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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
kovboydan Link ParentAs a child of divorce, the parents talking about it in private and then talking to the kids once the decision has been made is the parents randomly talking about getting divorce. And there’s a big...As a child of divorce, the parents talking about it in private and then talking to the kids once the decision has been made is the parents randomly talking about getting divorce.
And there’s a big “if” that I think may have been misunderstood. I’m not talking about an “I know about Becky with the good hair, I want a divorce” type conversation. I’m talking about a conversation that is a continuation of good conflict resolution and communication behaviors, “[partner], we’ve done [x, y, and z] to try to resolve [conflict] but it’s a still an issue for us. Do you want to try [w] or would it be fairer for both of us to consider separating at this point?”
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
kovboydan Link ParentI’m suggesting something like: Not something like: One is the start of a conversation that leaves room for conflict resolution and mutual understanding, the other is an ultimatum. But honestly,...I’m suggesting something like:
Hey [Partner], we’re best friends and when we’re old and can’t move well we’ll help each other wipe our butts. So I know you don’t do [thing] to make me feel [emotion]. If I understood why [thing] was important to you, I might not feel as [emotion]. Can you help me understand?
Not something like:
If you don’t change [frustrating behavior] then I might decide it’s best for everyone to leave.
One is the start of a conversation that leaves room for conflict resolution and mutual understanding, the other is an ultimatum.
But honestly, even talking about divorce in front of kids is probably for the best if you can model good communication and conflict resolution behavior. How else will kids learn to end a relationship in a healthy way?
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Comment on NBA's Chauncey Billups, Terry Rozier among dozens arrested in illegal gambling probe in ~sports.basketball
kovboydan Link ParentBourré is a game I never expect to see mentioned, but NBC surprised me.Bourré is a game I never expect to see mentioned, but NBC surprised me.
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
kovboydan LinkIf you’re having conversations for the explicit purpose of resolving conflict and can try to model positive conflict resolution behaviors, why does it matter if the kids are around? How else will...If you’re having conversations for the explicit purpose of resolving conflict and can try to model positive conflict resolution behaviors, why does it matter if the kids are around? How else will they learn it?
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Comment on Halo: Campaign Evolved | The Silent Cartographer – Thirteen minute gameplay demo in ~games
kovboydan Link ParentI enjoyed Infinite’s campaign / world. What was wrong with Infinite? Context: I haven’t really kept up with Halo since 3, when I spent way too many hours in swat lobbies bumper jumping like a mad...I enjoyed Infinite’s campaign / world. What was wrong with Infinite?
Context: I haven’t really kept up with Halo since 3, when I spent way too many hours in swat lobbies bumper jumping like a mad man with 10 sensitivity. I’ve completed most of the games since but haven’t played much mp.
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Comment on Atlanta United fires head coach Ronny Deila – high expectations coming into the year after spending more money than any team in Major League Soccer history over the last two transfer windows in ~sports.football
kovboydan LinkIt was decent of them to let him finish out the season but the decision was surely made somewhere around the 40’ mark against Columbus when they were losing 5-0 at home.It was decent of them to let him finish out the season but the decision was surely made somewhere around the 40’ mark against Columbus when they were losing 5-0 at home.
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
kovboydan Link ParentI would build a giant bunker sort of thing like those seed vaults - but pretty and a commune with lots of fjord horses - and I would fill it with however many millions of dollars worth of books...I would build a giant bunker sort of thing like those seed vaults - but pretty and a commune with lots of fjord horses - and I would fill it with however many millions of dollars worth of books and media as possible.
Then when some disaster happens and we don’t have electricity or internet anymore, I control the world’s most complete, concentrated source of knowledge. And knowledge is power (Genius).
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of October 13 in ~society
kovboydan LinkUS revokes visas for 6 foreigners over Charlie Kirk-related speech (AP News)US revokes visas for 6 foreigners over Charlie Kirk-related speech (AP News)
The six foreigners who had their visas revoked were from Argentina, Brazil, Germany, Mexico, Paraguay and South Africa. They were not identified.
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Comment on Some protein powders and shakes may contain high levels of lead in ~health
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
kovboydan LinkIs something like what Doug Tompkins did ridiculous enough? Buying thousands of acres of land to restore wilderness and donate land to create national parks?Is something like what Doug Tompkins did ridiculous enough? Buying thousands of acres of land to restore wilderness and donate land to create national parks?
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Comment on Some protein powders and shakes may contain high levels of lead in ~health
kovboydan Link ParentI generally agree with you in this thread; I don’t think sups are inherently a bad thing and they can be helpful for people with particular limitations or goals. I’m just dropping by to give a...I generally agree with you in this thread; I don’t think sups are inherently a bad thing and they can be helpful for people with particular limitations or goals.
I’m just dropping by to give a shout out to my favorite meal: rice and lentils or beans with yogurt. Need 30g of protein in an easy meal? Throw down 100g each of rice, chickpeas, and Greek yogurt then add a boiled egg on the side. Doesn’t quite get you to 40+, but it would be easy to do with meat or an extra egg and some almonds.
At the end of the day: if it fits your macros, it fits your macros.
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Comment on Paramount considering a hostile takeover of Warner Bros. Discovery in ~tv
kovboydan Link ParentIt might be good old fashioned greed and if it was that would be a "better" explanation. But it seems more likely that it's about control of media and control of data: Who is Larry Ellison, the...It might be good old fashioned greed and if it was that would be a "better" explanation. But it seems more likely that it's about control of media and control of data:
ALLYN: The Ellisons didn't return requests for comment but in remarks to investors last year, Larry Ellison fantasized about a society in which all things are under surveillance at all times and that Oracle would be the steward of all the data.
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ELLISON: The police will be on their best behavior because we're constantly watching and recording everything that's going on. Citizens will be on their best behavior because we're constantly recording and reporting everything that's going on.
Who is Larry Ellison, the billionaire Trump friend who's part of the TikTok takeover? (NPR)
Anywho, I agree with you that it might be interesting and I agree with GLaDYS that it is disconcerting.
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Comment on Paramount considering a hostile takeover of Warner Bros. Discovery in ~tv
kovboydan Link ParentConsolidating control...of legacy and social media.Consolidating control...of legacy and social media.
However, the Ellison name now has a new venture: media. Larry Ellison is 81 and a tech billionaire best known for cofounding Oracle and now moving aggressively into media alongside his son David. The Ellison family’s influence over Paramount and CBS has surged because David Ellison’s Skydance deal to acquire Paramount Global places him atop the company that owns CBS.
CNN could come into the fold only if the family succeeds in a potential Warner Bros. Discovery pursuit, and TikTok involvement is tied to a U.S. consortium where Oracle/Ellison would hold a stake.
Ellison has been an ongoing ally of the president, raising millions for his campaign and advising him during the COVID-19 pandemic. And now, he’s poised to play a critical role in President Donald Trump’s executive order for TikTok’s U.S. operations. The U.S. branch of TikTok is valued at approximately $14 billion. Oracle, along with private equity group Silver Lake and Abu Dhabi’s MGX would together hold around 45%.
Meanwhile, with the help of his father’s money, David, the 42-year-old founder and CEO of Skydance Media—the company behind hit films like Top Gun: Maverick and Mission Impossible— has secured an $8 billion deal to purchase Paramount and its subsidiaries including CBS, MTV, and Comedy Central. David is also reportedly eyeing a bid for Warner Bros. Discovery, the parent media conglomerate behind brands like HBO, CNN and TBS.
Altogether, the Ellison family name is taking shape to be the future of movies, streaming, TV shows and more.
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Comment on Synology caves, walks back some drive restrictions on upcoming NAS models in ~tech
kovboydan Link ParentShucking feels like such a common practice for getting larger storage volumes - on the consumer market side at least - that there's no win to be had for Synology by pulling a Keurig.Shucking feels like such a common practice for getting larger storage volumes - on the consumer market side at least - that there's no win to be had for Synology by pulling a Keurig.
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Comment on Do other people who grew up with an anonymous internet feel a bit hopeless at the moment? in ~society
kovboydan Link ParentI thought we landed on Corporations are people, sort of sometimes, after Citizens United? /s Facebook doesn’t track you only when you go in and out of their shop - Facebook dot com - they’ve got...For the record if an actual person was following me - and only me - around irl then I probably would take some kind of action because that is a bit weird. But that is slightly different, it was just an analogy after all.
I thought we landed on Corporations are people, sort of sometimes, after Citizens United? /s
Someone doing a marketing study where they note the time me and everyone else is going in and out of their shop would be a more accurate comparison and that's not weird at all.
Facebook doesn’t track you only when you go in and out of their shop - Facebook dot com - they’ve got tracking scattered across thousands of other websites too.
It would be more like a store in Manitoba sending free video cameras to every other store in the entire world and saying “hey if you want, you can install this so it looks at your front door and then it will be easier for you to engage with your customers.” And then that store in Manitoba records when any customer goes into any store that happened to install it.
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Synology caves, walks back some drive restrictions on upcoming NAS models
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Comment on Flush with cash and soaring with hubris, Donald Trump appointees are supersizing US Immigration and Customs Enforcement in ~society
kovboydan Link ParentI didn’t intend to suggest anything, just highlighting a past state of geopolitics in which something awfully close to no borders was feasible.I didn’t intend to suggest anything, just highlighting a past state of geopolitics in which something awfully close to no borders was feasible.
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Comment on Flush with cash and soaring with hubris, Donald Trump appointees are supersizing US Immigration and Customs Enforcement in ~society
kovboydan Link ParentI’m not saying there weren’t borders for goods, but borders for people have changed over time when it comes to immigration. And changed over time for travel: This “modern” system didn’t really...I’m not saying there weren’t borders for goods, but borders for people have changed over time when it comes to immigration.
Shortly after the American Civil War, some states started to pass their own immigration laws, which prompted the U.S. Supreme Court to rule in 1875 that immigration was a federal responsibility. In 1875, the nation passed its first immigration law, the Page Act of 1875, also known as the Asian Exclusion Act.
Restriction had proceeded piecemeal over the course of the late 19th and the early 20th centuries, but immediately after the end of World War I (1914–1918) and in the early 1920s, Congress changed the nation's basic policy about immigration.
And changed over time for travel:
A rapid expansion of railway infrastructure and wealth in Europe beginning in the mid-nineteenth century led to large increases in the volume of international travel and a consequent unique dilution of the passport system for approximately thirty years prior to World War I. The speed of trains, as well as the number of passengers that crossed multiple borders, made enforcement of passport laws difficult. The general reaction was the relaxation of passport requirements. In the later part of the nineteenth century and up to World War I, passports were not required, on the whole, for travel within Europe, and crossing a border was a relatively straightforward procedure. Consequently, comparatively few people held passports.
During World War I, European governments introduced border passport requirements for security reasons, and to control the emigration of people with useful skills. These controls remained in place after the war, becoming a standard, though controversial, procedure. British tourists of the 1920s complained, especially about attached photographs and physical descriptions, which they considered led to a "nasty dehumanisation."
This “modern” system didn’t really exist until about 100 years ago.
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