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  1. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    that's awesome!

    that's awesome!

  2. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    I love it! Great domains really are the best.

    I love it! Great domains really are the best.

  3. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    that's so good! I was eyeing a .ch last week for something that was, at the time, brilliant -- but I can't remember what it was. I love when great domains expire without being scooped up by...

    that's so good! I was eyeing a .ch last week for something that was, at the time, brilliant -- but I can't remember what it was.

    I love when great domains expire without being scooped up by squatters. Elsewhere in the thread I mentioned that I'm a big It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia fan and picked up https://rickety.cricket. Someone had this before me, but I religiously checked it and was so delighted when it was up. .cricket is also dirt cheap, too.

    For my bouncer I use http://b.irthday.party, since I needed a FQDN for the rDNS. I love the look of the URL for things like this. There is very little I love more than a good domain. :)

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  4. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    .com is still good for work stuff, though. I've got a few .party, .cricket, .ws., .gq, .ml, and a few .coms. My favorite are .party, but for the industry I work in, .com is still the way to go. I...

    .com is still good for work stuff, though. I've got a few .party, .cricket, .ws., .gq, .ml, and a few .coms. My favorite are .party, but for the industry I work in, .com is still the way to go. I think the SEO for the mains (.com, .net, .org etc) is still better, but I'd have to look into that again.

    I'm a big It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia fan and picked up https://rickety.cricket last year or so, intending on using it for my spam domain. Sadly, a lot of sites won't accept .cricket as a valid TLD, so I used a .party domain.

  5. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    If I could get away with RIVAN, that would be amazing... purely as a Star Wars EU fan :) Sadly, there's no way to drop the S from my names. Three of my four names have them in prominent positions....

    If I could get away with RIVAN, that would be amazing... purely as a Star Wars EU fan :)

    Sadly, there's no way to drop the S from my names. Three of my four names have them in prominent positions. The one starting with the S is the worst one for me, though.

    off-topic re: domains, I've got the standard firstlast.com, some fun ones for side projects / communities, and lastna.me (not literally). I love that last one. I bought it off of a guy for a chunk of change about fifteen years ago after I sold another domain for a similar chunk of change. For a while I had a growing domain purchasing addiction (which is a strong word for it), but I've finally got it down to about seven that serve an actual purpose.

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  6. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    I think I'll take a similar approach. I'm not changing it with any sort of negativity surrounding it -- and others seem to be able to say my current name perfectly. Years ago I ran a magazine with...

    People who meet me might not be able to use previous names, but people who were already using them can.

    I think I'll take a similar approach. I'm not changing it with any sort of negativity surrounding it -- and others seem to be able to say my current name perfectly.

    Years ago I ran a magazine with some friends and wrote everything under a different name. A lot of people are still convinced that my name is that one, since my birth name sounds equally fake / too pretty (this was a time when emo was big.)

    As it stands, I don't know anyone who has changed their name, but I can imagine that it'd be difficult to mentally switch it up -- especially if you didn't see them on a regular basis.

    Ballpark, how many different names are associated with you?

  7. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    I have a fairly simple last name, but I still have to spell it out for people -- and even then, you'd think I was presenting them with a new letter of the alphabet. I couldn't imagine having two...

    I have a fairly simple last name, but I still have to spell it out for people -- and even then, you'd think I was presenting them with a new letter of the alphabet. I couldn't imagine having two foreign last names.

    re: their mother not adopting the new name -- I can totally understand this. I don't expect my family to use whatever name I decide on. They all know that I don't care for my name, though.

    Over a family dinner a few weeks ago my Mom mentioned how they took a month to name my sister because my Mom didn't like my Dad's idea -- which is the name she has. haha. She's got a good name with a weird spelling. She didn't like it growing up, mainly because the rest of us had cool license plates for our bikes with our names and she didn't. However, it suits her and she's grown to appreciate the unique quality.

    This thread is really helping me formulate my roll out process and giving me some great ideas re: the method (or lack there of) for choosing a new name.

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  8. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    I love the mashing tradition! We do that with my sister and her husband's last name... and they like it. On my mother's side, she's the only one of her large family that actually goes by her birth...

    I love the mashing tradition! We do that with my sister and her husband's last name... and they like it. On my mother's side, she's the only one of her large family that actually goes by her birth name. The others either go by their middle name or some random name they picked up at some point. It's weird.

    Ultimately, nobody really cares what my name is... unless it's Tyberious, then they'd be jealous. :)

    I think if I do change it, I'll also skip the legal stuff. It seems like more of a headache than anything, and doesn't really provide any true benefit.

    Roughly how long would you say it took for the new name to stick with your social circle?

  9. Comment on Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)? in ~talk

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    ha. I have a bunch of fun / cool domains --- but for work stuff I should stick with a .com until the rest of the world catches up with us cool people :) I've been trying to think/discover a new...

    ha. I have a bunch of fun / cool domains --- but for work stuff I should stick with a .com until the rest of the world catches up with us cool people :)

    I've been trying to think/discover a new name for a few decades now. It started when I was ten. I have a very.... beautiful last name. It's not the worst, and I might ultimately stick with it since I also have a perfect domain for it.

    The only reason I don't like my name is because I can't say S as crisp as I'd like. It's so stupid, but it's bothered me forever. Both my first and last name have it -- and the combination of sounds isn't comfortable to say, despite others liking it.

    Good tips overall. My inner-circle will pretty much play along with this whole thing. I could probably get away with a name-of-the-month pulled out of a hat with the bulk of them :)

    It's interesting that the process for a birth certificate correction is more drawn out than a normal name change. Probably an older process that hasn't been revised.

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  10. Has anybody changed their first and/or last name (legally or socially)?

    I don’t like my name, and I never really have. It has nothing to do with ‘tomf’. My main questions are: How did you go about choosing the new name? How did you manage/roll out the new name? What...

    I don’t like my name, and I never really have. It has nothing to do with ‘tomf’.

    My main questions are:

    1. How did you go about choosing the new name?
    2. How did you manage/roll out the new name?
    3. What unforeseen challenges came up?

    My main concern is that I’ll settle on a ‘cool’ sounding name and that people will think it’s weird. While I want something normal, I do have some parameters:

    1. The name should be free for the .com and major social media
    2. I don’t want a main ‘S’ sound, since I don’t like how I say it.
    3. I am hoping to have something simple to use over the phone. I use ‘Tom’ for Starbucks and reservations because it’s clear, short, and not me.

    Anyway, has anybody done this? Any feedback is great, but I am more focused on changing my first name.

    Pardon the crappy tags.

    16 votes
  11. Comment on Celebrity lawyer Michael Avenatti is found guilty in Nike extortion case in ~news

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    Outside of the cash to the coach, seems like it could have been an offer of services that was twisted against him... but the cash to the coach seems sloppy. 40 years seems excessive. Edit: English

    Prosecutors said Avenatti told Nike he could wipe billions of dollars off its market value, but would keep quiet if it paid him and another lawyer up to $25 million to conduct an internal probe, and paid the coach Gary Franklin $1.5 million.

    Outside of the cash to the coach, seems like it could have been an offer of services that was twisted against him... but the cash to the coach seems sloppy.

    40 years seems excessive.

    Edit: English

    4 votes
  12. Comment on HQ Trivia, the top trivia game on the app store in early 2018, is ceasing operations and terminating all staff today in ~tech

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    I only played HQ Trivia once, but it was super fun. It's a shame they weren't able to transition the format to television.

    I only played HQ Trivia once, but it was super fun. It's a shame they weren't able to transition the format to television.

    6 votes
  13. Comment on Pastry Chef, Claire Saffitz, attempts to make gourmet Butterfingers | Gourmet Makes in ~food

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    Holy smokes! This is one of the better ones. I always figured that butterfingers were basically pulled like taffy, but I never considered the cornflakes. I'm tempted to make some with some Adam's...

    Holy smokes! This is one of the better ones. I always figured that butterfingers were basically pulled like taffy, but I never considered the cornflakes. I'm tempted to make some with some Adam's dark roasted peanut butter (also known as the best peanut butter to date.)

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  14. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv

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    I'm doing two episodes of 'essential' Babylon 5 episodes per night... and I really don't like this series. It's not the worst, but I just don't care about anybody in it. It's nice to see Rousseau...

    I'm doing two episodes of 'essential' Babylon 5 episodes per night... and I really don't like this series. It's not the worst, but I just don't care about anybody in it. It's nice to see Rousseau from LOST in something.

    From a distribution standpoint, this series is a mess. The original airing was 4:3 and all of the CGI was made for that. I think it was Australia who wanted to air it widescreen -- so instead of rerendering everything, they simply scaled the CGI. It looks really bad... The lighting is off with almost every model.

    It's unfortunate to see such a popular series stuck with such a horrible transfer. Even if we had the original 4:3 available, it'd be better.

    Homeland is back! I love Homeland. It's one of the few series that seems to pay attention to the audience while not shying away from trying new things. What? Nobody likes this character.. no problem! axed.

    Kidding (2018) is back for a second season. Jim Carrey is great in this -- and really, the entire cast is perfect. If you're familiar with Michel Gondry (The Science of Sleep, Eternal Sunshine), this series has a similar aesthetic for the titles and some scenes. When I started it, I wasn't expecting much -- but it finds it's rhythm quickly and sticks with it.

    The Pale Horse (2019) started this week. It's an Agatha Christie novel, so it should be fun.

    McMillions is a new documentary about an old McDonalds Monopoly scam from years ago. I've been looking forward to this for a while, but I'm going to wait until the series wraps. I don't think it'll be mind-blowing, but I anticipate some sort of mob scam... but we'll see.

    Curb has been completely CRUSHING it this season. It feels like the series has gone back to it's early-but-not-too-early days where the script and performances were so tight. For new seasons, this is my favorite right now.

    High Maintenance is back! This is a series of stories all connected by 'The Guy', who is a weed dealer who delivers... and the series is great. It lost its focus a little last season, but it was still great. The series has a 'cool' feel, while not totally cashing in on it like How to Make it in America.

    The New Pope wrapped up for some folks, and I can't give enough praise for this series. S01 was killer, and S02 took it a step further. John Malkovich gives a fantastic, beautiful performance with a few meta moments. I really hope they continue this series --- its got a lot of truly beautiful moments that we don't often see in a TV series. I love the way they worked with the opening and closing credits, too. Each episode feels complete -- if you know what I mean.

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  15. Comment on Will Spotify ruin podcasting? in ~tech

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    As it sits right now, it looks like they're fine with you being with another aggregator and simply giving them the RSS feed. If they stick with this, it'll be a non-loss for everybody....

    As it sits right now, it looks like they're fine with you being with another aggregator and simply giving them the RSS feed. If they stick with this, it'll be a non-loss for everybody.

    https://podcasters.spotify.com/faq

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  16. Comment on Will Spotify ruin podcasting? in ~tech

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    If Spotify were smart, they'd focus on an ad platform and copy Apple's open podcast distribution system (aka RSS etc.) If they can streamline the advertising while keeping it accessible to...

    If Spotify were smart, they'd focus on an ad platform and copy Apple's open podcast distribution system (aka RSS etc.)

    If they can streamline the advertising while keeping it accessible to traditional apps, they could have a tidy side business here. Not to mention if they offer an ad-reduced/free feed for subscribers -- or better yet, a method for podcasts to have their own paid subscribers (a la Patreon), they could have a really great product on their hands... but it all boils down to them keeping things open like Apple.

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  17. Comment on Forgot password in ~tildes

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    nice! I think it's just my goofy setup where I'm constantly hopping between machines that was the issue. We're so blessed to have so many good options for this sort of software.

    nice! I think it's just my goofy setup where I'm constantly hopping between machines that was the issue.

    We're so blessed to have so many good options for this sort of software.

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  18. Comment on Forgot password in ~tildes

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    yeah, keepass is decent. I cycled through them all once LastPass was acquired. I settled on OnePassword for a time, but without Linux support (at the time), it was a deal breaker. The reason I...

    yeah, keepass is decent.

    I cycled through them all once LastPass was acquired. I settled on OnePassword for a time, but without Linux support (at the time), it was a deal breaker. The reason I settled on Bitwarden over Keepass(xc) is that it just works and I don't have to sync anything via dropbox or whatever.

    If I were only using one system, I'd be happy with Keepass, but hopping between a tablet, phone, and three other systems, it just my set up wasn't working as well as I hoped it would.

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  19. Comment on Forgot password in ~tildes

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    Also, stop remembering your passwords and use a password manager -- https://bitwarden.com

    Also, stop remembering your passwords and use a password manager -- https://bitwarden.com

    14 votes
  20. Comment on 'Parasite' wins Best Picture in ~movies

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    I ran an Oscar pool... and two dudes got 20 and 19 picks correct (out of 24), which is crazy. I came in third with 14pts... even though I won the last two years with 10 and 11. I doubt we'll ever...

    I ran an Oscar pool... and two dudes got 20 and 19 picks correct (out of 24), which is crazy. I came in third with 14pts... even though I won the last two years with 10 and 11. I doubt we'll ever see a run like this again.

    Missing Link was robbed. Parasite was such a surprise-but-not-surprised winner.

    Regarding Hair Love, which deserved the win, here's a cool tweet about it's conception.

    my picks
    Category My Picks
    Best Picture 1917
    Actress In A Supporting Role Laura Dern (Marriage Story) *
    Actor In A Supporting Role Brad Pitt (Once Upon a Time...in Hollywood) *
    Foreign Language Film Parasite (South Korea) *
    Documentary (Short) Learning to Skateboard in a Warzone (If You're a Girl) *
    Documentary Feature American Factory *
    Original Song (I'm Gonna) Love Me Again (Rocketman) *
    Animated Feature Film Missing Link
    Adapted Screenplay The Irishman
    Original Screenplay Once Upon a Time in Hollywood
    Actor In A Leading Role Joaquin Phoenix (Joker) *
    Actress In A Leading Role Renée Zellweger (Judy) *
    Director Quentin Tarantino (Once Upon a Time in Hollywood)
    Production Design Once Upon a Time in Hollywood *
    Cinematography 1917 *
    Costume Design Jojo Rabbit
    Sound Editing Ford v Ferrari *
    Sound Mixing 1917 *
    Animated Short Film Hair Love *
    Live Action Short Film Brotherhood
    Original Score Hildur Guðnadóttir (Joker) *
    Visual Effects The Lion King
    Film Editing The Irishman
    Makeup And Hairstyling Judy

    * correct choice

    4 votes