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  1. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (April 2024) — Version 1.0 is out for Android! in ~tildes

  2. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    I agree, and indentation only goes so far with the depth of Tildes discussions. I'd like to see color-coded child comments. So for example a parent comment would have a white outline for it's...

    I agree, and indentation only goes so far with the depth of Tildes discussions.

    I'd like to see color-coded child comments. So for example a parent comment would have a white outline for it's thread, next level would have a red outline, next level blue, etc

    That plus collapsing the deepest levels would go a long way to making a thread more readable.

    3 votes

  3. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    Different poster but I didn't know that, thank you!

    Different poster but I didn't know that, thank you!

    6 votes

  4. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (March 2024) in ~tildes

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    Feature requests- Swipe topic right to vote Swipe comment right to vote Swipe thread left to close thread Tap comment to collapse To me it's a lot quicker and easier to swipe with my thumb, rather...

    Feature requests-
    Swipe topic right to vote
    Swipe comment right to vote
    Swipe thread left to close thread
    Tap comment to collapse

    To me it's a lot quicker and easier to swipe with my thumb, rather than hunt and peck to vote.

    I also like to read a comment and then collapse as I go - makes longer comments and threads easier to read especially with long form threads.

    It would be nice if the thread levels could be differentiated by different colors of separators or boxes - like top level comments have white separators or no boxes, next level could be green, next blue and so on. Would be easier to see the comments / threads together.

    Great app and great work, looking forward to see more

    5 votes

  5. Comment on Living day to day with the weight of existing in ~talk

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    This sounds like depression. There is no rhyme or reason to it, if you're trying to analyze it or figure it out. Everyone feels this way from time to time. It sounds like there is no specific...
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    This sounds like depression. There is no rhyme or reason to it, if you're trying to analyze it or figure it out. Everyone feels this way from time to time. It sounds like there is no specific cause in your life.

    I look at depression as a call for self care. It's an opportunity to be human. We are fragile, vulnerable beings, susceptible to life and all the things that happen to us. We have no control. The human condition is one of seeking for anchors in life which are ultimately, eventually, pulled away. Nothing is permanent.

    Right now you are facing a feeling, an experience which you dread yet have no control over. There is no solution to being human.

    Be gentle with yourself, and consider therapy. You will unearth something to discover in yourself. There is an answer, but you will only find it by treating yourself with care and exploring your feelings. Keep an open mind, give yourself compassion and let yourself process. You need someone to talk to.

    Edit to add: In your post, you comment that you cannot find a reason to feel this way, and you feel like you're lying about your life and feelings. It sounds like you're telling yourself how you "should" feel, because "life is good," rather than face how you actually feel, because you are struggling. You say that you do not have "actual problems."

    I would suggest that this condition is absolutely an "actual problem." You are diminishing and invalidating your feelings and your self worth by pushing away the energy you are feeling. It has it's own truth, no matter your life situation, it has something important to say. Instead of expecting or telling yourself you should feel happy - which would absolutely cause anyone unhappiness - acknowledge the validity of what you're feeling inside. There is a reason, even if you don't know it. Your feelings are completely valid, and real, and true, and they are guiding you to something important inside of you.

    45 votes

  6. Comment on Non-fictional books about getting to know emotions? in ~books

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    I highly recommend "The Language of Emotions" by Karla McLaren. She talks about how Western culture isn't very emotionally literate - we aren't given tools, understanding, or empathy, and this...

    I highly recommend "The Language of Emotions" by Karla McLaren.

    She talks about how Western culture isn't very emotionally literate - we aren't given tools, understanding, or empathy, and this leads to a kind of disconnect with ourselves and with each other. On top of that, we live in a traumatized world, without the space or vulnerability we need for our process.

    She's an educator I believe, not a mental health professional, but her work would be useful to anyone.

    Get a feeling for her writing and thoughts here, and her book below.

    https://karlamclaren.com/how-much-emotion-is-too-much-revisted/

    https://karlamclaren.com/product/the-language-of-emotions-book/

    10 votes

  7. Comment on The body keeps the score, even when the memory has been completely erased in ~health.mental

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    You are welcome, and certainly you are on the right track.

    You are welcome, and certainly you are on the right track.

    2 votes

  8. Comment on CMV: Once civilization is fully developed, life will be unfulfilling and boring. Humanity is also doomed to go extinct. These two reasons make life not worth living. in ~talk

  9. Comment on The body keeps the score, even when the memory has been completely erased in ~health.mental

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    We're all able to form some relationships with others (and with ourselves) , but for better or worse, we're faced with our own needs and insecurities and vulnerabilities too, which can be scary,...

    We're all able to form some relationships with others (and with ourselves) , but for better or worse, we're faced with our own needs and insecurities and vulnerabilities too, which can be scary, especially if we find ourselves feeling alone. You may be discovering your own deeper needs. Maybe these feelings aren't just about trauma, but perhaps an emergence out of empathy and connection within yourself. You might be connecting with something in you that has never felt connection or support before. It's a healing process that occurs with trauma. Feeling pain, or feeling afraid isn't a bad thing. It may be a sign that you're really bringing care and support to a place that really needs it. I think you're doing really well.

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  10. Comment on CMV: Once civilization is fully developed, life will be unfulfilling and boring. Humanity is also doomed to go extinct. These two reasons make life not worth living. in ~talk

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    I think what you're really saying isn't about the future of humanity, but instead giving a voice to feelings of negativity and pessimism or even depression. I don't think anyone can convince you...

    I think what you're really saying isn't about the future of humanity, but instead giving a voice to feelings of negativity and pessimism or even depression. I don't think anyone can convince you of optimism or hope because I don't think any kind of thought process or argument would address those underlying feelings.

    In other words I think the source of your question isn't any kind of reasoning or argument.

    I think what you're really asking is how you can feel better. Your mind is trying to solve a problem (in it's view), you are trying to help yourself. The mind is very energetic about trying to solve problems. But feelings aren't really a mental process, and they aren't a problem to be solved. You have feelings, and you want to feel better.

    There's nothing wrong with having feelings, whether pessimistic or hopeless or anything else. They're real feelings, they are valid and true, but they are not "the truth." Feelings tell their own truth about themselves or about your inner world. Sometimes they're driven by thoughts. Sometimes they're driven by your past, or assumptions, or beliefs, or whatever you imagine. They don't necessarily tell you what's true about life. But they are commentary and support for your own inner process.

    I think your questions are incredibly valuable because you're giving voice to those feelings - they need to be heard, expressed and processed. I think the point is really just how you feel, so anything that helps you speak for yourself, get it out there and feel understood is really important.

    I don't have anything here to change your mind or convince you of anything, just my perspective. So I don't really have a "solution." But I would suggest just asking yourself how you feel and then listen to whatever the feeling is. If you work with that, you'll get closer to helping yourself feel better.

    10 votes

  11. Comment on What is a scam that more people should be aware of? in ~life

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    Funeral panhandling. People wave signs and flag drivers down asking for drive by donations. It's a known scam, every day they're on a different street corner. Also cold calls for firefighter or...

    Funeral panhandling. People wave signs and flag drivers down asking for drive by donations. It's a known scam, every day they're on a different street corner.

    Also cold calls for firefighter or police charities. Just another scam.

    https://old.reddit.com/r/tulsa/comments/1862vnj/fake_funeral_scams_watch_out_for_panhandlers/

    https://www.aarp.org/money/scams-fraud/info-2022/police-charity-scam.html

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Why AI writing is inherently coercive in ~creative

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    Different user here - my first thought is that AI doesn't have any opinion. It has no perspective, no thoughts, no point of view at all. In very general terms, outside this post, there is nothing...

    Different user here - my first thought is that AI doesn't have any opinion. It has no perspective, no thoughts, no point of view at all. In very general terms, outside this post, there is nothing to agree with, because AI makes no argument of it's own.

    AI has no opinion in this specific case and no point to make. Our agreement, or commentary, or any discussion, isn't with the software or anything that came out of it.

    AI is the writer here, but you are the author. You used a tool to articulate your perspective.

    This post was created by your opinions and thought process, even though the output was generated by AI.

    I do think that if you didn't have an opinion or a point to make - like so much word vomit nonsense out there, driving SEO - then yes I'd agree there's a betrayal of the author/reader relationship. Really just like any manipulative marketing, anything on social media that takes someone who wants to connect, and treats them as a product to be sold - to advertisers or investors. Which is the state of social media and the internet today.

    In this case, with this post, I don't think that's true, because AI isn't the author here IMO. But I think in the big picture, I agree with you and you spark interesting points.

    Very good discourse and discussion, thought-provoking. Perhaps it's too much to hope that people will learn to distinguish between nonsense, misinformation, and genuine communication. Or perhaps this era will facilitate tools, legislation, and education to support our discernment.

    2 votes

  13. Comment on The young moderators sifting through the internet’s worst horrors in ~tech

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  15. Comment on What home network equipment do you use? in ~comp

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    Ubiquiti, Meraki, Aruba and Google are all good. If you're looking to learn about large enterprise network features - like a home lab to learn networking - Meraki is intended for business...

    Ubiquiti, Meraki, Aruba and Google are all good.

    If you're looking to learn about large enterprise network features - like a home lab to learn networking - Meraki is intended for business deployments, and will likely get as complex as you need it to be.

    Google is probably the closest to consumer networking and likely the easiest to use.

    You'll find plenty of promotional and support videos made for sysadmins and engineers who want to get to know their equipment. See what appeals to you.

    Edit to add: not all gigabit is created equal, you can get better performance out of an enterprise class 100Mb link than a small home router gigabit link. SOHO routers are marketed with gigabit interfaces, but they don't have the supporting hardware (e.g. small buffers, inadequate memory, maybe no QoS support or poor cache, etc) . If the router can't handle network overhead, interface speed doesn't matter.

    Enterprise environments measure these metrics, and spend a lot of money (and support) to make sure they get what they paid for.

    6 votes

  16. Comment on Are you using WiFi 6E in a home/home office setting? Have you seen any benefit to the 6GHz channel? in ~tech

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    Great comment. Just to add, regarding placement, place your access points towards the middle of your environment. Your signal is a bubble. You want the bubble to cover your house. If your AP is at...

    Great comment. Just to add, regarding placement, place your access points towards the middle of your environment.

    Your signal is a bubble. You want the bubble to cover your house. If your AP is at the edge of the house, and half covering your neighbors, you're wasting your signal (and being a terrible wifi neighbor) .

    3 votes

  17. Comment on Are you using WiFi 6E in a home/home office setting? Have you seen any benefit to the 6GHz channel? in ~tech

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    Common sense is the best answer. OP also needs to consider the client devices. A wireless refresh wouldn't be a great investment if only one device in the house would (reliably) benefit.

    Common sense is the best answer. OP also needs to consider the client devices. A wireless refresh wouldn't be a great investment if only one device in the house would (reliably) benefit.

  18. Comment on Are you using WiFi 6E in a home/home office setting? Have you seen any benefit to the 6GHz channel? in ~tech

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    Not all APs are created equal. You'll see much better performance just by using better equipment. Small / home office network gear doesn't really live up to it's own hype. It's all about consumer...

    Not all APs are created equal. You'll see much better performance just by using better equipment. Small / home office network gear doesn't really live up to it's own hype. It's all about consumer marketing.

    Consider the quality of the equipment before considering features. You can get anything off the shelf, but you don't know how it's going to handle congestion, or channel interference, whether it actually handles high throughput, channel selection, power levels, roaming with different clients, etc.

    Your new AP might promise 6E but then you may find out they cut corners on the memory. Maybe it has buffer issues, maybe it can't prioritize traffic or handle congestion. This is typical of consumer-grade network gear, where customers may not get deep into the technical details, which lets manufacturers get away with underperforming equipment.

    Look for reputation and technical reviews first, and features second. Look up Ubiquiti, Aruba and Meraki and see how technical you want to get.

    2 votes

  19. Comment on Modem help in ~tech

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    Most certainly happy to answer questions or help with anything. My experience is in the enterprise environment, not so much consumer brands but hopefully it helps. Those USB adapters can be hit or...

    Most certainly happy to answer questions or help with anything. My experience is in the enterprise environment, not so much consumer brands but hopefully it helps.

    Those USB adapters can be hit or miss. Sometimes they work great - or they might appear to work great from the desktop end. But then sometimes they have odd issues on the wire, like presenting multiple MACs, or the system getting confused between wired and wireless. The main issue I ran into is that a few dollars worth of dongle doesn't come with support coverage. No argument against them, the brand recommendations here may be great. I suspect it highly depends on the chipset and the driver. I just wouldn't want OP to have to troubleshoot anything extra.

    If you're interested in anything else just ask, I'll be happy to talk.

    EDIT: If you want to see your wifi environment, there's a free Android app called Wi-Fi Analyzer. I think there are several apps, likely all clones but they probably all work the same. Anyway it shows you all the competing frequencies and wlans that it can detect, and access points. Both 2.4 and 5 Ghz. You can just walk around and watch the signals go up and down.

    It won't show you non-wifi interference, like radar, but you'll see other wireless networks. Walk around your house, and the neighborhood, you'll be surprised at all the noise.

    2 votes

  20. Comment on Modem help in ~tech

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    Hey there. You're right, that comment did go a little down the rabbit hole. I get into a lot of technical troubleshooting day to day, and probably let too much detail spill into my comment. I...

    Hey there. You're right, that comment did go a little down the rabbit hole. I get into a lot of technical troubleshooting day to day, and probably let too much detail spill into my comment. I don't have experience with Nest or home mesh wireless, because, well, I do my own wifi design and planning my own way. But I realize that doesn't address OP's setup which is likely more automated and less self-managed.

    @spit-evil-olive-tips was right about breaking the problem down. OP is trying to solve an issue that could be one link (or several links) in a whole chain all the way from the ISP's central office down to OP's laptop components.

    ISPs will take the same approach - breaking down the problem and solving one step at a time - and basically refuse to troubleshoot anything beyond their connection. OP will need to plug in a physical cable (preferably testing two devices, not just one) in order to get effective support.

    The ISP approach will be, well, it could be your laptop, your home environment, etc and they will not troubleshoot beyond the cable modem. They are taught to follow a script, not to troubleshoot.

    If the wifi comes from the ISP, they'll basically say something like, we're broadcasting, and it looks good. Maybe they'll reset your password, but they're not equipped to troubleshoot your airspace.

    The idea is to separate the problem into steps or parts that you can test independently. Easiest thing, and most leveraged on the ISP, is to take wireless out of the equation and call the ISP. That will push them to do their job fixing the connection.

    It's OP's job basically to either push the ISP in line, or solve their own in-house network problems.

    Wireless design, at times, almost looks like black magic in the networking world, just because there are so many unique factors. Every single design is unique. Airspace is more or less hostile (with outside signals and interference) and constantly changing. Every client behaves differently - every phone, every tablet, every tv, etc etc all have unique and different behaviors on wireless. Some devices will interfere with others, and some will appear to have random issues. Your own wifi will interfere with itself to some extent. Plus the airspace in your neighborhood changes every day. All the EM radiation in your neighborhood goes through your house.

    It's too easy to go down that rabbit hole right out of the gate. Best thing is for OP to isolate and test specific things and then come back for more advice.
    For example, does his laptop work in another wireless environment. Does his friend's laptop work better. How do they behave wired vs wireless. etc.

    OP's wifi can be helped, maybe, but OP would have to answer those questions and come back. That will open further steps OP can take on advice from the group.

    Edit - the multitude of wifi factors and constantly changing airspace is why folks like me will always say, in very general terms, wired networking is always more straightforward and simple than wireless. When wireless works, it's great. But, neighbors doing home renovations, or getting a new router, or a new ISP, or a work truck parked outside - none of that will interfere with a Cat6 cable.

    3 votes