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  1. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv

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    Thank you! I'm going to start watching it tonight :)

    Thank you! I'm going to start watching it tonight :)

    3 votes
  2. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv

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    I've wanted to watch Dark, but have been afraid of having to watch children tortured or alluded to being tortured. If I'm sensitive to that, should I continue to give it a pass?

    I've wanted to watch Dark, but have been afraid of having to watch children tortured or alluded to being tortured. If I'm sensitive to that, should I continue to give it a pass?

    2 votes
  3. Comment on Tildes Census Deep Dive - What do you dislike about tildes? in ~tildes

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    The dog-piling that happens here when there is a view that goes against the grain makes some threads painful to read. It's especially distasteful when the dissenter isn't at all combative and is...
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    The dog-piling that happens here when there is a view that goes against the grain makes some threads painful to read. It's especially distasteful when the dissenter isn't at all combative and is clarifying what they meant by a comment (because they were asked) in good faith. Around the time I joined we had a user here who participated quite a bit but had more puritanical / conservative views. I enjoyed his voice here even if I didn't always agree. I think the last thread he posted in he got baited into going into more depth about his views on pornography and the dog pile that occurred was sickening. For me that particular thread was the most egregious, but it's that type of behavior in general that creates an echo chamber, and what I like least about this place.

    35 votes
  4. Comment on The Results of the Actual Unofficial 2020 Tildes Census in ~tildes

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    Interestingly that first link was blue for me, but I know I partook in the census.

    Interestingly that first link was blue for me, but I know I partook in the census.

    2 votes
  5. Comment on Need help raising funds for a friend in ~misc

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    I would double check that. I've heard the same before, and a lot of times in my case, either they did not speak to the right person, or the process was so overwhelming that they were unable to...

    I would double check that. I've heard the same before, and a lot of times in my case, either they did not speak to the right person, or the process was so overwhelming that they were unable to navigate due to all the other shit they had going on in their lives, and it as easier for them to dismiss it (which is totally understandable).

    There of course are times when the hospital does not offer anything, but often there are services around the perimeter that can be tapped into. Again, often our friends don't have the bandwidth to chase all that crap down, and we can do that for them. No one should have to go through this shit, and your friend is so lucky to have you. If you would like to message me the city/town, I am willing to help search for resources. If there are resources, helping your friend navigate them and take care of this could help them feel successful, like they were able to take care of their shit. If there isn't anything, that freaking sucks and they should do like vord said and forget it. I don't think it's unethical at all to do so once we've given it our best shot.

    10 votes
  6. Comment on Need help raising funds for a friend in ~misc

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    A lot of hospitals have charities they work with who will pay the hospital bill. It's a lot of paperwork, but worth it to push through. If she's having a rough time, maybe you can reach out to the...

    A lot of hospitals have charities they work with who will pay the hospital bill. It's a lot of paperwork, but worth it to push through. If she's having a rough time, maybe you can reach out to the hospital and find out if they have something like that in place, and if they do, what are the first steps. Then you can help her through the process. Someone helped me through the process years ago, and I pay it forward by helping others. Most people do not know that those sorts of things are available.

    8 votes
  7. Comment on Rwandan single mothers turn to online babysitting of Japanese kids in ~life

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    It definitely could be a problem depending on how it was set up. Done correctly I feel like it could be a win win for everyone involved.

    At the same time - the whole "servant"/"entertainer" role is problematic in a way

    It definitely could be a problem depending on how it was set up. Done correctly I feel like it could be a win win for everyone involved.

    1 vote
  8. Comment on Rwandan single mothers turn to online babysitting of Japanese kids in ~life

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    I expected something totally different when I clicked this article. I assumed it was going to be something stupid. Instead after reading it, I can't believe there isn't more of it. What a...

    I expected something totally different when I clicked this article. I assumed it was going to be something stupid. Instead after reading it, I can't believe there isn't more of it. What a wonderful way to engage a child while broadening their worldview. Way better than sitting a child in front of youtube to get them out your hair for a couple of hours. Thank you for sharing this!

    11 votes
  9. Comment on Black troops were welcome in Britain, but Jim Crow wasn’t: the race riot of one night in June 1943 in ~humanities

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    I think this would make a great askhistorians question. I'd like to know their names, and what became of them and their families. From the article it looks like many of their convictions were...

    I wonder what happened to the mutinous soldiers, though?

    I think this would make a great askhistorians question. I'd like to know their names, and what became of them and their families. From the article it looks like many of their convictions were overturned, but then the article says:

    While the convictions of the troops involved at Bamber Bridge were largely commuted or overturned, soldiers returned to Jim Crow segregation in the US, with the reality that some veterans were lynched in their uniforms.

    That last line makes me sick.

    5 votes
  10. Comment on Neighborhood fixer upper in ~creative

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    I see what you're talking about! When I think more about why I like the way this photo turned out, it's because of the nostalgia of looking through older photo albums, which over time has the left...

    I see what you're talking about! When I think more about why I like the way this photo turned out, it's because of the nostalgia of looking through older photo albums, which over time has the left the photos blurring at edges and changing colors. You're tying for the opposite of that!

    I can't wait to see what you do next!

    1 vote
  11. Comment on Neighborhood fixer upper in ~creative

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    I actually quite like it and am wondering what about it you would have liked to be different?

    I actually quite like it and am wondering what about it you would have liked to be different?

    3 votes
  12. Comment on What are the Big Problems? in ~talk

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    There are too many big problems which leads to apathy, polarization, and dread. With so many big problems, it's easy for us (humanity) to get spread too thin because each big problem is weighted...

    There are too many big problems which leads to apathy, polarization, and dread. With so many big problems, it's easy for us (humanity) to get spread too thin because each big problem is weighted differently to the individual which is a big problem.

    Racism and bigotry - it allows people to be dismissed without need for critical thought towards their ideas - it allows scapegoating without the need to reflect deeper - it keeps us divided and easier to control.

    We're on the road to environmental collapse - leading to huge migrations of people seeking new homes and resources, what will those that have them do? What will those migrating do?

    Inequality - leading to power over those that are less equal : financial power, racial power, gender power geopolitical power, and etc. - Usually this leads to the will of those in power being forced on those without it.

    Violence (physical and psychological) - It seems like a fair number of humans are predisposed to it, and that it is accepted as part of the human condition. It leads to such things as war, human trafficking, prisons, child abuse, spousal abuse, rape, genocide, and etc. and of course it begets more violence.

    3 votes
  13. Comment on I’d like to suggest avoiding long excerpts in ~tildes

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    I usually post some excerpts because I am so poor at finding words to discuss what I read, or why I found it worth posting. For shorter articles I think you're right, I could probably come up with...

    I usually post some excerpts because I am so poor at finding words to discuss what I read, or why I found it worth posting. For shorter articles I think you're right, I could probably come up with a few sentences, but with longer for stuff, I wouldn't know ho to show that it's interesting.

    8 votes
  14. Comment on August 6th, 2020 is the 75th anniversary of the atomic bombing of Hiroshima, Japan in ~humanities

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    Kitsap county in Washington state has the largest concentration of deployed nuclear weapons in the U.S. Since the 80s a small group of activists have frequently protested at Bangor. Every year...

    Kitsap county in Washington state has the largest concentration of deployed nuclear weapons in the U.S. Since the 80s a small group of activists have frequently protested at Bangor. Every year they protest on the Hiroshima anniversary, but paused it this year due to Covid.

    Kitsap's nuclear legacy: county has grown under its protectors and protesters

    The group,Ground Zero Center for Nonviolent Action

    4 votes
  15. Comment on I’d like to suggest avoiding long excerpts in ~tildes

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    I like all the excerpts, long and short, and they don't prevent me from going to the article.

    I like all the excerpts, long and short, and they don't prevent me from going to the article.

    12 votes
  16. Comment on Where Birds Go to Sleep – Teaser trailer in ~games

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    The music is great, and I love the premise! I booted up Steam for the first time in years to put it on my wish list. Thank you :)

    The music is great, and I love the premise! I booted up Steam for the first time in years to put it on my wish list. Thank you :)

    2 votes
  17. Comment on We quit our jobs to build a cabin—everything went wrong in ~life

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    Person here from Washington state, and also person who has stayed in in many primitive cabins around the US that have been bought and sold because they are primitive cabins. Often cabins like...

    Person here from Washington state, and also person who has stayed in in many primitive cabins around the US that have been bought and sold because they are primitive cabins. Often cabins like these are built as glorified campsites so one can inexpensively own and enjoy the wilderness that surrounds it be it hunting, skiing, fishing, kayaking, or just getting away from the city. A lot of these cabins you have to bring your own water or be willing to fetch water from nearby rivers or springs. Quarter of an acre is perfect for just having a home base to do other things. They are often shared among friends and family as a get-away, and no one has an expectation of it being anything other than what it is, a cozy place to get away from it all on a budget. The cabin these friends built is beautiful, and personally I would love to stay in it.

    2 votes
  18. Comment on Many Americans are convinced crime is rising in the US. Even if they're wrong, their fear is making everyone else less safe in ~misc

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    I wonder if it's the same as the seattlewa subreddit that's been overwhelmed with trolls with new accounts? I unsubscribed.

    I wonder if it's the same as the seattlewa subreddit that's been overwhelmed with trolls with new accounts? I unsubscribed.

  19. Comment on Zombie creates devastating animation for Moby’s My Only Love in ~music

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    The video is at the top of the page, while the short article afterwards talks about why it was made.

    The Brazilian studio wrote and directed the CG film about deforestation in their home country, using character textures to visually divide the natural world and its enemies.

    The video is at the top of the page, while the short article afterwards talks about why it was made.