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Comment on 'If you eat here, you're dining with rats' in ~food
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I'm stuck and could use some help, pretty please
okay tildes here to tell suspended to leave their kid alone about discord on the school computer. that was easy advice to give! But how about a real challenge in what-should-i-do-about-the-boy?...
okay tildes here to tell suspended to leave their kid alone about discord on the school computer. that was easy advice to give! But how about a real challenge in what-should-i-do-about-the-boy? hold onto your HATS bc I've got a TOUGHIE~!
see I was tutoring this 13yo last year. He was super isolated and he still is. He deals with a range of insecurity and frustration. He leaps to conclusions and struggles with anger at the people around him, especially his mother. I used to spend time with him daily, but then I moved towns and now our contact is limited to chat and video call. We talk throughout the week but we always video call on wednesdays. His mother asked me if we could switch days, because she wants him to go to after school sessions with a math teacher who has noticed his grades falling. When I talked to him about the possibility of swapping so he could attend the afterschool, he told me that he didn't want go to sessions for dumb kids. I said I was flexible regardless so he can't use the time I reserve for him as an excuse not to go -- but I worry that his perception that the sessions are for dumb kids reflects a stigma that will prevent him from asking for help when he needs it.
How do I push back on the idea that getting extra help with school could imply that he is somehow inexcusably deficient? I sense that most of his other teachers are setting the bar even lower for him than they did last year; his take-home assignments are uniformly inane, and he knows it. How would you communicate around why it is important to try and to practice trying when so much of what is expected of him is transparently pointless? My friendship with him has become important, I think, but I worry a lot that I have no chance to guide him toward a better life and this episode has been a keen example.
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Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv
Qis Link ParentMy review content says you could stream house of gucci on a smaller screen without losing any quality. your theater mgmt sucks, it's wouldn't be a "their word against yours" issue if mgmt paid...My review content says you could stream house of gucci on a smaller screen without losing any quality. your theater mgmt sucks, it's wouldn't be a "their word against yours" issue if mgmt paid even cursory attention to the interior of the theaters... sorry for the bs...
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Comment on Flustering quickly, often escalating to panic in ~talk
Qis Link ParentI think I've asked for this from my partner a couple of ways but they seem pretty reluctant and the strategy hasn't really been adopted. Nice to have this instinct reflected but maybe you have...I think I've asked for this from my partner a couple of ways but they seem pretty reluctant and the strategy hasn't really been adopted. Nice to have this instinct reflected but maybe you have other tips, too?
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Comment on Flustering quickly, often escalating to panic in ~talk
Qis Link ParentI'm not sure how to specify, panic might not even be the right word. Usually I'm asking questions that seem relevant or giving answers to questions and then I'll wind up triggered by I can't even...I'm not sure how to specify, panic might not even be the right word. Usually I'm asking questions that seem relevant or giving answers to questions and then I'll wind up triggered by I can't even tell what. My partner says I don't make very much sense when I talk and that I'm talking much too much. Feeling like I cannot make myself understood might be a major factor
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Flustering quickly, often escalating to panic
I get very confused and urgent and it can be many minutes before I understand that I'm arguing from nothing but internal stress. It's a maddening habit that everyone around me finds repulsive. I...
I get very confused and urgent and it can be many minutes before I understand that I'm arguing from nothing but internal stress. It's a maddening habit that everyone around me finds repulsive. I have thought that it would be possible to make friends who could help to intervene when I am losing polite perspective, but I am not sure if this expectation has ever really functioned. I don't want to disavow any responsibility in telling my friends they have to jump in on my frequent malfunctions, that sounds unfair. But I'm not making much progress on getting over myself by myself. What to do.
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Comment on Portland, Oregon, is ground zero for violent culture-war clashes. And it’s spreading in ~misc
Qis Link ParentI had to stop listening to behind the bastards because I struggled to interpret his paraphrasal presentation of the biographies he's reading.. I can't tell how he chooses what to emphasize, at...I had to stop listening to behind the bastards because I struggled to interpret his paraphrasal presentation of the biographies he's reading.. I can't tell how he chooses what to emphasize, at all. Sometimes it's so everyone can make jokes, but I was confused too often
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Comment on Hyperbolica devlog #6: Pushing Unity to its limits in ~games.game_design
Qis LinkSomeone here raise your hand and I'll pass you a steam copy of hyperrogue, an interesting and deep roguelike game set on an infinite hyperbolic 2d plane.Someone here raise your hand and I'll pass you a steam copy of hyperrogue, an interesting and deep roguelike game set on an infinite hyperbolic 2d plane.
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Comment on Star Trek: Lower Decks - S02E01 "Strange Energies" in ~tv
Qis Link ParentYeah, not many of these people seem to belong to the cultures described by the earlier series. They seem to have their hearts in the right place, but too many dialogues bog down into little...Yeah, not many of these people seem to belong to the cultures described by the earlier series. They seem to have their hearts in the right place, but too many dialogues bog down into little recitations about pettiness. When was the last time you revisited the original animated series? I think it holds up quite well. It would be very nice if a more contemplative animated show could be attempted again. A nice balance could be struck between TNG-era pacing and the benefits of animating your scifi, I think.
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Comment on How the founder’s toxic culture tore apart Fullbright, the studio behind Gone Home in ~games
Qis LinkIf you liked Gone Home so many years ago, try the much less adolescent Dear Esther!If you liked Gone Home so many years ago, try the much less adolescent Dear Esther!
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Comment on Iron Eyes Cody - The Distance (2016) in ~music
Qis LinkThis group goes by Fever Dolls now and my favorite of theirs is Adeline.This group goes by Fever Dolls now and my favorite of theirs is Adeline.
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Comment on The Lighthouse (2019) was made by nerds, and it's awesome in ~movies
Qis LinkNope! I watched this in a theater on release day and turned against it halfway through. I could not fathom why these men were so terrible at handling their work, the setting, their dialogue with...Nope! I watched this in a theater on release day and turned against it halfway through. I could not fathom why these men were so terrible at handling their work, the setting, their dialogue with each other. As far as I could tell just a couple of brief conversations about boundaries could have set them up for success. The monologues are great and I appreciated the visuals but I feel like on the whole the movie was a kind of insensitive joke about how men struggle to ask for help when they need it..
my partner and I debated over which of the birds were practical fx vs trained birds vs CG, tho. if someone here watches the movie would you please compile a list of shots where there are birds and we can discuss which birds are birds
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Comment on Writing a best man speech for my brother’s wedding, any advice? in ~talk
Qis LinkThe above advice sounds good but God if it feels like a bland formality. Do something weird and interesting like instead of a speech write a horoscope or recite a recipe or stand on your head!The above advice sounds good but God if it feels like a bland formality. Do something weird and interesting like instead of a speech write a horoscope or recite a recipe or stand on your head!
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Comment on I have decided to be more prolix in some situations in ~life
Qis LinkSuper helpful! I'm a talker and it drives some people up the wall but there's no denying that more chatter accelerates social returns like compound interest. Keep up the babble and you'll put...Super helpful! I'm a talker and it drives some people up the wall but there's no denying that more chatter accelerates social returns like compound interest. Keep up the babble and you'll put people at ease so much sooner.
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Comment on Eric Whitacre - Water Night (1995) in ~music
Qis LinkMy chorus butchered this piece one season! I loved this style.My chorus butchered this piece one season! I loved this style.
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Comment on Leaked emails show crime app Citizen is testing on-demand private security force in ~tech
Qis LinkFuck this fuck this fuck this!! Thuggery and fear mongering!! Absolutely reprehensible use of technology and utterly corrosive social posturing!!Fuck this fuck this fuck this!! Thuggery and fear mongering!! Absolutely reprehensible use of technology and utterly corrosive social posturing!!
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Comment on Esoteric tabletop gaming rules review in ~games.tabletop
Qis Link ParentCalvinball was an extremely formative example! I am ambitious and brilliant and will tackle that divisive philosophical and linguistic question in the cleverest and most obscure and arcane way I...Calvinball was an extremely formative example! I am ambitious and brilliant and will tackle that divisive philosophical and linguistic question in the cleverest and most obscure and arcane way I can imagine!
I will check Invincible Sword Princess, I do like unique and abstract rpgs.
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Comment on Esoteric tabletop gaming rules review in ~games.tabletop
Qis Link ParentI'm with you. It was an exciting and novel moment for games. This is a coincidence, but this week I have finally recycled my completed copies of risk and pandemics legacy seasons 1 and 2. Today I...I'm with you. It was an exciting and novel moment for games. This is a coincidence, but this week I have finally recycled my completed copies of risk and pandemics legacy seasons 1 and 2. Today I will also finally trade away my unused copy of Seafall. I have however kept my nearly unplayed copy of Friedemann Friese's monstrous 504. My reaction to the first waves of legacy games was probably the driving force in my renewed interest in campaign games like Gloomhaven and the 7th Continent.
(Plz excuse rapidfire series of namedrops, heh..)
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Comment on Esoteric tabletop gaming rules review in ~games.tabletop
Qis Link ParentMaybe I am specifically processing my feelings about legacy games. I have a friend who finds them grotesquely consumeristic. He sees no reason why the cardboard components of a game should dispose...Maybe I am specifically processing my feelings about legacy games. I have a friend who finds them grotesquely consumeristic. He sees no reason why the cardboard components of a game should dispose of themselves and I mostly agree with him. I was thinking about outsourcing some of those dynamics to a component that you were going to eat anyway -- and experiment with continuous data rather than the rinky dink arithmetic of small discrete numbers.
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Comment on Esoteric tabletop gaming rules review in ~games.tabletop
Qis Link ParentI hope this makes sense -- Games like the one you have designed here are the dominant archetype. I have dabbled with rules like "whoever is in second-to-last place wins" or "the game ends if any...I hope this makes sense --
Games like the one you have designed here are the dominant archetype. I have dabbled with rules like "whoever is in second-to-last place wins" or "the game ends if any player's score lags too far behind the others" or "pass your turn to any player except the player who has had the most turns," etc. I noticed that these kinds of conditions give rise to puzzles which progress to completion by eliminating possibilities until only one result remains: a finished game. Secret scoring conditions or limited communication (in my opinion) barely forestall this narrowing of horizons..
I think my goal is to capture some of the energy of the set-up stages. I like the anarchic aspects of deciding who gets to play with which color of pieces, and rules that require some interpretation and negotiation and trust (e.g. "The youngest player goes first." We ask: who is the youngest player? How do you know? Discuss. I would include a card that suggests that anyone who has brought a birth certificate to the table has ironclad evidence; then I would include a card that suggests how someone might forge a fake birth certificate using only a hand of poker cards; then I would include a card which incentivizes other players to turn a blind eye to blatant counterfeits; then I would try to build a contest between the supporters of contradicting sets of counterfeit documents..
I was in nyc thru the rise of these street-side seating set-ups. There is rubbish piling up on many streets in many parts of the city, but the restaurants aren't to blame for the piles (they would have piled anyway) and the curbside shacks have done an unthinkably successful job of reclaiming street space for pedestrians. It is, in my estimation, an unmitigated good.