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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentWelp I sure hope you're right. I'm going to digging into people because the alternative is giving up and becoming a social hermit.Welp I sure hope you're right. I'm going to digging into people because the alternative is giving up and becoming a social hermit.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentHuh... definitely one to take note of. I cannot believe how frequently I look at bios and my first thought is 'wine is not an interest,'I know there are not this many sommeliers in my area I'll be...Huh... definitely one to take note of.
I cannot believe how frequently I look at bios and my first thought is 'wine is not an interest,'I know there are not this many sommeliers in my area
I'll be disappointed if that's as common on Tinder as I've found it to be on Bumble.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentGood response, thanks for typing all that out. Tinder is next on my list to try, in large part due to it's perception of having a large and diverse userbase. Good luck!Good response, thanks for typing all that out. Tinder is next on my list to try, in large part due to it's perception of having a large and diverse userbase. Good luck!
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link Parentvery good username o7very good username o7
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Fanfiction Link Parentthe new final fantasy looks pretty good ngl ;~;Currently the game is only out for PS4/PS5
the new final fantasy looks pretty good ngl ;~;
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentThat's been suggested to me many times and I'm more than willing to entertain the idea that the world is secretly full of interesting people, but unfortunately every 'normal' person I've gotten to...That's been suggested to me many times and I'm more than willing to entertain the idea that the world is secretly full of interesting people, but unfortunately every 'normal' person I've gotten to know on the bet of having hidden depths was in fact exactly as they appeared.
I know that comes across as incredibly stuck up, and I'm gonna keep trying, but at this point I'm not really holding out hope and suspect that all the books and movies were in fact just wrong and most people that seem shallow actually are.
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Comment on People who have attempted suicide, what prevented you from going through with it? in ~health.mental
Fanfiction LinkNot strictly speaking someone who's "attempted," but I have done the equivalent of sitting at the table with the loaded shotgun and weighing my options. At the end of the day, the math was simple...Not strictly speaking someone who's "attempted," but I have done the equivalent of sitting at the table with the loaded shotgun and weighing my options.
At the end of the day, the math was simple - sure life is hard and sucks, but it's not like you're going to be somehow more dead if you opt out now than if you stick it out for a couple more decades to see how your dice fall. What's another 60-80 years compared to the eternity of not existing you'll get either way? About as close to zero as it gets. There's a chance things will turn around - people with a lot more years under their belt than me almost all tell me that life is more unpredictable than not. Might as well ride it out and see if things get interesting. At least you'll be able to tell yourself you gave it your best shot.
Maybe more importantly, there are much better ways to throw your life away than simply killing yourself. In some ways having nothing to lose is a unique opportunity - you have options available to you that 'normal' people would never consider. You can do whatever you want. If you're going to kill yourself, kill yourself doing something nobody else has the guts to even attempt.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentCongrats on the success! I am probably a bit pickier than you were - I was prompted to ask this question because both of the apps I've tried this far seem to be dominated by a specific archetype...Congrats on the success!
I am probably a bit pickier than you were - I was prompted to ask this question because both of the apps I've tried this far seem to be dominated by a specific archetype and it's frustrating to swipe left through so many very similar profiles in a row.
Bumble is 40-60% dominated by people I would describe as 'normal in a bad way' you know what I'm just going to copy/paste my paragraph from another comment - profiles I could mistake for the same person - works for a tech firm, HR or nursing, hobbies are Gym/Yoga, Dogs, Wine, Travel, Clubs/Bars. Practically nothing on their profile, five nearly identical selfies, maybe a nod to reality television or true crime.
Hinge, meanwhile, has populated my standard feed 80-90% (I'm not kidding with these percentages) with people who are noticeably overweight, to put it delicately. I'm no supermodel and I don't mind some curves, especially given that the US isn't exactly the healthiest country, but the ratio makes me think this is either something the algorithm is doing for some reason or something distinct about the type of person using hinge.
The hinge algorithm does seem to be able to find people that have things is common with me, if only to hide them behind its semi-paywall - looking at the 'standouts' feed suddenly you have a bunch of average-weight people that share a bunch of my interests. I don't necessarily mind that, and there's a good chance I'll toss them $30 to use that feed.
I'm just wondering if there's some place where other nerds who take care of themselves are congregating that I should be using. I'll probably delete bumble after forwarding my contact info to the one match I found who was interesting and check out tinder or another smaller niche app, see what kind of people are on those.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentBumble for me has been no joke 40-60% profiles I could mistake for the same person - works for a tech firm, HR or nursing, hobbies are Gym/Yoga, Dogs, Wine, Travel, Clubs/Bars. Practically nothing...Bumble for me has been no joke 40-60% profiles I could mistake for the same person - works for a tech firm, HR or nursing, hobbies are Gym/Yoga, Dogs, Wine, Travel, Clubs/Bars. Practically nothing on their profile, maybe a nod to reality television or true crime. Not the kind of person I'm looking for.
Hinge has a much better UI and I like its profile system a lot better. It's algorithm seems to know who I'd be interested in, even if it uses that knowledge to lock them behind a pseudo-paywall.
Probably going to ditch bumble - maybe I'll give tinder a shot and see if it's got as broad a population here.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentI've tried both Bumble and Hinge - the noticeable difference in who I saw on the two was what made me think to wonder if other apps also had significantly different populations. I will say Hinge...I've tried both Bumble and Hinge - the noticeable difference in who I saw on the two was what made me think to wonder if other apps also had significantly different populations.
I will say Hinge has been a better experience than bumble. The UI and profile layouts are a significant step up, and their algorithm does seem to be able to figure out what profiles I'm likely to be interested in - even if it then proceeds to hide them behind a semi-paywall and fill the normal feed almost entirely with low-effort accounts.
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Comment on Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations? in ~life
Fanfiction Link Parentooh, that's a good thing to think about. I have no idea how I'd figure out which apps are most popular by region but definitely something I'll look into. As for the first bit, yeah I'm joking...ooh, that's a good thing to think about. I have no idea how I'd figure out which apps are most popular by region but definitely something I'll look into.
As for the first bit, yeah I'm joking around a bit. I do think there's a lot wrong with dating apps as a medium and their status as by far the most common method today for coupling up (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yY7JftQf9WE), but I've been on them for a couple days and I'd say my faith in humanity has seen only modest erosion. Is that something I'd trade for a much wider net of potential partners and a robot matchmaker, plus some microtransactions? Yeah, that sounds pretty good.
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Dating apps - Which apps attract what populations?
I'm finally ready to sacrifice my self esteem and faith in humanity at the altar of dating apps. My question for those of you with more experience with them is this - do different apps attract...
I'm finally ready to sacrifice my self esteem and faith in humanity at the altar of dating apps. My question for those of you with more experience with them is this - do different apps attract noticeably different pools of users? What have you noticed comparing the populations on different apps? Which wound up working best for you, if any of them did?
Any that had particular features that bothered you? I've been using Hinge for like a day and already discovered they have a separate queue for your best matches that they demand a premium currency to message :/
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Fanfiction LinkI got really into Omega Strikers for a while, but the bad matchmaking got me to quit even if the game is a ton of fun. I was routinely getting matched with people an entire bracket below me (Low...I got really into Omega Strikers for a while, but the bad matchmaking got me to quit even if the game is a ton of fun. I was routinely getting matched with people an entire bracket below me (Low plat matched with low gold) and even beyond that (got into some matches where I was paired with silvers ._.) and in a team game there's only so much you can do to carry.
I try to prioritize single-player games over the repeatable dopamine loops anyway, and I enjoyed the LoL spinoff game Mageseeker. I'm building a PC that can actually handle modern titles am really looking forward to throwing myself into some of the fantastic single-player experiences that have come out in the last couple years. Here's what my list looks like, if you've got any recommendations for what not to miss I'd love to hear them.
- Elden ring
- Spiderman
- Control
- Deathloop (I know this one's not a 10/10, I just love dishonored and think it looks neat)
- Ghost of Tsushima
- Cyberpunk, depending on how it gets updated
- Diablo 4
- That new Star Wars game looks good
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Fanfiction Link ParentOn my list to play when I get my PC that can run it assembled lol. Have you looked into whether it supports mods? I had a similar problem with Monster Hunter World - what's the point of having...On my list to play when I get my PC that can run it assembled lol. Have you looked into whether it supports mods? I had a similar problem with Monster Hunter World - what's the point of having tracking sections if you've got a cloud of glowing lights taking up half your screen with the fastest path to the monster? - and there was a mod that, albeit a little clumsily, removed the offending design element.
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Comment on Bosses are fed up with remote work for four main reasons. Some of them are undeniable. in ~life
Fanfiction Link"Nearly one-third of employees told Paychex they found their onboarding experience confusing. That figure jumped to 36% for remote workers, who were most likely to feel undertrained, disoriented,..."Nearly one-third of employees told Paychex they found their onboarding experience confusing. That figure jumped to 36% for remote workers, who were most likely to feel undertrained, disoriented, and devalued after onboarding, compared to their in-person counterparts."
So... like 4%?
EDIT: "In a damning chart, they found that remote workers “decreased time spent working” and instead increased their time spent on “leisure and sleeping.” The chart clearly showed an increase roughly between three and hours in time spent on things that are, well, not work."
your boss is not a human being
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Comment on The fake poor bride: Confessions of a luxury-wedding planner in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentI don't know, nobody does. It's not a clear line. If you spent every penny but the minimum on helping other's you'd have a mental breakdown. But we can say with some confidence that spending...I don't know, nobody does. It's not a clear line. If you spent every penny but the minimum on helping other's you'd have a mental breakdown.
But we can say with some confidence that spending millions of dollars on these hyperperformative weddings is over that line.
Just because we don't have it figured out to the micrometer doesn't mean we have to abandon morality.
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Comment on The fake poor bride: Confessions of a luxury-wedding planner in ~life
Fanfiction Link ParentAnd they could support a whole lot more people if was being distributed with the intent to do that You're never going to convince me that a luxury wedding is as efficient a redistribution of...And they could support a whole lot more people if was being distributed with the intent to do that
You're never going to convince me that a luxury wedding is as efficient a redistribution of wealth as charities designed to do that.
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Comment on The fake poor bride: Confessions of a luxury-wedding planner in ~life
Fanfiction LinkThe moral math on this is actually very simple - it is never right to spend multiple millions of dollars on an unnecessary wedding in a world where hunger exists, and doing so indicates something...The moral math on this is actually very simple - it is never right to spend multiple millions of dollars on an unnecessary wedding in a world where hunger exists, and doing so indicates something is very wrong with your character.
There are some very interesting studies on the effect wealth accumulation has on a person's psychology. Reduced compassion, reduced empathy, heightened self-worth. The larger the hoard, the smaller the person in comparison.
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Comment on Who are your favorite children's authors? in ~books
Fanfiction Link ParentAnother Chronicles of Chrestomanci mention! I love how a theme throughout many of her books is "actually your problems were pretty obvious to everyone and they've been rooting for you the whole...Another Chronicles of Chrestomanci mention!
I love how a theme throughout many of her books is "actually your problems were pretty obvious to everyone and they've been rooting for you the whole time but were too polite to step in and trusted you would get it right on your own anyway."
It's something I really haven't seen anywhere else but crops up in a couple of her novels, and now that I think of it might resonate well with kids' lives. Kind of like how Alice in Wonderland is (I've heard it suggested) such an enduringly popular kids' book because being forced to abide by a bunch of silly rules and being called rude when you get frustrated by it is an enduringly common experience for kids.
Also now that I think of it they've got a much greater diversity of masculine archetypes than you find in most media. Howl, Chrestomanci, Cat... I wish we saw that much character diversity more broadly. Good for both boys' self-perception and girls' standards.
Yep, post college but still fairly young. I have mellowed out a bit over time and will probably continue to, although I don't think this particular point of dissatisfaction is going to disappear.
I'm pretty sure my interpersonal standards were poisoned by growing up loving so many books and tv shows - I'm looking around for main characters but basically nobody in real life is going to live their daily life like that. Every line in a book is carefully curated by an author to be engaging or meaningful in some way and that's just not how real life is.
Not to go full cringe but there was a moment in the most recent Jojo's season where a character is describing why he loves the female lead and I thought 'That! That's what I'm looking for!" and then "ah shit, I'm fucked aren't I" because expecting Joestar Levels Of Drive from real people is an incredibly high bar.
In short, I'm looking for drive, self-awareness, agency - someone with a strong idea of who they are, what they want from the world and how they plan to get it. Which I'm finding is incredibly rare.
That said, it's also stupid to think there's only one type of person you'll fit with. Even very picky people like me probably have at least a handful of Person Archetypes they could have productive, stable, happy relationships with - it's been suggested by people that know me and I don't necessarily dispute that I might be perfectly content being in a relationship where I'm the more 'active' partner to someone who grounds, supports and balances me out.
I'm going to try out lots of different types and see what sticks - people with much more experience than me tell me life is more often unpredictable than not.