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Making Friends with a Stranger Changed My Life

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  1. monarda Link
    I'm pretty good and remaining inside my safe little bubble. Sometimes it is lonely in here, but it prevents me from having to deal with all all the mess that comes with people (the hurt, the...

    I'm pretty good and remaining inside my safe little bubble. Sometimes it is lonely in here, but it prevents me from having to deal with all all the mess that comes with people (the hurt, the rejection, the confusion, the uncertainty). This video reminded me that the people I do have in my life came about because I was open to experiencing them and letting them experience me.

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    Wolf Link
    I have been trying to make friends with strangers recently. I thought I would start online, just to get used to it. I went to Discord servers and found it very difficult to actually start...

    I have been trying to make friends with strangers recently. I thought I would start online, just to get used to it. I went to Discord servers and found it very difficult to actually start conversations with others, especially since it seems the server members are all pretty acquainted with each other. I feel like an intruder in their midst. I tried joined small servers after that, and still I had the same problem. Maybe I should go outside first.

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      monarda Link Parent
      I find it hard to make friends with strangers and often feel like an intruder too. Recently a local store started a cookbook club where everyone would use the same cookbook (different each month)...

      I find it hard to make friends with strangers and often feel like an intruder too.

      Recently a local store started a cookbook club where everyone would use the same cookbook (different each month) and get together once a month and bring a meal they had made from the book. I happened on it by chance when one of my sons had come to visit, and we were in the store. My son told me I needed to join, and I laughed at him because we both know I don't do that sort of thing, and besides, my lazy cooking is a running joke. But he kept pestering me via texts and phone calls until I signed up.

      It wasn't awful.

      I happened to sit across from a person who dominated the conversation all evening, and the few times I tried to say something, I got spoken over. I spent a good portion of the night feeling embarrassed about being there. I did, however, notice that there was a woman at the other end of the table that looked just as uncomfortable as I did, and she had sounded interesting when we did introductions.

      I really wanted to bolt when dinner was over. I looked around the room and saw that the woman I had noticed earlier looked to be making a quick retreat, so I decided to retreat with her. We ended up spending the next hour talking in the parking lot. We exchanged numbers and have been texting, and plan on getting together when I get back from visiting my mother. She's going to teach me how to knit. I've never wanted to knit, but I thought I would give it a try since she's super into it, and I know some local wool producers, so the interest kind of intersects?

      So yeah, going wasn't awful, and maybe I get to a friend.

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      1. Wolf Link Parent
        That's pretty cool and I definitely needed the inspiration. Looks like going outside might be the way to go. Thanks for sharing your story!

        That's pretty cool and I definitely needed the inspiration. Looks like going outside might be the way to go. Thanks for sharing your story!

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