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Comment on Perhaps I should write worse? in ~talk
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Comment on What is your strangely specific phobia? in ~talk
meme Link ParentI have so many phobias around parking, especially not knowing where exterior of the car is in 3D space. I never get straight within the lines or pull far enough forward because I'm afraid of...I have so many phobias around parking, especially not knowing where exterior of the car is in 3D space. I never get straight within the lines or pull far enough forward because I'm afraid of scraping something, then I have to keep reparking up to 4 times because unless I get perfectly dead center someone could scrape me. Thank God driving and parking is something I only do a few times a year if I travel.
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Comment on How often do you replace your phone? in ~tech
meme LinkI get a Samsung flagship every 2-4 years. I just replaced my S22 for an S25 because I had an awful crack in the screen and it was the same price to upgrade to a new phone than to pay $400 for a...I get a Samsung flagship every 2-4 years. I just replaced my S22 for an S25 because I had an awful crack in the screen and it was the same price to upgrade to a new phone than to pay $400 for a screen module replacement. I'm going to get a case and screen protector immediately so I can hopefully keep this one for 3 years.
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Comment on I hate the new internet. I hate the new tech world. I hate it all. I want out, and I can't be the only one. in ~tech
meme LinkI also browse the internet in a way that makes normal people think I'm doing too much. I use web interfaces whenever possible and refuse to use phone interfaces or phone apps. That's why I use...I also browse the internet in a way that makes normal people think I'm doing too much. I use web interfaces whenever possible and refuse to use phone interfaces or phone apps. That's why I use Reddit and Facebook so much still, as opposed to something like Instagram, which only has full features on the phone. I run strict adblocker that is so zealous about blocking scripts it often breaks pages.
I've come to enjoy the modern, chaotic, divisive internet for what it is. I absolutely share your sentiment about megacorporations ruining social media, but a mix of ad blockers and site settings keep their agenda stifled. (for example, using Old Reddit cuts down on so much of Reddit's current bullshit).
Maybe being disillusioned is just a part of growing up. Growing I clearly haven't done, because I actually wake up every day with an attitude of "Oh boy! Can't wait to look at the magic rectangle that shows me the ugliest parts of humanity suffering from their own flaws!"
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Comment on How would you moderate this scenario? in ~tech
meme Link ParentHey now, it's not Godwin's law if the topic is online moderation of calls to violence! :p My personal moderation ethos is "give the mods as little work as possible". And I don't see too many...Hey now, it's not Godwin's law if the topic is online moderation of calls to violence! :p
My personal moderation ethos is "give the mods as little work as possible". And I don't see too many issues in terms of rhetoric of allowing "punch a nazi" stuff, like poisoning the well. Eternal september ensures no subreddit culture is taking hold anyway. It should not be against ToS because what court of law would consider it violent speech or harassment?
I feel like so much of my time is currently wasted because we have to flag these comments in automod, check for positive or false positive, and remove. The sort of highly moderated discussion forum (like tildes is) is not how I like to run things in my own subreddits. The lovely Mod Toolbox only does so much to cut the work down. I'm annoyed Reddit drew the line where they didn't need to, and I think it was more political pressure from Spez and the like rather than a liability issue.
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Comment on How would you moderate this scenario? in ~tech
meme Link ParentI feel like there's a big difference between speaking abstractly and talking specifics. Maybe my other issue is I feel 99% of the people saying this are wimps who have never been in a physical...I feel like there's a big difference between speaking abstractly and talking specifics. Maybe my other issue is I feel 99% of the people saying this are wimps who have never been in a physical fight in their lives, so they're just wishing ill on their political enemies. It's pretty cringey but I rarely see a serious threat of violence behind it.
Context matters too. For example there's been a trend on reddit recently of posting memes about punching nazis and then people agree in the comments. I think that's fairly abstract.
There have been a lot of viral posts on reddit lately about a couple that went to a texas knife shop to have work done on a Hitler Youth knife. Saying those nazis need punched becomes specific, and also might fall under "being aimed at the wrong people" because someone could theoretically collect nazi memoribilia without agreeing with the ideology.
I do have to admit my bias here, because there are certain prominent neo nazis and neo fascists that I feel have earned and invite the hateful rhetoric against them. (Richard Spencer, his friend Stephen Miller, etc). I still enforce Reddit's rules when people post violent wishes for them but I also feel bad removing it.
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Comment on How would you moderate this scenario? in ~tech
meme LinkSites usually have an "advocating for violence/death threats" type rule that this could fall under. When you're talking a specific person and a specific method of death, that's a little too far...Sites usually have an "advocating for violence/death threats" type rule that this could fall under. When you're talking a specific person and a specific method of death, that's a little too far into edginess. If you don't have a "death threats/calls to violence" rule, it might be a good idea to make one.
Depending on how small this forum is, you can actually DM the individual saying you know his comment wasn't meant as a death threat but it just looks a little too close to one, even though it's a joke, so it has to be removed. Even if it wasn't a joke, people generally react better when you extend good faith towards them and act like you aren't judging them personally.
Bit of a side trail, but I've been so irritated lately how the "advocating for violence" rule has become applied so broadly on other sites that "punch a nazi" is treated the same way as "kill this specific guy". I have to remove that when I see it on reddit, even though I think it's overkill to remove what is more a political slogan than an actual plan of action.
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Comment on Looking for some advice on a cat food dispenser in ~life.pets
meme LinkIt's possible your cat is bothering you to shake more food out because it's something to do and he's bored. An autofeeder that goes off constantly throughout the day would give him something to do...It's possible your cat is bothering you to shake more food out because it's something to do and he's bored. An autofeeder that goes off constantly throughout the day would give him something to do (sit and watch it). Of course, timing playtime to be just before the food dispenses is much more enriching.
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Comment on The US "Ice Cream Truck Song" is rooted in racism in ~music
meme Link ParentI'm not sure what you're trying to link because it isn't working, but Pop Goes the Weasel is not associated with minstrel shows. I can't find any actual documentation it was used in minstrel shows...I'm not sure what you're trying to link because it isn't working, but Pop Goes the Weasel is not associated with minstrel shows. I can't find any actual documentation it was used in minstrel shows beyond a few google results speculating it was.
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Comment on The US "Ice Cream Truck Song" is rooted in racism in ~music
meme LinkI got scared this was about "Pop Goes the Weasel" which is also very popular for ice cream trucks (maybe more so). Thankfully it's not! Pop Goes the Weasel is comparatively wholesome and about...I got scared this was about "Pop Goes the Weasel" which is also very popular for ice cream trucks (maybe more so). Thankfully it's not! Pop Goes the Weasel is comparatively wholesome and about pawning off your valuables to drink more or something
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Comment on Why I’ve tracked every single piece of clothing I’ve worn for three years in ~life.style
meme Link ParentI definitely own over 15 pairs of shoes, and categorize them as such junky shoes: gray sneakers, colorful sneakers, slip on sneakers sandals: knock off tevas, house slippers, birkenstocks nice...I definitely own over 15 pairs of shoes, and categorize them as such
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junky shoes: gray sneakers, colorful sneakers, slip on sneakers
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sandals: knock off tevas, house slippers, birkenstocks
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nice sneakers that I clean regularly: AF1 and Stan Smiths (yes, both white 😅), colorful vans
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GYW boots: one tan suede, one brown leather
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rain boots
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hiking boots
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dress shoes: one tan pair, one black pair
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punk-y boots I bought for clubbing and have only worn twice
Technically I have 17 if you count the pair of sneakers I didn't wear enough and plan to give away... But the only saving grace of having this many shoes is they don't wear out quickly. One pair of junk sneakers I've had for 15 years. I tend to buy 2 pairs of shoes a year and having to throw out worn ones with holes once or twice a year.
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Comment on Why 295,000 businesses are in this little building in ~finance
meme LinkI'm born and raised in Delaware and only escaped at age 25. I got a big guffaw from when he went to Slower Lower and was extremely underwhelmed by having driven an hour and having nothing to look...I'm born and raised in Delaware and only escaped at age 25. I got a big guffaw from when he went to Slower Lower and was extremely underwhelmed by having driven an hour and having nothing to look at or do.
He missed another shitty point of interest, the forma Astra Zeneca corporate headquarters and the only high rise building in Delaware north of Wilmington.
Also laughed at his fear his camera would get stolen. Wilmington is a rough town, although not as rough as it looks. I don't think someone would steal it right in front of him the instant he stepped away.
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Comment on I find myself intimidated by the Bear community in ~lgbt
meme LinkAnother vote for "just go". If you're afraid of rejection, it might help to have your first time goal being merely showing up. It's okay to be a wallflower the first time! Don't put pressure on...Another vote for "just go". If you're afraid of rejection, it might help to have your first time goal being merely showing up. It's okay to be a wallflower the first time! Don't put pressure on yourself to become "popular" or make friends, just check it out and get a feel for it. I'm also LGBT (on the lesbian side) and these types of gatherings are great even if you mostly keep to yourself. It's so affirming to be in a sea of bodies that are masc gay men. (Or in my case, androgynous lesbians).
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Comment on Cartoons such as Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, or Avatar? in ~tv
meme LinkShe Ra reboot (quite childish but in a way I enjoyed) Owl House (you think it's episodic until the overarching plot sneaks up on you, like Gravity Falls) Adventures of Fiona and Cake (TV-14,...-
She Ra reboot (quite childish but in a way I enjoyed)
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Owl House (you think it's episodic until the overarching plot sneaks up on you, like Gravity Falls)
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Adventures of Fiona and Cake (TV-14, exactly the kind of adult Adventure Time people dreamed of)
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~health
meme LinkIt's interesting to me cereal companies are going hardcore on funding this because pro-diet culture is hurting their sales. Sugary cereal like Lucky Charms are actually kind of low calorie! Two...It's interesting to me cereal companies are going hardcore on funding this because pro-diet culture is hurting their sales. Sugary cereal like Lucky Charms are actually kind of low calorie! Two bowls with milk would be like 400 cals. I keep a rough count of my calories and it's my go-to easy, small meal. I also eat "healthy" cereals like Frosted Mini Wheats and Raisin Bran and they have more calories than the sugar cereals (but way more fiber).
So clearly they're going the route of making consumers think sugary cereals are a treat and an indulgence food. But General Mills also makes Pillsbury and Haagen Dazs, so I guess taking the "high calorie food is good" covers more of their brands than trying to teach people they're wrong about cereal calories.
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Comment on Men took over a job fair intended for women and nonbinary tech workers in ~tech
meme Link ParentI think you'd still be welcome, just not at the job fair portion. The men didn't crowd the panels or stuff like that, only the part of the event where you could hand your resume to recruiters....I think you'd still be welcome, just not at the job fair portion. The men didn't crowd the panels or stuff like that, only the part of the event where you could hand your resume to recruiters. They didn't really come to learn or socialize so it stood out they were just using the conference as a chance to get facetime with recruiters from certain companies.
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Comment on The Electronic Frontier Foundation, kiwifarms, death, harassment: a critique in ~tech
meme Link ParentRight, digital stalking needs to be targeted IMO. There are so many companies that having selling personal info as their primary business. You can get a picture of someone's face and then pay a...Right, digital stalking needs to be targeted IMO. There are so many companies that having selling personal info as their primary business. You can get a picture of someone's face and then pay a company to find out their name, address, phone number, all their accounts. People have essentially no recourse to removing their personal information online except hoping that a social media company enforces their own non-legally-required policy
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Comment on The Electronic Frontier Foundation, kiwifarms, death, harassment: a critique in ~tech
meme Link ParentMy apologies for being unclear. I do not think the users there are capable of reform or kindness. More like, KF is essentially a black hole of information because it is so obscure and so reviled....You cannot reason with them or make them stop by chiding them to Remember The Human. Only force will stop them. You should accept this if you're going to advocate that they remain online.
My apologies for being unclear. I do not think the users there are capable of reform or kindness. More like, KF is essentially a black hole of information because it is so obscure and so reviled. I will use Lindsay Ellis as my example. For years, KF had a thread about her that got thousands of replies of people posting her personal info and being mad she was a successful youtuber. Because only a small number of people use that site, it never really escaped the KF event horizon. Until the Raya thing, where an enormous pool of social media users (mostly on twitter) decided they hated Lindsay and needed to bring her down. This was when some of the KF dox and lines of attack could cross the event horizon. As another user mentioned, KF is where people know they can go when they have already decided they hate someone and want more ammunition.
Without a well of hatred on mainstream social media against some sort of figure, KF has very little power. It is ordinary people who get overwhelmed with hatred for some internet stranger and choose to pursue digital or even real world harm, using information that occasionally originated with KF and very often did not.
I'm glad Cloudflare dropped them, that AWS will never service them, and all those mainstream SaaS companies refuse to do business with them. The crazy founder guy can't even have a channel on youtube or twitch.
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Comment on The Electronic Frontier Foundation, kiwifarms, death, harassment: a critique in ~tech
meme Link ParentI'm pointing to legalities because the issue here is kiwifarms being able to be on the clearnet under net neutrality specifically. These ISPs claim to not refuse to carry a site's traffic just for...because it's something everyone agrees is unequivocally morally wrong.
I'm pointing to legalities because the issue here is kiwifarms being able to be on the clearnet under net neutrality specifically. These ISPs claim to not refuse to carry a site's traffic just for being morally wrong. Every time an ISP or a service provider alludes to "illegal content", they are specifically thinking US-illegal, and they say KF violates because otherwise they have to acknowledge they made an exception in net neutrality for one site.
"vast majority" is doing some heavy lifting there
I could ask the same of you, who has done quantitative analysis of the posts and their content? No one. I am not a user or lurker there, but there have sadly been many times I had to visit in my time as a mod on reddit when some sort of harassment campaign was happening. (During such times, I need to know the doxxing info so I can add it to automod, and then it's auto removed on reddit before ever seeing the light of day.) So typically what you will see in these threads, is one person digs up some personal info and posts it, and the next 50 replies are a bunch the users crying and whining about the woke mind virus or some such. Not coordinated or planned campaigns of how to spread such information. It actually makes it way harder to find the dox.
It was very rare you'd see someone openly advocating for some sort of "action" against the subject. It's against the rules there to plan trolls, although I would guess the users there only have that rule because such things are considered "cringe", not because they care about morals.
I actually really wish someone could do a quantitative analysis of the site and especially the users.
In regards to uniqueness, other social media sites cause MORE harassment and MORE harm, on an astronomical scale, simply by being more mainstream. Find out who the "main character" of the day is, search their name on tiktok, reddit, twitter, etc, and you will find a lot of very angry people openly coordinating to ruin their life, and succeeding at it.
this is a problem of a site that has become notorious for "if you want to do targeted harassment, this is the place to hang out"
I completely agree with this. That's why all reputable businesses can and should refuse to provide services such as DDOS protection. In terms of "do we break net neutrality for this one site" I do not agree.
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Comment on The Electronic Frontier Foundation, kiwifarms, death, harassment: a critique in ~tech
meme (edited )LinkI think KF should be on the clearnet* and I'll explain why. I don't intent to upset people, just writing this comment if anyone is curious of the reasoning. *Specifically in terms of the linked...I think KF should be on the clearnet* and I'll explain why. I don't intent to upset people, just writing this comment if anyone is curious of the reasoning.
*Specifically in terms of the linked article, with ISPs carrying traffic and net neutrality. I strongly believe in net neutrality and think Hurricane Electric violated it.
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It does not actually have illegal content. Doxxing is not illegal, nor is celebrating someone's death. When ISPs or other services drop them and cite illegal content, they are doing this based on heresay. The owner of KF is just one single crazy guy, so he makes no reasonable effort to correct the whole "illegal content" thing and it keeps getting repeated
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It does not actually organize off-site harassment. Kiwifarmers are stalkers who carry out this stalking entirely online. The vast majority of the posts there and the users there are reposting and discussing publically available information, with no efforts to contact the subject they are stalking. It's a lot like the stalking and surveillance of a celebrity done by paparazzi. This is of course creepy, invasive, and even harmful. But they are not en masse organizing people to hop into someone's DMs to send hateful messages.
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It is not unique in its role as a gossip forum, nor is it unique as a repository of doxxing, and it is especially not unique in being a website where someone who the site stalked/criticized later killed themselves. KF is a very obscure forum that is basically unreadable to the average person. Compare with twitter, so famous for turning obscure figures into celebrities of hatred overnight that there are academics studying it. Every time someone is harassed on twitter and then takes their life or self harms, people who might have been tangentially involved in this try to deflect blame and say someone who would do such a thing was already unstable and might have done it even without the harassment. Basically, gossip and online witchhunts are extremely common and partaken in by the masses who later justify to themselves why it was okay when they did it.
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The disease isn't KF, it's online witchhunting in general, and the cure is more kindness. (And also google no longer indexing hateful gossip sites, which they finally fixed with KF). The cure is thinking twice before participating in a pile-on, no matter where it is occurring. And sending messages of support, material help, and checking in on people who are being witchunted.
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I've noticed sometimes that ESL speakers, when writing, tend to have a very "flowery" style that can come across as pretentious or eccentric if one assumes they're a native speaker. However, successfully imitating a native speaker writing in a casual style will be difficult. If your tendency is towards floweriness and verbosity, will you be believable trying to imitate another style?
I think it's only worth trying if it's for your own personal interest and fun, and NOT to avoid conflict. Remember the misunderstanding and language barriers goes both ways - maybe people don't mean to come across to you as being very hostile but you're perceiving it that way. That's the charitable reading of the situation.
I'm a native speaker and people online are constantly misinterpreting me anyway, so at a certain point you have to let go and either ignore it or find amusement in people's willingness to get bent out of shape over nothing. It's really their own personal failing, and not yours, to get so mad about someone else's writing style.