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Comment on How are you different than you were last week? in ~life
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Comment on How are you different than you were last week? in ~life
starhenge Link ParentI've not heard about this! This looks great! The most useful book I've found so far has been She/He/They/Me. While it was helpful, I thought it still didn't totally nail down what I was feeling....I've not heard about this! This looks great!
The most useful book I've found so far has been She/He/They/Me. While it was helpful, I thought it still didn't totally nail down what I was feeling.
Thank you very much for the recommendation.
Edit: Also, wow, I feel seen:
Even more common is a perception wherein, even though someone may have feelings about being unhappy with the gender they were assigned at birth, they believe that this is not the same as what transgender people experience. Some may feel that a wish to be transgender and have transition available is some kind of disrespect towards “real” trans people who knew they were actually boys or girls “born in the wrong body.”
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Comment on How are you different than you were last week? in ~life
starhenge Link ParentCongrats to you too! It sounds like we're in similar places. I "came out" to my therapist and to a few close friends around the same time, and I'm kind of surprised (and pleased) with how "ok,...Congrats to you too! It sounds like we're in similar places. I "came out" to my therapist and to a few close friends around the same time, and I'm kind of surprised (and pleased) with how "ok, cool, let's go get lunch!" my friends were about it.
The little baby steps around the home are nice too. Just little appearance or behavior changes. Feeling more confident when I look in the mirror. Nothing I'm ready to share with anyone other than my spouse, but maybe hopefully some day.
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Comment on How are you different than you were last week? in ~life
starhenge LinkI've started really honestly wondering about my gender identity. I've realized that I never have totally fit within my "traditional gender role," and the internal and unconscious struggle about...I've started really honestly wondering about my gender identity. I've realized that I never have totally fit within my "traditional gender role," and the internal and unconscious struggle about trying to conform has probably caused me a decent bit of anxiety over the years.
I've been recently talking about this with my spouse and they've been pushing me to explore and express things outside of my comfort zone. I'm finding it's making me feel calmer and better and happier.
I'm still working to understand what all this means. Because I grew up in community that doesn't completely celebrate this type of thinking, I lack experience and context. I have to reconcile how I feel now against how much of a bigoted asshole I was to people like me when I was younger. I struggle to find the words for how I feel. I worry about saying things or asking questions earnestly that might come across as insensitive or rude. I just don't know any better, but I'm trying.
So yeah. I'm different than I was a few weeks or months or years ago. But I'm also the same. Just more comfortable with myself!
“Not fully relating to things” has been the biggest thing complicating and challenging my own exploration. I also found some solace in thinking “a cis person wouldn’t even consider all this!”