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Comment on Nobody has a personality anymore. We are products with labels. in ~health.mental
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Comment on Nobody has a personality anymore. We are products with labels. in ~health.mental
TallUntidyGothGF (edited )LinkI don’t think the argument is very good. I have a friend who is late a lot, and our friend group loves and gently teases him about it - he also has adhd, and the lateness is v likely contributed...I don’t think the argument is very good. I have a friend who is late a lot, and our friend group loves and gently teases him about it - he also has adhd, and the lateness is v likely contributed to by it. Understanding it that way and working on it medically is helpful for him.
The point is, systematisation etc is a lens of understanding that is useful in certain contexts… and it’s obviously not mutually exclusive with other ways of perceiving and interacting with each other. Also, these disorders are serious, sometimes - there’s nothing fun and loveable and poetic about my losing jobs or relationships on account of adhd (edit: okay, there is probably something poetic about it). Anyway, I’m sure there is a trend of overfocusing this stuff on social media and I’m sure it’s annoying but this seems to be a bit far in the direction of discounting any kind of organised understanding of personality, as if that somehow erodes our humanity
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Comment on What are some good vegan substitutes for cheese? in ~food
TallUntidyGothGF LinkNutritional yeast gives some of the savoury flavour. You can make a good ricotta by blending together soaked cashews, tofu, and lemon juice, and salt. Works great as an lasagne layer. Otherwise...Nutritional yeast gives some of the savoury flavour. You can make a good ricotta by blending together soaked cashews, tofu, and lemon juice, and salt. Works great as an lasagne layer. Otherwise they’re… not great, imo. I still eat cheese. It’s an area vegan subs are really lagging ( I like oat milk more than moomoo milk). Also on cheese: There’s a brand in the UK called applewood which has a smoked flavour and isn’t toooo bad.
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Comment on What in your opinion is the greatest guitar solo? in ~music
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parentthe dark star lingers! i've been trying to work out an acoustic guitar arrangement of unbroken chain the last few weeks, so they have been on my mind... i agree though, i'm also surprised that...the dark star lingers! i've been trying to work out an acoustic guitar arrangement of unbroken chain the last few weeks, so they have been on my mind... i agree though, i'm also surprised that despite GD's evident popularity, they don't tend to make discussions like this. i suppose it's that the best 'solos' are on live versions which are v. voluminous and have other barriers to entry... do you have some fave heady v.s to share? :)
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Comment on Cyberpunk 2077 sequel Cyberpunk 2 enters pre-production in ~games
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parentalso the weird vehicle turning (i don't know what's up with it exactly but it just feels wrong, like it's turning from the wrong axis or something?) amongst other general world jankiness. i still...also the weird vehicle turning (i don't know what's up with it exactly but it just feels wrong, like it's turning from the wrong axis or something?) amongst other general world jankiness. i still go on gta5 sometimes to just randomly drive around and i wish cyberpunk had the smoothness to make that fun, bc the world is so cool!
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Comment on What in your opinion is the greatest guitar solo? in ~music
TallUntidyGothGF Linki don't seem to be very pre-occupied with guitar solos specifically like i was when i was younger ... however, one that springs to mind is the cover of cortez the killer by Built to Spill on their...i don't seem to be very pre-occupied with guitar solos specifically like i was when i was younger ... however, one that springs to mind is the cover of cortez the killer by Built to Spill on their live album. also i guess various grateful dead performances. if i had to pick one, playing in the band from Veneta 19720827, there's something really transcendental about it. wow! others here have mentioned Dire Straits, my favourite solo is probably on Telegraph Road, though the song is more of a slow burn, it really adds to the feeling of it.
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Comment on Looking for books about history or biographies or memoirs that you enjoyed reading or were happy to have read in ~books
TallUntidyGothGF LinkThe Invention of Nature by Andrea Wulf is a biography of the scientist and naturalist Alexander von Humboldt but also a reflection on development of the Western understanding of the...The Invention of Nature by Andrea Wulf is a biography of the scientist and naturalist Alexander von Humboldt but also a reflection on development of the Western understanding of the interconnectedness of nature. I enjoyed reading it, found it worthwhile and engaging.
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Comment on Every tech YouTuber is talking about the Samsung Galaxy S25 Edge now, so here’s a TLDR in ~tech
TallUntidyGothGF Linkmy first thoughts looking at it are 'oh so they finally made an android that looks as good as an iphone.' i don't know that a phone being particularly thin is going to make many people buy new...my first thoughts looking at it are 'oh so they finally made an android that looks as good as an iphone.'
i don't know that a phone being particularly thin is going to make many people buy new ones (except rich folks, which others pointed out). i guess it is also an indirect indicator that perhaps phones differentiating themselves by their 'ai' features isn't working very well.
from my own perspective i'm trying to use my phone as little as possible, to the point i'd probably be seeking a less capable phone when i finally 'upgrade'. though i'm aware i'm an outlier.
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Comment on What fashion trend will you refuse to let die? in ~life.style
TallUntidyGothGF Linkslim fit in general. oversize is very in right now, but it just doesn't work for me. however the trend means that my partner (short petite) and i (tall slim) can finally share clothes, since...slim fit in general. oversize is very in right now, but it just doesn't work for me. however the trend means that my partner (short petite) and i (tall slim) can finally share clothes, since oversize for her is often normal for me!
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Comment on I don’t want to be famous on the Internet anymore in ~tech
TallUntidyGothGF Linkthank you for the thoughtful post. i think the cult of celebrity and fame is quite bad for society, for many of the reasons you point out. what i wanted to add to it, though, is that for me, the...thank you for the thoughtful post. i think the cult of celebrity and fame is quite bad for society, for many of the reasons you point out. what i wanted to add to it, though, is that for me, the worst thing about it all is that it makes it unsafe and undesirable to do that which is very human, and is one of the best things about being human: to create and to share yourself with others. like so many things in our society, it seems to be a corruption of a relatively pure human drive that i suppose springs from a mix of capitalism and how we are simply not built to handle interacting with such a large and complex society.
in my experience, i do not wish to be famous at all, i am afraid of it, even. yet i do have a strong internal drive to make art in various forms, and to share it with others. i did not do this for so long because i do not want fame or any of the negative effects of attention. but i guess i do want... to make an impression, to get feedback sometimes, to collaborate, to communicate things, to participate in community with others artists - and these all require sharing. i have started to share in recent years, and i suppose the trick was to do it in ways that are comfortable, playing music locally, writing pseudonymously online and in local zines or print publications, talking with folks on platforms like Tildes, not relying on art for income... that kind of thing.
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Comment on Wanted to share a song my friend and I put together in ~creative
TallUntidyGothGF Linksounds cool. vocals sound latter day modest mouse. also love the band name (assuming) reference to silver jews.sounds cool. vocals sound latter day modest mouse. also love the band name (assuming) reference to silver jews.
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Comment on Non-American, English language news sources in ~news
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parentthe BBC is the british state media. they have a charter that indicates they must be impartial. in practice, however, this is not the case. they engage heavily in selective reporting to quietly...the BBC is the british state media. they have a charter that indicates they must be impartial. in practice, however, this is not the case. they engage heavily in selective reporting to quietly enact editorial lines. they are also frequently forced to withhold information by legal injunctions in the uk, which they are not even allowed to acknowledge (though this isn't a specific criticism of the bbc, all news outlets in the uk are bound by this). soft pressure on editorial decisions is also exerted by the government, either directly or via political partisans installed in leadership positions. yet softer, the majority of people in high places did the same PPE etc courses at oxbridge as those in government, and this consists the infamous old boys club.
on specialist issues particularly, their journalists tend to have a very poor understanding and repeat untruths and misconceptions. i have observed this on topics i am an expert in, and therefore don't trust them on anything else specialist. i would say that this problem is common across journalism, though. what makes it especially damaging is the perception of the bbc as a source that can be trusted.
in addition, i also think that their enactment of 'unbiased' reporting repeatedly transforms what are essentially 'public education' or 'news' problems into perpetuation of fringe, extremist, and untrue beliefs on important topics, causing them to enter the mainstream, legitimised by a supposedly unbiased source. this happens again and again, the premium case being brexit, of course.
the above issues are relatively well documented, but people disagree a lot about the extent of the capture and its effects. it is my opinion that these failures cause them to bear a large degree of responsibility for the rapid decline of the uk in the past ten years or so. on the other hand, they are not that bad compared to most other british media outlets. much of the problem comes from the perception that they are fair and unbiased and the relatively quiet way they editorialise. my opinion would be considered quite extreme across the british public.
my recommendation re the guardian is primarily informed by trans stuff. i am personally not willing to forgive or look past that. otherwise, my (very much) opinion from their writing is that, the paper panders to people who are ultimately conservative, but want to feel better about it, don't want the status quo to change at all, don't want to have to take a stand against any of the evil going on, but want to be seen as caring about it. the writing often bends backwards to support this kind of thinking, where disagreements with conservative understandings of that which occurs are often aesthetic rather than substantial. this is, for me, incredibly frustrating to experience. and this wouldn't be /quite/ such a big problem other than, in a parallel to the bbc situation, its perception as the leftie newspaper frequently leads to uncritical introduction of very stupid and evil opinions, which are thereby legitimised mainstream as common sense agreement 'across the aisle'
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Comment on Music makers: what's the best way to create song drafts? in ~music
TallUntidyGothGF Linki write lyrics and chord sheets in logseq, and if needed i use flat for transcription if needed (it's superb for guitar because you can convert between staff and tab very easily/show them at once,...i write lyrics and chord sheets in logseq, and if needed i use flat for transcription if needed (it's superb for guitar because you can convert between staff and tab very easily/show them at once, and easily play around with how to voice it on the fretboard, or otherwise working things out for multiple instruments). then for demo-ing: grouptheloop (looper with song structure, also has some built in drum stuff) and garageband all on my ipad via a umc204hd so i don't have to mess around with JACK [screaming emoticon]
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Comment on Non-American, English language news sources in ~news
TallUntidyGothGF (edited )Linkin addition to ft.com i commented on elsewhere on this thread, https://novaramedia.com/ is good and have podcasts/videos. they would be labelled by others as having a 'left bias'. i recommend not...in addition to ft.com i commented on elsewhere on this thread, https://novaramedia.com/ is good and have podcasts/videos. they would be labelled by others as having a 'left bias'. i recommend not reading or supporting the guardian (uk) in any way (and they suck on more than just trans issues). i would also not trust the bbc for basically anything other than what the british government thinks.
also it is american but i am so impressed by the baffler that i order it in paper form - it has a relatively global focus. i feel like i learn more about what is going on in the world from that than anything else i read, probably.
OH and also, https://theconversation.com/uk , news written by experts in the relevant fields, is a must.
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Comment on Non-American, English language news sources in ~news
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parenti would also add to this that they tend to mostly ignore culture war stuff or at least rage bait takes on it, so i tend to use it as a relatively 'safe-to-read'.i would also add to this that they tend to mostly ignore culture war stuff or at least rage bait takes on it, so i tend to use it as a relatively 'safe-to-read'.
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Comment on What's your favorite music album to get high to? in ~music
TallUntidyGothGF Linkobligatory it's been a while but check this out https://album.link/gb/i/1440179194obligatory it's been a while but check this out https://album.link/gb/i/1440179194
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Comment on How do you navigate an imbalanced friendship? in ~life
TallUntidyGothGF (edited )Linkthe other commenters have made really good points. i would also like to suggest, and this may totally not track for you, so feel free to dismiss if it does not: wondering whether it's really true...the other commenters have made really good points. i would also like to suggest, and this may totally not track for you, so feel free to dismiss if it does not: wondering whether it's really true that you don't like talking to people and that you don't want that kind of close communication with friends. your actions and feelings in this situation may say otherwise. that perhaps you want it, but that it's hard to make connections and build trust with people to connect and continue to connect in those ways, for you.
i had a similar experience, would always say and think i was a very private person who just didn't want to have that kind of relationship with friends. but then when i did occasionally connect with someone like that, it was almost like a high, which then comes with its own problems, for you and the other person, both because you are leaning on them almost entirely for that kind of connection, and because you are inexperienced with it.
ultimately, my attitude towards it turned out to be the self-protecting lie ( "i don't have friends i connect with in that way, so i don't want them") i told myself because a combination of depression, anxiety, and untreated other mh conditions made it very difficult for me to form and maintain close relationships (specifically, also made online and asynchronous conversation difficult as well as general kind of 'bonding').
working on all that made it much easier to form, diversify, and keep those relationships, and then i didn't have to lean so heavily on the few people who, before, managed to break through my brain slime.
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Comment on The Tiny Soapbox: a platform for small, low-stakes rants in ~talk
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parentyes indeed, i was also thinking of how i most often use temperature: determining whether or not there will be a frost tonight, and i should therefore take action so my vegetables don't die. 0, -1,...yes indeed, i was also thinking of how i most often use temperature: determining whether or not there will be a frost tonight, and i should therefore take action so my vegetables don't die. 0, -1, and -2 almost act like a defcon in that context :D
the argument seems to be whether or not 0 or some other number is a more useful 'centre,' rather than whether freezing point is a useful centre. intuitively i want to say it's obviously better to have 0, but i have to admit it does seem like you'd just remember it whatever it is when you learn it and how people around you use it - it does feel like the 'stepping' of whole values of C is more sensible around zero, but maybe that's mostly familiarity too.
i guess also in addition to the science discussion above, in my work we generally convert temps to kelvin anyway because various statistical measures break/give misleading results where values sit both above and below 0.
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Comment on The Tiny Soapbox: a platform for small, low-stakes rants in ~talk
TallUntidyGothGF Link Parentthe people i really don't get are the ones who pick up the dog poop and put it in a bag and then tie the bag to a tree. like, you did the gross part already??? just put it in the bin!the people i really don't get are the ones who pick up the dog poop and put it in a bag and then tie the bag to a tree. like, you did the gross part already??? just put it in the bin!
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Comment on The Tiny Soapbox: a platform for small, low-stakes rants in ~talk
TallUntidyGothGF Linkwho keeps smashing glass on the cycle path? please stop it, i beg you!who keeps smashing glass on the cycle path? please stop it, i beg you!
i don't really read ill intent in posting the article here personally. i guess i'm usually interested in seeing things i disagree with. but i definitely agree that it ends up coming across quite dismissive. what i suspect is that the blog is about the ills of social media, and the post is inspired by a particular sub-genre of content that they view as part of the 'social media complex'. in particular, over-reliance on labels and self-stratification, over-focus on identifying with disorders, etc. i think i can empathise with that and could probably agree to some version of it. but as we've discussed it's quite a clumsy over-generalisation that ends up being quite dismissive and overall isn't a strong argument, etc.
unfortunately for them, i think getting upset about and railing against this kind of social media content is probably an indication that they are caught in the social media trap themselves, spending their time ingesting the instagram content of people whose behaviour they find annoying and objectionable... the answer, i think, is to opt out. how else can't they see that having, acknowledging, and understanding you may have a disorder isn't dehumanising, or exclusive with other ways of interpreting your experience?
i also don't enjoy the anti self-diagnosis trend - i was 'self-diagnosed' for a long time before i was officially diagnosed. it seems like a natural first step, especially in the context of a healthcare system where you really need to know and advocate for yourself to even get a diagnosis (and even more so as an adult). plus there are plenty of reasons that people can't/won't get a real diagnosis.