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  1. Comment on ‘Story Of Your Life’ is not a time-travel story (2018) in ~books

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    What a fascinating post.

    What a fascinating post.

  2. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    Mainly, to me it looks like manipulating the same audience which it is supposed to support. But as I mentioned in another comment I am probably reading too much into it, and you make some good points.

    Mainly, to me it looks like manipulating the same audience which it is supposed to support. But as I mentioned in another comment I am probably reading too much into it, and you make some good points.

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  3. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    Yes on reflection, my original thinking wasn't clear, and also I feel like I was reading too much into the show with some expectations. You make some valid points especially around the difference...

    Yes on reflection, my original thinking wasn't clear, and also I feel like I was reading too much into the show with some expectations. You make some valid points especially around the difference between character development and world development.

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  4. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    I see your point, well-made and well taken. This conversation makes me think I am probably reading too much into the show. This is probably more about my own cynicism around manipulative corporate...

    I see your point, well-made and well taken. This conversation makes me think I am probably reading too much into the show. This is probably more about my own cynicism around manipulative corporate marketing in general and particularly bad representation in media.

    I do see this kind of manipulation everywhere, of vulnerable groups of all kinds. It bothers me a lot but I think I am projecting my own biases.

    All in all, this makes me want to take another look and reevaluate. Well said, and maybe we will not be in disagreement after all. Cheers

    6 votes

  5. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    That is absolutely "le mot juste." Did not notice that at all.

    That is absolutely "le mot juste." Did not notice that at all.

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  6. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    Well as far as diversity, what you say is pretty much the opposite of how I feel personally. To me the characters look like cliches. Not racist cliches, but cliches nonetheless. I tend to feel...

    Well as far as diversity, what you say is pretty much the opposite of how I feel personally. To me the characters look like cliches. Not racist cliches, but cliches nonetheless. I tend to feel like bad representation can be potentially worse than no representation. I don't think it matters if the actors are white or not.

    If you saw "The Last of Us" on HBO, there is a famous gay episode. To me it's one of the best things ever put on the screen. I think it's outstanding and I think it will be something of a historical landmark in show business. It's not just good representation, it's incredible. You actually care about the people involved. They have depth. They are real. Everything they do is necessary, meaningful and important. The characters are treated with great respect, dignity and worth.

    Most importantly, "being gay" is just part of the characters. They aren't defined as "gay" being the entirety of the character. They are people, just like any other people, where "gay" is just a sometimes part of the character, not the one and only outstanding characteristic.

    That is respectful representation.

    This show seems like the opposite. The characters don't seem interesting, meaningful or important at all. The aliens don't seem to be interesting people. Which is why, to me, diversity feels like an excuse to cover bad writing. In other words, it's using diversity as a marketing tactic to get viewers to watch. To me that feels manipulative towards the people it's supposed to support. Basically the opposite of respectful diversity.

    I will admit, in my eyes I see far too much disrespectful representation "out there" and maybe I'm overthinking or reading too much into this.

    So in other words I guess my original comment wasn't clear or well thought out. I feel like diversity and representation should be inclusive and respectful, and this show just doesn't feel anything like that to me. And maybe I am expecting far too much.

    6 votes

  7. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    At risk of completely spoiling the first two episodes - Click to expand spoiler. In the first episode, a force user fights a Jedi. It's an ok start, not original but nothing wrong with that. Then...

    At risk of completely spoiling the first two episodes -

    Click to expand spoiler. In the first episode, a force user fights a Jedi. It's an ok start, not original but nothing wrong with that.

    Then the Jedi come looking for the force user. Immediately we learn that in this show, anyone can lie to Jedi about anything. They will not question or investigate and pretty clearly can't use the force to tell if someone is telling the truth, and they don't even bother to find out.

    The Jedi didn't need to bring the bartender. They could have easily seen a face, a description and all the memories of the fight from anyone who was there. They could have done the same for everyone on the ship too. They could have done that with Osha and immediately learned that she was telling the truth.

    These are the wise master sages, healers and warriors of the galaxy but they just grab someone and put them in a cage? No due process? No investigation? They don't even say anything about a crime being committed, or any kind of process at all. They just say a Jedi was murdered. But this seems like a terribly botched assassination. A Jedi was in a fight and got killed. Were they assassinated, or just killed, or was it "just" a bar fight? It seems like the Jedi aren't interested to figure that out.

    On top of which she is a former student of this most revered and respected institution in the galaxy, and former colleagues too. But they don't try to talk it out or even try to investigate? They just throw her in a prison transport. You would think they would at least escort her, talk with her and set up some kind of inquiry.

    Killing a Jedi seems like a pretty big deal. You would think they would send the best of the best to get to the truth. The wise, experienced masters who are (presumably) accomplished at investigation and discovering the truth. Someone who has had many years and countless people try to lie to them. Someone who has seen many stories and sides to the truth. Someone interesting enough to possibly have an entire show written around them.

    Wouldn't that be warranted if a Jedi is murdered? Especially if there is perhaps a new sith or some dark conspiracy? Isn't that kind of a big deal?

    But instead they just seemed like they didn't bother to even ask anyone, even before going out, hey it turns out there's a sister, AND the other Jedi already know about it. Even the Jedi who know about this don't bother to think twice. Except when Osha says, she's alive, and then everyone just ... changes their mind. Oops, well, they didn't bother to ask, but the people who knew just thought nothing of it.

    In a galaxy full of clones, aliens, force ghosts, holograms and hallucinations and who knows what else, it seems incredibly foolish to just grab someone and put them in a cage.

    Also, Osha says she's a mechanic because she doesn't have any transferable skills. From the most elite and revered institution of wisdom, learning and healing throughout the galaxy. Even a first year student would be respected and looked up to anywhere in the galaxy. Just getting in at all would be an enormous accomplishment.

    It's almost like saying she trained as an Olympian but didn't make the team. Athletes still teach, they do endorsements, training, tours, speeches, books, podcasts and shows all over the world. Elite athletes are famous.

    So she studied at an academy famous throughout the galaxy for history, philosophy, religion, justice and order, all kinds of caretaking from gardening to medicine, and she has no skills and nowhere to go? Couldn't even get a job as a librarian? A Senate page? A court clerk? Law, history, ... nothing? Not even ordinary university?

    This is why the characters, and the writing seem two dimensional to me. They're just a patchwork of tropes and cliches in action. There is no character behind the action, expressing the simplest of thoughts such as, what if this killing wasn't what it seemed?

    This is just the beginning. But this is why it looks to me like a lot of special effects papered over terrible writing. If you take away the "ooh spaceships" factor, there's nothing interesting left.

    3 votes

  8. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tv

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    It's not interesting. The acting is wooden and the characters make no sense. Just like other Star Wars shows, poor writing is papered over with flashy special effects, battles, aliens, and...

    It's not interesting. The acting is wooden and the characters make no sense. Just like other Star Wars shows, poor writing is papered over with flashy special effects, battles, aliens, and whatever Star Wars cliches blah blah blah.

    This show is pretty much - look how cool this planet is, look at this lightsaber fight, oh look there are Jedi, see how cool that is - ... that's the whole show.

    The characters aren't people, nothing interesting about them, just interchangeable mannequin set pieces with sculptured make up. None of them are believable as a real person.

    The cast diversity feels artificially shoehorned in and doesn't feel like representation at all, it just feels like checking a box that says "diversity."

    It's like looking at a movie poster or watching a fashion show. Pretty, not engaging or believable, all cliches and nothing memorable.

    4 votes

  9. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (May 2024) — Version 1.0 is out for iOS! in ~tildes

  10. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (April 2024) — Version 1.0 is out for Android! in ~tildes

  11. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    I agree, and indentation only goes so far with the depth of Tildes discussions. I'd like to see color-coded child comments. So for example a parent comment would have a white outline for it's...

    I agree, and indentation only goes so far with the depth of Tildes discussions.

    I'd like to see color-coded child comments. So for example a parent comment would have a white outline for it's thread, next level would have a red outline, next level blue, etc

    That plus collapsing the deepest levels would go a long way to making a thread more readable.

    3 votes

  12. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    Different poster but I didn't know that, thank you!

    Different poster but I didn't know that, thank you!

    6 votes

  13. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    Feature requests- Swipe topic right to vote Swipe comment right to vote Swipe thread left to close thread Tap comment to collapse To me it's a lot quicker and easier to swipe with my thumb, rather...

    Feature requests-
    Swipe topic right to vote
    Swipe comment right to vote
    Swipe thread left to close thread
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    To me it's a lot quicker and easier to swipe with my thumb, rather than hunt and peck to vote.

    I also like to read a comment and then collapse as I go - makes longer comments and threads easier to read especially with long form threads.

    It would be nice if the thread levels could be differentiated by different colors of separators or boxes - like top level comments have white separators or no boxes, next level could be green, next blue and so on. Would be easier to see the comments / threads together.

    Great app and great work, looking forward to see more

    5 votes

  14. Comment on Living day to day with the weight of existing in ~talk

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    This sounds like depression. There is no rhyme or reason to it, if you're trying to analyze it or figure it out. Everyone feels this way from time to time. It sounds like there is no specific...
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    This sounds like depression. There is no rhyme or reason to it, if you're trying to analyze it or figure it out. Everyone feels this way from time to time. It sounds like there is no specific cause in your life.

    I look at depression as a call for self care. It's an opportunity to be human. We are fragile, vulnerable beings, susceptible to life and all the things that happen to us. We have no control. The human condition is one of seeking for anchors in life which are ultimately, eventually, pulled away. Nothing is permanent.

    Right now you are facing a feeling, an experience which you dread yet have no control over. There is no solution to being human.

    Be gentle with yourself, and consider therapy. You will unearth something to discover in yourself. There is an answer, but you will only find it by treating yourself with care and exploring your feelings. Keep an open mind, give yourself compassion and let yourself process. You need someone to talk to.

    Edit to add: In your post, you comment that you cannot find a reason to feel this way, and you feel like you're lying about your life and feelings. It sounds like you're telling yourself how you "should" feel, because "life is good," rather than face how you actually feel, because you are struggling. You say that you do not have "actual problems."

    I would suggest that this condition is absolutely an "actual problem." You are diminishing and invalidating your feelings and your self worth by pushing away the energy you are feeling. It has it's own truth, no matter your life situation, it has something important to say. Instead of expecting or telling yourself you should feel happy - which would absolutely cause anyone unhappiness - acknowledge the validity of what you're feeling inside. There is a reason, even if you don't know it. Your feelings are completely valid, and real, and true, and they are guiding you to something important inside of you.

    45 votes

  15. Comment on Non-fictional books about getting to know emotions? in ~books

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    I highly recommend "The Language of Emotions" by Karla McLaren. She talks about how Western culture isn't very emotionally literate - we aren't given tools, understanding, or empathy, and this...

    I highly recommend "The Language of Emotions" by Karla McLaren.

    She talks about how Western culture isn't very emotionally literate - we aren't given tools, understanding, or empathy, and this leads to a kind of disconnect with ourselves and with each other. On top of that, we live in a traumatized world, without the space or vulnerability we need for our process.

    She's an educator I believe, not a mental health professional, but her work would be useful to anyone.

    Get a feeling for her writing and thoughts here, and her book below.

    https://karlamclaren.com/how-much-emotion-is-too-much-revisted/

    https://karlamclaren.com/product/the-language-of-emotions-book/

    10 votes

  16. Comment on The body keeps the score, even when the memory has been completely erased in ~health.mental

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    You are welcome, and certainly you are on the right track.

    You are welcome, and certainly you are on the right track.

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  17. Comment on CMV: Once civilization is fully developed, life will be unfulfilling and boring. Humanity is also doomed to go extinct. These two reasons make life not worth living. in ~talk

  18. Comment on The body keeps the score, even when the memory has been completely erased in ~health.mental

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    We're all able to form some relationships with others (and with ourselves) , but for better or worse, we're faced with our own needs and insecurities and vulnerabilities too, which can be scary,...

    We're all able to form some relationships with others (and with ourselves) , but for better or worse, we're faced with our own needs and insecurities and vulnerabilities too, which can be scary, especially if we find ourselves feeling alone. You may be discovering your own deeper needs. Maybe these feelings aren't just about trauma, but perhaps an emergence out of empathy and connection within yourself. You might be connecting with something in you that has never felt connection or support before. It's a healing process that occurs with trauma. Feeling pain, or feeling afraid isn't a bad thing. It may be a sign that you're really bringing care and support to a place that really needs it. I think you're doing really well.

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  19. Comment on CMV: Once civilization is fully developed, life will be unfulfilling and boring. Humanity is also doomed to go extinct. These two reasons make life not worth living. in ~talk

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    I think what you're really saying isn't about the future of humanity, but instead giving a voice to feelings of negativity and pessimism or even depression. I don't think anyone can convince you...

    I think what you're really saying isn't about the future of humanity, but instead giving a voice to feelings of negativity and pessimism or even depression. I don't think anyone can convince you of optimism or hope because I don't think any kind of thought process or argument would address those underlying feelings.

    In other words I think the source of your question isn't any kind of reasoning or argument.

    I think what you're really asking is how you can feel better. Your mind is trying to solve a problem (in it's view), you are trying to help yourself. The mind is very energetic about trying to solve problems. But feelings aren't really a mental process, and they aren't a problem to be solved. You have feelings, and you want to feel better.

    There's nothing wrong with having feelings, whether pessimistic or hopeless or anything else. They're real feelings, they are valid and true, but they are not "the truth." Feelings tell their own truth about themselves or about your inner world. Sometimes they're driven by thoughts. Sometimes they're driven by your past, or assumptions, or beliefs, or whatever you imagine. They don't necessarily tell you what's true about life. But they are commentary and support for your own inner process.

    I think your questions are incredibly valuable because you're giving voice to those feelings - they need to be heard, expressed and processed. I think the point is really just how you feel, so anything that helps you speak for yourself, get it out there and feel understood is really important.

    I don't have anything here to change your mind or convince you of anything, just my perspective. So I don't really have a "solution." But I would suggest just asking yourself how you feel and then listen to whatever the feeling is. If you work with that, you'll get closer to helping yourself feel better.

    10 votes

  20. Comment on What is a scam that more people should be aware of? in ~life

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    Funeral panhandling. People wave signs and flag drivers down asking for drive by donations. It's a known scam, every day they're on a different street corner. Also cold calls for firefighter or...

    Funeral panhandling. People wave signs and flag drivers down asking for drive by donations. It's a known scam, every day they're on a different street corner.

    Also cold calls for firefighter or police charities. Just another scam.

    https://old.reddit.com/r/tulsa/comments/1862vnj/fake_funeral_scams_watch_out_for_panhandlers/

    https://www.aarp.org/money/scams-fraud/info-2022/police-charity-scam.html

    2 votes