I stopped posting much on social media when I removed Facebook from my phone because they decided one day they wanted access to my phone contacts and there wasn’t any way around that. I had my...
I stopped posting much on social media when I removed Facebook from my phone because they decided one day they wanted access to my phone contacts and there wasn’t any way around that. I had my boss and like all my ex’s on my phone contacts still so that was an obvious no.
After that, I went through a series of s/os where we would constantly text each other about whatever mundane thing we were doing, so basically the same as posting about how my morning coffee was on facebook.
When we broke up I really had to go through the withdrawal of going about my day and not stopping to tell anyone about it.
At first it was great, I realized how much time and focus was lost because I would stop to text about every single little thing, even while driving.
For years after though it felt so lonely. I still have moments where I see a meme on the internet and I have no one to send it to and that feeling really gets to me, even though sharing that meme really gives me no benefit.
I have plenty of friends. I’m in a healthy relationship. Its just half the stuff I enjoy is references to a career I don’t work in any more, some joke reference no one else would get, or a long form article that no one else would read.
I’m not actually missing anything by not sharing content I find, but it sure feels like I am.
I experienced the opposite of this; I conversed so much with my SOs via text that by the time I got home, we had nothing to talk about. The constant connection via our phones sapped us of the real...
After that, I went through a series of s/os where we would constantly text each other about whatever mundane thing we were doing, so basically the same as posting about how my morning coffee was on facebook.
I experienced the opposite of this; I conversed so much with my SOs via text that by the time I got home, we had nothing to talk about. The constant connection via our phones sapped us of the real life chit chat that sometimes blossoms into deeper conversations. While still in the relationship, I took a conscious effort to reduce my interactions via messages so that by the end of the day, there was a natural ice breaker to actually talk to my SO.
Online connections are fantastic, when you are truly far away from your friends. But if you're close by, it's better to interact IRL and keep messages mostly to coordinating when and where to meet IRL.
I do definitely get how not sharing memes in particular is a bummer, because it's one of my love languages lol. I have specific meme types that different friends get based on what they like, and it feels less bad because when I'm sharing a meme, I'm usually on my phone anyway so it's not taking away from anything else. It's mostly when I'm doing something and sharing would stop me from experiencing the thing, like photographing the food you got in a restaurant, that's when I feel bad about pulling out my phone and have to stop myself sometimes.
Oh it was non stop, we could talk about nothing forever and never get bored. I miss that about that relationship. I probably could send memes to friends its just the ones I enjoy in particular are...
Oh it was non stop, we could talk about nothing forever and never get bored. I miss that about that relationship.
I probably could send memes to friends its just the ones I enjoy in particular are always the ones on r/2007scape making fun of politics and theres not a single person in my life who plays osrs and also doesn’t mind receiving a politically charged meme.
I stopped posting much on social media when I removed Facebook from my phone because they decided one day they wanted access to my phone contacts and there wasn’t any way around that. I had my boss and like all my ex’s on my phone contacts still so that was an obvious no.
After that, I went through a series of s/os where we would constantly text each other about whatever mundane thing we were doing, so basically the same as posting about how my morning coffee was on facebook.
When we broke up I really had to go through the withdrawal of going about my day and not stopping to tell anyone about it.
At first it was great, I realized how much time and focus was lost because I would stop to text about every single little thing, even while driving.
For years after though it felt so lonely. I still have moments where I see a meme on the internet and I have no one to send it to and that feeling really gets to me, even though sharing that meme really gives me no benefit.
I have plenty of friends. I’m in a healthy relationship. Its just half the stuff I enjoy is references to a career I don’t work in any more, some joke reference no one else would get, or a long form article that no one else would read.
I’m not actually missing anything by not sharing content I find, but it sure feels like I am.
I experienced the opposite of this; I conversed so much with my SOs via text that by the time I got home, we had nothing to talk about. The constant connection via our phones sapped us of the real life chit chat that sometimes blossoms into deeper conversations. While still in the relationship, I took a conscious effort to reduce my interactions via messages so that by the end of the day, there was a natural ice breaker to actually talk to my SO.
Online connections are fantastic, when you are truly far away from your friends. But if you're close by, it's better to interact IRL and keep messages mostly to coordinating when and where to meet IRL.
I do definitely get how not sharing memes in particular is a bummer, because it's one of my love languages lol. I have specific meme types that different friends get based on what they like, and it feels less bad because when I'm sharing a meme, I'm usually on my phone anyway so it's not taking away from anything else. It's mostly when I'm doing something and sharing would stop me from experiencing the thing, like photographing the food you got in a restaurant, that's when I feel bad about pulling out my phone and have to stop myself sometimes.
Oh it was non stop, we could talk about nothing forever and never get bored. I miss that about that relationship.
I probably could send memes to friends its just the ones I enjoy in particular are always the ones on r/2007scape making fun of politics and theres not a single person in my life who plays osrs and also doesn’t mind receiving a politically charged meme.