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Comment on What's the big deal about running a half marathon? in ~life
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Comment on What are your DIY mattress experiences? in ~life.home_improvement
topclockna Link ParentThat's wonderful to hear! Did you go for a hybrid or full latex?That's wonderful to hear! Did you go for a hybrid or full latex?
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Comment on What are your DIY mattress experiences? in ~life.home_improvement
topclockna Link ParentThank you so much! This is exactly the type of info I was looking for. I'm glad to see that you're happy with the 8" pocket coils, that setup also looked very appealing to me. This have given me a...Thank you so much! This is exactly the type of info I was looking for. I'm glad to see that you're happy with the 8" pocket coils, that setup also looked very appealing to me. This have given me a lot to think about! I never even considered an adjustable bed base.
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What are your DIY mattress experiences?
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm...
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm -> soft).I was able to find a good amount of information between Reddit (https://www.reddit.com/r/Mattress/comments/otdqms/diy_mattresses_an_introductory_guide/?rdt=54627) and Arizona Premium Mattresses, but I feel like I'm lacking information about people's anecdotal experiences.
Have you gone the DIY route before? Was it a success? Did you end up effectively buying multiple mattresses worth of components trying to dial it in? Looking back would you just buy a bed in a box? Any insight / tips would be very much appreciated.
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Comment on The pork industry’s forced cannibalism, explained in ~food
topclockna LinkAs the type of person getting roasted in this comment section (reading the article but continuing to eat meat) I feel like maybe it would be good for me to share my side. I will start off by...- Exemplary
As the type of person getting roasted in this comment section (reading the article but continuing to eat meat) I feel like maybe it would be good for me to share my side. I will start off by saying I do not have a moral position. I don't pretend to be in the right, or that my decision to eat meat is somehow offset by my other beliefs.
I do not have any opposition to slaughtering and eating animals. I feel it's a resource that is available to us and has been an important part of our survival for a very long time. To me, the idea of getting the majority of humans to give up meat seems like an absolute pipe dream and I don't really see how that would be realistic without government intervention (for example, outlawing pork production and import).
With that being said, I am not okay with the practices discussed in the article. The scenes are horrific and I am extremely disappointed that these practices appear to be common in the industry. It would be convenient to say that these are just "bad apples" as the article puts it, but evidently that is not the case. To me, that's were the problem lies.
If I am not morally opposed to eating meat, but I am morally opposed to animal cruelty (the practices in question are absolutely acts of animal cruelty), what are my options? I love meat and do not have any intentions of giving it up for the long term. If I had to slaughter my own animals I would (and have), but that's not really realistic in a lot of situations. Lab grown meat is very interesting to me and I'm willing to try it out once it becomes readily available, but I've never seen it in my super market.
Am I a bad person for my position? Perhaps, I won't really claim otherwise. Is there cognitive dissonance? Ya, I think so. I think that my position is likely a lot closer to the average person though, where animals can be eaten, but abusing them is bad. My question is, what would be the most effective strategy for eliminating the cruelty from this process? Are there local coops that have well monitored practices? Does sticking to smaller operations make this problem moot? Discussions like that might be more effective for reducing the primary issue here, animal abuse.
Encouraging conscientious consumption seems like it could make a world of a difference here, and in many other areas as well. If anyone has recommendations in that vein they would be greatly appreciated. If you feel that saying it's okay to kill animals but not abuse them in an oxymoron, that's fair. Again, I don't claim to have a moral position. I understand why it could upsetting though.
I chose not to talk about dietary restrictions because I feel like it's a bit of a cop out. Of course if someone physically needs to eat meet, they should. I don't think maybe people will refute that. I can't imagine there is a very significant portion of the population that falls into that category though, so it feels like a much weaker argument than "I like it and don't want to stop eating it". The later may not be as "good" of an idea, but it's honest, at least for me.
As I read through this post, I personally find you're lack of appreciation for accomplishments that do not produce a material benefits to others rather strange. Most things we as individuals do are inconsiquencial, and only celebrating large scale wins just seems like a good way to end up depressed.
Now, the reason I replied to this comment specifically is because you do seem to value small scale achievements, you just do not wish to share those with others. I feel that perhaps this is where some of the disconnect lies.
To me, much of the joy of a long term relationship and partner is that you can share those personal accomplishments with another person. Unrelated people won't care, but your spouse, family, and close friends can see the effort you put in and recognize that you've pushed yourself to a new height.
If I decided I wanted to work on computers as a hobby, I would never expect my spouse to respect me in the same way they might respect Ada Lovelace, but I do see her eyes light up when I talk about things I'm passionate about. She may not understand it or really give a shit, but seeing your partner enjoy something is in itself enjoyable for most people. I do the same for her, seeing her passionate about something is an absolute treat that I would go through great length to encourage and protect. I do not have any, but I know that many people feel the same way about their children.
If that feeling is not something you've ever experienced, I would highly recommend you ponder why that as and strongly consider speaking to a therapist about it. That's not to say that there's anything wrong with you, but a lack of interest like that is the type of thing that slowly eats away at a relationship. It might be worth exploring before it ever becomes a problem. As others have pointed out, you are indeed the odd one out here, and your wife likely expects a different response from you.
To put it this way, if my partner consistently behaved the same you are, a 10 or 20 year relationship would likely become very difficult.
I hope this does not come across as insensitive as that's not my intention. I just want to stress that this isn't a minor thing you should ignore. It has the potential to cause larger issues. I wish you the best.