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  1. Comment on Fallout's Timothy Cain talks about encumbrance in games in ~games

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    Strong opinion: Encumbrance should be a toggle in the options menu in most games, ESPECIALLY gigantic RPG's with hundreds/thousands of items. I am an adult nowadays with many other hobbies and...

    Strong opinion: Encumbrance should be a toggle in the options menu in most games, ESPECIALLY gigantic RPG's with hundreds/thousands of items.

    I am an adult nowadays with many other hobbies and time sinks. If you're a game dev and you want me to actually play your game to the end, you either better NAIL the inventory system for your particular game if you want me to play it with encumbrance, or allow me the ability to turn it off. Whether that be in the options or with mods, I'm fine with either. I probably have ADHD (haven't been diagnosed), and if I have to specifically sort through every item on every single body/chest I loot in a 30+ hour game because I'm near my weight limit, I'm going to stop playing. It's not a question, it's a guarantee.

    Examples of really long games I have actually finished:

    • All of the Divinity's since Original Sin
    • Elden Ring
    • Cyberpunk 2077 (with a mod that disables encumbrance)

    One common thread between all of these is the lack of encumbrance to worry about. I can absolutely guarantee I would not have finished these games if encumbrance had been forced upon me. I am playing the game to enjoy the gameplay and story, not to spend literally 20 hours of actual life sorting an inventory system. I could go organize some area in my house if I wanted that experience.

    Another very strong opinion: EVERY game from now on that has a large inventory system should have a search bar that I can just type part of the item name in and filter my inventory for it. Cyberpunk (and CDPR games in general) have this problem where the thumbnails they use for items are just BAD. Like, it's hard to find items in all of their games because the thumbnails can blend together so much. Honestly, it's shocking that CDPR has such a bad inventory system in Cyberpunk after all of these years making big RPG's, they need to get their shit together in that regard.

    Okay, on the topic of inventory systems, here's another strong opinion: Any game with an inventory system on PC should also design it in such a way that I can move around the inventory system with the WASD/movement keys. My hand gets tired in RPG's from so much mousing around icon lists. Example: My usual key bind to open inventory is Tab. So I should be able to hit Tab and then just start using my WASD keys to move around to whatever inventory items I want. Either E or F is used to open the info/options menu for the item. Then the other of those two keys is the "Use" or "Equip/Unequip" buttons. If your inventory system has multiple tabs, then the 1 and 3 keys work well to move between tabs. There should also be a hotkey that selects the inventory search bar I mentioned above so that I can start typing in that box if I want to filter. Then, the same hotkey takes me back to the inventory moving around it with WASD (tilde would work well as this hotkey, or Shift+S.) Cyberpunk actually does a pretty good job of this system, except they don't have a search bar and their inventory filters don't actually do what you want a lot of the time.

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  2. Comment on American election mental health thread in ~health.mental

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    As a white hetero male, I am just...so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I'm just so sorry for what "my people" are doing, and for how much progress is likely to be lost. And for the fear and...

    As a white hetero male, I am just...so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I'm just so sorry for what "my people" are doing, and for how much progress is likely to be lost. And for the fear and uncertainty that minorities and women are now experiencing.

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  3. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Jesus Christ. Gutwrenching. So many parallels in that story, it hurt deeply. (Thank you for thinking of me and sharing, though, I appreciate it.) It's somewhat ironic that I'm reading it right...

    Jesus Christ. Gutwrenching. So many parallels in that story, it hurt deeply. (Thank you for thinking of me and sharing, though, I appreciate it.)

    It's somewhat ironic that I'm reading it right now, as tomorrow is that particular brother's 40th birthday. I have no plans to take him out for drinks, though, because we can't seem to connect anymore without videogames or a concert to take our minds off the world. Because we pursue such different things in person, nowadays. He spends a percentage of his time "prepping" for doomsday bullshit because he thinks the country is going to have another civil war. He goes to a job he hates and just, will not leave it, even though it's taking a toll on his body after nearly 20 years. He "avoids" politics but has horrible views towards non-hetero non-white non-male people, and it shows in conversations. Probably aided by all the shit he reads on 4chan. Whereas I want to talk about stuff like new science topics, or new tech developments, without going down the road about how the corporations or government are trying to use them to control us. Or maybe talk about self-improvement and current struggles, without for instance blaming loneliness on women. Or politics and the awful shit Trump has done recently or that my state is trying to prohibit ranked choice voting on the ballot amendment. Or new music, which I haven't found much of recently.

    It's exhausting. So, we'll probably just play some games tomorrow, and he'll again be alone at the end of it. And I'll be stuck with the same anxiety and internals being at odds with each other as the author mentioned. Rinse, wash, repeat.

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  4. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    I'm glad you found a way to have a good time with your dad! It's nice to hear about people making progress, even little bits. To answer your question, yes I can do that with my dad pretty easily....

    I'm glad you found a way to have a good time with your dad! It's nice to hear about people making progress, even little bits.

    To answer your question, yes I can do that with my dad pretty easily. He's very logical and so it's pretty easy to have intellectual/fun discussions with him. The problem is my mom. This shit has become her identity. Almost every topic leads back to some craziness, somehow. She has Newsmax on almost literally all day long every day. I can't get her to, like, go take a class or something. She's wanted to learn 3D modeling (for 3D printing purposes) but she lacks a lot of basic math principles that are needed for it. And, if I'm being honest, she also lacks critical thinking skills in terms of troubleshooting why prints are failing. I've tried to get her to take a community college intro math class and then an algebra class, because it really would help her in a lot of her hobbies, but I can't get her to do it. And I don't have the time nor the desire to teach these topics to her. I can't get her to join a Makerspace either, etc. Can't get the two of them to travel somewhere.

    And anyway, the fact that my dad doesn't do anything to try and get my mom out of this echo chamber she's fallen into makes me resentful. He doesn't even really think it's a big deal. It's such a disservice to his wife to let that happen, in addition to all the other disservices he's done by being indifferent to her over the years. And in recent years, it's become harder for me to look past that. She is so lonely and in such a sad, willfully ignorant state, that it's hard for me to bear to be around. It's not doing good things for her health, either. I feel so sorry for her.

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  5. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    That's what makes this so hard. Yes, in a large part, I think my family are mostly good people with some kind of set of morals. They used to be much better, I would say. But since Trump happened I...

    That's what makes this so hard. Yes, in a large part, I think my family are mostly good people with some kind of set of morals. They used to be much better, I would say. But since Trump happened I think they've either become worse people, or their true colors are showing more clearly. I actually think it's a little bit of both - I think they used to be a little bit better, but the world has changed so much they have adopted or entrenched in these worse views so they can protect themselves. Without these views, they have to admit they're at least somewhat racist and that they're wrong on abortion and gay rights, and especially that science doesn't support them on most topics. They have to admit they're wrong, and that's painful.

    Regarding the question of my brother and interracial dating: He is a coward. He would never admit that shit to someone's face who is dating a black woman. If I started dating a black woman, I would bet money that he wouldn't say shit about it, and would then try to spin the story if I brought it up. And to be clear, if I started dating someone of color, I wouldn't hesitate to throw my relationship with him in the bin if he couldn't renounce those past statements. It's a clear and done deal to me, in that instance.

    And I agree with your idea that my brother's views/statements on this topic come from a place of fear. He has never been successful with women throughout his life, neither through friendship nor through dating, and I think that is what has led him to take these views on. It's a way of explaining what he has experienced in the world without having to experience the full weight of the pain that comes with admitting reality that he is the problem.

    And this is where my empathy stems from. I understand that fear and pain, as I would say I used to have misogynistic tendencies when I was young and also homophobic. But at the end of the day, my brother always seems to choose the cowardly route. He's worked at a job he hates (FedEx) for almost 20 years now, and has wanted to quit it for more than 10, but I just can't get him to do it. He's afraid to jump out into the vast unknown ocean that is restarting your career. Hell, I can't even get him to change to another job in the same field. I have even successfully done that exact thing by going back to school for a career change, but I can't even get him to take the first step. It becomes exhausting because I want to see people progress. Also, thank you for the book recommendation!

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  6. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Sorry for not responding earlier, the amount of responses and feedback in here has been a little overwhelming, honestly, and this topic is exhausting for me personally. I am sorry you had to go...

    Sorry for not responding earlier, the amount of responses and feedback in here has been a little overwhelming, honestly, and this topic is exhausting for me personally. I am sorry you had to go through that, though. That's heavy as hell, but I applaud you for having the courage to confront such a hateful part of your family and reject it. I'm not sure I'd have been as strong in that situation.

    Regarding your questions:

      1. I'm...not really sure? Since 2020 I'd say it's been a negative I guess. But prior to that, I still enjoyed going to see my parents occasionally, and as I wrote in another post, they have helped me in other ways in life that have been crucial for my success thus far. Internally, I don't know how to "quantify" the relationship.
      1. I think mostly I would say they have. They have never pushed me to do or say things I don't want to. I can always shut my mom down when politics comes up and it gets too far away from reality, and she respects that for the most part. But the problem is that at that point there's...not much else to talk about with her. It has almost literally become her identity, now, because she has neglected so many other parts of her life over the years (friends, health, travel, etc). And then, her views are for things that directly harm people in many ways, and are also not based in reality. It causes cognitive dissonance within myself, wondering if I am supporting those things by staying connected and allowing her an arena to voice them in.

    But also, my family has never been very close. Emotionally, I wouldn't really say my needs have been met by them for the majority of my life. And I don't blame them for that - they never learned how to handle their own emotions and they were very mislead by society in that regard. I am still trying to learn how to handle my own even now.

    Anyway, I think this response I've just written seems like pretty good evidence I need to talk with a therapist about this and other stuff in general. It's just that it's so fucking expensive I'm avoiding it. I can afford it, I'm just avoiding it.

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  7. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    This is great and very in line with what I was looking for, thank you for this! Given how the MAGA movement has progressed, I'm not surprised emotional inputs are stronger than previously...

    This is great and very in line with what I was looking for, thank you for this! Given how the MAGA movement has progressed, I'm not surprised emotional inputs are stronger than previously expected. Although, I have to wonder, why was the field so wrong to begin with? Obviously I haven't read the above recommendations yet, but it seems as though these same factors should have been present also in extreme religious groups over the years? Or in the Nazi movement? It must be insanely hard to actually study this topic in terms of getting true isolated and independent variables, so that might be why.

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  8. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Not exactly sure if I'm reading correctly, but it sounds like it kind of helped jumpstart some change for the better for you. If that is the case, I'm glad for you. On the topic of your daughter...

    Not exactly sure if I'm reading correctly, but it sounds like it kind of helped jumpstart some change for the better for you. If that is the case, I'm glad for you.

    On the topic of your daughter asking about church, I think I might be able to offer some anecdotal feedback on that. My dad also did not go to church when I was a kid except on Christmas and Easter. All of us kids asked the same question, and my mom still forced us to go. All three of us kids got a job ASAP when we turned 16 so we could avoid going to church on Saturdays (and also buy stuff lol.)

    My dad never gave solid responses as to the "why?" question. He kind of just shrugged it off, as he did with multiple other important issues throughout life to detrimental effect. In reality, he's always been what I call a "fake Christian" or an indoctrinated one. He doesn't really believe the bullshit they peddle. He just stays in it cause he was raised in it, and it's the path of least resistance to stay in it. And he thinks he'll be safe getting into heaven just in case it's real and he can ask forgiveness in his last 5 years of life and bam, problem solved. But he could never admit any of that to me, especially not as a kid.

    If it were me in that situation now, I would simply say to be honest with your kids. My opinion on this extends to most other topics in life. Sex talk? Be honest, be open, let them know you're safe to talk to. Politics? Dating? Death? Drugs? Just be honest and genuine and open. They will thank you for it later in life. Kids can handle difficult, complex topics earlier in life than most think (in my opinion.) But obviously, you know your kid best and will be able to navigate their capacity to handle the topic. Just wanted to offer my two cents as I don't think my parents were honest enough with me as a kid, particularly about difficult topics.

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  9. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Wow, that's rough. I'm sorry you got such a response, you deserve much better. But yeah, my parents don't really have that kind of situation. I can easily have intellectual discussions with my...

    Wow, that's rough. I'm sorry you got such a response, you deserve much better.

    But yeah, my parents don't really have that kind of situation. I can easily have intellectual discussions with my dad. And my mom, while perhaps showing signs of some kind of cognitive decline by falling further into MAGA craziness each year, can also still have perfectly normal conversations about cooking or gardening. As I mentioned in another comment, it's almost like it would be easier to decide if they did have more prominent issues. Also, I appreciate your thoughtful responses in this topic.

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  10. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Thanks a lot for the reading recommendations! I'll be compiling a list from this thread.

    Thanks a lot for the reading recommendations! I'll be compiling a list from this thread.

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  11. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Thank you for the response, and honestly I identify pretty closely with what you said here and how you feel. I suppose another detail I might give about my situation is that I have an avoidant...

    Thank you for the response, and honestly I identify pretty closely with what you said here and how you feel. I suppose another detail I might give about my situation is that I have an avoidant attachment style, and in person I don't do great with emotions. So, similarly to you, I don't feel super close to my parents, either. And "I love you" doesn't really have a lot of weight to it anymore. Sometimes, it just feels like a formality being fulfilled. Additionally, I have shared topics of particularly vulnerable, somewhat traumatic, and quite awkward nature with them since I went to therapy a couple years ago, and they have never asked me about it since (and I made it very clear to them that they could ask me about these topics.) It's almost like they act like that conversation never happened. I really recommend therapy by the way in case you haven't gone to a therapist yet. But yeah, there's only so much a therapist can do, at the end of the day.

    One other detail I might add is that, due to the avoidant attachment style, I don't do great with emotional arguments either. This has led me over the years to get shorter and shorter with my mom when she tries to have these kinds of discussions. I'm just so tired of these topics with her and her circular logic. I don't want to try and convince her anymore, which definitely isn't the most helpful approach to trying to change someone's mind.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing. I don't really have advice either lol, but can say that I can empathize with your situation. It sucks, it feels like purgatory in a way to me. Also, you are worthy of love and affection of a stronger nature than what you get from your parents. One thing I definitely know is that I want more than what I get from them. And I agree, it's scary to admit that that probably means I'm never going to get that closeness back that I had in childhood, so I shouldn't chase it.

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  12. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Wow, I'm sorry to hear about your situation with your parents - it sounds similar to me and mine, particularly my mom. I hope you have healed from the regrets you mentioned - I don't think many...

    Wow, I'm sorry to hear about your situation with your parents - it sounds similar to me and mine, particularly my mom. I hope you have healed from the regrets you mentioned - I don't think many could have predicted that Fox News would eventually lead to something like what's happening today. The threat seemed so much less real before Trump.

    I appreciate you sharing the reading recommendations and really appreciate sharing your advice and how your spouse has approached it. That is definitely hard work, but it inspires some hope.

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  13. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Thank you for the recommendations! Fortunately, I don't have anyone but myself to worry about being harmed by what choice I do make regarding my family's relationship. Really appreciate the...

    Thank you for the recommendations! Fortunately, I don't have anyone but myself to worry about being harmed by what choice I do make regarding my family's relationship. Really appreciate the podcast recommendation. I applaud you being able to handle being a part of a church while Trump started happening. I'm sure that was not easy; that would have been very difficult for me.

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  14. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    I will add to the other responses my own anecdotal experience. I was basically homophobic from my upbringing. It wasn't until I befriended someone who was gay in my first high school job and I...

    I will add to the other responses my own anecdotal experience. I was basically homophobic from my upbringing. It wasn't until I befriended someone who was gay in my first high school job and I didn't initially know until they told me later in the friendship. At that point, it became increasingly cognitively dissonant for me to have homophobic ideals or say such things because of this friendship. This forced me to resort to reason to try and resolve this battle within myself at the time. That then led me to first start questioning my religion, because the Catholic church obviously doesn't support the LGBTQ community. Again, reason was what I resorted to over time, and that culminated after years in me giving up my faith entirely. It was a domino effect.

    But without that friend, I would not have questioned my homophobic nature, and I fear I would have become more entrenched in it over time. I think that's probably because it was painful for me to admit those things about myself. It was painful to realize that I had been hurting others with the things I was saying, and that those things were literally natural for me to say. Without that friendship, I would have chosen to avoid that pain rather than confronting myself.

    I will say that after having done multiple of these confrontations of myself over wrong views over the years, they do seem to get easier over time. For example, I struggle to understand or connect with the trans community (as in I struggle with the idea of wanting to change my gender or that my pronouns should be different.) However, I still support them and have really tried to remain open-minded and not harm their community like the right wing political groups do. And the idea of befriending someone who is trans one day does not scare me like befriending someone who is gay did back when I was young. I look forward to being able to better understand and connect with their community, should I be lucky enough for that to happen.

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  15. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    I'm putting this reply here to just say thank you to all of you who've responded, especially for the readings that were suggested to help on this topic. I really appreciate you all and your...

    I'm putting this reply here to just say thank you to all of you who've responded, especially for the readings that were suggested to help on this topic. I really appreciate you all and your different takes. I will also put here that I suppose the struggle of this situation is that of balance. I've noticed there's (mostly) a combination of takes suggesting to 1) just not talk about politics or 2) lean towards cutting off contact.

    The problem for me is, much like the real world, everything is much more grey area. In my post, I really only focused on the negatives of my situation, mostly to prevent the post from becoming unbelievably long and less understandable. In reality, my parents and brother have also done awesome things for me at times. My dad never said no to helping me fix something or my car when it broke down. My mom always tried to support me in her own way throughout my life, and I actually attribute her as the main reason I've grown up with a relatively strong set of morals. I've also seen my mom do really good things for other people. She also instilled me with a love of animals and a desire to protect them. My dad is the main reason my family is set up well financially and a good chunk of the reason I have a stable career.

    This leads me to struggle immensely with the idea of cutting them off or even drawing any hard lines. Like, these people simultaneously have likeable, valuable traits, but also support organizations and people that do heinous things (e.g. the church and Israel.) It's like, if they could just be a little better, or a little bit worse, it would make the decision soooo much easier to make on how to handle the relationship with them.

    But yet, another part of me feels that by continuing to go down the route of isolating only makes the problem worse. I also feel like many people doing this on a population scale can lead to such division as to lead to violence and war (when taken to the extreme.)

    I don't really know where I'm going with this. This has been kind of stream of consciousness and I'm just putting it out there. This topic is also exhausting to deal with internally.

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  16. Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental

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    Thank you. It helps a bit to know others have found a way in similar situations. If I may ask, did you ever "give up" during your situation? Like not going to see your family for extended periods...

    Thank you. It helps a bit to know others have found a way in similar situations. If I may ask, did you ever "give up" during your situation? Like not going to see your family for extended periods of time even though you easily could have?

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  17. Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family?

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    *TRIGGER WARNING: Racist and Anti-LGBTQ topics contained below with hurtful language * Hello all, TL;DR: I am wondering if there's any generally recommended resources, books, or general advice...

    *TRIGGER WARNING: Racist and Anti-LGBTQ topics contained below with hurtful language *

    Hello all,

    TL;DR: I am wondering if there's any generally recommended resources, books, or general advice (peer-reviewed research would be ideal) on dealing with racist, close-minded family after you have made the transition to more progressive worldviews? I don't really like my family these days because of their Trump support as well as their generally close-minded, reality-denying views. It's weighing on me, because I miss having some sort of good connection with them like I used to. Their health is starting to decline, but I've gotten to the point that I don't really like them that much, and I haven't been going to see them. These two parts of me are kind of at odds with each other, and I'm struggling to find a balance.

    Background & Context: I (33M) and I grew up in a rather conservative family (2 older brothers), to the point that a "light" level of racism was generally accepted and talked about in the family, and as an example, jokes using the N-word with the hard R were told by my dad and grandparents semi-regularly. I say "light" racism because we don't have a family history of racial violence or owning slaves (we're descendants of 1900's European immigrants, mostly.) I also think my family generally supported the Civil Rights Act back in the day. As a result, I grew up finding racist and gay jokes funny and frequently repeated them, and generally had a close-minded approach to the world before I went to college - but I never truly wished anyone any ill will. I got along well with my family, and while we were never super close, I at least talked to my family about stuff but we never really shared emotions or talked about depression with each other. None of us ever really learned how to deal with their emotions and talk about them. My family never traveled, either, so I never got out of my home state till I was in high school, and it was of my own volition. My parents are also conservative Christians, so they have generally anti-LGBTQ views. My mom calls LGBTQ people "abominations" per the bible, for example. It's disgusting.

    Once I got out into the real world working with people of other cultures and befriending them, my worldviews began to change. Especially once I went to college and started working in scientific research, wherein your critical thinking and objectivity are especially stressed, I started to pivot more and more to progressive views. Beyond that, the more I saw that data generally supported progressive views and policies, I started to disagree harder and harder with my parents on political topics. Additionally, I slowly lost my faith, and started to become more and more annoyed by my mother citing the bible as a reference for topics such as LGBTQ marriage rights. I now commonly refer to myself a recovering Catholic.

    And then Trump happened. Honestly, in his first run, I could understand why people voted for Trump. They were tired of traditional politics and feeling like it wasn't working for them, especially in midwest and blue collar areas, so they figured "fuck it, throw some chaos into the system." But after COVID and January 6th? I just can't fathom still having a SHRED of support for that disgusting shell of a man. And yet my parents do. My mom watches Newsmax, thinks COVID vaccines are deadly, and thinks the 2020 election was stolen. She thinks Biden was kidnapped and was being impersonated by the Deep State. I can't. I just can't with her. It's all she wants to talk about, and my dad won't say anything to her about how fucking crazy the shit she spouts is.

    I was also close to one of my brothers for many years, as we went to concerts and played games together mostly. We just "click" when it comes to gaming together, and it feels seamless and fun to play with him in a way that it doesn't with anyone else I've ever played with. But then, politics comes up. My brother would probably be aptly described as an incel, in that he reads 4chan still, and also has some batshit crazy views. One, for example, is that he doesn't think the races should mix, because something along the lines of black and white genes don't work as well together. He has straight up said that to me, and I regularly wonder if I should cut off contact with him for that alone. He often blames women in sexual assault cases or characterizes them as gold diggers. A part of me wonders if I am doing a disservice to the aforementioned groups by even still associating with him after saying things like that. If I am also doing a disservice to myself by even sometimes associating with someone who has such an awful worldview?

    And herein lies my dilemma: I haven't gone to see my family in over 6 months, now (I live <30 mins away). My parents' health is declining - it is likely that one of them is going to die in the next 5-10 years, and yet I don't even want to go be around them, especially my mom. I still game online with my brother, but this dilemma is slowly eating away at me.

    But also? I feel a deep empathy and sorrow for them, to the point that I'm choked up as I'm writing this post because they are lonely people who, in my opinion, have been grossly manipulated and mislead throughout their lives. I wouldn't want someone to give up on me, as I feel I am doing to them by avoiding them. I also used to be deeply entrenched in close-mindedness, and I wouldn't be where I'm at without people who kept trying to convince me of a better path. But the other part of me thinks: Is there a line somewhere? At some point, do you become too deeply entrenched that I can't convince you out of it? What do I do at that point? How do I even define that point?

    Are there any resources or books on this topic? Are there any objective things I can do to try and improve this situation and feel better about it? I have spoken with a therapist about this in the past, but I wouldn't describe the feedback I got as very helpful. I would like to go see a therapist again, partially about this, but it's so damn expensive thanks to the American healthcare system. Any input anyone has is appreciated, even if it's anecdotal. This post is also partially just cathartic to write out as it is also to ask for feedback. Thank you.

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  18. Comment on ‘Alien: Romulus’ $41.5m scores record openings for Fede Alvarez and Cailee Spaeny; second best for franchise; global launch at $108.2m in ~movies

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    Whoopsie daisy 😂 Yeah I haven't watched it in years, forgot David was the villain version, not Walter. Thanks!

    Whoopsie daisy 😂 Yeah I haven't watched it in years, forgot David was the villain version, not Walter. Thanks!

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  19. Comment on ‘Alien: Romulus’ $41.5m scores record openings for Fede Alvarez and Cailee Spaeny; second best for franchise; global launch at $108.2m in ~movies

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    I can't help but look at this as yet another example of Hollywood ruining something that was genuinely taking risks, just so they could rehash shit that tries to replicate what "made the original...
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    I can't help but look at this as yet another example of Hollywood ruining something that was genuinely taking risks, just so they could rehash shit that tries to replicate what "made the original movie successful." I say this because I was really disappointed that they didn't give Scott the opportunity to explore where we go from Alien: Covenant. That movie ended with a great setup for some wild stuff to happen. Did it capture the original Alien vibe? Of course not, and it wasn't a great movie, but it was at least somewhat of a risk being taken. And it felt like Prometheus and Covenant were both working to build up to whatever happened in that third movie, which could have been awesome. Not to mention, Walter was a great villain. All of that just makes me not even want to go see this, lol. Maybe I'm one of a rare few that have this opinion and the vast majority didn't care about the ending of Covenant.

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    That's a pretty good idea, also, thanks! My income is fortunately flexible enough to allow that part, also. I will probably add one more sentence to the end of that suggested section of the...

    That's a pretty good idea, also, thanks! My income is fortunately flexible enough to allow that part, also. I will probably add one more sentence to the end of that suggested section of the letter. "Support this issue, and you will have my support. I will be watching your voting and proposal records to see where you stand on this issue."

    Maybe sounds a bit aggressive? But I think it's fair and not too aggressive.

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