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Comment on How Bluesky, the rival of Elon Musk’s X, is seizing the moment in ~tech
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Comment on How Bluesky, the rival of Elon Musk’s X, is seizing the moment in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOne of my favorite custom feeds is the 📌 feed If you reply to a skeet with a 📌 it'll go to this custom feed to save it for later.One of my favorite custom feeds is the 📌 feed
If you reply to a skeet with a 📌 it'll go to this custom feed to save it for later.
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Comment on Satire publication The Onion buys Alex Jones' Infowars at auction with help from Sandy Hook families in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkFrom BlueskyHi everyone.
The Onion, with the help of the Sandy Hook families, has purchased InfoWars.
We are planning on making it a very funny, very stupid website.
We have retained the services of some Onion and Clickhole Hall of Famers to pull this off.
I can't wait to show you what we have cooked up.
Also, part of the reason we did bought [sic] InfoWars is because people on Bluesky told us it would be funny to buy InfoWars. And those people were right. This is the funniest thing that has ever happened.
I would like to reiterate: We own everything. The broadcasting equipment, the supplements, the intellectual property for Brain Force Plus. We are still trying to figure out what to do with it.
You better fucking subscribe to The Onion. This is the kind of thing we will do with your money.
It allowed us to buy InfoWars. Now help us staff it. -
Comment on Wonder announces acquisition of Grubhub in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah I'd definitely like low level casual, like I said cafeteria style would be fine too. Affordable and friendly.Yeah I'd definitely like low level casual, like I said cafeteria style would be fine too. Affordable and friendly.
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Comment on How Bluesky, the rival of Elon Musk’s X, is seizing the moment in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThey are definitely user created and thus your mileage may vary. Same with labelers or block/mute lists which I use only to flag folks as a start for the same reason. I've found them most often by...They are definitely user created and thus your mileage may vary. Same with labelers or block/mute lists which I use only to flag folks as a start for the same reason.
I've found them most often by searching for topics, like higher education or spec fic authors that I'm interested in and from folks I start following from there.
Here's a handy directory off site
https://blueskydirectory.com/starter-packs/allWhich you also find if you type starter packs into the search so that's handy.
I find it so much more intuitive than Mastodon and so much less toxic than Twitter that I don't mind the hoops. I'm in the first million users so while that's not really "old" in the scheme of things I've been around for a bit to feel comfortable there.
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Comment on How Bluesky, the rival of Elon Musk’s X, is seizing the moment in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere are a bunch of "starter packs" of folks you can follow that you can find for all sorts of different topics, science, law, furries. Can I point you in a starter pack direction?There are a bunch of "starter packs" of folks you can follow that you can find for all sorts of different topics, science, law, furries. Can I point you in a starter pack direction?
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Comment on Satire publication The Onion buys Alex Jones' Infowars at auction with help from Sandy Hook families in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkThe guy that bought the Onion seems to be good people in the first place. Secondly, this is wonderful and fitting.The guy that bought the Onion seems to be good people in the first place.
Secondly, this is wonderful and fitting.
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Comment on How do I trick my brain into accepting eating less? in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe comments have gotten past the healthy point for me, so I'm tapping ignore on the post. Not sure if I'll get a notification of a reply so feel free to DM me if you have any questions OP.The comments have gotten past the healthy point for me, so I'm tapping ignore on the post. Not sure if I'll get a notification of a reply so feel free to DM me if you have any questions OP.
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Comment on In praise of inconvenience: The hidden costs of a convenient world in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIn the US: look into cottage kitchen licensure laws from your state if you want to sell. Buying - farmers markets, local downtown shops, craft fairs and things like that. And then just on...In the US: look into cottage kitchen licensure laws from your state if you want to sell. Buying - farmers markets, local downtown shops, craft fairs and things like that. And then just on Facebook/Instagram
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Comment on Wonder announces acquisition of Grubhub in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentRe: your additions, yeah I see that in major cities, and I'm definitely thinking about smaller locales. And I definitely don't work in tech or a call center so it's not something seen in my areaRe: your additions, yeah I see that in major cities, and I'm definitely thinking about smaller locales. And I definitely don't work in tech or a call center so it's not something seen in my area
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Comment on Wonder announces acquisition of Grubhub in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentSeems to be a bit more than what I'm looking for - back around to Mall again? I went to one in New Orleans I think when I was at a conference there, and it was essentially a big food court with...Seems to be a bit more than what I'm looking for - back around to Mall again?
I went to one in New Orleans I think when I was at a conference there, and it was essentially a big food court with lots of seating so you and your friends could eat at one place or any of them and still sit together, but it was separate from other shopping. The idea of a cafeteria appeals too.
Anyway I know it's a tangent but I'm just thoughtful about it.
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Comment on How Bluesky, the rival of Elon Musk’s X, is seizing the moment in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI enjoy Bluesky a lot, though the influx needs to chill a bit as my feed's gotten less of the folks I follow and more noise. I have a lot of different feeds though so I may just need to adjust my...I enjoy Bluesky a lot, though the influx needs to chill a bit as my feed's gotten less of the folks I follow and more noise. I have a lot of different feeds though so I may just need to adjust my settings.
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Comment on Donald Trump nominates Fox News host and Army National Guard Major Pete Hegseth for US defense secretary in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI mean I definitely think I draw the line before "slave military practices." Yeah, and other countries conscript women regularly. Our draft is hopefully never used again, but there's the...Where do you want to draw the line? It's all arbitrary. You could just go back to slave military practices as well with commissars shooting people in the back who retreat.
I mean I definitely think I draw the line before "slave military practices."
The main reason it's worried about at all is because it comes with a real cost. If you're dumping a bunch of people in a situation where they will be required to do physical labor and possibly be cut off from supplies for significant periods of time, it's just flat out going to be harder on women on average.
Yeah, and other countries conscript women regularly. Our draft is hopefully never used again, but there's the difficulty on the people and the logistics. I"m saying the latter is, IMO, able to be overcome and the former applies to everyone. If women are drafted and are not capable of serving due to their body's inability to do so, it'd make sense to treat them like men who are unable to serve, even if those percentages are different.
It's cost benefit? What's the point of ramping up your logistical capabilities for an already edge case of an edge case? Naturally armies are male dominated. If you have a draft and suddenly ramp up intake, your system was already naturally setup to handle that .
Which is why I said do it in advance yeah.
So instead you propose we have a bunch of logistical capability that we will never use UNLESS you suddenly get a huge influx of female military members caused by a mandatory draft?
A draft would also cause a huge influx of male military members. I'm not sure that the percentage of women serving would drastically change, maybe it would, but lets say far fewer women are physically fit to serve. It's just ramping up your overall military membership, rather than only the men. (And again I think this ignores the idea that there's benefit to the military from women's service rather than just inconvenience for deviating from the norm.)
I really don't know why you keep bringing up Hegseth. I felt my stance was made clear on this from the start, but I really couldn't begin to give a damn what they say as it's not backed by anything remotely sound, regardless the conclusion. I am not remotely against women in the military or in combat roles, nor am i discussing that.
Because that was where the convo started. But actually I was bringing up a veteran's response to the comments and her opinions on women serving in general. I tried to find her thoughts on the draft but was unable to.I am not perceiving this as an argument that we're in, so if this is too heated we can chill. I have not served in the military, though I have friends and family that did, and I'm coming at this from the perspective that if it's worth involuntarily conscripting large numbers of people, that it's worth conscripting any gender. That's all. Not trying to convince you or fight or anything.
Edited to fix quotes because I'm bad at it.
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Comment on ADHD and TODO lists in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link Parenthttps://www.thetransmitter.org/spectrum/decoding-overlap-autism-adhd/ 20-50% is the range of ADHD folks with comorbid ASD diagnoses, so I'm not going to claim that number is solid. One of the...https://www.thetransmitter.org/spectrum/decoding-overlap-autism-adhd/
20-50% is the range of ADHD folks with comorbid ASD diagnoses, so I'm not going to claim that number is solid.
One of the things I learned when working on my counseling degree was that the label helps you if it helps you, if it doesn't it doesn't. I find my ADHD label really helpful for categorizing the world, and I'm one of those "not-hyperactive, just impulsive AF" sorts of ADHD people. I don't really worry about the subtypes and all that, but I do actively try to understand what underlies the varied symptoms folks see - that broken dopamine system for example - because it helps me play the games I need to play to make me - the square peg - fit through the parts of the world that are more "round hole". Some parts of my job are so square peg shaped it's easy peasy and some are very rounded on the edges.
I don't think ADHD is necessarily too big, it's just that it's describing a big thing, most of which has nothing to do with attention deficits or hyperactivity.
ANYWAY, as you said, if it helps you then yeah for sure, seek the diagnosis. I'd start with any existing therapist you have, or seek one out who specializes, and ask for a referral to a psychologist (if you're in the US, i may have missed that.)
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Comment on Wonder announces acquisition of Grubhub in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's similar for sure, and some stores have multiple venues and lots of options, others have some chicken and questionable potato salad. But grocery stores aren't usually around business plazas...It's similar for sure, and some stores have multiple venues and lots of options, others have some chicken and questionable potato salad. But grocery stores aren't usually around business plazas near me, they're usually in more outskirt areas, and the ones that are more centralized are some of the smaller ones. Bodegas and similar shops probably also function in a similar way for city folks with access to them. But I'm thinking something larger and more conducive to eating in than most grocery options (Hy-Vee or Wegmans might hit the same spot barring location)
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Comment on Who is allowed to practice identity politics? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI'm going to assume this is depressing but... looking into it, Washington had more than 2x the net worth of Jefferson. Washington's primary financial investments were in land and enslaved people....I'm going to assume this is depressing but... looking into it, Washington had more than 2x the net worth of Jefferson. Washington's primary financial investments were in land and enslaved people. But income came mostly from whiskey and selling land, as the plantations weren't money makers. His father owned multiple slave plantations and an iron mine. His father inherited substantial estates as the eldest son (and so on.) His family really benefited from emigrating to America and getting in early on that landed gentry thing.
Jefferson had about 100k of debt at the end of his life (idk what that is in today's money), and while he inherited estates and enslaved people he also inherited the estates' debt. He then continued to live beyond his means, notably because the man couldn't stop buying books, but also tried to start vineyards unsuccessfully. Perhaps ironic that a man that thought the states should handle their own debts, he got the General Assembly to hold a public lottery as a fundraiser for his. This didn't work and he died deeply in debt and thus his property, possessions and people, were auctioned off. Jefferson did inherit his father's plantations who inherited his father's, but unlike GW, TJ's family tree has fewer wikipedia links so I've got way less info.
Anyway, this was a fun rabbit hole for me, but I was right that much of the assets were enslaved people and the land they worked, and neither man freed them prior to his death, with Jefferson failing to do so because of the money he owed on top of that and Washington freeing 1 slave in his will at the time of his death and the other 123 people remained enslaved until his wife died.
The mythos of Washington does not survive his involvement in slavery, IMO.
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Comment on Wonder announces acquisition of Grubhub in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI don't do food delivery pretty much at all anymore (Even before the move to a small town) but Wonder being described as a food hall reminds me how much I'd genuinely like something like a (Good)...I don't do food delivery pretty much at all anymore (Even before the move to a small town) but Wonder being described as a food hall reminds me how much I'd genuinely like something like a (Good) university cafeteria but for workers. Food courts separate from the dying malls. Modern cafeterias. Automats with Japanese style vending machines?
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Comment on ADHD and TODO lists in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIn the US: A full psychologist panel generally, with a lot of history once you're an adult. But a therapist can help discuss it with you. That said, it may or may not be useful and I have...In the US: A full psychologist panel generally, with a lot of history once you're an adult. But a therapist can help discuss it with you.
That said, it may or may not be useful and I have conversations with my students about whether it's helpful to have the label for their personal understanding and accommodations, or whether it's risky , for example in some states it was grounds to be disqualified from HRT for trans folks (Those ones may not be in effect currently, i think anything impacting adults got overturned/injunctions but it's just one example.)
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Comment on John Thune elected as US Senate Republican leader to succeed Mitch McConnell in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThat's fair I know he's playing the "who will let me skip Senate confirmation" game too. I'm keeping much lower news absorption this time aroundThat's fair I know he's playing the "who will let me skip Senate confirmation" game too.
I'm keeping much lower news absorption this time around
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Comment on Donald Trump nominates Fox News host and Army National Guard Major Pete Hegseth for US defense secretary in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentHonestly, i'm surprised more people don't take a foot off, or their trigger fingers. As you note, all of these incentives do exist for men as well as women. But as having a draft in itself is a...Honestly, i'm surprised more people don't take a foot off, or their trigger fingers. As you note, all of these incentives do exist for men as well as women.
But as having a draft in itself is a huge ethical issue and involves incredibly dangerous situations, it feels weird to only or primarily worry about the menstruating people in that situation. At 18 I'd have signed up to be drafted - I in fact tried - and while current me looks back at past me saying "that's stupid" I'd tell men the same thing today. My entire adult life we've been at war after all.
But regardless, yeah, there's logistics, but women have served in combat across the globe throughout history. And while equal draft responsibility doesn't lead to equal rights as evidence by Black American Servicemen in our own history, women have served in combat and "technically out of combat but also basically in combat" in the modern era too. Maybe the visceral response to sending women into combat would keep Americans from throwing our teenagers at the next war, I don't know.
But having logistics - something that could be solved in advance with planning any time they want to start, and periods consistently tossed as the reasons it's too hard, while accounting for no possible benefits from having women serve is like hearing the same argument on repeat for decades. Women serve in countries where war is in their streets, in many countries with national conscription, etc. If the logistics are never addressed, they'll never be addressed. And I suspect that's on purpose.
Senator Duckworth was shot down before women were allowed to serve in combat.
Her response to Hegseth's comments were:Our military cannot go to war without our female service members. This is not the Revolutionary War where there’s some sort of a line in the sand, and combat is on one side, and the rest of us can stay behind, and that’s not combat.
I would ask him, where do you think I lost my legs? In a bar fight? I’m pretty sure I was in combat when that happened. You know, it just shows how out of touch he is with the nature of modern warfare if he thinks that we can keep women behind some sort of imaginary line, which is not the way warfare is today.And I'm pretty sure she outranks him.
I can't find if she supports repealing the draft or leaving it as is, or adding women to it, mostly because she's called Trump a draft-dodger often enough the news articles are overwhelming the results. (Disgustingly, one of the top two "People also ask" is "Is Tammy Duckworth a US citizen and yeah, that's some shit.) But anyway, I'm aware logistics are not nothing, especially at scale, but I think they're an excuse in the long term.
So I use starter packs less than feeds because then I'm not following everyone but I can go through the feed of those folks whenever I want and follow them if I like. Also the other trick is to search for topic+sky
Useful feeds:
Gift links for articles - like a news feed but explicitly gift links.
LawSky
Indigisky
Starter packs (give me some more topic areas and I can grab more)
SFF authors
ADHD creators