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  1. Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life

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    first off, disclaimer, I've been loosely part of this for a long while but only into the social aspect the last few weeks. Never in my limited experience, I can attest to the "we really take...

    first off, disclaimer, I've been loosely part of this for a long while but only into the social aspect the last few weeks.

    I want to know your guess of the composition, rough percentage of those who are "anything goes" hedonists who don't care about social morals or damage to others or consent or safety

    Never in my limited experience, I can attest to the "we really take moderation seriously" attitude. For example, there was a post that had a social media tag that was (apparently, I only saw the aftermath) taken down quickly to avoid harassment. That sort stuff is what I mean by health and safety, it's very... mature? in that sense.

    WristbandGuy's parties seem far more responsible and wholesome than raves of the 90s.

    I have actually looked into this and there's an annual party of a similar breed in my city. From what I read, it's very chill. Everyone is vetted pretty hardcore, and you get very explicit instructions who is looking for what.

    I expected the level of femboys and trans people but the number of cis women actually is a bit of a surprise, especially how many hop on voice. As you can imagine, it can feel very powerful the effect that a voice can have on someone, live no less.

    It sounds like, more than pleasure, gooners are looking for a way to escape the fear of harm. They sound like they're after safety ... Safety from malicious intent or miscommunication. From judgement and criticism

    Yeah I think that's fair to say. People are complicated, and, though social, it's on pretty strict terms.

    Safety from pathogenic harm of STDs isn't weird for the generation that grew up during the pandemic

    Bit of a stretch to me, I don't think people avoid sex because of STDs, generally speaking, it's more social and community contact oriented.

    Perhaps safety from the gnawing feeling of being ignored by parents who themselves are glued to screens, an attempt at being completely self sufficient in soothing oneself without having to rely on other human beings with competing needs or vanishing attention spans.

    Maybe but I cannot speak to this as a millenial.

    Why are gooners choosing to be in the community?

    The simple answer is, community is good. It is mutually beneficial for the members, who get to socialize when they would (let's be honest) be otherwise on Instgram, Youtube, etc...

    how seriously are people taking this, or is it the usual teenaged / youthful trying on of a persona?

    That loops back to your first point. I think it's a lot like any hobby, people who make it their entire identity (especially when it's something more fringe like this or LMAO 420 WeeeeeeDDD HAHA) it gets... weird. Like the article said, they spend something like 2-3 hours a day at it? It's not crazy to do that as a hobby, and, without getting too gory, there's levels. You can chill for a while before hopping into the deep end.

    This is a lot of fun, I'm happy to share my discord as well if you prefer to make things private too :D

    8 votes
  2. Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life

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    Oh no, not at all, you're right, and an asocial person would be confused further yet! You basically got it, yep. One aspect that wasn't brought up is that these servers have SFW areas too, I just...

    Oh no, not at all, you're right, and an asocial person would be confused further yet!

    You basically got it, yep. One aspect that wasn't brought up is that these servers have SFW areas too, I just hopped out of one with about a dozen people (real queerdos I'll add) just hanging, chatting, streaming games. It also didn't really mention that voice is really prevalent, and in many ways it's just another way for people to meet up, watch a thing, and talk together. Of course, in the NSFW side, "talk together" can vary wildly, but for example, among 5 or 6 streams a few nights back, someone came on to show off their halloween costume.

    That's what I've been enjoying is it's a judgement free sex-positive safe space with like minded people. The people really are just people that do people things together. Two random thoughts, first, probably not millions, at least not on Discord. Second, I would hazard a guess that the social experience is the minority of the "community" and the majority are indeed 100% solo, just surfing the internet, never interacting with anyone else. In that sense, the article was well balanced to the reality of the situation for society.

    I'm an open book, and DMs are open as well if you prefer.

    12 votes
  3. Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life

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    Great article, I wish it had focused more on community. I've recently joined some of the named servers and have found the patronage friendly and focused on health and safety. For me, it gives me...

    Great article, I wish it had focused more on community. I've recently joined some of the named servers and have found the patronage friendly and focused on health and safety.

    For me, it gives me the only space in my life to fully explore sexuality, crucially, with others. The article kept hammering in over and over you're totally alone when you do it, but that's not usually true. It is social, and it offers a judgment free space that's hard to come by. Very very trans and queer friendly, too.

    Happy to answer any questions. The most interesting bit to me what the author trying and failing to join in. They describe solo sex as being fraught with anxiety, panic, existential dread, and that's much the point is to enter a meditative state where the world and it's worries don't exist.

    They could have gone down that path more of they had more experience with the whole thing, but, great article.

    17 votes
  4. Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science

  5. Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science

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    The latest busy beaver was similar. They found they could break it down to "just" thousands of cases and spend it think years tediously proving each case one by one. bbchallenge.org

    The latest busy beaver was similar. They found they could break it down to "just" thousands of cases and spend it think years tediously proving each case one by one.

    bbchallenge.org

    7 votes
  6. Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science

  7. Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science

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    That's kinda the rub with string theory. It's the most robust theory of quantum gravity, the math (from a layman) all works and is logical, but none of it is even barely testable. The closest...

    That's kinda the rub with string theory. It's the most robust theory of quantum gravity, the math (from a layman) all works and is logical, but none of it is even barely testable. The closest they've got is finding weird long structures and bubbles that could be better described with string theory but they are far, far, far from any smoking gun results.

    3 votes
  8. Comment on First shape found that can’t pass through itself in ~science

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    His whole channel is one of the most binge worthy on the platform for the right kinda nerd. Most of his videos are about making SIGBOVIK entries which are, "scientific discoveries that make you...

    His whole channel is one of the most binge worthy on the platform for the right kinda nerd. Most of his videos are about making SIGBOVIK entries which are, "scientific discoveries that make you laugh, then think".

    In the past, he's used a raspberry pi to see the limits of the nes hardware. A move only compiler, just endless ridiculous fun projects.

    10 votes
  9. Suggestions for a new Steam Deck user looking to make Desktop mode pleasant to use?

    I've had my Steam Deck a few months so I'm comfortable getting around. That said, it could do a lot that it isn't. Partly because the default desktop experience is so barebones and has kinda bad...

    I've had my Steam Deck a few months so I'm comfortable getting around. That said, it could do a lot that it isn't. Partly because the default desktop experience is so barebones and has kinda bad ergonomics.

    I know there's emulation and such that I'd be interested in. I'm a linux nerd so don't be shy. I'd say the main thing I'm looking for is for the Desktop mode to be more of like a "default to Couch Mode: unlocked, but can go to a (nice) desktop if need be". I really like the idea of playing my GOG games, emulators, etc all in one menu that's ergonomic to controller. I have a file server handy as well, anything good to do with that in conjunction?

    Besides that, what good/cool uses have you found?

    23 votes
  10. Comment on Amazon Web Services outage shows internet users ‘at mercy’ of too few providers, experts say in ~tech

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    Basic infrastructure like this really should be regulated like power and water. My company takes resilience really seriously and I was pleased to see the one product I'm responsible for flipped...

    Basic infrastructure like this really should be regulated like power and water.

    My company takes resilience really seriously and I was pleased to see the one product I'm responsible for flipped from East coast to West without missing a beat.

    Most companies aren't banks but more companies should be more seriously about this kind of stuff.

    9 votes
  11. Comment on YouTube has a new video player in ~tech

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    Nothing says Sunday afternoon quite like cursing your way through 40 errors in someone else's code

    Nothing says Sunday afternoon quite like cursing your way through 40 errors in someone else's code

    8 votes
  12. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    These are the kind of recs I was looking for! Stuff that tries new weird approaches, I'll give a look!

    These are the kind of recs I was looking for! Stuff that tries new weird approaches, I'll give a look!

    1 vote
  13. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    You cannot just nerd snip me like this on a Friday. I had plans, girl

    You cannot just nerd snip me like this on a Friday. I had plans, girl

    1 vote
  14. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    Discord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window

    Discord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window

  15. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    Mullvad has ad blocking endpoints I use sometimes, nice for not having to maintain a pihole

    Mullvad has ad blocking endpoints I use sometimes, nice for not having to maintain a pihole

    1 vote
  16. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    Discord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window

    Discord targets application, opening a window swaps to the active window

  17. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    It streams the active window, so whatever I click on it swaps to

    It streams the active window, so whatever I click on it swaps to

  18. Comment on Forgot Chrome's unusable, any recommendations? in ~tech

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    Grabbing! For the curious it's Firefox sans any telemetry, with some (well chosen) privacy add-ons bundled in. Seems perfect for the circumstance.

    Grabbing! For the curious it's Firefox sans any telemetry, with some (well chosen) privacy add-ons bundled in. Seems perfect for the circumstance.

    7 votes
  19. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Big thumbs up on that second one, currently car free and liking it a lot but I've loved all my corollas :) EU to US is harder though, they have different safety standards.

    Big thumbs up on that second one, currently car free and liking it a lot but I've loved all my corollas :)

    EU to US is harder though, they have different safety standards.

    1 vote
  20. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    This is unironically a great idea. The children yearn for the mines.

    Would also start a theme park where people can just go to dig a hole

    This is unironically a great idea. The children yearn for the mines.

    9 votes