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  1. Comment on Replacing (potentially) insensitive terminology in programming in ~comp

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    This seems highly demographic-dependent, but I've definitely grown to associate "grooming" with child grooming primarily. Not to say it's the largest use case, but I hear grooming, and think of a...

    This seems highly demographic-dependent, but I've definitely grown to associate "grooming" with child grooming primarily. Not to say it's the largest use case, but I hear grooming, and think of a predator building a relationship with a victim before I think of hygiene, outside of context. I guess I could understand the desire to move on from the word where it's not strictly applicable.

  2. Comment on Does anyone else feel like it's really weird to be right here in the moment? in ~talk

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    It's weird, but what isn't? Life is beautiful, and it's awesome that you're present for it.

    It's weird, but what isn't? Life is beautiful, and it's awesome that you're present for it.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on Songs that evoke a specific emotion or impression in you or in general that you like? in ~music

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    TW: Suicide Death Grips - On GP might be sort of 'basic' in this regard, but it really nails the sense of empowerment and transcendent euphoria that comes from surviving a suicide attempt (or even...

    TW: Suicide

    Death Grips - On GP might be sort of 'basic' in this regard, but it really nails the sense of empowerment and transcendent euphoria that comes from surviving a suicide attempt (or even 'just' coming close). Every nerve is on fire, and your head is full of static, but you grabbed that bull by the horns, rode it, and got off. You are in control, in the end. You might not be happy about it, but you remain, and that is beautiful in itself.

    4 votes
  4. Comment on What are you confused by? in ~talk

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    Hate. I understand feeling it, and I'm not as much of an asshat to say I don't hate anything or anyone, but I really dislike it. However, a large number of people seem to revel in it, or at least...

    Hate. I understand feeling it, and I'm not as much of an asshat to say I don't hate anything or anyone, but I really dislike it. However, a large number of people seem to revel in it, or at least find it fulfilling in some way. Hate feels like taking the good parts of caring about things and turning them bad. It can be used productively, but that doesn't make the thing in itself positive.

    4 votes
  5. Comment on What are you confused by? in ~talk

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    I'd say that humans are not rational by design, and it's instead a learned tool for analysis. However, life is not necessarily entirely a matter of computation and reason. It's full of slight...

    I'd say that humans are not rational by design, and it's instead a learned tool for analysis. However, life is not necessarily entirely a matter of computation and reason. It's full of slight nuance and guesswork that often makes seeking full rationality a fool's errand. In theory, we can make the best decisions, and learning about the world and breaking down cognitive biases can push our models closer to the truth, but to pretend that's achievable feels like setting all of humanity up for failure.

    3 votes
  6. Comment on Podcast discussions & recommendations! What are you listening to? in ~talk

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    I've really fallen in love with the Our Fake History podcast. It's a one-man show where the host digs into the evidence backing common misconceptions about history. He strikes a pleasant balance...

    I've really fallen in love with the Our Fake History podcast. It's a one-man show where the host digs into the evidence backing common misconceptions about history. He strikes a pleasant balance between levity and accuracy, and the bumper music is all fantastic.

    In addition, Cortex is just a great show about productivity and leading life the way you actually want, it's reframed a lot of the ways I view decisionmaking and task management.

    1 vote
  7. Comment on What are you confused by? in ~talk

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    Well, the results that I intellectually understand to be within my reach don't end up pushing me to repeat the effort in the future. So I can know I love a certain recipe, and don't actually mind...

    Well, the results that I intellectually understand to be within my reach don't end up pushing me to repeat the effort in the future. So I can know I love a certain recipe, and don't actually mind cooking it, and that it's healthy and affordable, and remain unmotivated to make that dish again. I'd rather just toss together a basic salad or sandwich that will keep me alive, even if on paper I should totally devote the extra, what, 20-45 minutes to a more complex, tastier, and more nutritionally rounded dish. The best I can get to relating to that is manually making and dialling in coffee, but that maxes out around the 15 minute mark for a few cups.

    I can't say I'm result-oriented because the results are never good enough. It's a vicious cycle for my mental health and material outcomes.

    4 votes
  8. Comment on What are you confused by? in ~talk

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    This feels like the crux of your misunderstanding. Many people don't approach life from that perspective. Speaking as someone with debilitating executive function issues, I would never do anything...

    In my mind, a thing is to be done first. If you aren't satisfying with doing the thing on its own, you shouldn't be doing it. Whatever reward you extract from the process doesn't matter if it isn't internal first.

    This feels like the crux of your misunderstanding. Many people don't approach life from that perspective. Speaking as someone with debilitating executive function issues, I would never do anything except eat and drink with that outlook. Nothing productive feels gratifying in itself except for some exercises and maybe making art. When I do the dishes, the only positive feeling is "well, that wasn't horrible, and thank god it doesn't need to be done anymore." Even cooking a meal for myself is tedious and feels pointless, whether the recipe is novel and interesting or an old stand-by.

    Yeah, I'm on the extreme of these sorts of issues, but it's not just a minority feeling. Most of the specific examples you list can be explained as either degrees of that kind of dysfunctional reward system, or can be similarly modeled as dysfunctional social systems.

    11 votes
  9. Comment on What are you confused by? in ~talk

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    The way I think about this is to (probably overly) reduce it down to the words' direct meanings. Capitalism is to put the preservation and cultivation of capital, material value, on the very top...

    The way I think about this is to (probably overly) reduce it down to the words' direct meanings. Capitalism is to put the preservation and cultivation of capital, material value, on the very top of the hierarchy of importance, while socialism is to center focus on society at large.

    Beyond that, things get spicy. You can say socialists, in general, aim for egalitarian distribution of resources, without discrimination, while capitalists aim for a general surplus of them, even if they are concentrated along political or socioeconomic class lines. Socialists will critique this by outlining "the myth of meritocracy" and the injustice inherent in a system allowing for resource concentration, and capitalists will snap back that the alternatives are either true destitution due to a lack of motive for productivity, or a centrally-planned dystopia.

    why do Americans hate socialists so badly

    The main reason for that is decades of propaganda conflating communism (the broad set of ideologies) with Soviet-style communism, which is then conflated with socialism. From there, socialism in public discourse becomes a dirty word, implying secret (totalitarian) communist intent. The final step, as you alluded to, is to conflate capitalism with American Patriotism, and socialism with Foreign Treason. It's mostly a problem of misinformation and poor general political education that allows that degree of perversion.


    PS: American Capitalism

    To many, if not most, US citizens, capitalism means not just "money important", but also the entire concept of market economies, and laissez-faire regulation, not just in economics, but in life. Some people here will tell you gun ownership is an integral facet of capitalism, or that it means accepting externalities as inevitabilities, or low taxes, or paying for healthcare. To fewer, they'll say abortion is anticapitalist, or that corruption in politics is an avenue for the truly successful to properly influence government. Capitalism is freedom. This is why it's impossible to meaningfully discuss it with most Americans. It means everything.

    8 votes
  10. Comment on Protests over death of George Floyd disrupt Minneapolis, and beyond in ~news

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    It's coming to a head following a decade (for privileged folks) of public debate over unnecessary force used by police across the nation. I suppose the demand would be "indict those police...

    It's coming to a head following a decade (for privileged folks) of public debate over unnecessary force used by police across the nation. I suppose the demand would be "indict those police officers", but in general, many people want systemic changes to prevent these legal murders in the future.

    16 votes
  11. Comment on What's your favorite defunct website? in ~talk

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    I'm sorry to break the terrible news.

    I'm sorry to break the terrible news.

  12. Comment on What's something that's better than expected? in ~talk

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    Is it roasted and salted? Even if it is, peanut butter is a very divisive taste, filling your mouth and nose with richness and overpowering almost anything else. I love it, but totally see why...

    Is it roasted and salted? Even if it is, peanut butter is a very divisive taste, filling your mouth and nose with richness and overpowering almost anything else. I love it, but totally see why it's not as popular outside of the US, where it's often one of the first foods kids are exposed to. It's just so cheap per healthy calorie.

    Tangent: there's a myth that most US peanut butter is loaded with sugar, and that's why we like it. Sure, in the cheapest available, it's about 3 g sugar to every 32 g peanut butter. However, that's hardly enough to offset most of the flavour, and most people I know prefer versions with no sugar added anyway.

    4 votes
  13. Comment on What's your favorite defunct website? in ~talk

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    I used purple.com as my internet connection test my entire life. Literally, it was one of the first websites I was exposed to by my father. It was a blank purple page. Then the god-damned mattress...

    I used purple.com as my internet connection test my entire life. Literally, it was one of the first websites I was exposed to by my father. It was a blank purple page. Then the god-damned mattress company comes along, and steals this beautiful piece of the universe. Disgusting.

    6 votes
  14. Comment on Lockdown productivity: Spaceship you in ~life

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    TL;DW: Just keep swimming. Or else. It's really easy to fall into woe in times of isolation, and CGP Grey is here with a video to help us all keep up the momentum. His emphasis on using physical...

    TL;DW: Just keep swimming. Or else.

    It's really easy to fall into woe in times of isolation, and CGP Grey is here with a video to help us all keep up the momentum. His emphasis on using physical exercise to jump start other motivations is a key point that I don't see mentioned enough in these types of discussions. Just getting down to do some pushups can really quiet the anxious mind and help clarify mental blocks.

    4 votes
  15. Comment on Let's talk music to sleep to in ~music

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    Easy answer: Mort Garson - Mother Earth's Plantasia The more recent trend in hip-hop/trap of simple melodic loops has been a blessing for this purpose, too. Stuff like Drip Too Hard, for example.

    Easy answer:
    Mort Garson - Mother Earth's Plantasia

    The more recent trend in hip-hop/trap of simple melodic loops has been a blessing for this purpose, too. Stuff like Drip Too Hard, for example.

    1 vote
  16. Comment on Why can’t I commit to a hobby? in ~hobbies

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    In addition to @kodystriplin's response: I wouldn't call that hypothetical person's agenda intense. It includes the minimum daily habits to thrive, along with a 'normal' level of daily work.

    In addition to @kodystriplin's response:

    I wouldn't call that hypothetical person's agenda intense. It includes the minimum daily habits to thrive, along with a 'normal' level of daily work.

    4 votes
  17. Comment on Why can’t I commit to a hobby? in ~hobbies

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    At the same time, if you don't commit to a hobby in some way, you never get good enough at it to gain joy from it. Say you're a somewhat busy person, if 14-16 hours of your day are taken up by...

    At the same time, if you don't commit to a hobby in some way, you never get good enough at it to gain joy from it. Say you're a somewhat busy person, if 14-16 hours of your day are taken up by work + normal chores (basic personal/home hygiene, commuting, exercise, eating, etc.), and another 6-8 are made up of sleep, that leaves 4 hours of truly free time, max. If you have roughly normal levels of 'willpower'/motivation, then you'll probably have the energy to spend 2 of those hours with an mentally intensive hobby before you need to switch to a less energetically costly habit. And that's if you're sleep-efficient, and don't have a time-expensive job, or kids or other family who rely on you.

    Therefore, this hypothetical person is in a time crunch that necessitates their hobbies either be low-energy, or a true passion of theirs. However, most people don't develop a passion without time spent on the object. Sure, knitting works well for them, but what if they want to develop a more actively-practiced skill?

    13 votes