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  1. Comment on The “email is authentication” pattern in ~tech

  2. Comment on Help on deciding whether to stay with a low cost simple life, or to "live life to the fullest" in ~life

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    I say go for it! But more importantly if you can afford it, stop putting off joy for later if you can experience it now. Early retirement sounds nice and all, but I have had the unfortunate...

    I say go for it! But more importantly if you can afford it, stop putting off joy for later if you can experience it now. Early retirement sounds nice and all, but I have had the unfortunate experience of knowing several people who unfortunately passed away in their 50s and early 60s. It's really lit a spark under my own butt to get healthier (which you already seem to have well covered!), but also to make sure I'm enjoying life now and not slave away too hard for the sake of an uncertain future state.

    Obviously, it's good to make sure you are spending your money within reason, but it's important to live while you can.

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  3. Comment on Ok seriously what the fuck do I do in ~life

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    A lot of the advise above is quite good, but I wanted to add my own note from a different angle that might give you more of a short term solution WHILE you work on the longer term solutions. If...

    A lot of the advise above is quite good, but I wanted to add my own note from a different angle that might give you more of a short term solution WHILE you work on the longer term solutions.
    If you are comfortable with drugs, I would try mushrooms. There are lots of studies on them about their anti-depressant properties. They are very good at connecting the dots in your brain, kicking you out of bad habits, and allowing you to be mindful of what's bothering you in life.
    As someone who can't take ADHD meds (I seem to get hit by unacceptable side effects no matter what), I've found mushrooms to be really helpful. The next step I'm working on is diving into meditation which also has a surprising amount of evidence behind it as well. I suggest Meditation for Figity Skeptics as a good starting point.
    Good luck!

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  4. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Don't forget that Control has excellent accessibility options for changing the difficulty if combat is a problem! It's a wonderful game though and I suggest trying it straight as is first before...

    Don't forget that Control has excellent accessibility options for changing the difficulty if combat is a problem! It's a wonderful game though and I suggest trying it straight as is first before during on the aids.

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  5. Comment on Why Gen Z is quietly giving up in ~life

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    As a counterpoint, I would suggest watching this video from Some More News: https://youtu.be/5aFQY6-Mxcw?si=0hjZ4SuFZfdLtPBj I agree with his perspective that it's less likely to be smart phones...

    As a counterpoint, I would suggest watching this video from Some More News: https://youtu.be/5aFQY6-Mxcw?si=0hjZ4SuFZfdLtPBj

    I agree with his perspective that it's less likely to be smart phones that are the issue and more likely that social media sites and the enshitification of the internet that is causing these issues.

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  6. Comment on An opinion on current technological trends in ~tech

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    I do agree with a few aspects of this around services becoming more of a black box, especially with annoying and vague error messages... ... however, I do have to disagree with you STRONGLY about...

    I do agree with a few aspects of this around services becoming more of a black box, especially with annoying and vague error messages...

    ... however, I do have to disagree with you STRONGLY about automatic updates and forced updates, etc. I've been in IT a long time, specifically in client services so I deal with people and how they interact with computers every work day. The world is so much better for forcing people to update. Sure, it might annoy them, but the number of viruses and other malware I see on a normal basis is a drop in the bucket compared to 10 years ago even. As it is, people will nudge back the updates over and over again until the OS just says "sorry, we can't delay this anymore", and you know what solves most of the problems I run into? Applying updates and restarting. You can't tell me that users don't have time in their life to let their computer go update for awhile and do something away from the computer.

    Additionally, maintaining software gets exponentially harder when people of all sorts of different versions are trying to work together. Do you remember dealing with all sorts of compatibility issues between Word versions? Or Photoshop? I could go on and on.

    I dislike that this means a lot of companies have switched over to a subscription based plan, but at the same time I can understand that maintaining security patches and updates does cost a lot of money in some cases so I can't fault a company for pivoting to something that allows them to continue to exist. If only there weren't a lot of companies that abuse the subscription concept :(

    And my final point would be, in all of my experience in IT it has forever been the case that a percentage of users will just give up on dumb problems without trying for anything themselves. This hasn't changed. And you have a confirmation bias because you probably don't see all the people that troubleshoot the problems themselves because they often can fix it. So keep your biases in check here. There are still some very smart people out there that aren't in IT but still manage to get by quite well in the same way there are still people who barely know about cars but still can do basic maintenance like topping up fluids and changing air filters.

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  7. Comment on My marriage is non-monogamous, and I am considering approaching a friend to propose a relationship with him. I would appreciate some advice from monogamous people (and reasonable people in general.) in ~life

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    I'm ironically not the audience you are looking for exactly, being non-monogamous myself, but unless I'm missing some context his question about if you have an open relationship might have been...

    I'm ironically not the audience you are looking for exactly, being non-monogamous myself, but unless I'm missing some context his question about if you have an open relationship might have been for a reason.

    Your post is a very well written explanation of your thoughts... Have you considered showing him your post? I suspect if you have as good of a relationship as you indicate, it would survive telling him you are attracted to him and he's not into it. And from my past experience it is far better to say something rather than bottle it up and let that feeling build until it explodes in a weird way.

    Either way, good luck!

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  8. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~health.mental

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    That sounds like a very frustrating situation to be in. I don't think I have much to add in terms of making an impact, but I have read that there is a lot of evidence that psychedelics like...

    That sounds like a very frustrating situation to be in. I don't think I have much to add in terms of making an impact, but I have read that there is a lot of evidence that psychedelics like mushrooms are very helpful for people with terminal illness: https://www.readersdigest.ca/health/conditions/magic-mushrooms-terminal-cancer/

    I would say it's very worth a shot in hopefully making you feel better!

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  9. Comment on How do you journal? in ~talk

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    I've been journaling in various forms for over 20 years now. I have over 2000 pages written, which is kind of crazy when I think about it. I keep it simple with a basic online document with date...

    I've been journaling in various forms for over 20 years now. I have over 2000 pages written, which is kind of crazy when I think about it.

    I keep it simple with a basic online document with date headings for each day, although I'm thinking of adding more tags in next years journal. I would like to eventually put this in a more wiki-like format but it's largely working for how I use it.

    Mostly I write down things to process them. I notice when I have to "explain" things I'm thinking about in a way that makes sense when written, it really helps me understand the problem compared to just things bouncing around in my head. It's also cool to have a history to look back on and review occasionally to notice trends that I might have otherwise missed. For example a relationship that I was in had hints of it going bad for quite awhile, but I had ignored it a lot in the past in my journals and didn't notice that these concerns kept coming up until I read back through previous journals. Very helpful!

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