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Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life
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Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life
okiyama Link ParentOh no, not at all, you're right, and an asocial person would be confused further yet! You basically got it, yep. One aspect that wasn't brought up is that these servers have SFW areas too, I just...Oh no, not at all, you're right, and an asocial person would be confused further yet!
You basically got it, yep. One aspect that wasn't brought up is that these servers have SFW areas too, I just hopped out of one with about a dozen people (real queerdos I'll add) just hanging, chatting, streaming games. It also didn't really mention that voice is really prevalent, and in many ways it's just another way for people to meet up, watch a thing, and talk together. Of course, in the NSFW side, "talk together" can vary wildly, but for example, among 5 or 6 streams a few nights back, someone came on to show off their halloween costume.
That's what I've been enjoying is it's a judgement free sex-positive safe space with like minded people. The people really are just people that do people things together. Two random thoughts, first, probably not millions, at least not on Discord. Second, I would hazard a guess that the social experience is the minority of the "community" and the majority are indeed 100% solo, just surfing the internet, never interacting with anyone else. In that sense, the article was well balanced to the reality of the situation for society.
I'm an open book, and DMs are open as well if you prefer.
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Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life
okiyama LinkGreat article, I wish it had focused more on community. I've recently joined some of the named servers and have found the patronage friendly and focused on health and safety. For me, it gives me...Great article, I wish it had focused more on community. I've recently joined some of the named servers and have found the patronage friendly and focused on health and safety.
For me, it gives me the only space in my life to fully explore sexuality, crucially, with others. The article kept hammering in over and over you're totally alone when you do it, but that's not usually true. It is social, and it offers a judgment free space that's hard to come by. Very very trans and queer friendly, too.
Happy to answer any questions. The most interesting bit to me what the author trying and failing to join in. They describe solo sex as being fraught with anxiety, panic, existential dread, and that's much the point is to enter a meditative state where the world and it's worries don't exist.
They could have gone down that path more of they had more experience with the whole thing, but, great article.
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Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science
okiyama Link ParentReminds me of this delightful story of yore https://www.ibiblio.org/harris/500milemail.htmlReminds me of this delightful story of yore
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Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science
okiyama Link ParentThe latest busy beaver was similar. They found they could break it down to "just" thousands of cases and spend it think years tediously proving each case one by one. bbchallenge.orgThe latest busy beaver was similar. They found they could break it down to "just" thousands of cases and spend it think years tediously proving each case one by one.
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Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science
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Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science
okiyama Link ParentThat's kinda the rub with string theory. It's the most robust theory of quantum gravity, the math (from a layman) all works and is logical, but none of it is even barely testable. The closest...That's kinda the rub with string theory. It's the most robust theory of quantum gravity, the math (from a layman) all works and is logical, but none of it is even barely testable. The closest they've got is finding weird long structures and bubbles that could be better described with string theory but they are far, far, far from any smoking gun results.
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Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science
okiyama Link ParentHis whole channel is one of the most binge worthy on the platform for the right kinda nerd. Most of his videos are about making SIGBOVIK entries which are, "scientific discoveries that make you...His whole channel is one of the most binge worthy on the platform for the right kinda nerd. Most of his videos are about making SIGBOVIK entries which are, "scientific discoveries that make you laugh, then think".
In the past, he's used a raspberry pi to see the limits of the nes hardware. A move only compiler, just endless ridiculous fun projects.
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Suggestions for a new Steam Deck user looking to make Desktop mode pleasant to use?
I've had my Steam Deck a few months so I'm comfortable getting around. That said, it could do a lot that it isn't. Partly because the default desktop experience is so barebones and has kinda bad...
I've had my Steam Deck a few months so I'm comfortable getting around. That said, it could do a lot that it isn't. Partly because the default desktop experience is so barebones and has kinda bad ergonomics.
I know there's emulation and such that I'd be interested in. I'm a linux nerd so don't be shy. I'd say the main thing I'm looking for is for the Desktop mode to be more of like a "default to Couch Mode: unlocked, but can go to a (nice) desktop if need be". I really like the idea of playing my GOG games, emulators, etc all in one menu that's ergonomic to controller. I have a file server handy as well, anything good to do with that in conjunction?
Besides that, what good/cool uses have you found?
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Comment on Amazon Web Services outage shows internet users ‘at mercy’ of too few providers, experts say in ~tech
okiyama LinkBasic infrastructure like this really should be regulated like power and water. My company takes resilience really seriously and I was pleased to see the one product I'm responsible for flipped...Basic infrastructure like this really should be regulated like power and water.
My company takes resilience really seriously and I was pleased to see the one product I'm responsible for flipped from East coast to West without missing a beat.
Most companies aren't banks but more companies should be more seriously about this kind of stuff.
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Comment on YouTube has a new video player in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentNothing says Sunday afternoon quite like cursing your way through 40 errors in someone else's codeNothing says Sunday afternoon quite like cursing your way through 40 errors in someone else's code
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentThese are the kind of recs I was looking for! Stuff that tries new weird approaches, I'll give a look!These are the kind of recs I was looking for! Stuff that tries new weird approaches, I'll give a look!
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentYou cannot just nerd snip me like this on a Friday. I had plans, girlYou cannot just nerd snip me like this on a Friday. I had plans, girl
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentDiscord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active windowDiscord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentMullvad has ad blocking endpoints I use sometimes, nice for not having to maintain a piholeMullvad has ad blocking endpoints I use sometimes, nice for not having to maintain a pihole
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentDiscord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active windowDiscord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentIt streams the active window, so whatever I click on it swaps toIt streams the active window, so whatever I click on it swaps to
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Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech
okiyama Link ParentGrabbing! For the curious it's Firefox sans any telemetry, with some (well chosen) privacy add-ons bundled in. Seems perfect for the circumstance.Grabbing! For the curious it's Firefox sans any telemetry, with some (well chosen) privacy add-ons bundled in. Seems perfect for the circumstance.
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
okiyama Link ParentBig thumbs up on that second one, currently car free and liking it a lot but I've loved all my corollas :) EU to US is harder though, they have different safety standards.Big thumbs up on that second one, currently car free and liking it a lot but I've loved all my corollas :)
EU to US is harder though, they have different safety standards.
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
okiyama Link ParentThis is unironically a great idea. The children yearn for the mines.Would also start a theme park where people can just go to dig a hole
This is unironically a great idea. The children yearn for the mines.
first off, disclaimer, I've been loosely part of this for a long while but only into the social aspect the last few weeks.
Never in my limited experience, I can attest to the "we really take moderation seriously" attitude. For example, there was a post that had a social media tag that was (apparently, I only saw the aftermath) taken down quickly to avoid harassment. That sort stuff is what I mean by health and safety, it's very... mature? in that sense.
I have actually looked into this and there's an annual party of a similar breed in my city. From what I read, it's very chill. Everyone is vetted pretty hardcore, and you get very explicit instructions who is looking for what.
I expected the level of femboys and trans people but the number of cis women actually is a bit of a surprise, especially how many hop on voice. As you can imagine, it can feel very powerful the effect that a voice can have on someone, live no less.
Yeah I think that's fair to say. People are complicated, and, though social, it's on pretty strict terms.
Bit of a stretch to me, I don't think people avoid sex because of STDs, generally speaking, it's more social and community contact oriented.
Maybe but I cannot speak to this as a millenial.
The simple answer is, community is good. It is mutually beneficial for the members, who get to socialize when they would (let's be honest) be otherwise on Instgram, Youtube, etc...
That loops back to your first point. I think it's a lot like any hobby, people who make it their entire identity (especially when it's something more fringe like this or LMAO 420 WeeeeeeDDD HAHA) it gets... weird. Like the article said, they spend something like 2-3 hours a day at it? It's not crazy to do that as a hobby, and, without getting too gory, there's levels. You can chill for a while before hopping into the deep end.
This is a lot of fun, I'm happy to share my discord as well if you prefer to make things private too :D