The police don’t know how to deal with abuse in any relationship, be it calls on the job or among their own ranks. Of course they don’t know how to police kinky relationships.
The police don’t know how to deal with abuse in any relationship, be it calls on the job or among their own ranks. Of course they don’t know how to police kinky relationships.
Believe it or not, police can only do so much for abusive relationships It’s not really fair to pin all the blame on them. As a 911 Dispatcher, I can attest to the number of households in my city...
Believe it or not, police can only do so much for abusive relationships
It’s not really fair to pin all the blame on them.
As a 911 Dispatcher, I can attest to the number of households in my city that we’d call “abusive situations” whether it’s relatives or significant others.
We arrest the same people over and over for family and domestic violence. They spend a night in jail as a “cooling off” period but if the victim doesn’t want to press charges against their abuser, a common occurrence, there isn’t a whole lot PD can do about it. The victim has to want to press charges so we can file a protective order so if the abuser can be arrested if he/she goes back.
So I am going to say we are both right here. You’re correct, my tone definitely was accusatory and negative towards police, and as you point out, there isn’t a ton the police can do in some to...
So I am going to say we are both right here. You’re correct, my tone definitely was accusatory and negative towards police, and as you point out, there isn’t a ton the police can do in some to most cases. However, I think a neutral-tone version of my statement still holds true: Police struggle for many reasons with abuse cases, some which are out of their control, so it makes sense that they are going to struggle at least the same amount if not more with cases where the trademark abuse evidence isn’t always indicative of abuse.
I may be blind here, but – no, not really. BDSM (let's assume the most common quasi-abuse kink) is built around consent as paramount to the relationship's success. All the police have to do is ask...
so it makes sense that they are going to struggle at least the same amount if not more with cases where the trademark abuse evidence isn’t always indicative of abuse.
I may be blind here, but – no, not really. BDSM (let's assume the most common quasi-abuse kink) is built around consent as paramount to the relationship's success. All the police have to do is ask a straight question, and if the answer isn't equally-straight (like a confident "Yes, that's the kind of a relationship we're in")... well, the framework for handling genuine abuse isn't there, but at least one could know from the "Yes Means Yes" perspective.
Way to make queers look good, them. them, a next-generation community platform, chronicles and celebrates the stories, people and voices that are emerging and inspiring all of us, ranging in...
Way to make queers look good, them.
them, a next-generation community platform, chronicles and celebrates the stories, people and voices that are emerging and inspiring all of us, ranging in topics from pop culture and style to politics and news, all through the lens of today’s LGBTQ community.
You can tell it's a Condé Nast outlet because it's completely insensitive to whether or not it gives more ammunition for malicious actors to use against the queer community in lieu of profitability.
In the UK not really. There have been cases where people have been convicted of ABH and GBH offences despite these offences being consensual sadomasochistic acts.
The police don’t know how to deal with abuse in any relationship, be it calls on the job or among their own ranks. Of course they don’t know how to police kinky relationships.
Believe it or not, police can only do so much for abusive relationships
It’s not really fair to pin all the blame on them.
As a 911 Dispatcher, I can attest to the number of households in my city that we’d call “abusive situations” whether it’s relatives or significant others.
We arrest the same people over and over for family and domestic violence. They spend a night in jail as a “cooling off” period but if the victim doesn’t want to press charges against their abuser, a common occurrence, there isn’t a whole lot PD can do about it. The victim has to want to press charges so we can file a protective order so if the abuser can be arrested if he/she goes back.
So I am going to say we are both right here. You’re correct, my tone definitely was accusatory and negative towards police, and as you point out, there isn’t a ton the police can do in some to most cases. However, I think a neutral-tone version of my statement still holds true: Police struggle for many reasons with abuse cases, some which are out of their control, so it makes sense that they are going to struggle at least the same amount if not more with cases where the trademark abuse evidence isn’t always indicative of abuse.
I may be blind here, but – no, not really. BDSM (let's assume the most common quasi-abuse kink) is built around consent as paramount to the relationship's success. All the police have to do is ask a straight question, and if the answer isn't equally-straight (like a confident "Yes, that's the kind of a relationship we're in")... well, the framework for handling genuine abuse isn't there, but at least one could know from the "Yes Means Yes" perspective.
Way to make queers look good, them.
them, a next-generation community platform, chronicles and celebrates the stories, people and voices that are emerging and inspiring all of us, ranging in topics from pop culture and style to politics and news, all through the lens of today’s LGBTQ community.You can tell it's a Condé Nast outlet because it's completely insensitive to whether or not it gives more ammunition for malicious actors to use against the queer community in lieu of profitability.
Exactly! So they should put it in another of their billion magazines—kinks (and especially abuse) shouldn't be associated with queers without reason.
In the UK not really. There have been cases where people have been convicted of ABH and GBH offences despite these offences being consensual sadomasochistic acts.