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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere are care and threat assessment teams that evaluate things. My HS experience is limited because I've only experienced schools attached to universities but for colleges we do threat assessment...There are care and threat assessment teams that evaluate things. My HS experience is limited because I've only experienced schools attached to universities but for colleges we do threat assessment and sometimes that escalates into conversations with the police to evaluate the level of risk. Sometimes that's us trying to connect them to supports, sometimes both. We have a rubric and distinguish between making a threat and being a threat.
But I also cannot force someone to get help. It helps that more people threaten than act. And while no system is perfect, ours is a pretty good one. I'm not particularly worried about people whose red flags are flying getting missed. Outside of college it depends on too many factors. If there's a credible threat to self or others there's a duty to report/warn. But there's lots of people who I think are walking around as giant threatening red flags and they manage to not quite cross that line or police won't take the threat seriously, etc.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentI did/do post pandemic because I don't travel anymore and when I lived on campus where I worked I didn't see the point in staying home and staring at the same walls I did all evening. I have...I did/do post pandemic because I don't travel anymore and when I lived on campus where I worked I didn't see the point in staying home and staring at the same walls I did all evening.
I have gotten better about taking time - I take a day off a week in the summer to avoid burning my time. But obviously I haven't caught up.
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd if "we just" start with a single step. Be active in your school board! Advocate for change!And if "we just" start with a single step. Be active in your school board! Advocate for change!
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI mean I think kids do actually want to learn even when they're not just made to go to school. We still have aspiring doctors and engineers and teachers and all that. I don't want to give up on...I mean I think kids do actually want to learn even when they're not just made to go to school. We still have aspiring doctors and engineers and teachers and all that. I don't want to give up on them entirely. We just don't have to be like this.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThat is basically what I accrue in a year (24 days) but I also get the week between Christmas and New Year off without having to take time for it. Of course if that doesn't work for me as time I...That is basically what I accrue in a year (24 days) but I also get the week between Christmas and New Year off without having to take time for it. Of course if that doesn't work for me as time I want off I can't move it either.
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere shouldn't be cops in schools but the drone doesn't replace the cop (who often aren't particularly useful in a shooting, it depends.) The point is either way we change society, so it'd be...There shouldn't be cops in schools but the drone doesn't replace the cop (who often aren't particularly useful in a shooting, it depends.)
The point is either way we change society, so it'd be nice to change it away from locking down and militarizing our schools and towards better paths.
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe trouble is we'll incrementally change society by putting cops in schools and metal detectors and drones and not do absolutely anything else. We're still changing society, we're just pretending...The trouble is we'll incrementally change society by putting cops in schools and metal detectors and drones and not do absolutely anything else.
We're still changing society, we're just pretending otherwise
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd like, not having guns. But 乁( •_• )ㄏAnd like, not having guns. But 乁( •_• )ㄏ
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Comment on The apples and oranges tribunal in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAppreciate the perspective. While ultimately my point was less whether this specific case was valid or not or an individual mess, but whether it was at all representative or what's going on with...Appreciate the perspective. While ultimately my point was less whether this specific case was valid or not or an individual mess, but whether it was at all representative or what's going on with the law more broadly, it's still helpful.
It feels like a cherrypicked example of a particularly... He's framing it more as ridiculous but it's at least fucked up in some way based on how it seems to be going?
This feels very "written for people who obviously agree with me" and thus not a useful one to share here - not a good argument, not a good example of the work, no compelling personal reason for the share, etc."
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI mean I don't know that I have the same interests as nurses or retail folks and I can see how a union that supports me might not support them. It doesn't seem practical to me but that may be my...I mean I don't know that I have the same interests as nurses or retail folks and I can see how a union that supports me might not support them. It doesn't seem practical to me but that may be my bias speaking.
I do support unionization, just don't have the push to make it a thing for me personally because I'm kind of emotionally swamped.
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Comment on What am I supposed to say to my coworker who says that there has basically been no impact from USAID being cut because "the black lady...the nurse at the health place" said so? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkIt's ok to draw a line - "the things you're saying are inaccurate to the point of being offensive, and your comments are hurtful to me and I thought better of you as a person than to fall into...It's ok to draw a line - "the things you're saying are inaccurate to the point of being offensive, and your comments are hurtful to me and I thought better of you as a person than to fall into this propaganda.
Don't talk about this with me if you're going to keep sharing misinformation. "
If they never reply and are just silent you'll know who they are and don't have to hear about it. If they keep persisting you know who they are and you have an HR violation. If they genuinely try to learn you give them information and if they revert you repeat.
Also mirror what works when you're told you're wrong - and build up your own tolerance to learning and correcting yourself. It's served me very well to find the humility to be like "yeah my bad" because it also bolsters the certainty of "the thing you're doing is fucked up".
This isn't necessarily how to change his mind but that wasn't what you asked.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOk so, it's not that I don't support unions it's that you're acting like we should be in one big union across the country and that wouldn't really be a union nor represent me well. "You guys" is...Ok so, it's not that I don't support unions it's that you're acting like we should be in one big union across the country and that wouldn't really be a union nor represent me well. "You guys" is 270 million adults across fifty states, many more municipalities and tons of jobs.
Yes I support unionization. My job isn't currently unionized and there's not a push - I don't have that kind of energy, so, it won't be me - but I have strong state labor protections. I'm also management and IDK how that plays into union stuff.
But with our current admin, protections for organizing are weak and the most privileged, arguably including many tech workers who have these policies, are un-inclined to unionize.
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Comment on From millionaires to Muslims, small subgroups of the population seem much larger to many Americans in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAt some point it might be possible that yougov isn't getting a useful sample size or that people are just answering the questions without much care for themAt some point it might be possible that yougov isn't getting a useful sample size or that people are just answering the questions without much care for them
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI mean I think that happens at a higher level, in the sense that billionaires aren't directly running my school district, but that the "why didn't someone act" is more about the interpersonal...I mean I think that happens at a higher level, in the sense that billionaires aren't directly running my school district, but that the "why didn't someone act" is more about the interpersonal things and those societal pressures.
Why don't we fix the problem, well, we do like to have "mental health" in our back pocket for any white man who commits a mass shooting while we rarely use the same words for other demographics. And military grade gear is so costly. But we must sacrifice and buy it.
Everyone would benefit from better mental health regardless. And it's generally least accessible to people who need it the most.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI wouldn't recommend nationwide assumptions based on any one post and the person here does have sick time. PTO or Paid Time Off is sometimes used to refer to one larger bank of hours that includes...I wouldn't recommend nationwide assumptions based on any one post and the person here does have sick time. PTO or Paid Time Off is sometimes used to refer to one larger bank of hours that includes sick and vacation, but it also can refer to essentially just vacation. State laws and labor protections vary and so you see different things. I've worked both types.
For example I have Vacation time, Sick time and an entirely separate bank of 40 hours essentially no questions asked that our governor mandated everyone get. I accrue the sick and vacation as I work.
My vacation time does get "approved" but also my boss approves pretty much anything unless there's no office coverage. It's more formality and ensuring the coverage exists. (And that coverage looks different in December than over Move In week)
I work for the government via a university in a reasonable state so it varies across the country.
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Comment on What am I supposed to say to my coworker who says that there has basically been no impact from USAID being cut because "the black lady...the nurse at the health place" said so? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBut that isn't how the other person views things, so that isn't an effective argument.But that isn't how the other person views things, so that isn't an effective argument.
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI'd love non-lethal responses that are effective, but since they don't deploy pepper spray against guns now, and the spray would not prevent the shooter from killing more people, and the spray...I'd love non-lethal responses that are effective, but since they don't deploy pepper spray against guns now, and the spray would not prevent the shooter from killing more people, and the spray could hinder the escape efforts of potential victims... I don't think the only reason we don't already do this is because they didn't have drones.
They can certainly "ram" a shooter (though how much space they need to get up to speed? And if they're wearing body armor? Maybe? But get rid of the pepper spray)I cannot see how this would help me if someone targeted my campus. And while that isn't a high school... I'm familiar with the layout.
Once the tool is there, it seems very likely to me it'll get misused.
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Comment on The apples and oranges tribunal in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )LinkWhile I am suspect of his claims here and will have to decide how deep I dive, I think pay discrimination due to race is far easier to highlight than pay discrimination based on type of job. Plus...While I am suspect of his claims here and will have to decide how deep I dive, I think pay discrimination due to race is far easier to highlight than pay discrimination based on type of job. Plus while he highlights one case gone on particularly long (and why has it actually done so) have there been others that have been resolved quickly? Is it possible that, say, Tesco is dragging its feet here? He frames it as if this is the only case and the tribunal has never done anything. At least one of the other cases linked was from 14 years before the law directing the case he complains about. (Some are just straight paywalled).
I also think that the fundamental comparison he makes doesn't make sense. Apples and oranges are static objects whose availability varies year to year. A sudden demand for more of a certain job means more people can work in that role rather than another comparable one. A sudden demand for oranges won't turn any apples into oranges. (And the assumption that an orange should cost more in a vitamin C rush is treated as a given.)
He presumes his assumptions are true and never presents them. That's fine for folks that agree with him, but not compelling at all to me.
I fundamentally disagree with his worldview also but he didn't really sway me here.
(And this is the blog where the other half of it is that creep who think the AI actress is his favorite actress and your best bet for finding a virgin on screen. Mega ick.)
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Comment on US schools are adding pepper-spraying drones to help combat active shooters in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIdk I feel like it will get used on many non-shooting events in a way that doesn't really deescalate anything.Idk I feel like it will get used on many non-shooting events in a way that doesn't really deescalate anything.
Yeah i do think the four things I listed hit "why nothing is done" most of the time when people say they knew something (but after the fact of course.) And care teams can mostly only act on internal threats. And even then, only with the information that they have.
A student in Wisconsin graduated, but was not able to get licensed as a teacher due to poor performance. She got a gun, confronted her Residence hall Director, shot and killed her, and then herself.
There was no reported threat history. She'd searched for a bunch of stuff including conceal carry, gun permits, how to write a will, how to write a suicide note... But no one knew that beforehand.
The 500+ page report will hopefully help them identify threats like that in the future. But we'll never know all of them.