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  1. Comment on Tickling in ~misc

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    Cool! I do this with my kids. I think it's about teaching them to state clearly what they want and while it may seem small or silly to others, I think these foundations are important to create...

    Cool! I do this with my kids. I think it's about teaching them to state clearly what they want and while it may seem small or silly to others, I think these foundations are important to create autonomous self-actualized adults. After all, you do have to start somewhere.

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  2. Comment on What are you doing this weekend? in ~talk

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    Off to a 1850's style brewery and restaurant with a close friend for dinner and from there to a speakeasy whiskey bar. Getting a new bed delivered tomorrow and I plan to recover in that. Hopefully...

    Off to a 1850's style brewery and restaurant with a close friend for dinner and from there to a speakeasy whiskey bar. Getting a new bed delivered tomorrow and I plan to recover in that. Hopefully Sunday will be good weather and I can get some work done in the yard.

    I need to do some planning for my side hustle as well but that's been falling be the wayside lately, which is silly because it may provide the biggest financial pay off of any other activity.

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  3. Comment on What do you think about the problem of unreachability of decision makers? in ~talk

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    I get the sentiment. I think the only thing that I can say here that may resonate with you is that the good intentions and the profit motive don't have to be exclusionary. There are companies that...

    I get the sentiment. I think the only thing that I can say here that may resonate with you is that the good intentions and the profit motive don't have to be exclusionary. There are companies that strive to do both things and do them well: Ben & Jerry's, CostCo, Saturn (too bad that one's gone), etc. Those are companies that strive to make great products while also treating their employees well. They're not as common as we might like, but they exist.

    Also consider the charity that companies provide. A cynic will say "yeah but that's just for good PR" and they may be largely right, but those dollars are still real, and are still going to fund real change for individuals.

  4. Comment on What Would Happen If We Just Gave People Money? in ~life

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    Maybe I should have sent a PM. I've seen you comment several times now and you don't case things, so I'm just curious why.

    Maybe I should have sent a PM. I've seen you comment several times now and you don't case things, so I'm just curious why.

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  5. Comment on What Would Happen If We Just Gave People Money? in ~life

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    How come you don't capitalize anything?

    How come you don't capitalize anything?

  6. Comment on What do you think about the problem of unreachability of decision makers? in ~talk

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    The profit motive can be used to this end through creative legislation and is my preference for how we should proceed generally. I'm not sure I understand why it would. To make money is literally...

    No, they might not owe us anything but maybe if we as human beings develop a society were it's encouraged to act for the greater good this might not be the case and might even pay off in the end.

    The profit motive can be used to this end through creative legislation and is my preference for how we should proceed generally.

    Of course they shouldn't listen to every little angry customer but the fact that the mighty dollar is always a valid excuse for companies no matter what the issue is infuriates me.

    I'm not sure I understand why it would. To make money is literally the reason most companies (but not all) exist. And it's not really an excuse, we're just trying to help you understand corporate motivations. Did you know that most public companies are legally mandated to make decisions in the best interest of their shareholders? If a CEO starts making decisions for other reason then they can be sued (and rightfully so). We wouldn't want the companies that comprise our 401Ks to suddenly start giving away the farm.

  7. Comment on Where do you work and how did you get there? in ~life

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    I am a Software Engineer who does ETL work (think data). I have been at the same company for 10 years and started as an entry-level technical support call taker. I stuck with the company, survived...

    I am a Software Engineer who does ETL work (think data). I have been at the same company for 10 years and started as an entry-level technical support call taker. I stuck with the company, survived +8 layoffs, and it's paid off as I've more than doubled my initial salary (close to triple now!). It's one of the better employer's in the area. I could probably make more if I job hopped or if I moved to a bigger city, but I'm very happy here. Low cost of living and good schools for my kids.

    Know that most everyone (except for the truly extroverted) are shy to some degree. I felt like puking every time the phone rang when I was in tech support for the first couple weeks. I sat in my car every morning questioning if I should just quit. It took awhile but I got used to it. For awhile I pretend I was on a radio show and each tech support call was my "next caller."

    Before that I delivered pizzas, this was pre-GPS, and I messed up every order I tried to deliver by getting lost. I was so nervous just thinking about having to talk to someone! I was a wreck! My boss at the time let me know that if I didn't turn it around I was going to lose my job. Strangely enough, that actually helped me because I was MORE nervous about that. It worked! I ended staying at that job for 4 years.

    Growth as a human is about putting yourself in situations you are not comfortable with and doing your best. It's great that you're thinking about looking outside your comfort zone, but please don't pat yourself on the back until you actually make a change because too often people stop at the "thinking about it" step. I know that from experience.

    Some ideas:

    • Some grocery stores are unionized and offer good benefits. If yours is like that then perhaps it's a good place to stay and you can talk to someone about starting as a cashier. Put yourself out there and offer to come in and train for free just to get experience talking to people.
    • Go volunteer somewhere to get more f2f experience
    • Take that retail sales job. Who cares if you like it or not? Do you plan on working retail for 30 years? Most likely not. So what's the big deal with working a job you don't love for a couple months or a year? Most people don't love their jobs.

    Know that you typically judge yourself more harshly than any one else. Here's a thought exercise: Next time you're around a bunch of people and feel anxious...pretend for a moment that the person you're interacting with is JUST as anxious as you. Look for sweat on their brow. A shaky hand. Reluctance to make eye contact. Pay attention to their body. They may be just as anxious as you, or not at all, who knows? who cares? But you'll be too busy trying to tell from their body language if they're nervous or not, to think quite a much as you normally do about how nervous you are. Try it. Trust me.

    Oh and one other thing that helps with nervousness: If you have to go to an interview or something like that, go into the bathroom or somewhere private before your meeting and puff up your chest and stretch your arms out - like all the way out. Do that several times. It'll help relax you and make you appear more confident. It's not a magic bullet, but it helps.

    Good luck. Make brave choices.

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  8. Comment on What do you think about the problem of unreachability of decision makers? in ~talk

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    I was going to make some snarky comment about how the currency we use to pay for Google's products is our data, and so that makes us a customer. But I think ultimately you're right - Goole makes...

    I was going to make some snarky comment about how the currency we use to pay for Google's products is our data, and so that makes us a customer. But I think ultimately you're right - Goole makes tools to entice users to give them their data. We're the product, not the consumer.

    I think I can see the overall point that OP is trying to make. But I think the examples aren't very good. You hit the thing about Inbox on the head there.

    OP's other idea that businesses somehow owe it to everyone to collect their feedback on their ads and act on them is pretty incredible. Businesses work hard to insulate themselves from random sources of feedback and an enterprise is going to have a hard time doing anything when every customer can go back to the specific employee at the company to complain at them. All companies want to push that feedback into monitored channels so they can categorize it, look for trends, and ultimately act on what makes sense to them.

    I'm curious how OP thinks the world would look if everyone could reach the decision maker. I mean I can just see the person at Tumblr who got rid of NSFW content fielding calls every hour of everyday from a bunch of degenerates. Makes me chuckle.

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  9. Comment on What do you think about the problem of unreachability of decision makers? in ~talk

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    The problem with such speak is it's not widely appreciated among customers, thus affects profitability. :)

    The problem with such speak is it's not widely appreciated among customers, thus affects profitability. :)

    1 vote
  10. Comment on Robert Mueller’s “collusion” case so far, explained in ~news

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    This article concisely explains three major connections between the Trump organizations and the Russian government. For a even MORE concise explanation, see this other Vox article here

    This article concisely explains three major connections between the Trump organizations and the Russian government. For a even MORE concise explanation, see this other Vox article here

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  11. Comment on What's your opinion on Accelerationism? in ~talk

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    FYI @Vakeih's comment is one up from mine.

    FYI @Vakeih's comment is one up from mine.

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  12. Comment on What's your opinion on Accelerationism? in ~talk

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    Perhaps @Eva can give us a quick explanation so we know what we're discussing?

    Perhaps @Eva can give us a quick explanation so we know what we're discussing?

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  13. Comment on Her son died. And then anti-vaxers attacked her in ~life

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    Excellent clarification. I'll work harder to do this moving forward. Thanks!

    Excellent clarification. I'll work harder to do this moving forward. Thanks!

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  14. Comment on Her son died. And then anti-vaxers attacked her in ~life

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    The super long title should have been a tip off I think.

    The super long title should have been a tip off I think.

    2 votes
  15. Comment on I regret not seeing Solo in theaters in ~movies

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    I saw it in theaters like I've seen every other Star Wars movie since Phantom. I thought it was very good and the theater experience only enhanced it. I also re-watched in on Netflix recently and...

    I saw it in theaters like I've seen every other Star Wars movie since Phantom. I thought it was very good and the theater experience only enhanced it. I also re-watched in on Netflix recently and it was enjoyable a second time. Disney shot this movie in the foot by putting it out mid-summer. They should have kept it as a Christmas release.

    My favorites from the post-Disney era are: TFA, Rogue, Solo, Last Jedi.

    I didn't mind the nostalgia trip that was TFA - that was exactly what I wanted. For the Last Jedi, I was put off by several plot holes but I keep reminding myself that SW is a fantasy story set in space, not science fiction. Ultimately, I'm going to wait until the next episode comes out before condemning Last Jedi, but so far it's the weakest of the new ones.

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  16. Comment on I regret not seeing Solo in theaters in ~movies

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    Sounds like a great way to get more people to watch the cartoon tie-in

    Now, apparently this would have been an incredibly satisfying twist if I had been watching "Clone Wars", but you really, really can't make movies with the presumption that everybody's seen the cartoon tie-in!

    Sounds like a great way to get more people to watch the cartoon tie-in

    1 vote
  17. Comment on Her son died. And then anti-vaxers attacked her in ~life

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    Thanks! I'll avoid that outlet moving forward.

    Thanks! I'll avoid that outlet moving forward.

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  18. Comment on Her son died. And then anti-vaxers attacked her in ~life

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    I had to shorten the very long title to fit Tildes character limit. Here is the full title: 'Pharma w**re!' Anti-vaxxers launch cruel Facebook attacks on mothers of children who have died of the...

    I had to shorten the very long title to fit Tildes character limit. Here is the full title:

    'Pharma w**re!' Anti-vaxxers launch cruel Facebook attacks on mothers of children who have died of the flu and say they are being paid to share their stories by the pharmaceutical industry to advocate getting shots

    2 votes