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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case Link ParentI tried to rebuild my friendship with the one who I was friends with both him and his wife for many years but ultimately the wife pulled alpha girl rank on me and stormed out because I wasn’t...I tried to rebuild my friendship with the one who I was friends with both him and his wife for many years but ultimately the wife pulled alpha girl rank on me and stormed out because I wasn’t bending to her social needs in a group setting and he was obligated to follow suit and leave and then socially punish me by not showing up to my halloween party.
The others know they haven’t seen me much lately, they apologize, I call it being in girlfriend land, and then they make no attempt to change.
One even said to me he’s not going to ever initiate hanging out, if I want to hang out I need to do the work of reaching out first and making plans.
Been thinking since the halloween party half my friends didnt show up for, why am I friends with any of these people? Its so much work for so little in return. So Ive decided to stop trying.
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case Link ParentThanks but really Ive given up. I keep making friends and hoping itll be different this time and it never is. One of them is pretty funny cause he went through a really bad breakup, I helped him...Thanks but really Ive given up. I keep making friends and hoping itll be different this time and it never is. One of them is pretty funny cause he went through a really bad breakup, I helped him through that for this whole past year and a half and he just got a girlfriend like a month ago and now that Im going through something hes gone. Again. Just like he was before and promised it would be different this time.
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case Link ParentI’ve had platonic male friends since high school, I actually struggle a lot with making female friends. The problem is that my guy friends are not my friends. I build them up, comfort them, make...I’ve had platonic male friends since high school, I actually struggle a lot with making female friends.
The problem is that my guy friends are not my friends. I build them up, comfort them, make them not lonely, and then they vanish when they get a girlfriend.
Sometimes it happens right away, sometimes I’m best man at their wedding and write a speech and live with them as room mates and ten years pass and I find one day we haven’t really talked in years.
Its a lonely existence.
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case Link ParentI really honestly wish they wouldn't. I know "they're just being nice" but like, then go talk to the other old men instead?I really honestly wish they wouldn't.
I know "they're just being nice" but like, then go talk to the other old men instead?
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Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv
snake_case LinkGoing through Slow Horses right now, its a fun show. Super over the top with the “main character luck” but thats what makes it fun.Going through Slow Horses right now, its a fun show. Super over the top with the “main character luck” but thats what makes it fun.
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Comment on Scientists study thousands of giant space shades to cool Earth in ~space
snake_case Link ParentRight, giant sun shade or just plant some trees hmm hard choiceRight, giant sun shade or just plant some trees hmm hard choice
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case Link ParentI have the same issue, I always got along better with folks of opposite gender but now I’m married and having a bunch of “options” hanging around proved to be a pretty lonely existence, I need...I have the same issue, I always got along better with folks of opposite gender but now I’m married and having a bunch of “options” hanging around proved to be a pretty lonely existence, I need actual friends.
I’m just now starting my journey but my first step is that I already have hobbies that don’t involve drinking and there is a place to go for one of them, so I’m going to try that soon and see if theres friends there for me
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Comment on How often do you talk to strangers? And do you have a preference for the stranger’s gender? in ~life
snake_case LinkOld men randomly talk to me a ton and I’m generally polite to them. I don’t start conversations with anyone, ever, it is actually something I’m working on.Old men randomly talk to me a ton and I’m generally polite to them.
I don’t start conversations with anyone, ever, it is actually something I’m working on.
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Comment on A compendium of abandoned greenhouses in ~design
snake_case LinkHaha, love the obligatory cat pic We enclosed my back deck a couple years ago and its basically become a greenhouse with all my begonias. I would love a proper greenhouse, some dayHaha, love the obligatory cat pic
We enclosed my back deck a couple years ago and its basically become a greenhouse with all my begonias. I would love a proper greenhouse, some day
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Comment on Real-life 'Truman Show' pulled from TV as it's branded 'psychological torture' in ~tv
snake_case Link ParentRight thats exactly what I was thinking, he could sue for lost wages, go for broke, argue he’s too damaged to ever work this career again and needs disability compensation tooRight thats exactly what I was thinking, he could sue for lost wages, go for broke, argue he’s too damaged to ever work this career again and needs disability compensation too
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Comment on Swipeblocked: the phrases your iPhone won't suggest in ~tech
snake_case Link ParentI see this in English all the time, hilarious that its in Dutch. I wonder if they just took common English phrases, badly translated them, and added those translations to the list tooI see this in English all the time, hilarious that its in Dutch.
I wonder if they just took common English phrases, badly translated them, and added those translations to the list too
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Comment on Real-life 'Truman Show' pulled from TV as it's branded 'psychological torture' in ~tv
snake_case (edited )Link ParentYeah, thats not enough. Im not totally sure what would be enough but I feel like for me that maybe another 0 would minimally cover the absolute obliteration of both my ego and my career. Edit Two...Yeah, thats not enough.
Im not totally sure what would be enough but I feel like for me that maybe another 0 would minimally cover the absolute obliteration of both my ego and my career.
Edit Two 0s. It would take 12,000,000 for me to even think about not just shooting these people in the face. If it were me.
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Comment on Real-life 'Truman Show' pulled from TV as it's branded 'psychological torture' in ~tv
snake_case Link ParentRight I mean they tortured him for crissake, it just seems like icing on the cake if they didnt even offer to share the profitRight I mean they tortured him for crissake, it just seems like icing on the cake if they didnt even offer to share the profit
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Comment on Real-life 'Truman Show' pulled from TV as it's branded 'psychological torture' in ~tv
snake_case LinkWas he paid at all? It kinda seems like the lawsuit might just be that this company profited off of torturing him.Was he paid at all? It kinda seems like the lawsuit might just be that this company profited off of torturing him.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
snake_case Link ParentYeah it’s been about two years now of me planning meetups and no one coming. This was the first year I had the same Halloween party I have every year and none of them came. Other friends came,...Yeah it’s been about two years now of me planning meetups and no one coming.
This was the first year I had the same Halloween party I have every year and none of them came. Other friends came, thankfully, just no one from that group.
So I think it’s dead. I can stop trying now.
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Comment on How malware and a bogus job interview let attackers nab $6.3B from Binance in ~tech
snake_case Link ParentKnew a guy ~2018ish admitted in a group setting to watching porn on his work laptop. He said he does everything on that laptop, youtube, music, porn, games. He said it was fine cause he was at...Knew a guy ~2018ish admitted in a group setting to watching porn on his work laptop.
He said he does everything on that laptop, youtube, music, porn, games. He said it was fine cause he was at home at night and not in the office.
He got laid off some time after that and he actually emailed our boss asking if he could get his resume off that computer. The audacity.
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Comment on How My Chemical Romance's 'The Black Parade' hit No. 1 in the US, twenty years later in ~music
snake_case Link ParentIt was a party song, something to be enjoyed as a group. When I was listening through the album just in my room I always skipped it tooIt was a party song, something to be enjoyed as a group. When I was listening through the album just in my room I always skipped it too
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
snake_case Link ParentTheres only one person I don’t have to mask around and thats my s/o. Everyone else gets some level of mask that takes energy. Ive got a group of really old friends who you’d think I could drop the...Theres only one person I don’t have to mask around and thats my s/o. Everyone else gets some level of mask that takes energy.
Ive got a group of really old friends who you’d think I could drop the mask around but actually they’re city folk cause I went to high school in the city so the social expectations are just totally beyond my natural abilities. I can only see them when I’m drunk because then I get a pass for whatever off kilter thing I say.
Id kill to be a palatable enough person without the mask to make actual real friends lol
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
snake_case Link ParentIt’s such a weird reflex! Ive spent so much time crafting this completely wrong version of myself that no one even likes, probably because if they knew the real me and rejected that, that would...It’s such a weird reflex!
Ive spent so much time crafting this completely wrong version of myself that no one even likes, probably because if they knew the real me and rejected that, that would actually hurt.
When an old man picks a young woman to talk to, they are looking for one thing.
Someone who can’t ignore their social needs.
The conversation is by nature unbalanced. You have power over her by being a man, and by having the knowledge of someone older.
All I can do in this situation is be polite and hope that it ends soon. Sometimes if I have the energy I turn the tables and infodump on them about whatevers on my mind and thats fun for me because then the conversation is suddenly on my terms, they go silent, realize I’m weird and not submitting, and the conversation ends that way.
If you want a conversation, pick someone equal to you. Someone who could socially outrank you.
Edit: to clarify, I have plenty of old men in my life who I adore. Some I know through friends, some are family, some friends of family, some friends of my husband. Theyre great. I have so many grampas.
Never in my whole entire life has a random old man who I’ve never met before started talking to me and formed a friendship that way. Every single time that happens to me I am looking for a way to end the conversation without risking insulting them because they could turn rude and make a scene and then Id have to stop whatever it is Im doing and leave the area because Ive insulted someone else’s grampa by trying to mind my own business.