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  1. Comment on Matt Damon says Netflix wants movies to restate the 'plot three or four times in the dialogue' because viewers are on 'their phones while they're watching' in ~movies

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    So it was insane watching the discourse around Apple TV's Pluribus in just how rampant people not paying attention is. Pluribus is one of the few modern shows that doesn't hand feed the plot to...

    So it was insane watching the discourse around Apple TV's Pluribus in just how rampant people not paying attention is.

    Pluribus is one of the few modern shows that doesn't hand feed the plot to viewers, and had a lot of world building and plot details scattered throughout trivial dialogue and throw-away lines and background stuff. It doesn't HIDE those details and personally I wouldn't consider those details subtle, but it also doesn't beat you across the head with plot details in unnatural unrealistic expositional dialogue in contrast with other modern shows.

    So I was shocked and appalled looking at online discourse around Pluribus. I used to be around when LOST was being discussed and I remember the deep theories and people digging into every line of the show and every background image. Pluribus was NOTHING like that, it felt like some people were watching an entirely different show, like people were discussing theories multiple comment threads deep where the dialogue entirely discredited everything, with not a single person mentioning it.

    I had people argue with me about stuff where I had to literally find the transcript and post the actual dialogue and spell it out for them.

    People were posting theories like "If the hivemind can't lie, then why are they lying about being aliens and they don't they share the memories of previous planets with Carol?" An entire thread of a dozen or so comments discussing this and not a single person mentioned how the guy on the TV IN THE FIRST EPISODE explained the premise and exact constraints of the virus. And I had to copy and paste the entire dialogue exchange in the first episode where they explicitly explain that because people were like "It came from space, it's an alien," and they somehow missed the entire part of the first 5 minutes showing that the DNA sequence was transmitted and then re-created by humans, and the last five minutes where the Hivemind ITSELF explains what it is and how it's not technically an "alien". People still argued with me and I had to be like "Dude, I didn't write the show. I'm just posting exactly what the show itself said."

    Then when someone asked "If the hivemind can't hurt any living beings, then how did the infected rat bite the scientist?" Again, same thing, dozens of comments discussing it and not a SINGLE person mentioning how on Air Force One when the survivors met they talked about the Hivemind releasing animals and some hivemind bodies being attacked and mauled by those animals insinuating they can't infect animals, and animals aren't part of the hivemind because the animals attacked the hivemind. I explain this and have people arguing with me "Well then how did it infect the scientist then, huh?" And I then had to explain how an animal can be a carrier of a virus without being affected by it and explained the Black Death and how disease spreads through rats.

    And then again when Carol called Manousos the first time on the plane when he kept blowing her off and she cursed him out, people didn't understand that he thought Carol was part of the Hivemind at first.

    I had people say "Well, I'm not spending all my time rewatching and obsessing over every detail in this show" and I'm like dude I watched it once, casually, several days ago. Christ.

    Frankly I hadn't been in those kind of discussion spaces in a very long time, but they were NEVER like that before. Sure, there are always crackpot theories, but not ones where the show itself completely discredits the entire theory concept.

    Discussing Pluribus made me 100% understand the thought process behind these Netflix executives. I don't agree with them, if anything I'm just mad at people for being the statistic that has caused a lot of shows to be dumbed down, but boy was it obvious.

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  2. Comment on Tech Oversight Report: Unsealed court documents show teen addiction was Meta, Google, Snap, and TikTok's top priority in ~tech

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    I mean the other issue is that at least in the US where most of these companies reside, it's a gerontocracy of elderly and non-technical representatives and lawmakers who barely know how to open a...

    I mean the other issue is that at least in the US where most of these companies reside, it's a gerontocracy of elderly and non-technical representatives and lawmakers who barely know how to open a PDF without assistant of their staff, much less the intricacies and theory of social media algorithms and design. They just have their lobbyists whispering crap into their ears about what to regulate.

    It's not just social media either. We've got lawmakers trying to get 3D Printer(and CNC) software to detect and refuse to print gun parts without even a tangible clue that that's not how these machines work in the slightest. The printer software isn't smart, it just reads a complex coordinate system tied to different motors, and even if they went for the slicer software it's open source and has no ties to any kind of localities. It might hit Bambu printers that have a lot of closed source connectivity, but still ultimately ineffective. This isn't even getting into the logistics of what's considered a gun part and how you even try to detect it.

    I digress, lol.

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  3. Comment on Creative people with ADHD: how do you handle execution and follow-through when doing small business work for yourself? I feel like I need to hire a business partner or assistant. in ~creative

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    Oh man reading your comment, watching that video, and reading the comments on that video are all extremely validating as someone who also has Autism as well as ADHD. So I'm 100% convinced I'm...

    Oh man reading your comment, watching that video, and reading the comments on that video are all extremely validating as someone who also has Autism as well as ADHD.

    So I'm 100% convinced I'm probably going through autistic burnout right now. Part of the reason I'm a bit desperate to be self employed is a really bad string of jobs and employment over the past 6 years has beaten me to a pulp, but as I said one of the hurdles to being self employed is that if I have to do everything I'll probably stay burned out. Designing things and being creative is healing to me and I feel like if I could be able to live off of that I'd be much happier.

    But I'm curious if you have any resources to help with autistic burnout. I'm not sure where to start

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  4. Comment on Creative people with ADHD: how do you handle execution and follow-through when doing small business work for yourself? I feel like I need to hire a business partner or assistant. in ~creative

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    Thank you so much for this advice and the validation. Like genuinely this is really solid things to think about and answers questions I didn't even know I had yet. I did have a few follow up...

    Thank you so much for this advice and the validation. Like genuinely this is really solid things to think about and answers questions I didn't even know I had yet.

    I did have a few follow up questions though.

    1. Could you expand on the % ownership being tied to vesting? As I'm looking for partners, compensation and higher level things like this is something I'm concerned about. A bit related to that, when talking to potential partners about some of these ideas, do you have any advice on how to make sure they don't walk away with the idea?
    2. So thinking about this gives me a bit of pause, because I feel like I have a lot of ideas and they all have pros and cons, some need no startup costs but little opportunity for growth, others have high startup costs but have high opportunity for growth. Like on one end it'd be great to have someone help out with booths and selling, another is partners on a traveling experiential installation.
    3. Luckily I have family who do taxes, so I have very easy access to these kinds of resources.
    4. Also luckily I actually have professional experience in most of the things I have ideas about, so I have a good idea about what it's actually like operating in these spaces and the pros and cons and hurdles associated with it.
    5. I've thought about a kickstarter for the 3D Printable product idea with Patreon licensing tiers. Luckily that is not something that requires us to print products as the only mode of sales, the 3D models can be sold individually on sites like Cults3D, or bulk with a resale permit so others can print and sell at booths or to local stores. And no it's not like dragons or anything like that, it's something much more functional and novel that fills a niche outside of typical 3D printing slop.

    Ok outside of 1, that ended up being less questions and more responses. haha

    But if I have any more questions I'll reach out! Thank you for this.

  5. Creative people with ADHD: how do you handle execution and follow-through when doing small business work for yourself? I feel like I need to hire a business partner or assistant.

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    I’m a highly creative person with strong execution skills on the makers side of things, design, fabrication, ideation, problem-solving. Where I consistently fall down is follow-through when...

    I’m a highly creative person with strong execution skills on the makers side of things, design, fabrication, ideation, problem-solving. Where I consistently fall down is follow-through when working solo: logistics, setup, listings, shipping, scheduling, the last-mile admin that turns finished work into something that actually exists in the world.

    I have a lot of very good monetizable ideas and skills, and I LOVE the creative part, but I just flounder at the rest.

    I've joked in the past about needing a manager, someone who tells me what to make and how much of it, and I just make the deadlines and they ship, but more and more recently I've realized that might be exactly what I need.

    Recently I've been doing some free design and branding work for a local indigenous restaurant and despite not getting paid for it, I LOVED doing it. And I've been getting asked about why I don't do it for other businesses too, as I have the experience and skills to, and it's like I would but the freelance aspect of having to find my own clients and stuff is just daunting.

    And same thing with a couple ideas I've had that utilize 3D Printing and 3D design. I have a product idea that would fit a perfect niche that isn't currently being filled by any big players, as well as a monetization and resale license plan, but it's the execution.

    When left to my own devices I kind of just fizzle out.

    And I have a lot of designs and artwork that can absolutely translate to clothing and apparel, and I used to have a very active redbubble / society6 presence.

    Like I know body-doubling is a really good ADHD hack that works, but I'm not sure how to body double something like this, but I would if I could.

    So I guess I'm asking if anyone else has had to deal with this or if anyone has had to hire a creative partner/assistant/manager, and if so how'd that go and what is that like? Also where do I even go to find a person like that?

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  6. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I just recently started playing Cult of the Lamb after looking for a cozy game that I can latch my ADHD onto when my executive function is having issues. I'm liking it so far, however it's not...

    I just recently started playing Cult of the Lamb after looking for a cozy game that I can latch my ADHD onto when my executive function is having issues.

    I'm liking it so far, however it's not exactly what I thought it was. I think I've gotten the hang of it but I feel like I'm missing some mechanics.

    I like the artstyle, but I do wish there was an option that could make it ever so slightly less positive.

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  7. Comment on Self-identified autistic people tend to have the same traits as diagnosed autistic people in ~health

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    I mean if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck and you can treat it like a duck. You don't always need a duck expert to go in and officially designate it a duck. And to...

    I mean if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck and you can treat it like a duck. You don't always need a duck expert to go in and officially designate it a duck.

    And to be clear, I have been diagnosed, but was 'self diagnosed' for a couple years before that.

    I think the thing a lot of people miss about self diagnosis is that a the end of the day it's about symptom relief, at least it was for me. Meaning it was about finding coping skills and understanding why I was the way I was. I didn't need a doctor to tell me I was autistic to be able to relate to a lot of information about autism, and use some of the coping strategies used by people with autism.

    I just happened to get diagnosed when I was at a good union job with a great insurance plan that also tested for autism at the same time as testing for ADHD several years ago when I was trying to get medicated for ADHD. Psychiatrist said why not and just signed me up for both. At the time I was having issues at this job due to ADHD symptoms that had gotten a lot worse and my psych figured the autism diagnosis might help with that. It didn't, the business tried to make me quit by making my life hell by micromanaging and criticizing all my work, and after I wrote some custom automation software built around their exact criticisms to fix everything they were criticizing me for, they got frustrated went nuclear and ended up straight up lying to the union and the teamsters union took their side despite breaking multiple things in our CBA and ignoring the doctor's note I had gotten from my psych.

    I digress, haha

    It's like, if it helps, it helps.

    I generally don't take issue with people self diagnosing unless they use their diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior. And by bad behavior I mean emotional disregulation with no attempted coping skills(sensory meltdowns are different), not like perceived communication issues or non-neurotypical behavior.

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  8. Comment on German chain Aldi bets big on cheaper groceries as US shoppers feel squeezed in ~finance

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    I'm confused, are you saying that there are no Aldis in the US and that Aldis actually operates under Aldi Nord under the Trader Joes names? If so I can tell you we definitely have actual Aldis...

    I'm confused, are you saying that there are no Aldis in the US and that Aldis actually operates under Aldi Nord under the Trader Joes names?

    If so I can tell you we definitely have actual Aldis and Trader Joes here, sometimes next door to each other.

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  9. Comment on What are your favorite home remedies or comforts when you're sick? in ~health

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    So this is my sick routine, less of a single remedy and more of a routine. And I literally just did this last night. Now none of this is medical advice, it's just what my crazy ass does. The...

    So this is my sick routine, less of a single remedy and more of a routine. And I literally just did this last night. Now none of this is medical advice, it's just what my crazy ass does.

    The moment I feel a bit sick I do this:

    1. I pull a hot bath together. And I mean as hot as I can reasonably bear.
    2. I make some chicken noodle soup, tea, and a mug of plain hot water, and I take a multivitamin with it.
    3. I use a thermometer to check my temperature before I get in the bath.
    4. I will eat the chicken noodle soup, hot tea, and sip on hot water as I take the hot bath, monitoring my temperature closely.
    5. I'll pull my extremities in and out of the hot bath as needed to keep my temperature around 101°F-102°F and kind of as feels good.
    6. I'll keep this up for around 45 minutes to an hour.
    7. I'll take some nighttime theraflu and some ZZquill about 15 minutes before I get out.
    8. Put some heavy pajamas on, and climb into bed under a bunch of blankets. Hopefully by this time the Theraflu and zzquill kicks in.
    9. And 9 times out of 10 I'll wake up feeling a lot better.

    And of course I'm drinking water like no other.

    This has worked for me incredibly well over the years. The idea is that I'm inducing an artificial fever to raise my body temperature up so my body doesn't have to expend that energy to raise it, and that it creates an adequately hostile environment.

    I've been told it's dangerous, but frankly people get higher body temperatures in saunas and jacuzzi's and they're not even monitoring their internal body temps.

    Not a single person has been able to give me good answer as to why a hot bath is dangerous while a jacuzzi or hot sauna isn't dangerous, the only difference being my intent to raise the body temperature. And not a single person has been able to tell me why this wouldn't work in theory.

    But it works and I do get noticeable results. If it doesn't kick the sickness completely, then it greatly reduces it's severity and length.

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  10. Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative

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    I hope it's ok to double post because I have a few more projects I've taken on and don't have many people to tell. So first, I ended up completely redoing the Dungeon Crawler CarL Samantha metal...

    I hope it's ok to double post because I have a few more projects I've taken on and don't have many people to tell.

    So first, I ended up completely redoing the Dungeon Crawler CarL Samantha metal shirt. This time I did it completely by hand first, and adjusted a metal band font.

    I am also thinking of getting a heat press for sublimation and DTF for shirt making. Do I need another ADHD hobby purchase that I will promise myself I'll one day monetize?

    And lastly I've been helping a small Indigenous owned restaurant in Seattle with their branding and design. They remodeled for a couple months and they've lost a lot of business since they reopened. I'm also doing it completely free of charge with no strings attached and leveraging my contacts in printing to get them the best prices for printing.

    I've worked with huge brands and licensing when in the entertainment industry, and also in the art department where we had to often convert entire restaurants and storefronts with fictional cleared branding, so I've got a lot of experience with that.

    Anyways since the US isn't exactly something to be proud of right now, I've taken some conscious time to learn about the struggles of minorities, last thanksgiving I went to a cabin resort on native land with no wifi and just spent the weekend reading and hiking with no cell phone. It's given me a lot to think about and I definitely don't want to be part of the problems that these groups are faced with.

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  11. Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative

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    Thank you for that! I'll start using those. Might have to look into something that has an account so I can control the takedown of the image if I need to.

    Thank you for that! I'll start using those. Might have to look into something that has an account so I can control the takedown of the image if I need to.

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  12. Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative

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    Hmmm. What's a better host? I'm actually not a big fan of imgur myself, but it's the easiest I know of to just upload and link to. Here's a google drive link to the jpg, so this should work.

    Hmmm. What's a better host? I'm actually not a big fan of imgur myself, but it's the easiest I know of to just upload and link to.

    Here's a google drive link to the jpg, so this should work.

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  14. Comment on What’s a point that you think many people missed? in ~talk

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    So I know how this sounds but, as someone on the autism spectrum I really do think I'm immune to most marketing, algorithms, and bias framing, because I am CONSTANTLY seeing and noticing those...

    So I know how this sounds but, as someone on the autism spectrum I really do think I'm immune to most marketing, algorithms, and bias framing, because I am CONSTANTLY seeing and noticing those kinds of things and factoring them into my perception of reality.

    I just don't naturally form opinions or thoughts blindly based on anything, there's always thought that goes into every thought and decision I make, and it doesn't take any effort whatsoever to critically filter anything. It's just a sense I have like situational awareness, and it comes as naturally as just basic thought and processing.

    I guess it's my pattern recognition but I'm able to notice differences in my algorithms, and because of that I've opted to have a lot of control over those algorithms and to disrupt those algorithms as much as possible for myself.

    And I deliberately expose myself to alternative biases on a regular basis to form complete opinions on things. The opinions I have are entirely my own and are not based on a group of people I identify with or people I agree with, in fact I am often disagreeing with them about a lot of things as well.

    I have always been interested in HOW things work, so it's also allowed me to immediately sniff out bullshit in the form of marketing and propaganda. Like around COVID I was able to sidestep a lot of misinformation and stuff because I already knew how viruses worked, how vaccines work, how the immune system works, and about the properties of masks.

    Even when it comes down to marketing and brand recognition, I don't use any of those to factor into my opinion at all, if I am looking for a product I do intensive research into the product and basically ignore the marketing. I look for actual people reviews, I am aware if the person is getting paid to review, I am aware that sometimes people leave horrible reviews when they feel slighted or disappointed.

    Recent examples is that I was trying to find "cooling" sheets because I run hot at night, but most sheets define "cooling" as "breathable" or "moisture wicking" but also ignore the fact that if you use a comforter or blanket that's not breathable it negates the "breathable" claim and if you're sweating enough for "moisture wicking" to be relevant that it's not actually cooling. Real cooling is about heat dissipation and heat retention in the fabric, which will work no matter if you have a comforter or blanket on.

    Another example was I was looking for some scents to throw into my laundry to make my clothes and sheets smell a bit nicer. I got really frustrated because not a single laundry scent additive explained what it actually smelled like. They all said stuff like "Tropical" which smelled "Fresh" and "Sunny". WTF does "Sunny" smell like? Or what does "Lush" or "Clean" smell like?

    I'm not saying any of this to toot my own horn, but it's definitely been eye opening realizing how many people blindly form opinions on things without really knowing why. All of my thoughts and reasoning have been openly clear to me. I don't form opinions then justify them like a lot of people seem to do.

    I remember getting into arguments with my grandmother when I was a kid where we'd watch a movie and I'd ask her why she didn't like it, and she just had no answers, it was just "I didn't like it, why do I need to have a reason," and that literally never made sense to me, but now I understand she just kind of blindly reacted on emotion. Which was incomprehensible to me at the time.

  15. Comment on What’s a point that you think many people missed? in ~talk

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    How political can we get here? lol RE: The multiple narratives around Renee Nicole Good I think a lot of people on either side of the divide, the media, politicians, and especially conservatives,...

    How political can we get here? lol

    RE: The multiple narratives around Renee Nicole Good

    I think a lot of people on either side of the divide, the media, politicians, and especially conservatives, have lost the plot about this entire scenario and it's driving me insane and not just because of the obvious reasons about her murder.

    First off, obviously the US is so divided that we can have two sets of people look at the same exact video and get entirely different readings. That's obviously an issue, and it's an issue that stems from different views on morality and justification. The same way a lot of people on the left didn't see an issue with Charlie Kirk's murder, people on the right feel the same way about Renee Nicole Good.

    I'm not saying I agree with that comparison or that I am saying it's the same, just that it's how the two groups of people see it.

    The problem is that the left is caught up in arguing about the morality of her murder and how it wasn't justified, and the right is caught up arguing that she put the officer in danger and was acting aggressively and he was defending himself.

    HOWEVER, the angle that nobody seems to be talking about that is driving me up the wall and kind of proves it's own point is the fact that no matter what moral projection or defensive justification you project onto this situation, practically, the ICE officer shooting her was a bad call and endangered himself and everyone around him. Like literally no matter how you look at it.

    If you dig into it with conservatives, they say that he shot her in self defense. To defend yourself is to prevent harm to yourself. However nobody seems to be talking about the simple fact that shooting her wouldn't have stopped the car at all and it's plain as day.

    When the ICE officer shot Renee, her body tensed up and she floored her gas pedal and accelerated into the parked car down the street. This is a well known natural reaction to someone being killed in this manner, their body often tenses and goes rigid.

    This fact alone in itself proves that shooting her would NOT have stopped the car even if she'd been deliberately trying to hit him. Like he actually shot her so we saw exactly what would have happened if she'd been aimed at him.

    It was not a proper self defensive action as it would not have put himself in less danger.

    This is why law enforcement is taught about shooting people in cars, that the moment you kill a driver, their car becomes unpredictable, so you're always supposed to use caution when firing on vehicles. This was not one of those moments.

    If the car down the street had not been there, her car could have plowed into one of the homes, a bystander down the street, or another ICE officer.

    He did not in any way shape or form make himself or any other officer in the area safer by shooting at her while she was in a moving vehicle pointed at him. Again, this isn't about angles or motivations, it's about law enforcement training, the same law enforcement conservatives are supposed to be defending.

    So therefor it was a bad call even if everything conservatives said about her and the situation was true.

    And a common response I get from conservatives was that the officer panicked and had a split second to make a judgement call, and again the entire reason we are supposed to train law enforcement is that we don't want officers to fall back on reactionary automatic responses in stressful situations, that does nobody any good, we want them to fall back on their training, which is the entire point of training.

    The other thing is is that conservatives talk about how Renee put herself into that situation, but the ICE officer saw another officer struggling with a moving vehicle by attempting to grab the wheel, then placed himself in front of the vehicle. Again, that was a bad call on his part.

    Anyways, I expose myself a lot to conservative spaces and try to dip in whenever I see an opportunity to disrupt some of their circular and reactionary narratives, this has been one of those opportunities.

    I've had really good success using this logic to sidestep the typical narratives and really leave conservatives with very few solid argumentative options. In fact I've had a lot of success getting conservatives to agree with this logic, especially when bringing up law enforcement training and gun safety. It also really exposes the extremists that parrot narratives in those spaces because it pulls the rug out from the typical argumentative scripts they use to both rile up conservatives and argue in circles with the left.

    The problem is that I don't see anyone else making this argument. I feel like the only one, not only in conservative spaces, but other spaces too. And it sucks because I'm getting success in arguing about it in this way and getting a surprising amount of conservatives to kind of snap out of their reactionary defense of him and admit that he shouldn't have shot her even if she'd been aggressive or whatever, but I have not seen anyone else doing this successfully, and haven't seen any mainstream media talk about the situation like this. And I can only do so much.

    Anyways, if this is too political or controversial, feel free to delete this or let me know and I'll delete it. Not trying to start arguments but it did fit the description of the topic and has been on my mind recently.

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  16. Comment on How have you changed in the last year? What are your goals for this year? in ~life

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    Ooof. Tough question to face. Unfortunately I have, and I don't think I've changed in a good way to be honest. I've been through a lot and frankly I'm tired and I feel like I've prioritized...

    Ooof. Tough question to face.

    Unfortunately I have, and I don't think I've changed in a good way to be honest. I've been through a lot and frankly I'm tired and I feel like I've prioritized immediate dopamine hits over long term stability. I think it's been a compounding problem since the pandemic shutdown in 2020 and my subsequent Furlough and Layoff from my dream job at The Walt Disney Company, then falling out with my best friend, and a string of awful jobs and awful companies, and of course the increasingly volatile political atmosphere here in the US.

    So I try not to be too hard on myself, but I am FAR from how effective and on top of things I was up to 2020.

    However, with that being said, as far as my goal for the year, I think my #1 top goal is to improve my "discipline", but in a particular way.

    I recently saw a couple clips from Chase Hughes on the podcast "Diaries of a CEO", and something that he said about "Discipline" struck me and really resonated with me because I had basically come up with this on my own years ago, but I feel like this is something I've lost after 2020.

    Here's a link to the particular part where he talks about discipline, but the whole episode was great too.

    You see, I figured out this exact philosophy back in the day, but I didn't consider it discipline, I considered it a brain hack. To basically see yourself as 3 different people, your past self, present self, and future self. A lot of people who I saw as "stuck" were only serving their present self and were basically leaving their future self to clean up the mess their present self left, and silently curse their past self. Aaaand that's pretty much where I'm at now, and didn't even realize it until I saw Chase talking about it.

    The thing I figured out is that if you could do the opposite of that, to have your present self serve and help your future self, so your future self can thank your past self for taking care of it, that you'd be much happier.

    And I think that worked so well. I attribute that attitude to a lot of my success up to this point.

    However as I said, I lost that and got off the path at some point. I've been almost entirely serving my present self for the past few years, looking for instant dopamine hits and leaving things I should do to the last minute or neglecting things until it becomes stressful. I need to stop doing that.

    I have a lot of respect for Chase Hughes, so when he basically outlined EXACTLY what I had figured out on my own so many years ago, I took that as a sign that maybe I should get back on that horse.

    I have a massive interest in body language and have been following Chase Hughes for years as he's a part of a YouTube channel called The Behavior Panel where they break down behavior and body language of public figures and criminals to give opinions on if they're lying. As someone who's autistic and ADHD, I've found some of their insights invaluable for navigating life.

    Edit: Re-read the comment and just want to mention I'm not trying to shill for anyone. I don't regularly listen to the Diary of a CEO podcast, but watched that one because Chase Hughes was on it. And the Behavior Panel's a great fun YouTube channel if you're into that sort of thing, and I guess I just wanted to illustrate that I'd been following Chase previously to seeing him on the podcast, so I don't think he's some self help hack or anything. lol

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  17. Comment on Avengers: Doomsday | Fantastic Four and Wakanda teaser in ~movies

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    I don't speak for everyone, but to me the best thing about the MCU is less about the individual characters and more about the shared universe and the way the characters interact with each other...

    I don't speak for everyone, but to me the best thing about the MCU is less about the individual characters and more about the shared universe and the way the characters interact with each other and effect the characters have with the shared universe as a whole.

    Also, in my opinion the restoration thing is just about getting good coherent movies again.

    The great thing about the Infinity Saga, is that every movie could stand on its own AND fit into a larger mutli-movie arch plan at the same time.

    Everything after the Infinity Saga either hasn't had a coherent multi-movie "plan" or they've shelved one plan for another. And frankly some of the movies barely stand on their own.

    And finally, this might answer your question more than everything else I've siad, but imo they've failed to create staple group of post-infinity saga characters to serve as the core and backbone of the stories. They've gone off in so many directions, that it feels like every character is just a side character or one of the B-list heroes.

    If they had created some movies where some characters actually stepped up to fill in the void left by the pre-infinity saga heroes disbanding, instead of just sort of dancing around it, I think it would have been much better.

    Tldr: I just want better movies with a coherent mutli-movie arch.

    20 votes

  18. Comment on There’s no such thing as a fake feather in ~hobbies

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    It's absolutely wild to me anyone thought these were fake. So one of the benefits of taking such an interest in like how things work, how things are produced, and just knowledgeable about the...

    It's absolutely wild to me anyone thought these were fake.

    So one of the benefits of taking such an interest in like how things work, how things are produced, and just knowledgeable about the general properties of things, it has let me from a very young age clue into things like this even when I never had first hand knowledge.

    Like I never even considered they might be fake because of so many thought processes that confirmed they were most likely real. All from a very young age simply because I was super interested in how things worked and why.

    First off, I had played with real peacock feathers and crow feathers when I was a kid. I specifically remember the keratin like hollow tube of the feathers. The craft feathers were smaller but had the same feature.

    Second, I couldn't think of a manufacturering process that made sense to produce craft feathers, when real feathers and dye are so readily available.

    Third, when using Elmer's glue and craft feathers, the dye came out and colored the glue. Real feathers wouldn't do that.

    2 votes

  19. Comment on Is there a way to donate or give unused ADHD medication to people in need? in ~health.mental

    CrypticCuriosity629
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    Frankly as an anarchist and knowing how difficult it is for many people, especially in the US, to get diagnosed and medicated with the medical industry the way it is, legality would be the least...

    Frankly as an anarchist and knowing how difficult it is for many people, especially in the US, to get diagnosed and medicated with the medical industry the way it is, legality would be the least of my worries if I was in OP's shoes.

    Plus, there's some people who get so stuck that they can't keep a job without meds, but can't afford meds without a job.

    I'd be more worried about giving stimulants to someone with a heart condition.

    13 votes

  20. Comment on Recruiter harassed me whilst off sick. Considering filing a complaint. How best to handle this? in ~life

    CrypticCuriosity629
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    I'm sorry you're going through this, but yeah that's very unprofessional. Sounds to me like he has major insecurity issues coupled with paranoia and poor emotional regulation that has leaked into...

    I'm sorry you're going through this, but yeah that's very unprofessional.

    Sounds to me like he has major insecurity issues coupled with paranoia and poor emotional regulation that has leaked into his work life.

    I bet he does the same to the women in his life when they don't text back immediately.

    As others have said, tell him to pound sand and make it clear that you weren't even thinking about leaving until he accused you.

    He's not the only recruiter at that company, so if it were me I'd try to call his boss and request another recruiter to be your point of contact and show them the texts.

    It'd be hilarious if it wasn't so pitiful how people like this create their own self-fulfilling prophecies and literally cause the one thing that has them so paranoid to begin with. Seriously it baffles me how some people don't take emotional regulation seriously and just let themselves destroy their lives.

    5 votes