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  1. Comment on AI and the American smile in ~humanities

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    How cultures that use the word "selfie" take "selfies" probably comes into play.

    How cultures that use the word "selfie" take "selfies" probably comes into play.

  2. Comment on Hezbollah is hit by a wave of exploding pagers that killed at least nine people and injured thousands in ~news

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    I guess I'm just frustrated that this is in this reply chain. It is perhaps possible that I don't think anyone could do anything right when it comes to war and violence. I understand feeling...

    I guess I'm just frustrated that this is in this reply chain. It is perhaps possible that I don't think anyone could do anything right when it comes to war and violence.

    I understand feeling frustrated because I am too

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  3. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Best advice I've seen from legitimate websites not having dealt with it on my own is to double-check with tweezers and remove any lingering tentacles and to do a rinse with vinegar to deactivate...

    Best advice I've seen from legitimate websites not having dealt with it on my own is to double-check with tweezers and remove any lingering tentacles and to do a rinse with vinegar to deactivate the chemical reaction.

    But it might be worth giving a doctor a phone call...

  4. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    I fully missed this, thanks for pointing it out!

    I fully missed this, thanks for pointing it out!

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  5. Comment on Hezbollah is hit by a wave of exploding pagers that killed at least nine people and injured thousands in ~news

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    I'd like to be clear that that was not what this comment thread of this post was about.

    I'd like to be clear that that was not what this comment thread of this post was about.

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  6. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Cosign, glasses with the metal/silicone nose pads can help here too especially if you're sweaty. But you can also put stick on nose pads onto the frames if you don't have the metal ones. But the...

    Cosign, glasses with the metal/silicone nose pads can help here too especially if you're sweaty. But you can also put stick on nose pads onto the frames if you don't have the metal ones.

    But the sizing is a huge part of it.

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  7. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    I also don't have to swap my tires out seasonally so it isn't something I think about when they're not on my car.

    I also don't have to swap my tires out seasonally so it isn't something I think about when they're not on my car.

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  8. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Makes sense, to be fair. I don't check the pressure of my actual tires unless I get an alert on my dash. But discount tire does not check my spare. When I pull up so a point taken

    Makes sense, to be fair. I don't check the pressure of my actual tires unless I get an alert on my dash. But discount tire does not check my spare. When I pull up so a point taken

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  9. Comment on Hezbollah is hit by a wave of exploding pagers that killed at least nine people and injured thousands in ~news

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    I didn't, and won't, weigh in on Israel's right to use offensive force and if I want a geopolitical history lesson on this it won't be on any social media. I found the comments here being excited...

    I didn't, and won't, weigh in on Israel's right to use offensive force and if I want a geopolitical history lesson on this it won't be on any social media.

    I found the comments here being excited about the cool new way to maim and kill people in poor taste. Still do.

    I'm saying it's maiming and death, and you're asking me if it's really technically assault and murder. And that's not relevant to my opinion or point.

    Yes, celebrating harm is awful

    We agree.

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  10. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Thought about vs doing is a crucial difference. I never want to push them to the tipping point /ᐠ｡ꞈ｡ᐟ\

    Thought about vs doing is a crucial difference. I never want to push them to the tipping point /⁠ᐠ⁠｡⁠ꞈ⁠｡⁠ᐟ⁠\

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  11. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Sure, I understand refilling a tire that's low, but the framing made an air pump seem a necessary tool for using a spare and I didn't think that was a thing

    Sure, I understand refilling a tire that's low, but the framing made an air pump seem a necessary tool for using a spare and I didn't think that was a thing

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  12. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    Sorry, question, you need an air pump for a spare tire? I don't have an air pump. Regardless, I am not helpful with changing a tire (perhaps as evidenced above? But I've never seen one used.) and...

    Sorry, question, you need an air pump for a spare tire? I don't have an air pump.

    Regardless, I am not helpful with changing a tire (perhaps as evidenced above? But I've never seen one used.) and I'm not likely to have stopped in the first place because I would not make the situation better or less dangerous. The man's citizenship, licensure etc doesn't really matter, the fact that he's a man probably does in my comfort level of pulling over, but again, I'm probably not stopping unless someone is in explicit distress.

    Given the hypothetical though it'd depend on my financial ability at that time, and what time constraints I'm under on the road. If I could afford it in time and money, sure. But me alone, at night, on the side of a dark freezing road is not a space I would realistically have ended up in unless my own car broke down. I'd give him a blanket from my car though I guess.

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  13. Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk

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    If I have a hat on the floor a cat is already sitting on it. If I have a cat with a hat on, he's gonna murder me. So the former.

    If I have a hat on the floor a cat is already sitting on it. If I have a cat with a hat on, he's gonna murder me. So the former.

    6 votes

  14. Comment on Hezbollah is hit by a wave of exploding pagers that killed at least nine people and injured thousands in ~news

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    Yeah I don't like the casual, or celebratory, attitude. Shit is incredibly complicated, but innocent people are afraid, a child was killed, a whole "attack on another country's soil is fine when...

    Yeah I don't like the casual, or celebratory, attitude. Shit is incredibly complicated, but innocent people are afraid, a child was killed, a whole "attack on another country's soil is fine when we/our allies do it" thing is present, as is the possibility of escalation and the near guarantee of retaliation.

    But it's fine because it's in a country we don't like with mostly people we've categorized as bad guys. (And I'm not an expert, I don't claim to be , they could be all the worst guys, even the 8 year old. Some of the comments here are still in very poor taste.

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  15. Comment on Study finds people are consistently and confidently wrong about those with opposing views in ~science

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    Yeah I just think we're coming at the same conclusion from different angles with different lenses! I'm more worried about the spaces, vs the individual's response to them. I'm focusing more on...

    Yeah I just think we're coming at the same conclusion from different angles with different lenses! I'm more worried about the spaces, vs the individual's response to them. I'm focusing more on community accountability vs individual. And I think both are needed!

  16. Comment on Study finds people are consistently and confidently wrong about those with opposing views in ~science

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    I think my point is we will usually focus on either a singular axis of "balance" clumpy or otherwise. And I think we won't notice that we're creating an unfriendly space if it isn't ourselves that...

    I think my point is we will usually focus on either a singular axis of "balance" clumpy or otherwise. And I think we won't notice that we're creating an unfriendly space if it isn't ourselves that are being made uncomfortable.

    Minorities generally must exist in those less comfortable spaces all the time. Online microspaces create safety for sure, but I think that's why my focus goes more towards that sort of inclusivity, or our larger "neutral" spaces become and remain full of majority viewpoints and thus become antisocial by virtue of perpetuating white/cis/hetero normativity. True radicalization happens, IMO, in those dedicated toxic microspaces for it. But the first steps happen in those macrospaces, where those who are radicalized in toxic microspaces will remain welcome and those minority voices are slowly pushed out. Many subreddits do this, and I've seen complaints from others of Tildes doing it as well, though I think it's gotten better since then, I'd agree with those folks that it isn't always true.

    Anyway yes my week probably has to get better... Though we started the new one with a very late night ER trip and surprise back pain (unrelated incidents) so who can say.

  17. Comment on Study finds people are consistently and confidently wrong about those with opposing views in ~science

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    I don't think it's binary either, but I think I worry more about pushing out minority voices, even through passive unwelcoming behavior. Because it harms the minority who lose access to the...

    I don't think it's binary either, but I think I worry more about pushing out minority voices, even through passive unwelcoming behavior. Because it harms the minority who lose access to the theoretically diverse space which leads to that retreat, but it also actively harms the majority too. The majority voices don't have the microspaces to hear those PoVs. Both are harmed by losing access to the voices they don't hear or the spaces they can't engage in.
    I know my spaces are richer for hearing Black voices, for example. I have my views challenged and learn more than I do in most heavily white spaces. My Tiktok feed is keyed to hearing folks who will challenge me, often from the left more than the right, but from entire other axes - Indigenous, Black, Asian, etc.

    I've commented before about how "viewpoint diversity" means having all sorts of diversity, not just hitting a theoretical left and right balance point (which also isn't real).

    I prefer we as a site not platform racists and I've been really open about that, because I think if there's not the same points being made by non-racists then we probably should be talking about racist they are that they're propagating racist narratives. Because that is also going to make this space less accessible to people explicitly harmed by those narratives (Just like LGBTQ folks don't love only negative news or transphobic comments either and will leave if constantly subjected to them). But I also always try to engage fairly with any commenter or topic, or at least if I absolutely cannot, I'll be very open about my bias or my mood. And I think that transparency is what helps spaces talk about tough things without needing to shut it down.

    Idk I think I've rambled. Sorry ಠಿ⁠_⁠ಠಿ I think I had a point in there. If it doesn't make sense, please blame the past week I've had

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  18. Comment on Study finds people are consistently and confidently wrong about those with opposing views in ~science

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    Online homogeneity is also I think common because minority views will get pushed out indirectly and with full denial of it happening. And I'm not talking about political views here even, but PoC,...

    Online homogeneity is also I think common because minority views will get pushed out indirectly and with full denial of it happening. And I'm not talking about political views here even, but PoC, queer, and gender minority voices can be pushed out easily. Sometimes that's the point of an online microspace. But spaces that claim to be all-welcoming spaces will commonly talk over and down to voices they claim to welcome and support.

    This happens IRL but there's more friction there, like you said, and it's easier for people to walk away from unwelcoming online spaces, perpetuating an idea of "this is open to everyone, those sorts of folks just don't want to stay here."

    I find balancing the desire to not be homogenous with the desire not to promote harmful rhetoric one that's too often a tightrope.

  19. Comment on TikTok argues in federal appeals court that US ban would have ‘staggering’ impact on free speech in ~tech

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    The use of Tiktok by candidates and politicians in office alike suggests to me that they don't think it's inherently and free speech violation worthily levels of unsafe. I agree with the...

    The use of Tiktok by candidates and politicians in office alike suggests to me that they don't think it's inherently and free speech violation worthily levels of unsafe.

    I agree with the criticisms of social media as a whole, but I don't think any of it is unique to Tiktok. And if politicians would like to do a broad internet privacy protection bill and in the process Tiktok chose to stop doing business here because of it, I wouldn't be mad at the politicians.

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  20. Comment on Declassified memo from US codebreaker sheds light on Ethel Rosenberg's Cold War spy case in ~humanities.history

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    It's hard with such a small quote, was the intent more that she couldn't have due to her health and thus it was proof? Was it that she wished she could help but her health prevented her? The...

    It's hard with such a small quote, was the intent more that she couldn't have due to her health and thus it was proof? Was it that she wished she could help but her health prevented her? The testimony from her brother that she wasn't involved and that he was trying to spare his own wife, and Hoover's recommendation against execution both speak in her favor. It sounds like it was her brother and her husband, and she may not have felt she could do anything about it if she wanted to.

    I understand her sons' desire to see her name cleared. But I suspect there's probably no way to do that totally.