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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkToys and cat trees for keeping them busy, though (especially adult) cats often will sleep during the day and be active at dawn/dusk. If the cat seems interested in getting on the counter put some...Toys and cat trees for keeping them busy, though (especially adult) cats often will sleep during the day and be active at dawn/dusk.
If the cat seems interested in getting on the counter put some foil on it, and that usually stops the urge as they don't like the feel under their paws.Food and water wise every cat is different, same food is good to start but the lower carb/higher protein you can get for a cat the better (and wet food is sadly the best option). I have one cat who likes a fountain, one who won't touch it and one who hasn't tried because I don't have one anymore. So ymmv. Making sure water is clean helps but some cats drink fine and others need more moisture via their food (see above)
I can't speak to the allergies.
Lots of scratching pads and posts, having them protects your furniture most of the time.
I've had a bunch of apartment cats. They do fine as long as you play with them a lot, and I recommend a window ledge or some place they can watch outside for more entertainment.
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Comment on Can we maybe have an informal agreement to avoid posting articles that require you to sell your firstborn child to the devil just to read them? in ~tildes
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBecause a lot of people would object to the use of the term, so I hedged rather than have to discuss the matter. ...And yet, here we are. ¯\_(⊙_ʖ⊙)_/¯ Your point was likely missed because of your...I don't know why you have quotes around the word "pirate".
Because a lot of people would object to the use of the term, so I hedged rather than have to discuss the matter.
...And yet, here we are. ¯\_(⊙_ʖ⊙)_/¯
Your point was likely missed because of your previous framing. I don't personally feel the same way about a lot of it. But any weighting where 3 is inherently a better option than 1 is off, in my opinion.
Regardless if you're wanting to have this bigger picture conversation I'm going back to #1 and not commenting. Not because I agree or disagree but because I personally don't have the spoons for it. I do encourage you to post this as a top level if you want conversation as I doubt you get as much attention this far down and I'm just too tired. No shade, just tired.
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Comment on How to actually feed America (food bank logistics) in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah pantries get from stores like that, and it sounds like these are food banks getting it from warehouses in truckloads (and then would distribute to the pantries in their area). So the same...Yeah pantries get from stores like that, and it sounds like these are food banks getting it from warehouses in truckloads (and then would distribute to the pantries in their area). So the same thing, on a step up on the scale.
I've been lucky, the pantry near campus has had just off date baked goods but the produce was always pretty decent. I felt good about offering it to the students coming through. People could decline it if they didn't want any individual item too. It was more a "shop for what you want" style pantry.
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Comment on How to actually feed America (food bank logistics) in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBingo, these are big donors, not local food drives. They don't want to sort things more than they have beyond marking it out of inventory for donation and write off. And someone probably can use...Bingo, these are big donors, not local food drives. They don't want to sort things more than they have beyond marking it out of inventory for donation and write off. And someone probably can use some Tupperware lids, and some of the all but dead broccoli can get made into soup.
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Comment on Can we maybe have an informal agreement to avoid posting articles that require you to sell your firstborn child to the devil just to read them? in ~tildes
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou asked "which do you want me to do" as if this decision is incumbent upon "us" or at least on @nacho It's not. Follow your own morality, or your whim, or whatever. Nacho believes people,...You asked "which do you want me to do" as if this decision is incumbent upon "us" or at least on @nacho
It's not. Follow your own morality, or your whim, or whatever. Nacho believes people, broadly, should support original reporting. And you're taking this as some sort of challenge - you dislike the cookies strongly enough that you're going to click an archive link, ok cool. Then do that?
Like genuinely, their statement isn't a personal judgement of your actions. Demanding they tell you to either "pirate" the article (or whatever you qualify the archive link as) or "take a guess based off the title" and contribute more ignorantly" is bizarre.
As for what the comment above you means is that if you want to read a different article on the topic at hand, you can go do that. You can even add that link to the thread if you wanted. That would absolutely be relevant to that thread.
But it seems like you're taking this statement of belief as a challenge to your behavior. And I don't think any of us care about your article reading other than in the most abstract aggregate and we can't control it anyway. So like, do what you want. But everyone here isn't fighting you.
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThink about how many folks in the United Stats don't agree with Donald Trump and then probably assume that our media is not showing us the entire picture. Our news is never covered International...Think about how many folks in the United Stats don't agree with Donald Trump and then probably assume that our media is not showing us the entire picture. Our news is never covered International geopolitical situations with a lot of nuance.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAs long as they left the garlic and the butter, we're good. The snails are sort of ancillary to those two.As long as they left the garlic and the butter, we're good. The snails are sort of ancillary to those two.
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI want to be clear I'm not defending her or the Obamas because she worked for the them, just seeking clarification on the framing a bit. It all feels a bit like post 9/11 when we're playing Toby...I want to be clear I'm not defending her or the Obamas because she worked for the them, just seeking clarification on the framing a bit.
It all feels a bit like post 9/11 when we're playing Toby Keith on the radio non-stop and the slurs against Arabs came out on force.. I know there are people who have felt this way before, but really, this many people? Idk.
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI understand all of that, and I even recall picking up anti-Palestinian messaging as a Catholic school kid, but there is a level where you're on national TV more worried that people are seeing...I understand all of that, and I even recall picking up anti-Palestinian messaging as a Catholic school kid, but there is a level where you're on national TV more worried that people are seeing bodies than you are that there are bodies.
I'm not as fond of the "let them speak" model towards bigotry as personally I think our society has become more bigoted as it's spoken freely out loud. Without the shame of "oh these views are not acceptable" more people pick them up, especially younger people, because that indoctrination essentially continues. I don't have stats to back that up, just how things feel atm.
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Comment on US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention to end all monkey research in ~science
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAh your point was not clear at all from your reply. I have no sense on what is the norm vs whether certain studies are outliers, how many labs are using primates for testing total or how those...Ah your point was not clear at all from your reply. I have no sense on what is the norm vs whether certain studies are outliers, how many labs are using primates for testing total or how those numbers have changed over the years. All of which would be needed to make a judgement and none of which I'm interested in researching.
The additional context makes your point clear, and my attempt to provide clarity is no longer needed.
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI've been seeing this clip make the rounds, or one like it, as she's on a book tour and has repeated this same theme throughout. I cannot believe she's saying the words with no realization of how...I've been seeing this clip make the rounds, or one like it, as she's on a book tour and has repeated this same theme throughout. I cannot believe she's saying the words with no realization of how she's being interpreted. Usually people at least try to couch their "we must hide the children's bodies from the youth" beliefs as concern for said youths' well being rather than failing to indoctrinate them.
Also fwiw she was a speechwriter for President Obama but I think was promoted to work in a more lead role under Michelle. Idk if "aide" is accurate in a speech writing context? /Gen. It feels like this level of callousness had to come later though? Is this a post-October 10th pivot or something that happened over the years or how she always was...
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of November 24 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThey said they were going after criminals, it never panned out that way and the numbers that trump claimed of "criminal" undocumented immigrants were higher than the number of all immigrants in...They said they were going after criminals, it never panned out that way and the numbers that trump claimed of "criminal" undocumented immigrants were higher than the number of all immigrants in the US. The first push to revoke visas was at Muslim graduate students who had public opinions on Gaza. Then incoming tourists who had public opinions about the US/president. Anyone who had the slightest discrepancy in paperwork, etc.
It's been a lie the whole time.
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Comment on Can we maybe have an informal agreement to avoid posting articles that require you to sell your firstborn child to the devil just to read them? in ~tildes
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentYou do also have a choice to not contribute more "ignorantly" that is not a foregone conclusion. There's a difficulty in this discussion more broadly in that some folks don't have a problem with...You do also have a choice to not contribute more "ignorantly" that is not a foregone conclusion.
There's a difficulty in this discussion more broadly in that some folks don't have a problem with cookies so it's not selling their child's soul or whatever, others have them blocked, still others will not see them due to different experiences depending on what country someone is in, etc.
I try to use NYT gift links for example, but as a subscriber (for free from my job, fuck them getting my money) who uses the app I have no idea what the web experience currently looks like.
But I don't understand "post better sources or else I'll reply ignorantly" as the two options.
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Comment on Hoopla Bonus Borrows for November 2025 in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI don't know, it really sparked something in me. Especially when things popped off about 30 minutes in. I left feeling a warm glow.I don't know, it really sparked something in me. Especially when things popped off about 30 minutes in. I left feeling a warm glow.
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Comment on US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention to end all monkey research in ~science
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI believe they meant "per lab/study" not "total across the country." Based on the "most academic labs can only afford 3" and that big pharma labs are using about 5 on a particular study.I believe they meant "per lab/study" not "total across the country." Based on the "most academic labs can only afford 3" and that big pharma labs are using about 5 on a particular study.
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Comment on White House spokeswoman Karoline Leavitt now has a family connection to a US Immigration and Customs Enforcement arrest in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentWhich to be fair is as far as I'm aware based on nothing other than assuming they're all shitty people. I'm not saying that assumption is wrong but even just random odds were bound to catch...Which to be fair is as far as I'm aware based on nothing other than assuming they're all shitty people. I'm not saying that assumption is wrong but even just random odds were bound to catch somebody connected to this administration eventually. Especially when they're targeting a lot of people who are otherwise following the rules, but have some minor past offense.
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Comment on How right-wing superstar Riley Gaines built an anti-trans empire in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentFully agreed. And if everyone was being genetically tested so many more people would find out their chromosomes and assumed sex/gender didn't align. I would fully support a more equitable system...Fully agreed. And if everyone was being genetically tested so many more people would find out their chromosomes and assumed sex/gender didn't align.
I would fully support a more equitable system for sports than gender, I just despair of that being a reality in a world where women's sports are already an afterthought until it became a handy excuse for the demonization of trans people.
In the meantime, now all the locker room harassment has expanded to come from parents, school officials and TV personalities. Instead of treating Riley Gaines like the sore loser she is, they've applauded her bigotry and bad sportsmanship and fed it. I hope it consumes her quickly and we can move on. Sigh
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Comment on How right-wing superstar Riley Gaines built an anti-trans empire in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentIf trans women were in fact dominating women's sports I think it would make sense to look at the system for changes but that just hasn't been the case. Most sports had some method for saying you...If trans women were in fact dominating women's sports I think it would make sense to look at the system for changes but that just hasn't been the case. Most sports had some method for saying you had to be on hormones for a length of time. (As it stands hormones are used to disqualify cis women and intersex folks regularly, which isn't ideal) And before the recent bannings of trans women competing at all... There was still no evidence of trans women dominating.
And none of this will make either a trans girl in school sports feel safer while also leading to the harassment of cis girls who grow tall early, or have a square jaw, or a flatter chest and an athletic figure, or who are black and read as "masculine" to white PTA Karens. So yay, we have allegedly "fairer" girls and women's sports, something people can hardly manage to care about or fund otherwise on the back of harassment and hate with no statistical evidence of a problem. How many deaths by suicide will this lead to as a "side effect"
There are probably different ways to separate different sports. Gender is so baked into our culture I doubt we can ditch it but given the flawed system, we don't have to exclude trans folks to get competitive and fair sports
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Comment on Tildes Book Club Discussion - November 2025 - We are Legion (We are Bob) by Dennis Taylor in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNot my preference either, I get it.Not my preference either, I get it.
Pretty much everything depends on the cat, you've got the basics down as a starting point and if the cat doesn't do what you expect, then ask questions!
Even though @RheingoldRiver is right that cats are basically liquids who can teleport, some cats don't get up on counters. Some go looking for people food and will find anything you leave out. Some won't eat food or treats that are too much like real food.
Some will kill any mice or crickets that get into your place. Some will do nothing about it, or be very bad hunters.