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Comment on Suggestions for fantasy that feels truly different in ~books
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Comment on What are the best cover songs that reinterpret the original into a different genre, style, or mood? in ~music
Linnaeve Link ParentAvi's take on it kind of gives me Pink Floyd vibes. Also in the same vein: Enter Sandman cover by SHEL. The stripped down instruments and the vocalists' breathy voice give it a haunted feel.Avi's take on it kind of gives me Pink Floyd vibes.
Also in the same vein: Enter Sandman cover by SHEL. The stripped down instruments and the vocalists' breathy voice give it a haunted feel.
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Comment on Without saying where you live, where do you live? in ~talk
Linnaeve (edited )Link ParentLynchburg, TN? It's a dry county, but whiskey distilling is still legal. Last time I was there, the locals said the majority wanted to vote to go wet, but due to some weird law they did not have...Lynchburg, TN?
It's a dry county, but whiskey distilling is still legal. Last time I was there, the locals said the majority wanted to vote to go wet, but due to some weird law they did not have enough residents/eligible voters to get it to pass. Recommendation for non-locals: If you're visiting Jack Daniels and have a few months to plan the trip, book a reservation at Mary Bobo's! Also, although it's a dry county, there's a loophole by putting it in food products; Mary Bobo's takes full advantage of this loophole, especially with their baked apple dessert.
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Comment on Without saying where you live, where do you live? in ~talk
Linnaeve Link ParentYep! Figured that would be an easy one. I'm also partial to COS, but that's probably because of work more than anything.Yep! Figured that would be an easy one. I'm also partial to COS, but that's probably because of work more than anything.
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Comment on Without saying where you live, where do you live? in ~talk
Linnaeve LinkI can see the purple mountain majesty from a famous poem turned song from my house.I can see the purple mountain majesty from a famous poem turned song from my house.
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Comment on How often do you visit your parents? in ~life
Linnaeve Link ParentYou (and the others in this thread so far) are definitely not alone. I agree with you that it's an individual choice and depends on so many factors. I have three parents (bio mom, dad,...You (and the others in this thread so far) are definitely not alone. I agree with you that it's an individual choice and depends on so many factors. I have three parents (bio mom, dad, adoptive/step mom) who were all pretty abusive in their own fun ways, but even deciding whether and how to go low/no contact with them has been extremely varied for me.
The decision to go no contact with my father was easy. So easy it was kind of taken out of my hands because he went to prison for how he abused me. I will never speak to him or his side of the family again and will have no regrets about that.
My bio mom and I sort of reconnected when I was in my 20s after I searched for her, but the relationship fell apart soon after her mother died. I called her on Christmas a few years ago and she had no interest in talking to me--even seemed upset that I would want to talk with her. I suppose we left the call on neutral terms, but neither of us has attempted to reach out to the other since. That one stings a bit because I had hoped to have some sort of relationship with her, but I know that my presence is a reminder of a really painful part of her life and want to respect that (I totally get it).
My adoptive/step mom has been the most complicated. I've been low-ish contact with her (occasional texts/calls and a visit every few years when she needs help with something big), but decided to go no contact about a month ago to give myself space while I go through some intensive therapy (EMDR for CPTSD). I have not decided whether this will be permanent, but she has already broken that boundary. I should not have been surprised, but reading her message absolutely floored me and solidified that no contact (at least for now) is the right decision for me.
All that to say... Good for you for taking the responsibility to care for your own needs by going no contact with the ones that failed to do so when it was supposed to be their responsibility. I'm glad you've been able to move on from them and find happiness and be more regulated. Thank you for sharing, too; knowing there are other outliers out there (and for what sounds like similar reasons) is super helpful.
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Not a direct recommendation per se, but I would highly recommend the LeVar Burton Reads podcast for a number of reasons!
The format is simple: Burton reads one short speculative fiction story per episode (though sometimes will do longer stories spanning multiple episodes), and then he'll do a short segment on why he chose the story and how it impacted or challenged him. Speculative fiction is an umbrella term covering anything from fantasy to scifi to Afro Futurism and more, but some fantasy variant probably makes up the bulk of stories he reads.
Burton is an excellent narrator; his love of all things books absolutely comes through on this podcast. I truly appreciate his team's intentional choice to highlight diverse authors and subjects as it has exposed me to a lot of excellent authors I would otherwise have missed.
I've used this as a bounding point to find additional works from authors whose stories I connect with (example: Adrian Tchaikovsky has become one of my favorite scifi/fantasy authors because of the "Low Energy Economy" episode of the podcast).