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  1. Comment on Meet the covid super-dodgers in ~health.coronavirus

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    My boyfriend, despite also working in a customer facing grocery job like myself, is one of the never-COVID ones. I don't know how he's managed to do it the whole time. I myself only made it to...

    My boyfriend, despite also working in a customer facing grocery job like myself, is one of the never-COVID ones. I don't know how he's managed to do it the whole time. I myself only made it to April of this year, and that was almost certainly when I got it after public transit in my area stopped requiring them and I caught a bus without one since I hadn't planned on taking transit that day. Between being transit-reliant until May of this year and a grocery store employee, I'm honestly surprised I never caught it sooner, given that I gave up on masking at work about a month after they dropped the requirement for staff to do so (which was a few months before I caught it).

    Even my parents, one of whom is an immunocompromised long-term care facility employee and the other who has been on near-full WFH, caught it about a week before I did, and they had gone to the extent of not having eaten at a restaurant in two years, as well as my mom having not gone inside to stores this entire time. Luckily even her case was pretty mild and they both made a swift recovery, but it's just odd that said boyfriend, who is in an environment where it's easy to catch it (and has basically stopped masking as well), is the last of the dodgers left that I know personally.

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  2. Comment on Allen Carr’s ‘Easy Way’ method helped millions quit smoking, but medicine never took it seriously — until now in ~science

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    Am I the only one who finds Alan Carr (and honestly anything that involves CBT or is CBT-adjacent) to be incredibly patronizing and counterproductive? When I tried the Easyway, it came off as just...

    Am I the only one who finds Alan Carr (and honestly anything that involves CBT or is CBT-adjacent) to be incredibly patronizing and counterproductive? When I tried the Easyway, it came off as just telling you "you dumb idiot, you only smoke because you don't know it's an addiction and you actually don't like it."

    Every time I've had a therapist who's tried to push CBT for other things in my life, it's ended with me leaving their practice because all it does is activate this deep and strong oppositional streak in my mind that makes change impossible until what it perceives as the external imposition of values and thoughts ends. It sucks because I've had many therapists who both get almost offended when I lead with "let's not try any CBT, it has not worked one iota for my issues in past experience", and declare me treatment-resistant when it doesn't work, despite not trying any other treatment modalities first. I'm curious if that's due to my CPTSD issues (as I've seen in multiple places that CBT is contraindicated in PTSD treatment, and can in fact be harmful), but since the DSM still doesn't recognize that as a diagnosis, it's been a challenge finding trauma-informed therapists that do understand this.

    While that may be true for some (even most) people, it's absolutely not true for me. I enjoyed the effects of nicotine from my very first cigarette onwards, and as someone with ADHD, nicotine on its own is an effective self-medication-- never mind the synergistic effects that Adderall and other stimulants have with nicotine. I disliked smelling like stale smoke and the mess of ash/butts, but outside of that, I genuinely enjoy nicotine, and it's why I've been vaping at a 3mg level for two years now-- it's the perfect mix of oral fixation (something I had long before I ever picked up a cigarette), nicotine, and not stinking after use, plus with reduced (no, I'm not claiming it's perfectly healthy) health concerns relative to combustion.

    TLDR: Alan Carr basically wrote a CBT-based self help book, but there's a chunk of us for whom any CBT approaches are utterly ineffective.

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  3. Comment on Telegram celebrates 700M users and introduces Telegram Premium in ~tech

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    The stickers are hands down the best underrated feature of Telegram, IMO. It's the entire reason my ex and I settled on it when we were looking for something to replace Hangouts for us. Sadly my...

    The stickers are hands down the best underrated feature of Telegram, IMO. It's the entire reason my ex and I settled on it when we were looking for something to replace Hangouts for us.

    Sadly my current SO and I just use standard RCS (granted, since we're both on Pixels it's a good experience with encryption and whatnot), and since Telegram has gotten linked with the far right at least in my social circles (I literally had to explain this to the group of friends I do weekly bar trivia with, as myself and my SO are the only non-iPhone users in it, because a couple definitely were wondering if I was secretly a right winger when they saw it on my phone), it's not something I'm comfortable trying to move my contacts to anymore.

    But fuck me if I don't miss all of my goofy sticker packs on there when using any other messaging platform.

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  4. Comment on Is anyone else receiving a staggering amount of spam calls recently? in ~tech

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    Luckily, between my carrier's (T-Mobile US) spam blocking and the Pixel's call screening feature, I haven't dealt with more than one or two spam calls a week for a year. It's annoying, but this is...

    Luckily, between my carrier's (T-Mobile US) spam blocking and the Pixel's call screening feature, I haven't dealt with more than one or two spam calls a week for a year.

    It's annoying, but this is a mostly solved problem with the right devices and carriers. I've noticed that my friends on AT&T with iPhones seem to get far more spam calls than about any other combination of phone and carrier, and even in my personal experience I've never gotten more spam calls than in my time on AT&T.

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  5. Comment on A more detailed — and more sympathetic — review of the Murena One in ~tech

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    It's one of the things I miss about the brief stint Google had with the Google Play Editions of devices-- I remember the Galaxy S4 and a variant of the HTC One (can't remember if it was the M7 or...

    This phone without Samsung's UI would be astounding.

    It's one of the things I miss about the brief stint Google had with the Google Play Editions of devices-- I remember the Galaxy S4 and a variant of the HTC One (can't remember if it was the M7 or M8) coming in a version with stock Android. I definitely lusted after the S4 GPE since it had such a nice design plus no garbage Samsung software, seemed like the perfect balance and what the Galaxy Nexus should have been. (The One I was less excited about, because I still think HTC Sense was by far the best OEM skin over Android we've seen, whether then or since.)

    Given the eventual creation of the Pixel line (and more applicable to the time, Google's then-acquisition of Motorola), it was a doomed project, but it's nice to think of what we could have had.

    Sadly, I think if Google had tried to enforce standards like that on Android from the start, it would have never become the platform it is today (for both better and worse). I remember when the G1 came out, how so many companies were so opposed to even putting apps on an open-source platform that they refused to make Android apps (Facebook was one of the big ones, the Android version was simply a supremely crappy web wrapper until around when Android 1.6/2.0 came out) until marketshare more or less forced their hands. Elements of that attitude still linger today-- I find it beyond bonkers that I kept getting ads on podcasts for the Whole Foods app, which is apparently still limiting some online order features to the iOS version, even in 20-fucking-22, without any real technical justification as to why. And Amazon is a company that even maintains their own whole ass Android fork for their tablets, no less.

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  6. Comment on A more detailed — and more sympathetic — review of the Murena One in ~tech

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    IIRC that's largely a Samsung and bargain prepaid carrier phone thing. IIRC my OnePlus 8 had some app that basically pushed other OP accessories and whatnot, but that's the only thing I can think...

    IIRC that's largely a Samsung and bargain prepaid carrier phone thing. IIRC my OnePlus 8 had some app that basically pushed other OP accessories and whatnot, but that's the only thing I can think of that comes close. I know my S8 did not, and other than those I've had Pixels and Nexuses for years, so I can't speak to the current experience on other OEMs.

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  7. Comment on Tyre Extinguishers – deflating SUV tyres as a form of climate action in ~enviro

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    So does CHP base chain mandates on drivetrains alone, instead of tire tread depth and type? That seems a bit backwards to me, to be honest. Locally our chain rules are met by winter tires or M+S...

    So does CHP base chain mandates on drivetrains alone, instead of tire tread depth and type? That seems a bit backwards to me, to be honest. Locally our chain rules are met by winter tires or M+S over a certain tread depth regardless of drivetrain, and it's only for summer tires that AWD/4WD is required.

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  8. Comment on Tyre Extinguishers – deflating SUV tyres as a form of climate action in ~enviro

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    AWD was an option on the Toyota Previa in the 90s, it's why they were somewhat popular with families who lived up in the mountains where I live. As far as the snow, it's easier but it's not like...

    AWD was an option on the Toyota Previa in the 90s, it's why they were somewhat popular with families who lived up in the mountains where I live.

    As far as the snow, it's easier but it's not like it's impossible to drive a non-AWD/4WD vehicle up there. Hell, my stepdad loved to tell me stories about how he learned to drive in the mountains he grew up in in a giant RWD Oldsmobile Cutlass. One of the best snow-handling vehicles I've driven was a friend's late 90s Suzuki Esteem with a set of snow tires on it. Even my ex's Kia Soul was easier to drive in the snow with all-seasons than my old Ford Ranger was in 4WD mode-- we took that thing over Vail Pass in a blizzard and had no problem keeping control while still passing multiple Jeeps and Subarus creeping along.

    I feel like people greatly overestimate the need for AWD/4WD in snowy areas, honestly.

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  9. Comment on Little 12ft.io bookmarklet in ~tech

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    I've been using Bypass Paywalls Clean (firefox and chrome) for a while now, and they get updated very regularly, haven't found a paywall I can't bypass with these that hasn't been fixed within...

    I've been using Bypass Paywalls Clean (firefox and chrome) for a while now, and they get updated very regularly, haven't found a paywall I can't bypass with these that hasn't been fixed within days of noticing it yet.

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  10. Comment on It's time to come clean in ~books

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    I will never not be jealous of his energy. Hell, Stephen King is about the only author I can think of who produced a similar amount in short order, and he had the help of cocaine, unlike...

    I will never not be jealous of his energy. Hell, Stephen King is about the only author I can think of who produced a similar amount in short order, and he had the help of cocaine, unlike Sanderson.

    This was a great surprise to stumble across today, glad to get myself in for some e-books at least. I'd love the hardcovers, but can't justify them in my limited space. I'm really excited to see what he's churned out for us.

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  11. Comment on What everyday foods are 10/10? in ~food

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    Beanless chili is a Texas abomination, it's basically spicy Sloppy Joe mix. It's like eating spaghetti sauce without noodles, which I hope nobody does.

    Beanless chili is a Texas abomination, it's basically spicy Sloppy Joe mix. It's like eating spaghetti sauce without noodles, which I hope nobody does.

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  12. Comment on What everyday foods are 10/10? in ~food

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    What don't you like about brown rice? I find it to be much more interesting than white rice, which just tastes like starch or whatever it's being cooked in-- at least brown rice adds that nutty...

    What don't you like about brown rice? I find it to be much more interesting than white rice, which just tastes like starch or whatever it's being cooked in-- at least brown rice adds that nutty flavor and chewy texture that's so nice, IMO.

    Plus brown rice is more nutritious than white, so there's that too.

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  13. Comment on You should listen to CDs in ~music

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    Small aside, but I thought iOS 11 added FLAC support? Might save you a second transcoding step, at least. And while I can respect the nostalgia factor, even as a 90s child CDs were just clunky....

    transcode to FLAC (or ALAC if I want to keep it on my phone, thanks Apple)

    Small aside, but I thought iOS 11 added FLAC support? Might save you a second transcoding step, at least.

    And while I can respect the nostalgia factor, even as a 90s child CDs were just clunky. Easily scratched, the portable players were bulky, skip-prone, and also prone to damage the discs themselves due to dropping the players, something I experienced often as a clumsy kid. I'm grateful that having an uncle who has always been an early adopter of tech with no kids of his own meant I got a hand-me-down Rio S30S from him in 2003, turning CDs into something I'd just immediately rip on my computer and forget about afterwards.

    The only time I went back to physical CDs at all was once the 128MB limitation of the SD card slot on the Rio bothered me enough that I got a Sony CD player that supported Atrac3 burned discs through SonicStage (something I wish I had forgotten existed), so it had a larger capacity than the little red bean.

    Honestly, if I'm nostalgic for any music experience, it's more the whole experience of getting music off of LimeWire or WinMX, discovering random bands thanks to mistagged/misnamed files, and the goofy string of mp3 players I had in high school (since my stepdad, the family tech guy, was and is staunchly anti-Apple and will not buy anything from them), things like this zippo-sized thing, or my ridiculous poo-brown Zune that I bought with my first-ever paycheck (surprisngly, Zunes were rather common in my high school, it made that inbuilt music sharing thing actually useful). That seemed to hit the sweet spot of less clunky than CDs or physical media, but still having independent devices that were in their "this tech is new enough to do funky experimental product designs and have some variety" phase. CD's only advantage of sound quality became irrelevant with the advent of broadband fast enough and data storage becoming plentiful and cheap enough to have lossless files sent that way, IMO.

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  14. Comment on Hospital refusing heart transplant for man who won't get vaccinated in ~health.coronavirus

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    How does a simple statement of "I'm not saying it's fair" say anything about supporting or not supporting the system? There's no mention of wanting to change that from them or anyone else here....

    How does a simple statement of "I'm not saying it's fair" say anything about supporting or not supporting the system? There's no mention of wanting to change that from them or anyone else here. Have you never had someone use "well, life's not fair" as a thought terminating cliche to cut off any criticism of an inequitable system? It might be uncharitable, but I don't think it's unreasonable when there's no comment about how to change that. (I'd also argue that 150% more votes is a step off of slight, fwiw)

    Since they were explaining said system, why was that not mentioned there? It came off as if it was the fault of these minority communities for not donating more that they would be bumped down the list due to socioeconomic factors.

    A simple "I don't support this, but" instead of "I'm not saying its fair" would go a long way towards indicating that they do not accept this system or think it is good, especially when odds are they're someone who would benefit from the status quo as far as those rules go.

    It's still a gross system and gives me a lot of pause as far as being an organ donor, since it looks like whether I'm a registered donor or not, I'm perpetuating this system in one way or another. Either my organs are most likely going to go to someone who's wealthy and privileged, or I'm going to limit the available supply even more by going off the list, and all the while knowing that a lot of more well-off folks, including a large portion of this site, would be ahead of me in line if I needed a transplant, simply because they could afford to finish formal education, while I could not. It's hard to feel charitable in a situation like that.

  15. Comment on Hospital refusing heart transplant for man who won't get vaccinated in ~health.coronavirus

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    I stand by my assessment; that is disgusting, institutionalized classism, and it kind of sucks that far too much of this site is comfortably in the PMC to not find it something to be fought...

    I stand by my assessment; that is disgusting, institutionalized classism, and it kind of sucks that far too much of this site is comfortably in the PMC to not find it something to be fought against.

    It's the acceptance of this with little pushback that makes this site feel pretty unwelcoming to me, as one of the rare working-class people who couldn't afford to finish a degree on here. Just going "oh well, the rich get to move up the line while the poor and working class get to break their bodies for the wealthy and get bumped to the bottom of the line-- it's just one of the criteria" is pretty callous.

    Also, why does the donor race matter? Is it impossible for people of two different races to be matches for organ donation? While I'm sure there's correlation between ancestry and organ compatibility, I highly doubt it's to the point where Black people can only have Black organs, for example. What about those of us (hello!) who are mixed race, do we need specifically mixed race organs then in the eyes of the government?

    The uncritical acceptance of this feels gross just like the existence of the wealth bias in the first place does.

    This knowledge that I'd be bumped down the list for being a recipient behind some rich guy simply because they competed college and I didn't makes me want to rescind my own organ donor status, in all honesty. Why should I donate my organs when I'd be bumped below others were I in need of receiving one?

  16. Comment on Hospital refusing heart transplant for man who won't get vaccinated in ~health.coronavirus

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    I'm with you on your overall message, but this just feels gross to me. Why is a college grad more deserving of an organ transplant than someone who is not? That just reeks of classism to me.

    College educated

    I'm with you on your overall message, but this just feels gross to me. Why is a college grad more deserving of an organ transplant than someone who is not? That just reeks of classism to me.

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  17. Comment on Electric kettles turn off automatically when the water starts to boil. So what happens when you boil alcohol that has a lower boiling point? in ~science

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    After watching it, it looks like they just used a high heat version of the bimetallic strips analog home thermostats use, nothing particularly unique about that. It's relieving that they made sure...

    After watching it, it looks like they just used a high heat version of the bimetallic strips analog home thermostats use, nothing particularly unique about that. It's relieving that they made sure to set the point at which the strip begins deforming at lower than 100C though.

    It does look like mine (which is one of those models with multiple temperature set points for various teas) does just use a timer as a fallback mechanism, since there's no bimetallic strip or vapor connection to the base, just a temperature sensor poking into the water chamber. It really shows when attempting to use the 3 minute sterilizing boil setting, as it will just shut off after 30 seconds at 204 same as a standard boil.

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  18. Comment on Electric kettles turn off automatically when the water starts to boil. So what happens when you boil alcohol that has a lower boiling point? in ~science

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    Without watching the video, wouldn't it have the same behavior as an electric kettle used with water at a high enough elevation to have a noticeable drop in boiling point? I live in Denver, where...

    Without watching the video, wouldn't it have the same behavior as an electric kettle used with water at a high enough elevation to have a noticeable drop in boiling point? I live in Denver, where water boils at around 203-204F. My electric kettle will just sit at 204 for 30 seconds before shutting off automatically, since it will never hit 212 here.

  19. Comment on Popular subreddit r/antiwork goes private after Fox interview in ~tech

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    I mean, seeing as how WorkReform is pushing anyone who isn't pro-capitalism out, it's already the case. Plus it looks like their top mods are two major bank employees and a self-proclaimed CFO, so...

    I mean, seeing as how WorkReform is pushing anyone who isn't pro-capitalism out, it's already the case. Plus it looks like their top mods are two major bank employees and a self-proclaimed CFO, so it's fair to call this a watering down.

    I mean, look at this shit, that's just depressing. Actively excising and excluding the radical parts of the movement that actually, you know, push for real change instead of picemeal "reforms" that are palatable to the capitalist class.

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  20. Comment on What's the coronavirus like where you are? in ~health.coronavirus

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    Denver area-- Omicron is tearing through town like it is everywhere else. I (fully vaxxed and boosted with Moderns) finally caught it last week. Said vaccines did their job-- aside from a mild...

    Denver area-- Omicron is tearing through town like it is everywhere else. I (fully vaxxed and boosted with Moderns) finally caught it last week. Said vaccines did their job-- aside from a mild runny nose for a couple days, I was asymptomatic. The only reason I even found out I had it is, because my mother is immunocompromised and works in a long term care facility, whereas I work in a grocery store and take public transit, I take tests before going to see them as a precaution. I was legitimately surprised to see the positive line show up on the test.

    It's torn through my store the past two weeks-- I was one of nine people out with it last week, and I'm sure this shortened 5-day quarantine period is doing zero favors on that front. I'm still horrified at just how many of my coworkers are still unvaxxed entirely though, even after losing two people to Delta in November and watching my own boss, an otherwise healthy dude in his early 30s, end up nearly dying, spending two weeks hospitalized, and only got off oxygen to the point of being able to come back to work two and a half months after he first got sick. It's disappointing, but it's really lowered my regard and respect for a lot of the people I work with, sadly.

    I've been juxtaposing mine and my boss's very disparate results despite otherwise being in the same categories as a hopeful tool to encourage some of them to get vaxxed (as has my boss, who, while not an active antivaxxer before this, didn't get the shot out of that lingering 20s sense of medical invincibility), but I doubt it'll change things.

    Add that the biggest local grocery chain is on strike right now, driving our business to 150-200% increases in sales, and it's getting ugly.

    Only silver lining is that it's a somewhat less deadly variant that maxed on its infectivity stat vs Delta, but the collective fatigue and perpetual inaction on the part of the state (Polis seems like the Democratic Desantis some days as far as his covid policies go--he's just lucky that the Colorado Republicans are absolutely off the deep end and act like they're in Florida or Alabama) is just overwhelming sometimes.

    I mean, how is it that it's January 2022 and only now is the state offering free KN95's to residents? They're a year and a half, if not two years, late to that game. At least we were the first state to start sending free at home test kits to residents, but our covid response only looks decent because other states are doing even worse than us.

    These past two years have done more than almost anything else to amp up my misanthropic side, honestly. If it wasn't nearly impossible for someone without a degree to emigrate and utterly unaffordable for me to complete the degree I had started right now, I'd be seriously looking at it.

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