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  1. Comment on Website is unhappy in ~tildes

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    Ah and is that not precisely what I meant? I am not judging computer people, just stating I'm not one (◠‿◕)

    Ah and is that not precisely what I meant? I am not judging computer people, just stating I'm not one (⁠◠⁠‿⁠◕⁠)

  2. Comment on Website is unhappy in ~tildes

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    There are, perhaps, two meanings and a bit of a pun, albeit a depressing one.

    There are, perhaps, two meanings and a bit of a pun, albeit a depressing one.

  3. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    I think it's relevant that the voices most concerned about it are almost all the people who don't experience pregnancy and childbirth. There is a casualness when speaking about pregnancy and...

    I think it's relevant that the voices most concerned about it are almost all the people who don't experience pregnancy and childbirth. There is a casualness when speaking about pregnancy and birthrates that does not align with how my family and friends who have been pregnant talk about it. They certainly don't talk about how abortion is literally safer than childbirth. They don't talk about the permanent effects of pregnancy on the body. They don't talk about the workload of child raising being socially placed on women in top of the biological workload of the pregnant person and the impact on careers and then the relationship of that career deficit on women in leadership roles throughout the country. (Even in countries with much more equitable leaves it seems this pattern continues, though with sometimes it seems more acceptance of women in leadership roles.)

    And this results ultimately in more decisions and conversations being had by the people who don't experience pregnancy and things just get worse.

    And there are, for example, typically conservative women out here talking about how much they love being pregnant and how it's a gift and all. And I hope they feel that way. But the vast majority of voices, likely including this thread, are only ever talking from a systemic, non-personal perspective, whether that's "policy wonk" or "Great Replacement" bullshit.

    Freedom of choice isn't just proximity to family, it's access to education on sexual reproduction and contraception. That cycle starts with general education, then sex ed, then access to contraception and thus being offered choices besides young pregnancy ( and marriage) and so on. Family absolutely still nags but now you can be on birth control and decline to marry the person they choose for you. And go to a city and get a job, or to university, etc.

    And you don't change this without a) listening to the people who get or don't want to get pregnant or b) taking away those potential pregnant people's agency to make those decisions. The US government is working on the latter.

    8 votes

  4. Comment on US battery industry cuts losses, shifts to new ventures amid electric vehicle bust in ~transport

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    Can't afford a new car, will drive my existing one to death and then buy a second hand EV. My small town just got chargers at the little local grocery store which was a base requirement for me....

    Can't afford a new car, will drive my existing one to death and then buy a second hand EV. My small town just got chargers at the little local grocery store which was a base requirement for me.

    The government is discouraging EVs right now which probably isn't helping.

    12 votes

  5. Comment on Babylon 5 S01E14: "TKO" - Episode Discussion in ~tv

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    I do enjoy the bottle episode, it's something I miss about modern TV season, everything has to be plot heavy and while IMO B5 gets much closer to that than a lot of shows did then, there's still...

    I do enjoy the bottle episode, it's something I miss about modern TV season, everything has to be plot heavy and while IMO B5 gets much closer to that than a lot of shows did then, there's still room for slower episodes that build character moments throughout.

  6. Comment on The "go fix a minor annoyance" togetherness topic in ~life

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    Did this Sunday, it became a very big annoyance, but some Tildenizens helped me get it squared away

    Did this Sunday, it became a very big annoyance, but some Tildenizens helped me get it squared away

    1 vote

  7. Comment on What do you think is the best sandwich? in ~food

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    I needed to add more or hotter jelly (I only had jalapeno available) but overall I was very happy with it. It's just a pain in the butt to have all the ingredients for at once and make the bacon...

    I needed to add more or hotter jelly (I only had jalapeno available) but overall I was very happy with it. It's just a pain in the butt to have all the ingredients for at once and make the bacon before the sandwich or I'd make it more often.

    I do love a basic grilled cheese too though so nothing goes to waste.

  8. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    Right, it's why I'm genuinely suspicious of the conversation until it becomes obviously a policy wonk sort of convo vs a very loud dog whistle. Similarly the focus on fertility rate (which again...

    Right, it's why I'm genuinely suspicious of the conversation until it becomes obviously a policy wonk sort of convo vs a very loud dog whistle.

    Similarly the focus on fertility rate (which again is a misnomer at least based on how the average person understands it ) and how bad the lowering of birth rate among teen girls is and the more subtle but growing comments about "repealing the 19th" and wanting to restrict all the things that let women control their actual fertility....

    It's just a red flag by default until someone clarifies.

    7 votes

  9. Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news

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    The fact that it's actually enemies to lovers. Happy Pride 🏳️🌈

    The fact that it's actually enemies to lovers. Happy Pride 🏳️‍🌈

    2 votes

  10. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    I think that would be a great policy conversation but it just isn't the one that is being had and a concerning amount of the fertility rate talk in the media is coming with Great Replacement...

    I think that would be a great policy conversation but it just isn't the one that is being had and a concerning amount of the fertility rate talk in the media is coming with Great Replacement propaganda and similar.

    11 votes

  11. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    The white nationalist Christian right, depending on the color of the babies' skin, apparently.

    Who exactly is losing in this situation?

    The white nationalist Christian right, depending on the color of the babies' skin, apparently.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    It could be a future issue but it's not currently, and they keep talking about fertility rates which is misleading to the average person. It sounds like people can't have kids.

    It could be a future issue but it's not currently, and they keep talking about fertility rates which is misleading to the average person. It sounds like people can't have kids.

    5 votes

  13. Comment on What do you think is the best sandwich? in ~food

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    It's a spicy apple bacon grilled cheese. And it was delicious

    It's a spicy apple bacon grilled cheese.

    And it was delicious

  14. Comment on Smartphones arrived just before the US fertility rate plunged. One study says it’s a direct cause. in ~health

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    We severely reduced teen pregnancy and now it's being flagged as a dire problem. No, we did the thing! Yay! This is a good thing.

    We severely reduced teen pregnancy and now it's being flagged as a dire problem.

    No, we did the thing! Yay! This is a good thing.

    33 votes

  15. Comment on What do you think is the best sandwich? in ~food

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    My favorite sandwich, made imperfectly, but with love Pics

    My favorite sandwich, made imperfectly, but with love

    Pics

    2 votes

  16. Comment on Tildes Survey #9: How optimistic are you about the future? in ~talk

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    Food is mostly a logistics issue, which can include corruption, war, etc. But yeah, it's not an issue of capacity.

    Food is mostly a logistics issue, which can include corruption, war, etc. But yeah, it's not an issue of capacity.

    4 votes

  17. Comment on Ceiling fan light switch replacement help in ~life.home_improvement

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    Thanks all I was able to make it work! Much appreciated. Hopefully it doesn't catch on fire.

    Thanks all I was able to make it work! Much appreciated. Hopefully it doesn't catch on fire.

    3 votes

  18. Comment on Ceiling fan light switch replacement help in ~life.home_improvement

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    It's a three socket fixture so I'd have to see where the screws are!

    It's a three socket fixture so I'd have to see where the screws are!

    1 vote

  19. Comment on Ceiling fan light switch replacement help in ~life.home_improvement

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    Not available at my store at the moment apparently, though push in ones are.

    Not available at my store at the moment apparently, though push in ones are.

    1 vote

  20. Comment on Ceiling fan light switch replacement help in ~life.home_improvement

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    Yeah that was the best I could come up with and it felt wrong. But I'm just assuming that this is how the ceiling light came wired it so that's why it's all functioning as one piece. Literally on...

    Yeah that was the best I could come up with and it felt wrong. But I'm just assuming that this is how the ceiling light came wired it so that's why it's all functioning as one piece. Literally on my way back to the hardware store to get wire nuts because at no point did any of the videos mentioned to acquire some. Also none of them were wired through a socket fixture like that. Thank you. I will make this attempt when I come back and hopefully not fuck things up

    1 vote