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  1. Comment on Grief and guilt in ~life.pets

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    Thank you for your comment!

    Thank you for your comment!

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  2. Comment on Grief and guilt in ~life.pets

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    I am so sorry you are suffering with this. (and carrow, too.) I am old enough to have dealt with this a lot. Pets are family to me, and like you, the responsibility and the grief are deep. Last...

    I am so sorry you are suffering with this. (and carrow, too.)
    I am old enough to have dealt with this a lot. Pets are family to me, and like you, the responsibility and the grief are deep. Last year we lost our 3 senior cats in a 3 month period-- cancer, multiple organ failure and kidney disease. They were 18, 20 and 21, but that really didn't matter. If anything we were more attached and their loss was tangible. I lost two dogs to the same very rare blood cancer 7 years apart.

    Here's the thing. Euthanizing them is killing them, but they were going to die, no matter how well you cared for them or how much you loved them. Maybe they would have had a few more days or more, but they would have been days of suffering. you took that suffering from them, and in a way took it on yourself. That is love. The pain you feel is love. The guilt, well that is the byproduct of forgetting for a moment that you could not have stopped the process, all you could do is make is as gentle for them as possible. You bore your responsibilities to them all the way to the end.

    When I was young, my first cat had kidney failure and I kept her going for years. I could not bear to put her to sleep. She died having seizures on the way to the vet. That first dog with the rare cancer? She died from seizures the next day while we were waiting for the lab results. We tried rushing her back to the vet but didn't make it. The look in her eyes between seizures--confusion, terror...I would not wish such a thing on any creature. I was my mother's caretaker when she died of cancer, during Covid. It was not painless or gentle. What we do for our pets, when we can do it, is in my opinion, the best gift we can possibly give them.

    7 votes

  3. Comment on Tildes Survey #5: Pineapple on pizza? (Results) in ~talk

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    Pineapple and New Mexico roasted green chile. That is all.

    Pineapple and New Mexico roasted green chile. That is all.

    3 votes

  4. Comment on What was the best job you ever had? in ~life

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    When I was in high school back in the 80s (yes I'm old) I worked a couple years at a renaissance festival hawking flower garlands. I made a few hundred dollars, cash, each day (weekends only) for...

    When I was in high school back in the 80s (yes I'm old) I worked a couple years at a renaissance festival hawking flower garlands. I made a few hundred dollars, cash, each day (weekends only) for about a month. That was a lot of money at the time, which was great, but even more fun was that a lot of us camped on site over each weekend. It was like summer camp except you were paid to be there. Back then, the whole Renn fair thing was way more chill and not corporate. Penn and Teller did their thing there but no one knew who they were. There was a open air concert stage on the property, so we could also see various musical acts for free. Such a great memory!

    3 votes

  5. Comment on Dirty Frag, an exploit which can obtain root privileges on major Linux distributions in ~tech

  6. Comment on Dirty Frag, an exploit which can obtain root privileges on major Linux distributions in ~tech

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    I saw this a couple places, but I have questions--I thought copyfail requied local access. I read that this is basically like copyfail, so as a home user with nearly zero chance of a local machine...

    I saw this a couple places, but I have questions--I thought copyfail requied local access. I read that this is basically like copyfail, so as a home user with nearly zero chance of a local machine takeover, can I just wait for an offical patch? I also read that the posted mitigation breaks IPSec, which seems problematic.

    6 votes

  7. Comment on Which Linux distro do you use, and why? in ~tech

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    I finally switched from Manjaro to EndeavorOS a month ago. I thought it would be a back up just in case Manjaro didn't straighten out, but as soon as I got it installed, I couldn't leave. (Manjaro...

    I finally switched from Manjaro to EndeavorOS a month ago. I thought it would be a back up just in case Manjaro didn't straighten out, but as soon as I got it installed, I couldn't leave. (Manjaro is still sitting on another hard drive, but I expect to wipe it.) When I was looking for another arch-based OS, it seemed like (other than building Arch myself) the only choices were Cachy and Endeavor. I settled on Endeavor because I find their support system (wiki, support apps and community forum) to be exemplary and the overall vibe to be fantastic. Couldn't be happier.

    1 vote

  8. Comment on Nathan Fillion says 'Firefly' animated series in development in ~tv

  9. Comment on Nathan Fillion says 'Firefly' animated series in development in ~tv

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    To me, maybe being raised in the south, the "Lost Cause" is all about slavery. Folks waxing nostalgic about Dixie are 100% regretting they don't get to treat humans like chattel and dominate women...

    To me, maybe being raised in the south, the "Lost Cause" is all about slavery. Folks waxing nostalgic about Dixie are 100% regretting they don't get to treat humans like chattel and dominate women who are forced into subservience. And many US western movies and TVs may not have explicitly stated that, but they still have their "heroes" acting out fantasies of racial and gender superiority. Whedon was influenced by The Lost Cause, but in Firefly it's just a lost cause. To me that matters.

    That said the points you make about the absence of Asians--that bothered me when I first saw it. And especially in retrospect, Inara. I would love to see Firefly done by someone who wasn't a white straight man. Like even when I thought he was trying, (and maybe he never was) he was always constricted by his own worldview-- I felt like that with Buffy, too. The white male gaze seemed even more out of place because it seemed like he was trying to escape it. So much for what I thought I knew!

    13 votes

  10. Comment on Nathan Fillion says 'Firefly' animated series in development in ~tv

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    I want to believe (wrong show) but I also feel like it is better to let it be what it is, and let what it could have been live in our imaginations.

    I want to believe (wrong show) but I also feel like it is better to let it be what it is, and let what it could have been live in our imaginations.

  11. Comment on Nathan Fillion says 'Firefly' animated series in development in ~tv

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    I totally agree that the lack of real Asian influence and presence is just absurd, even within the story's own logic. But while I can see the reavers as filling the "savage native" slot required...

    I totally agree that the lack of real Asian influence and presence is just absurd, even within the story's own logic. But while I can see the reavers as filling the "savage native" slot required if you are following the western tv show playbook, they are not indigenous or even a particular race or ethnicity, so if anything, I'd call that an improvement on the expected trope.

    18 votes

  12. Comment on Nathan Fillion says 'Firefly' animated series in development in ~tv

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    Honestly I don't think it is even thinly veiled. It starts with Mal as a devoted soldier on the losing side of a civil war, who gets disillusioned with god and country (metaphorically) after his...

    Honestly I don't think it is even thinly veiled. It starts with Mal as a devoted soldier on the losing side of a civil war, who gets disillusioned with god and country (metaphorically) after his leaders capitulate. The civil war obviously references the US civil war especially in the costuming. But the war in Firefly is over about corporate domination and the browncoats aren't defending the dehumanisation and enslavement of others as crucial to their way of life. You could argue that Browncoats being the good guys romanticisizes the US Confederacy. But I think it is more about a guy who was in love with a political ideal and had that pulled out from under him, who is now trying to create something real based on the ideals that he thought he was fighting for.

    Also it seems to me thematically to take from the Star Wars narrative more, even though it visually references the 19th century American west.

    15 votes

  13. Comment on Proton Mail helped US FBI unmask anonymous ‘Stop Cop City’ protester in ~tech

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    I've received and sent birthday cards with cash. I think the only thing is you can't make a claim if it is lost. Maybe large amounts of cash are different, but a Proton subscription is around...

    I've received and sent birthday cards with cash. I think the only thing is you can't make a claim if it is lost. Maybe large amounts of cash are different, but a Proton subscription is around 50-100 usd, so not a fat envelope of cash.

    12 votes

  14. Comment on Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets in ~life.pets

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    That's just a beautiful picture. Really nice.

    That's just a beautiful picture. Really nice.

    3 votes

  15. Comment on Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets in ~life.pets

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    What beautiful cats! Also look like they take no nonsense. I hope you met their cuddle quota!

    What beautiful cats! Also look like they take no nonsense. I hope you met their cuddle quota!

    2 votes

  16. Comment on I work in a warehouse in ~life

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    Lots of Cake vibes. We need a word for when something would be funny if it weren't so true. Thanks for posting this!

    Lots of Cake vibes. We need a word for when something would be funny if it weren't so true. Thanks for posting this!

  17. Comment on Shawn Lee's Ping Pong Orchestra - Techstar (2017) in ~music

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    Mankind has lost the funk. I love Shawn Lee Ping pong Orchestra, thanks for the reminder, its been a minute. Kiss the Sky is one of my favorite songs ever.

    Mankind has lost the funk.
    I love Shawn Lee Ping pong Orchestra, thanks for the reminder, its been a minute.
    Kiss the Sky is one of my favorite songs ever.

    2 votes

  18. Comment on Help me enjoy Baldur's Gate 3 in ~games

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    This is very helpful advice, especially from someone who also likes to stretch games out, thank you!

    This is very helpful advice, especially from someone who also likes to stretch games out, thank you!

    1 vote

  19. Comment on Help me enjoy Baldur's Gate 3 in ~games

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    Honestly I immediately disregarded playing as an origin character, and then I always felt like I needed more room in my party for the origin characters...this might be a solution. Not...

    Honestly I immediately disregarded playing as an origin character, and then I always felt like I needed more room in my party for the origin characters...this might be a solution.

    Not exploring...that might be tough. I am the sort who likes to stretch out a good play-through for as long as possible, but maybe I can try to relax that a bit the first time and then have more to enjoy the next. I

    OMG your berserkers..brilliant.

    2 votes

  20. Comment on Help me enjoy Baldur's Gate 3 in ~games

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    Nail on the head, there. Sounds obviously unfun when you put it that way! I always play easy when I first start a new game, because it takes me a while to remember which key to press, etc, and...

    The way you've been approach it is like reading ahead in a Choose Your Own Adventure book before you make a choice.

    Nail on the head, there. Sounds obviously unfun when you put it that way!

    I always play easy when I first start a new game, because it takes me a while to remember which key to press, etc, and lose the muscle memory of whatever game I played last.

    Thanks for the excellent metaphor, you are so right!

    6 votes