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  1. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    Months ago I talked about getting a dumpster and getting rid of most of my crap. I'm a procrastinator so it's taken this long for me to get it, but finally arrived on Monday! I was going to get a...

    Months ago I talked about getting a dumpster and getting rid of most of my crap. I'm a procrastinator so it's taken this long for me to get it, but finally arrived on Monday! I was going to get a 40 yard dumpster and everyone was like, that's huge you don't need one that big, so I got a 30 yard. I should have got the 40. I have a lot of crap. It's so incredibly freeing chucking stuff away. I do feel some guilt about some of the stuff I'm tossing, but I'm okay living with that guilt since the burden of holding on to so many things has been a constant weight, and I'm just done with it.

    About six months ago I binge watched Hoarders, and though I'm not anywhere near that packed up around here, I could see glimpses of myself in some of the people. I'm keeping two boxes of memories and one unfinished project. Every broken thing I was going to fix, every book I was going to reread, everything someone else might want or could be useful one day, every small kitchen appliance I used only once, the entire closet of crappy linens that don't even fit any of our beds (but could be good for the dog!), all the cottage cheese and hummus containers that make getting to my glass containers impossible, all the throw pillows I collected for the cats that they never use (but they might one day!), all the size 3 clothes I'd have to starve myself to fit again, the boxes of bank statements/paid bills going back decades (keeping the most current), and whatever else I can put my hands on, is going or already is in the dumpster. I found a box of kitchen utensils that I packed two moves ago, wtf.

    That's what I've been doing this week.

    4 votes
  2. Comment on [SOLVED] "User menu" can you implement a differentiation between "Your posts" and "Your submissions" in ~tildes

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    Doh. OMG yes, that's exactly what I wanted, and it already exists. Thank you!

    Doh.
    OMG yes, that's exactly what I wanted, and it already exists. Thank you!

    3 votes
  3. Comment on [SOLVED] "User menu" can you implement a differentiation between "Your posts" and "Your submissions" in ~tildes

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    I'm looking to see submissions (links or discussions I started) separated from comments. Does that make sense?

    I'm looking to see submissions (links or discussions I started) separated from comments. Does that make sense?

    1 vote
  4. [SOLVED] "User menu" can you implement a differentiation between "Your posts" and "Your submissions"

    Right now when I click user menu I see this: User menu Profile Your posts Your bookmarks Your votes Your ignored topics I think it would easier to if we could differentiate between posts we made...

    Right now when I click user menu I see this:

    User menu
    Profile
    Your posts
    Your bookmarks
    Your votes
    Your ignored topics

    I think it would easier to if we could differentiate between posts we made on other's submissions and our own submissions. Don't know if this is easy to implement, but for me at least, it would make searching through my stuff here way easier.

    4 votes
  5. Comment on Excerpts from the Atlas of Poetic Botany in ~science

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    This book is on my Christmas wish list.

    This book is on my Christmas wish list.

    The French botanist and biologist Francis Hallé has spent 40 years in pursuit of the strange and beautiful plant specimens of the rainforest. In his Atlas of Poetic Botany, excerpted below, he invites readers to tour the farthest reaches of the rainforest in search of exotic – and poetic – plant life.

    Like any good tour guide, Hallé tells stories to illustrate his facts. Readers learn about, among other things, Queen Victoria’s rubber tree; legends of the moabi tree (for example, that powder from the bark confers invisibility); a flower that absorbs energy from a tree; plants that imitate other plants; a tree that rains; and a fern that clones itself.

    Hallé’s Atlas aims to show that “the equatorial forest isn’t the ‘green inferno’ that colonialists and adventurers have so often confronted,” as he writes in the book’s introduction, but “a universe with magical allure.” His drawings represent an investment in time that returns a dividend of wonder more satisfying than the ephemeral thrill afforded by the photograph.

    1 vote
  6. Comment on Tour of 'The One', a $500m mansion in Bel-Air in ~design

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    I don't know if it was that show or another in the same vein, but I became disgusted with that entire genre after one episode where they are in this magnificent house that sat atop a hill where...

    I don't know if it was that show or another in the same vein, but I became disgusted with that entire genre after one episode where they are in this magnificent house that sat atop a hill where the owners owned all the land, including the adjoining hills, so they could preserve their view. There was nowhere in the house where the view was absent, and it was that sort of view that has the power to heal, that can give one space to breath. I was gobsmacked by the house. They were interviewing the owners at the end, and the owner said something like, "I have a very stressful job so we built this place so I could unwind. I need it." For some reason that statement filled me with such disgust. It made me think of all the people out there that rarely or never get the time or the space to just exist and let go - all the people that never get to retreat. And then I was sad, and never watched another episode or another show of that genre.

    3 votes
  7. Comment on Thousands of people are trying to leave QAnon, but getting out is almost impossible in ~health

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    Thank you for posting this. I have an old dear friend I can no longer really talk with who has gone down the rabbit hole. It's so bizarre because they used to be one of the most open, caring,...

    Thank you for posting this. I have an old dear friend I can no longer really talk with who has gone down the rabbit hole. It's so bizarre because they used to be one of the most open, caring, inviting, and accepting people I knew. I get so angry when we speak that I have mostly ghosted them, but this article makes me wonder if I should still try to maintain the friendship - they still try to connect. I do wish there were more to the article as I wasn't ready for it to end.

    16 votes
  8. Comment on An empire of dying wells - Old oil and gas sites are a climate menace. Meet the company that owns more of America’s decaying wells than any other. in ~enviro

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    I have a fairly pessimistic view of the future. From the article: Diversified is not the only company who "helps" craft bills that allows them to profit off of pollution. There is a sickness in...

    I have a fairly pessimistic view of the future. From the article:

    In West Virginia there’s an additional benefit. Last year the legislature cut the severance tax on the lowest-producing wells in half. Diversified, by far the biggest beneficiary of the cut, told investors it “engaged with state regulators in West Virginia to help craft” the bill, which also directs revenue toward plugging orphaned wells.

    Diversified is not the only company who "helps" craft bills that allows them to profit off of pollution. There is a sickness in politics that cares not for our future and has no incentive to heal.

    2 votes
  9. Comment on Why is every young person in America watching ‘The Sopranos’? in ~tv

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    This is my biggest gripe about "TV" these days. Season 1 of Lupin did a good job being episodic with an arc that covered the entire season, but then they blew it in Season 2, which basically...

    It feels like too many shows now feel like 10 hour movies, and even brag about it. It's all about the overarching plots, to the point of individual episodes being basically meaningless beyond a vehicle for delivering the season's story.

    This is my biggest gripe about "TV" these days. Season 1 of Lupin did a good job being episodic with an arc that covered the entire season, but then they blew it in Season 2, which basically killed it for me. Season 1 of Lucifer also did a great job of being episodic, but then it kind of falls apart in the subsequent seasons, and I still haven't finished it. I love both shorter and longer arcs, but I prefer episodes. To me though, good "TV" has the arcs and the episodes - a good place to stop where I feel satisfied, but wanting to come back because I'm invested in the outcome.

    7 votes
  10. Comment on ‘Babylon 5’ series reboot from creator J. Michael Straczynski in works at the CW in ~tv

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    I only barely remember Londo's name because he was my favorite character. He had a lot of depth, and the actor who played him did a great job making him believable in spite of the funny hair.

    I only barely remember Londo's name because he was my favorite character. He had a lot of depth, and the actor who played him did a great job making him believable in spite of the funny hair.

    3 votes
  11. Comment on ‘Babylon 5’ series reboot from creator J. Michael Straczynski in works at the CW in ~tv

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    I own the full dvd set. It's one of my all time favorite shows (I own no other television series cds), but for the life of me I cannot remember character names. Maybe hair guy is Londo? Lizard...

    So good that you can't even recall their names?

    I own the full dvd set. It's one of my all time favorite shows (I own no other television series cds), but for the life of me I cannot remember character names. Maybe hair guy is Londo? Lizard guy, I know who they are talking about, but for the life of me I cannot remember his name. (Husband informs me the name is G'Kar)

    5 votes
  12. Comment on What do you usually eat, drink and cook? in ~food

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    When we're not meal prepping, my go to meals are more like snacks. Breakfast: Either a protein bar or yogurt with fresh fruit (strawberries and blueberries) Lunch: Cheese, whole wheat crackers...

    When we're not meal prepping, my go to meals are more like snacks.

    Breakfast: Either a protein bar or yogurt with fresh fruit (strawberries and blueberries)
    Lunch: Cheese, whole wheat crackers (usually Triscuits), apple, and almonds
    Dinner: Salad - lettuce, spinach, cucumber, roasted turkey, sunflower seeds, avocado, feta cheese, balsamic vinegar
    Snacks: Pork rinds, frozen blueberries with salt, peanut butter and banana sandwiches.

    For some reason I can eat that everyday for long periods of time. If I lived alone, I most likely would rarely cook.

    For the bonus question: I had no cooking skills when I was first on my own, so I mostly ate like crap. I think I got most of my nutrition from drinking milk. Since I was never really allowed snack foods growing up, I tried all kinds of things from the television that I had always wanted, but never got - name brand chips were my first culinary adventure lol, followed by sugared cereals and candies of all sorts. The very first things I bought though were wonderbread and smuckers jelly, both of which were a total letdown. I checked out a desert cookbook from the library, and tried my hand at that, but even though I liked the taste of some of what I made, the effort was more than I cared for. So the answer to your question is I tried new things. Even now, the only food I make that comes from my family is meatloaf, fried chicken, and biscuits and gravy, and I didn't get those recipes until I was in my thirties.

    3 votes
  13. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv

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    Thanks for reminding me to sign up. I've been waiting for this show and just got through all I wanted from Disney+. I'll be watching it soon!

    Thanks for reminding me to sign up. I've been waiting for this show and just got through all I wanted from Disney+. I'll be watching it soon!

    3 votes
  14. Comment on What are you doing in your garden? in ~hobbies

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    when you say scattered, do you mean scattered seeds, or scattered plants? I really like the scattered, live or die approach.

    when you say scattered, do you mean scattered seeds, or scattered plants? I really like the scattered, live or die approach.

    1 vote
  15. Comment on What are you doing in your garden? in ~hobbies

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    This year was mostly a dud gardening-wise. I left early spring (right as things were starting to grow) and came back in late May, at which time the jungle of noxious weeds, brambles, and whatnot...

    This year was mostly a dud gardening-wise. I left early spring (right as things were starting to grow) and came back in late May, at which time the jungle of noxious weeds, brambles, and whatnot were doing a fast encroachment of the house. That took a few months to get back under control, and by then I'd missed the window to get a serious veggie garden together.

    It worked out that I didn't do much because an old family friend asked to use the overgrown side garden to try their hand at their first veggie garden. They made a lot of mistakes, but did well enough with their basil and green beans, that we've been eating a lot of both. The tomatoes were put into the ground too late, and so far there's only been one that has ripened. I doubt there's enough heat and light left in the season for anymore, but my friend is happy just seeing the plants grow.

    Two great things came out of their first attempt: One, and I think this is the best one, they spent a lot of time working on the beds and self reflecting which led to them putting themselves into rehab, and two they have the gardening bug now and are keen to help me get my raised beds built this fall. I'm going with something similar to this design, but mine won't look as nice since I'm using used metal roofing I salvaged from an old barn. We'll plant garlic in one which I think will be a great thing for my friend, since it's darn near impossible to get garlic wrong, and we all love garlic! We'll do do a mix of early and late garlics.

    I was able to get some of my medicinal plants into the ground. I planted a patch of elecampane (Inula helenium) and several patches of arnica (Arnica chamissonis) both of which should be ready to harvest next fall. A few years ago I planted a few valerian (Valeriana officinalis) that I never wanted to harvest because I love the the look of them, but they have now started reseeding nicely throughout the garden and in the next few weeks I will do a big harvest. There's way more than I will use in my lifetime, so I'll make a big batch of fresh root tincture to give away and dry some for making tea. Then there's the self-heal (Prunella vulgaris) that most people consider a weed, but that I absolutely adore. About six years ago I noticed a small patch in the lawn, but the following year, I didn't see any. The year after that, I "weeded" that area of grass, and the self-heal came back, so I harvested the seeds and threw them in one the perennial beds. The next year I had a little patch in the perennial bed, but not enough to harvest. I just kept scratching the soil around it each year to get more germination from the seeds, and the patch has grown big enough now that I'll be able to harvest the cobs next year! I like having plant medicine in the medicine cabinet from plants that I cultivated :)

    Besides harvesting the valerian, making raised beds, and planting garlic, I'll be moving a large hydrangea (Hydrangea macrophylla) from it's current place near the front door (it gets way too big for that spot and requires too much pruning) to another part of the property where I can still enjoy it's blooms and let it get as big as it wants to get. I've been afraid of moving it because I didn't want to kill it, but last year I took a bunch of cuttings that all rooted, so if it dies, I can replace it. If after all that, I feel up to it, there's a unruly bush fuchsia that I want to take out of the front perennial bed, and plop it somewhere else. Its friend that use to grow right next to it, I moved last year, and it was a beast to get out. I've agonized over moving this one it because it sits in front of my living room window, and the hummingbirds visit it frequently. I think it has to go. There just isn't enough room in the bed for it, and it obscures the view of the rest of the yard.

    5 votes
  16. Comment on File not found: A generation that grew up with Google is forcing professors to rethink their lesson plans in ~comp

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    My husband and I were just discussing this. We're in our 50s. There are certain things as I get older, I don't see the benefit to hassle ration of learning certain things being worth it. I still...

    My husband and I were just discussing this. We're in our 50s. There are certain things as I get older, I don't see the benefit to hassle ration of learning certain things being worth it. I still am more than happy to learn new things, but there are far more things that I just can't be bothered with. My husband was a life long freebsd user, and then moved to linux, and finally just got sick of having to fiddle with so many things and now happily uses windows for everything except his servers. For myself, I'm sick of every microsoft upgrade making more and more things harder to find. I don't want to spend an hour on the internet looking up how to do something that I used to be able to just do. I get tired of new interfaces, new buttons, missing buttons, different menus, software as a freaking subscription, curating online spaces - it's all tiring, and I no longer care to be good at it.

    4 votes
  17. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv

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    Why you gotta do me like this? We've come into this with no expectations, no reading reviews, no having read the original subject matter, no nothing other than having heard it existed and Neil...

    Why you gotta do me like this? We've come into this with no expectations, no reading reviews, no having read the original subject matter, no nothing other than having heard it existed and Neil Gaiman was involved.

    There is a door. In front of the door, I have not read what you wrote.

    3 votes