There are just so many potential reasons she could have decided to get up to leave at that moment that I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it, or take it personal. If she was genuinely...
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There are just so many potential reasons she could have decided to get up to leave at that moment that I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it, or take it personal. If she was genuinely uncomfortable around you and wanted you to leave her alone she wouldn't have offered to lend you her textbook in the first place, and wouldn't still be sitting near you in class.
I was going to mention what happened with her somehow to see if she wanted to talk about it, but I decided not to bother her.
Yeah, it's much better to say nothing and then have it gnaw at you afterwards. ;) I kid... but only a little. You should probably not mention the bench incident, since you may indeed just be overreacting, but you should still ask her out IMO. The worst that will happen is she says no... but at least then you will know for sure how she feels about you.
p.s. It is also entirely possible that she was offering to lend you the textbook as a pretext to spend more time with you, and you refusing disappointed her a bit... which is why she didn't want to talk to you afterwards and gave you the cold shoulder the next day.
p.p.s. In any case, good luck if/when you ask her out. :)
If I could make a reccomendation; always say yes in these situations. Doesn't matter if you have the pictures or not these are opportunities to build connections. If you don't already have her...
If I could make a reccomendation; always say yes in these situations. Doesn't matter if you have the pictures or not these are opportunities to build connections. If you don't already have her number then you can use that as an option to acquire it like saying "You know I already got pics from the book, but maybe we could work on them together. Can I get your number if I need help?"
The name of the game isn't actually getting an avenue for help, it's just getting her number.
Hehe, don't worry, we have all been there. I am terrible at reading people in the moment too. One of my first serious relationships started off with them literally dragging me by the arm into...
Hehe, don't worry, we have all been there. I am terrible at reading people in the moment too. One of my first serious relationships started off with them literally dragging me by the arm into another room so they could kiss me in private because I wasn't picking up on any of their "hints" (which in retrospect were anything but subtle). ;)
Wait a few days till you talk with her again. But let the incident on the bench go. It likely had nothing to do with you. She'll bring it up if she feels you need an explanation. Once you get past...
Wait a few days till you talk with her again. But let the incident on the bench go. It likely had nothing to do with you. She'll bring it up if she feels you need an explanation.
Once you get past that, ask her to go for coffee or something. Keep it casual for now. Anyway that's my advice.
Given the information provided I will give my advice. Take it for what its worth. More often then not situations arise like this because of the fact that we can only see one side of the story. She...
Given the information provided I will give my advice. Take it for what its worth. More often then not situations arise like this because of the fact that we can only see one side of the story. She could have gotten up and walked away briskly could be for all sorts of different reasons. If I were you I would try to entertain some conversation next time you see her go from there.
When I first started asking girls out I was terrified, I would have a huge knot in my stomach. Though after doing it a couple of times (with some failures). I learned that when asking a girl out, worst case scenario is that she says no and life goes on. Even if she says no, most people find it endearing and as long as you are normal about it, they are totally down to still be friends. 99% of the time you have extremely little to nothing to lose.
If you have any other questions feel free to PM me.
When I was in university there was a friend of a friend who would often see me around campus and say hi and I'd always ignore her. She was obviously insulted but I was surprised to learn about...
When I was in university there was a friend of a friend who would often see me around campus and say hi and I'd always ignore her. She was obviously insulted but I was surprised to learn about this when my friend mentioned it to me because I honestly hadn't seen or heard her any of those times. Even if it was clear in her mind that I did see her and intentionally snubbed her the reality of it was that it was an honest mistake. I got her some chocolates at Christmas to apologize but I kept unintentionally ignoring her. (Actually, I remember one time I did see her when she said hi. She just sort of glared at me and mumbled my name. My impression was instead of trying harder to get my attention so that we could actually say hi to each other she just expected to be ignored so she didn't really bother with anything more than a token attempt.)
Point is, unless you want your life to turn into an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm don't assume the worst from ambiguous situations and then act on those assumptions. It's self-defeating.
There are just so many potential reasons she could have decided to get up to leave at that moment that I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it, or take it personal. If she was genuinely uncomfortable around you and wanted you to leave her alone she wouldn't have offered to lend you her textbook in the first place, and wouldn't still be sitting near you in class.
Yeah, it's much better to say nothing and then have it gnaw at you afterwards. ;) I kid... but only a little. You should probably not mention the bench incident, since you may indeed just be overreacting, but you should still ask her out IMO. The worst that will happen is she says no... but at least then you will know for sure how she feels about you.
p.s. It is also entirely possible that she was offering to lend you the textbook as a pretext to spend more time with you, and you refusing disappointed her a bit... which is why she didn't want to talk to you afterwards and gave you the cold shoulder the next day.
p.p.s. In any case, good luck if/when you ask her out. :)
If I could make a reccomendation; always say yes in these situations. Doesn't matter if you have the pictures or not these are opportunities to build connections. If you don't already have her number then you can use that as an option to acquire it like saying "You know I already got pics from the book, but maybe we could work on them together. Can I get your number if I need help?"
The name of the game isn't actually getting an avenue for help, it's just getting her number.
Hehe, don't worry, we have all been there. I am terrible at reading people in the moment too. One of my first serious relationships started off with them literally dragging me by the arm into another room so they could kiss me in private because I wasn't picking up on any of their "hints" (which in retrospect were anything but subtle). ;)
Wait a few days till you talk with her again. But let the incident on the bench go. It likely had nothing to do with you. She'll bring it up if she feels you need an explanation.
Once you get past that, ask her to go for coffee or something. Keep it casual for now. Anyway that's my advice.
Given the information provided I will give my advice. Take it for what its worth. More often then not situations arise like this because of the fact that we can only see one side of the story. She could have gotten up and walked away briskly could be for all sorts of different reasons. If I were you I would try to entertain some conversation next time you see her go from there.
When I first started asking girls out I was terrified, I would have a huge knot in my stomach. Though after doing it a couple of times (with some failures). I learned that when asking a girl out, worst case scenario is that she says no and life goes on. Even if she says no, most people find it endearing and as long as you are normal about it, they are totally down to still be friends. 99% of the time you have extremely little to nothing to lose.
If you have any other questions feel free to PM me.
I still get stomach knots at 30, so I'm glad I don't do it often haha
When I was in university there was a friend of a friend who would often see me around campus and say hi and I'd always ignore her. She was obviously insulted but I was surprised to learn about this when my friend mentioned it to me because I honestly hadn't seen or heard her any of those times. Even if it was clear in her mind that I did see her and intentionally snubbed her the reality of it was that it was an honest mistake. I got her some chocolates at Christmas to apologize but I kept unintentionally ignoring her. (Actually, I remember one time I did see her when she said hi. She just sort of glared at me and mumbled my name. My impression was instead of trying harder to get my attention so that we could actually say hi to each other she just expected to be ignored so she didn't really bother with anything more than a token attempt.)
Point is, unless you want your life to turn into an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm don't assume the worst from ambiguous situations and then act on those assumptions. It's self-defeating.