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  1. Comment on What are you growing in your fruit/vegetable garden? in ~hobbies

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    That indoor herb garden you have looks amazing! I always hear about people growing stuff like that indoors, but never realized how lush it could be until looking at your photo.

    That indoor herb garden you have looks amazing! I always hear about people growing stuff like that indoors, but never realized how lush it could be until looking at your photo.

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  2. Comment on Daily thread - United States 2021 transition of power - January 17 in ~news

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    Since I cannot seem to stop doomscrolling whenever I am up and about, and said doomscrolling puts me in a state of sever anxiety, I've put myself to bed under a nice warm electric blanket with my...
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    Since I cannot seem to stop doomscrolling whenever I am up and about, and said doomscrolling puts me in a state of sever anxiety, I've put myself to bed under a nice warm electric blanket with my cats and dog by my side while I binge netflix. Currently I get up for a few hours in the morning to get coffee, check the news, and then head back to bed.

    Unfortunately, this is the last day I can do this. A branch took out a window in my car, and I have to drop it off tomorrow morning. The only ride I can get back home and then to pick up the car at closing is a an anti-mask trump supporter. Then on Tuesday I have to drop my dog off for surgery at a specialist that is a 2.5 hour drive from here, then pick her back up on Wednesday. This puts me squarely in red territory on inauguration day. I can't hide that I don't fit in, and frankly, I am super nervous about taking the trip. And then I feel super stupid for feeling afraid and wondering if I should go armed and I would put this all off if I could but I can't so I just want to crawl back into bed.

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  3. Comment on Science fiction movie recommendations in ~movies

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    My queue is super full now, and I still haven't looked at all the trailers! Though I have seen most of the older movies listed, there are some I haven't that I am looking forward to watching....

    My queue is super full now, and I still haven't looked at all the trailers! Though I have seen most of the older movies listed, there are some I haven't that I am looking forward to watching. Thank you to everyone for your suggestions.

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  4. Comment on Science fiction movie recommendations in ~movies

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    Altered Carbon was awesome. I've watched the first season enough times that I can background it to go to sleep (except the first episode where I always have to pop in and watch the first real...

    Altered Carbon was awesome. I've watched the first season enough times that I can background it to go to sleep (except the first episode where I always have to pop in and watch the first real interaction with Poe).

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  5. Comment on Science fiction movie recommendations in ~movies

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    We have not seen most of these, but the trailers look exactly like what we're looking for (so much so, that I would love to see any other recommendations in any other genre that you like).

    We have not seen most of these, but the trailers look exactly like what we're looking for (so much so, that I would love to see any other recommendations in any other genre that you like).

    2 votes
  6. Comment on Science fiction movie recommendations in ~movies

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    I should have put that in my title. Sorry about the confusion!

    I should have put that in my title. Sorry about the confusion!

    1 vote
  7. Comment on Science fiction movie recommendations in ~movies

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    I don't know. Do they? I don't mind foreign sci-fi as long as I can get sub-titles.

    I don't know. Do they? I don't mind foreign sci-fi as long as I can get sub-titles.

    3 votes
  8. Science fiction movie recommendations

    I just signed back up for the Netflix dvd subscription and am looking for some sci-fi movie recommendations. I tend to not like the horror themes but am open to just about anything else (even...

    I just signed back up for the Netflix dvd subscription and am looking for some sci-fi movie recommendations. I tend to not like the horror themes but am open to just about anything else (even "bad" movies that are so bad they are good). Looking for movies that have come out in the last decade or so. May also be open to television series that can be had on dvd that were not on Netflix streaming.

    27 votes
  9. Comment on Weekly coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - week of December 28 in ~health.coronavirus

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    You summed up my thoughts on the matter perfectly. I'm also a Washington state resident and in general have been proud of our states response to the pandemic.

    You summed up my thoughts on the matter perfectly. I'm also a Washington state resident and in general have been proud of our states response to the pandemic.

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  10. Comment on Weekly coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - week of December 28 in ~health.coronavirus

  11. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    Our household celebrated Christmas on Monday. I didn't put up lights or a tree this year, but we spent the day baking cookies, listening to music, and playing games. We capped the day off with a...

    Our household celebrated Christmas on Monday. I didn't put up lights or a tree this year, but we spent the day baking cookies, listening to music, and playing games. We capped the day off with a dinner of bacon cheeseburgers, homemade mac and cheese, and a movie. It ended up being one of the most pleasant Christmases I've had in a long time. This is the first time in 20 years that I didn't host my exes family, so thanks, Mr. Corona Virus.

    New Years Eve I was just falling asleep when the phone rang at about 11:45 which was very odd. I picked up and it was my happily drunk son calling to wish me a Happy New Years. They were having a small party, and we just chatted about all kinds of things. He put me on speaker as they counted down so I got to enter the new year with him, his closest friends and family. It made me feel so loved and hopeful for 2021.

    Seed catalogues started rolling in this week too!

    4 votes
  12. Comment on Do you carry a knife with with you? If so, what type/company? in ~hobbies

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    I have an older K.J. Eriksson (carbon steel) that I used to carry everywhere on the farm and regularly beat the crap out of. I don't think the thing can die. It was given to me by a friend from...

    I have an older K.J. Eriksson (carbon steel) that I used to carry everywhere on the farm and regularly beat the crap out of. I don't think the thing can die. It was given to me by a friend from Sweden, and was well used when I got it. It doesn't get as much use as it once did, but I strap it on whenever I have to do work outside, and it always seems to be useful when I do so. I love that knife so much that I bought a handful of Mora knives (both carbon and stainless) and have them stashed in various places where a knife might come in handy. I don't like them as much, maybe because my Eriksson also has sentimental value.

    I pick up small, cheap pocket knives from the feed store so that I can have one in all my coat pockets, backpacks, and vehicles. I don't care if they break or get lost, and often I just give them away.

    2 votes
  13. Comment on Explore Indigenous futurisms with these science fiction and fantasy books by Indigenous authors in ~books

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    The site is crap, but if you're into sci-fi/fantasy, there looks to be some interesting reads here from indigenous authors. I'm looking forward to checking out a couple of the anthologies to find...

    The site is crap, but if you're into sci-fi/fantasy, there looks to be some interesting reads here from indigenous authors. I'm looking forward to checking out a couple of the anthologies to find some new authors to read from.

    2 votes
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  15. Comment on it's easy (2020) in ~movies

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    I really enjoyed the music choice in this. Do you happen to know the name of the piece?

    I really enjoyed the music choice in this. Do you happen to know the name of the piece?

  16. Comment on What issues or aspects of life are largely one's personal responsibility to deal with? in ~talk

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    I've spent a lot of time thinking about personal responsibility, and have come to the conclusion that not everyone has the capacity to accept or even acknowledge that their actions/decisions are...
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    I've spent a lot of time thinking about personal responsibility, and have come to the conclusion that not everyone has the capacity to accept or even acknowledge that their actions/decisions are their responsibility. And even if they can, they often they do not have the means to do anything about it. I believe that at any given time, most people are doing the best they can with the tools, if any, they have available.

    Unfortunately, I spent too much time in my adolescence in mental hospitals and behavior modification programs where I was forced to take personal responsibility - even for things that were outside of my control - in order to get "better" and secure my freedom. the lasting effect is that I put all my actions/decisions under a microscope, and honestly it's exhausting. Does taking so much personal responsibility make me a better person? Does it make me healthy, happy, or a productive member of society? Does it make me a better friend, parent, wife, or employee? I'd say the answer is sometimes yes, often times no.

    Right now I'm really cold (54 degrees Fahrenheit inside). I'm too lazy to fire up the wood stove. So it's my fault that I am cold. But I also live with two other adults who never fire up the wood stove and they are cold too, so why is it my responsibility that I am cold? Can't it be their fault I'm cold? Why do I feel like it's my fault they are cold too? How did I end up being responsible?

    I was severely damaged as a child. Who's responsibility is that? I used to spend a lot of energy blaming my family and other adults who participated. And then I focused in on my mom for not protecting me. Then as I came into adulthood I started taking more responsibility for my actions. My oldest son is a wreck and it's my fault because I didn't get my shit together in time. But I couldn't, it wasn't my fault, was it? I wanted to be different, but I didn't know how. Me knowing I was fucking up, did not allow me to be different, instead it made me hate myself, which didn't help my son or myself either. Who's responsibility is it? It's mine, it's my mother's, it's my grandparents - is it my son's too since he's now in his 30s?

    What am I responsible for?
    Nothing and everything.

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  17. Comment on The more boneless, skinless chicken breasts I sell, the worse I feel in ~food

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    That is terrible. I imagine that being very traumatic for the teacher and many of the students.

    That is terrible. I imagine that being very traumatic for the teacher and many of the students.

    4 votes
  18. Comment on The more boneless, skinless chicken breasts I sell, the worse I feel in ~food

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    That's really cool! It's always nice seeing people buck the system.

    That's really cool! It's always nice seeing people buck the system.

    3 votes
  19. Comment on The more boneless, skinless chicken breasts I sell, the worse I feel in ~food

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    I have not seen it, but have seen other films about the commercial chicken industry. The industry gets a lot hate for good reason, but the broilers feed to meat conversion really can't be beat...

    I have not seen it, but have seen other films about the commercial chicken industry. The industry gets a lot hate for good reason, but the broilers feed to meat conversion really can't be beat when talking about animal protein.

    6 votes