16,500-ish kilometers for my metric brethren, which is far. I've never actually been that far from my home at all, even for visiting. The farthest I've been is about 5,500km away (3,400 miles).

    2 votes
  9. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    It would be interesting to live on a continent where it was easier to move, or even just visit, country to country. The only option I have that's particularly easy for me to travel to is the USA,...

    It would be interesting to live on a continent where it was easier to move, or even just visit, country to country. The only option I have that's particularly easy for me to travel to is the USA, and for a variety of reasons, I am not particularly interested in travelling or moving there.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    Hey, we're both in the one-mile club! That's awesome. I thought there'd be more of us.

    Hey, we're both in the one-mile club! That's awesome. I thought there'd be more of us.

    6 votes
  11. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    On Sunday we had "Kids' Day" which is a family day we observe like "Mothers' Day" or "Fathers' Day" but focused on the kids. We give them small gifts, and let them pick the course of the day. This...

    On Sunday we had "Kids' Day" which is a family day we observe like "Mothers' Day" or "Fathers' Day" but focused on the kids. We give them small gifts, and let them pick the course of the day. This is not particularly dissimilar to a normal weekend day, but the kids enjoy it. We played games that they like, including a lot of Throw, Throw Burrito which is a lot of silly fun. It's a chaotic card matching game and occasionally you throw burritos at each other.

    My son decided he wanted to play some disc golf with me in the afternoon despite it being unreasonably hot. We played 9 holes. The last hole at our local is pretty short (52m) and my son is a fairly athletic 6 year old and had a pretty good drive for a little guy, and landed it about 18m from the basket. I had a bad drive and landed about the same distance, so we had a bit of a face off situation. As he was lining up his long putt, he said, "What'll you give me if I get this in?" I scoffed and told him I'd give him $10 if he threw it in from that distance, feeling pretty confident about it (even pros are pretty dicey from anything over 10m). He then immediately threw it right in and then ran around doing airplane arms. So I walked up to my slightly closer (15m or so) disc and asked him what he'd give me if I sank mine, to which he responded, "I'll give you $20, but I won't have to because you won't make it." And damn it, he was correct. I went home $10 poorer, but with a very happy little guy, so it was ten bucks very well spent. Also the guys behind us cheered when he sank his long putt, which also made him feel about 10 feet tall.

    9 votes
  12. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    As the bird flies I am about 1.5km from the exact place I was born, which is the hospital in the city in which I live. In my brain, I think of this region (mid southern Ontario, Canada) as "home",...

    As the bird flies I am about 1.5km from the exact place I was born, which is the hospital in the city in which I live. In my brain, I think of this region (mid southern Ontario, Canada) as "home", but it's not necessarily just my city. My parents live just outside the city, still in the house in which I was raised.

    I'm not sure if this is normal or abnormal. I have lived in other places, though; most notably, I moved 4500km away to the other side of the country for a while in my 20s, and spent various short stints in other locations some distance away during University, none longer than a semester. The main reason that I'm in the city in which I was born is because it's a central location for work for me and my wife, though that has now become less of a reason with the pandemic - my business sold it's office and are now distributed / work from home for the foreseeable future - but we have roots here now.

    I did love having moved across the country; I met new people, did new things, and explored new places, and it was great. I enjoy being "home" now as well, though.

    5 votes
  13. Comment on What place/places (physical, online, personal) did you leave later than you should have? in ~talk

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    I was really involved in a gaming community (for World of Warcraft: r/wow and the related discord) for a long time. At the beginning of this year I left. It was overdue; it has freed up time but...

    I was really involved in a gaming community (for World of Warcraft: r/wow and the related discord) for a long time. At the beginning of this year I left. It was overdue; it has freed up time but also made me much more mentally healthy. I actually enjoy the game more (though it is currently by no means "good") and I don't really spend much of my free time worrying about a community of 2M+ people and how they're going to act.

    In a broader sense, reddit is also the answer for me, as it is for others.

    There was a gym that I stayed at too long in my 20s. It was a real "bro" zone, which is not at all my style. I hated it, but it was close and cheap. I stayed too long, and then grew a real hatred for going to the gym, and now I don't go to the gym. I should have realized a lot earlier that it was this specific gym that was awful, and not every gym, and given up on it. It would have been better for my lifelong health.

    6 votes
  14. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    Aside from my relatively "normal" answers (work, played some games, did stuff with the kids, played some disc golf, a couple bike rides) I disassembled our two "heavy" kitchen drawers and put them...

    Aside from my relatively "normal" answers (work, played some games, did stuff with the kids, played some disc golf, a couple bike rides) I disassembled our two "heavy" kitchen drawers and put them back together stronger and better. We have two relatively big drawers, mostly intended for pots and pans, and the drawer slides were not particularly high quality. I had purchased some slides that were supposed to be heavy duty, but hadn't gotten around to putting them together because as it turned out, I bought slides that had slide locks; you had to slightly push them in to get them to go out which didn't really mesh with the rest of the kitchen. I decided enough was enough and went about figuring out how to properly incorporate them.

    I took apart the slides and found that I could get rid of the locking mechanism without fully killing the soft close mechanism by taking the lock itself out and cutting a bit off, and by adjusting the springs to be about a third the original length. So I took off the drawer faces, installed the slides as level as possible, put the drawers sans-face in, and then reattached the faces. The detached / reattached faces was actually an important part because the face of the drawers shifted, or rather the drawer beds shifted up slightly while the drawer faces had to stay aligned with the other drawers.

    There was some trial and error involved. I originally tried to do it without detaching the faces, and that was a goddamn nightmare. It resulted in things like questioning some of the things that define me as a human - my ability to fix things being one of them. I drank several beers and pondered just what in the hell I was doing wrong. Then I called my dad and he told me to take off the faces and stop being an idiot, and that was helpful. Then he rephrased it as "what were you having trouble with? The drawer faces not lining up? So remove that variable and take them off. Can you install the drawers now?"

    The new drawer slides are rated up to 250 pounds, which I think exceeds the rating of the unit they are installed in, and they are smoooooooth and silky, and we can put our kitchen back together.

    4 votes
  15. Comment on Moderators of hundreds of popular subreddits sign open letter calling on Reddit founders to do more to combat COVID-19 disinformation in ~health.coronavirus

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    With the comments turned off. Amazing. "Dissent is important. But not dissent with me, spez, the king of reddit."

    With the comments turned off. Amazing.

    "Dissent is important. But not dissent with me, spez, the king of reddit."

    41 votes
  16. Comment on Some background regarding the recent OnlyFans changes in ~tech

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    All jokes aside, yes, you were being too reasonable. The "abortion is worse than the holocaust" crowd did not reach their conclusions through application of reason. For the most part, people who...

    All jokes aside, yes, you were being too reasonable. The "abortion is worse than the holocaust" crowd did not reach their conclusions through application of reason. For the most part, people who think like this aren't in any kind of denial about the Holocaust; they're in denial about the thing that they are comparing to the Holocaust.

    My aunt (and most of her sisters actually, but I only argued with the one) truly believes in the Holocaust and how terrible it was. Her uncle died in WW2 fighting Nazis; she believes the Holocaust was abhorrent evil, and almost as evil as humans can be. She sees abortion as worse.

    I think it's hard for people who look at things through some kind of scientific / reasonable lens to actually understand that. It took me a long time to grasp that she wasn't engaging in hyperbole or trying to make a point. She was being completely literal, and it informs every single political thought and action she has ever had. To her, abortion is a constant Holocaust that for some reason stupid liberals don't care about and actively engage in. It's actually horrible to talk about, and she cries and is in actual mental pain about it. She sees people who shoot abortion doctors as the equivalent to a time traveler who could kill Hitler.

    It is totally unreasonable, but I think that, at least in my experience, it's not coming from a place of Holocaust denial or anti-semitism.

    4 votes
  17. Comment on Some background regarding the recent OnlyFans changes in ~tech

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    I'm vehemently pro-choice, but have some anti-abortion family. I think that when you look at this through the "reasonableness" filter that you probably have, it seems like an unreasonable...

    I'm vehemently pro-choice, but have some anti-abortion family.

    I think that when you look at this through the "reasonableness" filter that you probably have, it seems like an unreasonable comparison, and it seems like it downplays the Holocaust. After a lengthy discussion with one of my crazier aunts, I have reached the following conclusion:

    • she fully believes in the Holocaust
    • she fully believes it was one of the worst possible things that could have ever happened in the history of the world
    • she believes that abortion is worse
    • she doesn't understand how I reach any other conclusion

    To her, abortion is murder, and not just a "run of the mill, normal" murder; it is a tortured, heinous act of evil baby murder. For those of us who are pro-choice, we do not have that visceral understanding. There have been 27 million abortions so far just in 2021. That eclipses the Holocaust. She cannot understand why everyone isn't abjectly horrified by this; to her mind, we are evil, because we value ourselves over the baby holocaust that she perceives.

    To be clear, I don't think her position is reasonable - it's influenced by massive amounts of propaganda, and an ignorance of science - but once you understand the feeling that accompanies her thoughts, it's a lot more understandable. In my experience, when people equate abortions and the Holocaust, it's the furthest thing from Holocaust denial, and they actually mean what they say; it's like a Holocaust except it recurs every 2 months.

    8 votes
  18. Comment on 1Password 8: The story so far in ~tech

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    I feel as if I am a frequent dissenter on topics like this, but I'll throw my 2 cents into the ring. The unified client code on all platforms is a good change, and it's exciting to see. The fact...

    I feel as if I am a frequent dissenter on topics like this, but I'll throw my 2 cents into the ring.

    The unified client code on all platforms is a good change, and it's exciting to see.

    The fact that the apps are now electron is probably not much of an issue for most people. Electron is one of those things that is somewhat polarizing; people who hate it really hate it. People who don't hate electron apps mostly seem to just be okay with them. I'm okay with them, as long as they're well thought out. I trust the 1Password people to think this one out fairly well. Admittedly all the machines for which this is relevant to me have lots of memory and won't have much of an issue; my MBP handles electron apps well, and my desktop computer does as well. I understand that a lot of people don't want to run Chromium for desktop applications, but it is a convenient way to package and release software, and the shortcomings for this particularly application will probably not be particularly short; after using 1Password, you should close it anyways and not just leave it open.

    Local vaults also are a non issue for me personally; I use their cloud service to store my vaults already. I have elected to trust this company with my data, and I will continue to do so. I understand people who don't want to do so; they're going to be stuck using a different service. For me, the convenience, coupled with my trust of the developer, means that this is a non issue.

    All in all, these are good changes.

    Disclosure: I already pay for the family pack (shared with my wife and daughter), and these changes seem like they will be convenient for all of us, not just for me. For what it's worth, I don't consider myself a casual user; I'm a coder / developer, and I am cognizant of security and privacy risks.

    5 votes
  19. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Seafarers of Catan for most of the last week - we were on vacation, and on day 1 we went into a board game shop and my kids managed to convince my wife that we should buy an expansion (which she...

    Seafarers of Catan for most of the last week - we were on vacation, and on day 1 we went into a board game shop and my kids managed to convince my wife that we should buy an expansion (which she typically doesn't like doing) and we are pretty happy thus far.

    7 votes