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  1. Comment on She took her amputated leg home, and you can too in ~health

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    No worries at all, always happy to chat more about all this stuff. I'll start making a list of artists pages for you.

    No worries at all, always happy to chat more about all this stuff. I'll start making a list of artists pages for you.

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  2. Comment on She took her amputated leg home, and you can too in ~health

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    If you would like to know anything more I'm always willing to chat, I have always been drawn towards body modification but limited myself because of what others would think and I hate that I let...

    If you would like to know anything more I'm always willing to chat, I have always been drawn towards body modification but limited myself because of what others would think and I hate that I let myself stay that way for so long. I did stretch my lobes to 32mm, had many piercings and my tongue is split.

    There are a few things I plan on still getting but being a nurse I'm now limited to things that can be hidden.

    The first post you'll see on Shannon's blog is his last one, he had a very rare disease that took his life so that one can be an emotional read. Still very informative.
    I recommend checking out the PDF downloads he had "Mod Con" and "Meet Tommy" the first book is about the first mod con they put on and a few interviews from folks who attended, then Meet Tommy is more about the cross over of BDSM and body modification, both are NSFW with graphic images, definitely not for the light hearted.

    Shawn Porter still throws up a lot of historical and tribal stuff, his posts are very educational and always a great read.

    If you are at all interested in current stuff I can add the artist's who are pushing things forward now and direct you to their IG.

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  3. Comment on She took her amputated leg home, and you can too in ~health

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    Wow. that sounds absolutely amazing! The current state of body modification and amputation is moving towards this direction, a few years back a chip called North Sense was made and implanted into...

    Wow. that sounds absolutely amazing!

    The current state of body modification and amputation is moving towards this direction, a few years back a chip called North Sense was made and implanted into a guys chest. It gave him a "sixth sense" and made him a human compass, the body mod groups I'm part of lost their minds over the jump forward the issue most had was that it stuck out of the chest so far it would become more an issue of trying to not catch it on everything day to day. Still it is amazing how far things have come.

    The amputation stuff happens way more than most would think. It's very underground and a lot of people won't admit how ok they are with it.

    Have you looked into Shannon Larratt's blog or Shawn Porter?

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  4. Comment on She took her amputated leg home, and you can too in ~health

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    Would you mind sharing a little about the story? Body modification is something that really interests me, the reasons why, the cultural acceptance, the history and how it's evolved.

    Would you mind sharing a little about the story? Body modification is something that really interests me, the reasons why, the cultural acceptance, the history and how it's evolved.

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  5. Comment on Former nail biters --- how did you quit? in ~talk

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    So we might be trend setters? That sounds kinda cool lol

    So we might be trend setters? That sounds kinda cool lol

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  6. Comment on Former nail biters --- how did you quit? in ~talk

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    The nurse who gave handover this afternoon had press on nails, so if she can get away with it why can't I? if they ask I'll tell them why. I know we have a giant bag of nail polish, but would you...

    The nurse who gave handover this afternoon had press on nails, so if she can get away with it why can't I? if they ask I'll tell them why.

    I know we have a giant bag of nail polish, but would you believe none are clear lol I think I've bought them every colour known to man and a few that aren't. It's also something they have been asking to do for the longest time and I've told them work is an issue.

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  7. Comment on Former nail biters --- how did you quit? in ~talk

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    I feel the same way, seeing that little bit of growth drives me nuts... But it's something we both need to get used to. I've even thought about letting my girls paint my nails lol only problem is...

    I feel the same way, seeing that little bit of growth drives me nuts... But it's something we both need to get used to.

    I've even thought about letting my girls paint my nails lol only problem is being a guy I'll have more questions to answer. But that gets shut down fairly quickly when you say "my daughter's did it. Also it's stopping me from biting" Then the other issue is work, nurses aren't meant to paint their nails... I might just say stuff it it's only while I break this damn habit.

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  8. Comment on Former nail biters --- how did you quit? in ~talk

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    tomf, how are you coming along? I wanted to update because your post has made me try and stop again. This time I've been really giving it my all it's the beginning of day 3 and at times it feels...

    tomf, how are you coming along? I wanted to update because your post has made me try and stop again. This time I've been really giving it my all it's the beginning of day 3 and at times it feels like bugs are crawling in my brain when I feel the urge to bite / pick at my cuticles but each time I catch myself about to I stop then say out loud "you don't need to do that" and "stop. you have gone (whatever time frame I'm up to)" it's fucking hard I won't lie.

    But I've made a huge step forward, my hands don't hurt, they aren't torn to shit and are starting to show sings of healing. Thank you for making this post. It made more difference than you know.

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  9. Comment on Former nail biters --- how did you quit? in ~talk

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    I've been trying to stop for the longest time, I get worse if I'm anxious. So far the only thing that has had any sort of progress is setting myself small goals to achieve. Say one day I'll be...

    I've been trying to stop for the longest time, I get worse if I'm anxious. So far the only thing that has had any sort of progress is setting myself small goals to achieve.

    Say one day I'll be more aware of what I'm doing and try to stop myself for an hour. If that works I'll go another hour. So far the best I've done is a week then unfortunately lost it and all that healing / work went to shit. The last few days I've actually noticed my hands aren't as bad as they normally are so I'll be using moisturiser twice a day in the hope that if my skin isn't dry I will be able to resist.

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  10. Comment on When in your life did you feel the most broken? in ~talk

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    Thank you. I've tried to answer this question before, honestly I don't know how I dealt with it at the time other than pushing on. Its an odd thing to look back at and all I can say is I didn't...

    Thank you.

    I've tried to answer this question before, honestly I don't know how I dealt with it at the time other than pushing on. Its an odd thing to look back at and all I can say is I didn't know any different, if that makes sense. I just had to push on.

    Each year we celebrate his birthday, the first stuffed toy someone bought for us was an Elephant. So now our house is filled with every little Elephant my wife can find, so that is part of her way to keep sane.
    I personally want to be a mental health nurse, going through that has only made that stronger within me and I've applied for Uni just recently to achieve that goal.

    We did have a few therapy sessions right after, we were told its a standard thing stillbirths. My wife had a few more before I was asked to come along with her, they helped massively. She is also a good bit stubborn so refused most medications to help but we have each other and our girls. At the end of the day we are here and healthy, I couldn't ask for more.

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  11. Comment on When in your life did you feel the most broken? in ~talk

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    4 years ago. My wife and I found out we were pregnant, this would be our 3rd we were both blown away and absolutely over the moon. We had recently moved interstate, my wife and girls came back...

    4 years ago. My wife and I found out we were pregnant, this would be our 3rd we were both blown away and absolutely over the moon. We had recently moved interstate, my wife and girls came back home for our youngest's birthday since most of our families lived back here, she was due for another ultrasound at the time so we made the appointment and off we went.

    The sonographer said the words you never want to hear "I see something abnormal. you'll have to speak to the doctor before leaving" they found a thickness at the back of bubs neck. Instantly we said that didn't matter we will love and support our baby no matter what. The doctor wouldn't let her fly back home, so we had to make a rushed decision to move back down.

    More tests were performed, more scans, more bad news. When I thought it couldn't get any worse we were told "you have 24 hours to abort if that is something you want to do. we don't know for sure what is wrong. we can't say if your baby will survive full term but it's highly unlikely. we will give you a few minutes to decide" they stepped out of the room and with this new information we had 5 fucking minutes to decide what to do.

    My wife couldn't do it so we let nature take its course. At 23 weeks we had another scan and right away my wife asked where the heartbeat was, our little boy had passed. the next 3 days were what I thought were the worst of my life. I was wrong. The day we had to deliver took that prize.

    My wife had to take a pill to induce labour, she laboured for 16 horrible hours. At one point she screamed in a way I've never heard and shouted "IT BURST. SOMETHING BURST" everyone thought it was a cyst (polycystic ovaries) eventually the NUM did her examination and what I saw still haunts me. We were told she would need an emergency C section, something that the doctors at first didn't want to do as our first two were C section babies (too big to birth natural)

    The next few hours are mostly a blur, until I was stuck in a corner that you can barely call a waiting room with a TV that was broken. The screen was off but the sound was belting out, it was too high to turn off by hand and it made me irrationality angry. Finally at around 3am the NUM who was assisting the surgery came out to me and explained so quickly "ok all is done. your wife is fine. baby has been delivered, she burst her uterus and baby was trying to get out that way, it was about 1cm from the artery that feeds the uterus so we are very lucky. We did loose her a couple of times, but the doctor brought her back. I'll send someone out shortly once she is in recovery" then ran off. I tried to process everything but couldn't. I lost my baby that night and almost my wife.

    Through all of it no one would be her rock. Everyone around us expressed their sadness over what had happened so I bottled everything up and didn't let my emotions out. It was 6 month's before I did, when everyone else was dealing with what had happened or had found ways to deal with it. That was the moment I was the most broken in my life.

    Sorry for any formatting, I'm on my mobile. Also if you made it through that long rant. thank you.

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  12. Comment on What are you doing this weekend? in ~talk

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    Played D&D last night, I got to play a new character as last session my PC was reduced to basically a zombie. After working with my DM we sorted the new PC fairly quickly and got things going, had...

    Played D&D last night, I got to play a new character as last session my PC was reduced to basically a zombie. After working with my DM we sorted the new PC fairly quickly and got things going, had the surprise reveal all set all the party had to do was leave a cave, naturally they wanted to help my character and spent the next hour trying to fix what had happened.
    Once they left the cave and met the new character, the collective "oh... that's why you wouldn't let us fix him".

    And tomorrow is another D&D day, only a different campaign. Wife and kids have gone to the mother in law's so I'm home alone, probably going to paint mini figs.

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  13. Comment on For those getting ready to go back to school: how do you feel about it? in ~life

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    I was able to apply for Uni just last week, unfortunately I won't find out if I've been accepted to any until February. So while I'm excited about the thought of furthering my education I'm...

    I was able to apply for Uni just last week, unfortunately I won't find out if I've been accepted to any until February.

    So while I'm excited about the thought of furthering my education I'm anxious that I won't get in. So I'm trying to put that out of my mind until I really can't.

    I'm currently working as an Enrolled Nurse in aged care, I have this feeling or it's more like a need inside me, that I should be in mental health. I would prefer to have the bachelor degree as there are more extensive classes I can attend before going to that field and I would be less limited with the nursing care I could provide.

    I've been in aged care for close to 10 years now, I'm feeling like my clinical skills aren't fully being used so it's time to move on. I'll stay where I am because it's stable hours, once the Uni degree is complete (being positive that I'll get in) I'll move on. If all goes well it's 3 more years.

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  14. Comment on When I went on Newstart I knew it would be hard but I wasn’t prepared for the mental load in ~life

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    Wow I knew it wasn't much but that is absolutely insane.

    Wow I knew it wasn't much but that is absolutely insane.

  15. Comment on When I went on Newstart I knew it would be hard but I wasn’t prepared for the mental load in ~life

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    Unemployment payment here in Australia. It's next to nothing that you are expected to live on. I remember back when I was finished highschool and was on it before getting a job it was around $400...

    Unemployment payment here in Australia. It's next to nothing that you are expected to live on.

    I remember back when I was finished highschool and was on it before getting a job it was around $400 a fortnight. I think it's gone up a little more since (this was a bit over 15 years ago) one of our politicians thinks it's more than enough to live on when it really isn't.

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  16. Comment on Jay and Silent Bob Reboot - Trailer in ~movies

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    Kev and Jay spoke about it on their podcast show Jay and Silent Bob get old. The first 10ish episodes they go deep into Jay's history, where he grew up, family life (and lack of) how they met,...

    Kev and Jay spoke about it on their podcast show Jay and Silent Bob get old. The first 10ish episodes they go deep into Jay's history, where he grew up, family life (and lack of) how they met, then eventual downward spiral to rock bottom.

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  17. Comment on D&D and things I made in ~games.tabletop

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    Any step forward is a plus, when our Parliament tried to pass the legislation I remember they had some crazy 24 ish hour sitting while the opposition read every single letter in the document...

    Any step forward is a plus, when our Parliament tried to pass the legislation I remember they had some crazy 24 ish hour sitting while the opposition read every single letter in the document before it was approved.

    I've actually read in r/Melbourne people trying to argue that we are now only a step away from letting anyone and everyone "kill themselves because they are sad" thankfully those fools were few and far between, but it's still disappointing that people see it that way.

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  18. Comment on D&D and things I made in ~games.tabletop

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    The fight to decriminalisation / legalise is still going down here, each time it's brought up things do move a bit closer. The most recent big news to happen in my state (Victoria) is that...

    The fight to decriminalisation / legalise is still going down here, each time it's brought up things do move a bit closer. The most recent big news to happen in my state (Victoria) is that assisted suicide has just been made legal and officially come in only about three weeks ago, it has been very interesting and I've been able to inform a lot of people on how safe guarded it really is.

    About a month before the date it was "live" an email went around at work with a fair amount of the prerequisites and such in it, I ended up printing it off and brought it home because I knew my mum would try to argue that only money hungry family members would try to use it trying to get inheritance.

    Hopefully someday Australia will catch up with the rest of the world and decriminalisation/ legalise weed. Not having it that way is just causing more harm.

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  19. Comment on D&D and things I made in ~games.tabletop

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    Working on a car and bigger stuff like that wasn't offered until our final year, then was only offered at the high school that was more rural. Calling it rural is a stretch lol it's more an hour...

    Working on a car and bigger stuff like that wasn't offered until our final year, then was only offered at the high school that was more rural. Calling it rural is a stretch lol it's more an hour an change from the city, smaller town where it smells of weed because that's all the teenagers and most everyone else has to do ...

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  20. Comment on D&D and things I made in ~games.tabletop

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    We had Home Ec as a core subject in year 7 and 8 (first two years of high school) then year 9 we got electives, Home Ec was on that list and unfortunately often got thrown to the side for metal...

    We had Home Ec as a core subject in year 7 and 8 (first two years of high school) then year 9 we got electives, Home Ec was on that list and unfortunately often got thrown to the side for metal working, wood working and glass work, while amazing fun I didn't learn anything that would be used in the world.

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