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  1. Comment on What's on your Christmas wish list? in ~life

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    I've heard it's similar to Hardboiled Wonderland and that would be awesome!

    I've heard it's similar to Hardboiled Wonderland and that would be awesome!

    1 vote

  2. Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative

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    Pottery!!! My partner signed us up for a pottery class and I have been absolutely loving it! It's my first time in a pottery class but I worked with my dad as a house painter for quite a while so...

    Pottery!!!

    My partner signed us up for a pottery class and I have been absolutely loving it! It's my first time in a pottery class but I worked with my dad as a house painter for quite a while so knowing how to "feather in" or work with putty/spackle has translated much more than I expected. The wheel work is incredibly fun - everything from centering the clay to trimming the final shapes. I have 2 finished cups (one which was supposed to be a bowl that shrunk much more than I had expected so now it's a cup) and I couldn't be happier with them. It's like magic drinking out of your own thrown, trimmed, and glazed mug. After Thanksgiving I'll get to pick up the 5 plates I just finished up and I'm really excited to see how they turn out.

    Everything has been a surprise. How easily the clay wriggles off center. How the trimmer jumps around on the clay. How the piece looks when it dries. The color the glaze turns post firing. How it feels to drink from. It's awesome and I learn so much with every session. We were able to get into the class/studio again for the new year and I'm so stoked to dive in deeper.

    As a funny aside, the pottery class/studio is comprised of 95% women and has organically become what I would describe as a "women's space". I don't often frequent spaces like this and it's been really interesting to experience. Folks are more complimentary and supportive. The vibe is much quieter and more respectful. Conflicts are addressed directly and with community discussion. It's been really nice. It also makes me much more aware of why these spaces are important. And, how much more women search out "healthy or restorative" things (hobbies, food, health). I know those are broad strokes but it's been a big takeaway for me.

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  3. Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk

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    If you're headed up to Mountain View, check out Monday's trivia night at Fred's Place. It is by far and away the greatest trivia night I've every experienced and trying to describe it would be a...

    If you're headed up to Mountain View, check out Monday's trivia night at Fred's Place. It is by far and away the greatest trivia night I've every experienced and trying to describe it would be a disservice.

    2 votes

  4. Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk

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    Hey chocobean, these are great adds! I don't have much information on improv or theater - those aren't really in my wheelhouse - but I've added the info on the running club and queer groups from...

    Hey chocobean, these are great adds! I don't have much information on improv or theater - those aren't really in my wheelhouse - but I've added the info on the running club and queer groups from friends who still live there below.

    "Run Free Run Club is a welcoming space but it may take time to find your people there, like other regional run clubs. Recommend trying them out and then seeing if the club has a group chat focused on other activities. Consistency pays off once you find a group to invest in. I heard a good review of Queer Ascents climbing meet ups, and I enjoyed Queer Crush bouldering where folks can welcome you to outdoor bouldering trips."

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  5. Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk

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    Usually I say it takes about 6-8 months to find a community after you move. That said I lived there for 1.5 years and never really found one. I have another friend who currently lives there and is...

    I figure moving to a place like SF/Berkeley gives me a better chance of doing so, but I shouldn't give up so early down here, I guess. Thanks again for the info :)

    Usually I say it takes about 6-8 months to find a community after you move. That said I lived there for 1.5 years and never really found one. I have another friend who currently lives there and is in a running group that he loves, I can ask him about it too. Also, if you're interested I can ask if he'd be interested in meet you directly. He's 24, just out of a grad program and fits the weird/queer mold. Feel free to DM if that sounds interesting.

    7 votes

  6. Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes

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    Definitely, some of those threads are just warm little hugs. And thanks to you my 40s musical content always spikes this time of year!

    Definitely, some of those threads are just warm little hugs. And thanks to you my 40s musical content always spikes this time of year!

    2 votes

  7. Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk

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    I lived in San Jose from 29-30 (and grew up just up the peninsula from there) and am not a fan. But, I have friends who live there that love it. They are also "weirdos", as in very fringy...

    I lived in San Jose from 29-30 (and grew up just up the peninsula from there) and am not a fan. But, I have friends who live there that love it. They are also "weirdos", as in very fringy lefty/queer, so you might be able to find success where they did.

    Right now they spend a lot of time climbing at The Studio. They also go to events like Bark in the Park at Backesto Park. There are also bike groups and I'll ask them for more info if you're interested.

    They came to San Jose through the Americorp program and worked at Our City Forest as part of the nursery team. While they talked about how problematic some of the leadership at the organization is, there are lots of volunteer opportunities. The Americorp employees will likely be just the folks you're looking for - just out of college, progressives, weird, queer. So I suggest going to a volunteer day.

    As others have said there are other areas that are cool too. Seconding Berkeley and also adding in Santa Cruz. Santa Cruz will have all the vibes you're looking for but will be about an hour commute. It is a great area though! Happy to share more info if you want any more information!!!

    10 votes

  8. Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes

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    Honestly, Tildes feels like a little club at this point and I feel like I have a pretty well formed impression of most the folks who post with any regularity. Just calling out a few who make it...

    Honestly, Tildes feels like a little club at this point and I feel like I have a pretty well formed impression of most the folks who post with any regularity. Just calling out a few who make it feel like a cozy community.

    Like many others have called out, I believe the culture has been shaped in no small part thanks to the compassion, patience, and humor of @kfwyre. It's always a pleasure running into their contributions!

    @scoll_lock has been so helpful with the various questions/issues I have around advocating for complete streets and public transit/bike infrastructure. They always go above and beyond answering my questions and keep the urban planning content coming in!

    I seem to run into @tomf on most of the music threads. I always appreciate their taste in bands and great suggestions on the what are you listening to threads (and the old album by genre/decade threads)!

    And of course @vord. Always getting after it with the political activism! They always seem to have thoughtful, empathetic insights into the ever more outrageous political landscape we've been finding ourselves in.

    Also a shout out to @gowestyoungman. There is a tendency on Tildes towards more progressive beliefs, on most topics at least, and I always appreciate getting to hear differing opinions or insights I hadn't considered.

    Lastly, it's can be sad when we lose some of the core folks (be it through friction on here or things in real life) like @DanBC, @mtset, or @ShroudedMouse.

    5 votes

  9. Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society

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    Ah, I appreciate the clarification. That makes sense.

    Ah, I appreciate the clarification. That makes sense.

    1 vote

  10. Comment on Haka interrupts vote on New Zealand Treaty Principles Bill in ~society

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    Don't forget Chlöe Swarbrick's classic "Ok Boomer"

    This is the single most interesting thing to happen in New Zealand politics, since that one drunken leader, told that one funny joke, that one time.

    Don't forget Chlöe Swarbrick's classic "Ok Boomer"

    5 votes

  11. Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society

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    I think I get what you're poking at with that statement - that people are conflating vulnerability with ability - but the quoted section above irks me a little. It feels like it flirts with...

    I want everyone replying in this thread to state in their first sentance whether or not they are in the country, they have kids, whether they are LGBT, and whether they are a racial minority.

    I think I get what you're poking at with that statement - that people are conflating vulnerability with ability - but the quoted section above irks me a little. It feels like it flirts with Vance's perspective that single, childless women shouldn't get an equal say things because they have less skin in the game. Maybe I'm misreading but that's how that statement comes across to me.

    I think I'm surprised because we are so often on the same page, and I think I may be misunderstanding your comment.

    19 votes

  12. Comment on Looking for eclectic and little-known websites that bring joy in ~health.mental

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    If you like biking or bikepacking, I'd suggest Bikepacking.com. They have great stories about new routes and gear. Definitely full of inspiration for trips of your own!

    If you like biking or bikepacking, I'd suggest Bikepacking.com. They have great stories about new routes and gear. Definitely full of inspiration for trips of your own!

    5 votes

  13. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental

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    That is very brave of you and good on your spouse for hearing it. Sustained change can be really difficult but it sounds like a great first step!

    That is very brave of you and good on your spouse for hearing it. Sustained change can be really difficult but it sounds like a great first step!

  14. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental

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    I think if you're doing things based on romantic feelings and those aren't reciprocated then I'd set boundaries for your own sake. If you're happy to be that friend, to be the shoulder, then...

    I think if you're doing things based on romantic feelings and those aren't reciprocated then I'd set boundaries for your own sake. If you're happy to be that friend, to be the shoulder, then that's great - no worries. Fom your original post it didn't sound like that was the case. I think the term "using" can be pretty subjective, but prioritize what you need and hopefully everyone will respect each others boundaries.

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  15. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I broke my toe about a month ago so cooking has become my happy outlet while I'm on the mend. It has led to an abundance of season appropriate dishes. Outside of the absolute banger of a winter...

    I broke my toe about a month ago so cooking has become my happy outlet while I'm on the mend. It has led to an abundance of season appropriate dishes.

    Outside of the absolute banger of a winter soup I shared with DefinitelyNotAFae, my partner and I have been on a cozy food bender. Ignoring this abomination, everything has been phenomenal. We've done shepard's pie, meatloaf, minestrone, and been going absolutely bananas with squash/pumpkin. The other main highlight was a pumpkin Bolognese from the 6 Seasons Cookbook (which is the only cookbook I've ever felt was worth the price!). Everything from that book is weird and magic. If anyone is interested I'm happy to make PDF copies of any of the recipes from the book and send them to you. Back to the Bolognese. It was unbelievably rich and delicious. We had visited friends living in northern Italy last January and absolutely gorged on delicious pasta, and while we didn't quite have the noodles you can get there, this sauce rivaled anything we ate on vacation. We subbed out the pumpkin for a Kabocha Squash - as that's what we had on hand from the farmers market - and it was beautifully creamy. Uhhhh, I'm thinking about making it tonight now.

    Outside of that we've been getting experimental with desserts. We went apple picking - again crutches adjacent activity - and ended up with plenty for baking. My partner made an apple strudel with cream cheese - which I was not confident about - but ended up being delicious. I made an apple gallette that was to die for. I got extra bold as our local farmers market started selling sugar pumpkins and tried making pumpkin pie from scratch. I used 3 recipes to make it work 1. Pumpkin puree for the filling 2. Filling, 3. Crust. It was a bit of a chimera. The pie itself was pretty good, but even better was the weird concoction I made from the excess filling. I had like 5 cups of leftover pumpkin pie filling, so I laid a sheet of puff pastry in the bottom of a loaf tin, poured the filling mixture in, and then folded the excess pastry over the top. It ended up making a flaky, tasty, little loaf thing. 10/10 would make again.

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  16. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Oh man, I literally came into this thread to post this recipe. We have been having an absolute blowout of autumn inspired soups and this has been far and above the best thing we've made. It's a...

    Oh man, I literally came into this thread to post this recipe. We have been having an absolute blowout of autumn inspired soups and this has been far and above the best thing we've made. It's a pretty basic and easy recipe, I think it took us about 20 minutes all in, and just wow. We added a little green chili for extra spiciness but ended up barely noticing it. 10/10

    2 votes

  17. Comment on ‘Mild’ tofu, ‘mild’ carrots, ‘mild’ pine nuts: my five-year quest to understand German taste in ~food

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    The idea that spiced food is unhealthy pings a little of racism. But maybe we're thinking of "spiced" differently. Like a stir fry might be very spicy with lots of umami flavors, but they also...

    The idea that spiced food is unhealthy pings a little of racism. But maybe we're thinking of "spiced" differently. Like a stir fry might be very spicy with lots of umami flavors, but they also tend to be quite healthy. In contrast, a burger can be quite plain but i don't think any of us would call that a healthy meal. At least in the US, a lot of folks like to claim that salsa isn't vegetables, that MSG can kill you, or that a meal that doesn't look like the prototypical meat/veg/grain isn't healthy. I think it ends up being pretty myopic.

    6 votes

  18. Comment on I am missing a neutral way to flag low-effort or potentially spammy posts in ~tildes

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    That is so interesting. Out of curiosity, why would someone be interested in spamming on here? There doesn't seem to be enough active folks to warrant that behavior.

    That is so interesting. Out of curiosity, why would someone be interested in spamming on here? There doesn't seem to be enough active folks to warrant that behavior.

    5 votes

  19. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental

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    Your post has me remembering the contentious "friend zone" tread from a month or so ago. I think it might be helpful to decide if you would do everything you're currently doing if this was solely...

    Your post has me remembering the contentious "friend zone" tread from a month or so ago. I think it might be helpful to decide if you would do everything you're currently doing if this was solely a platonic relationship and was always going to be one. If not, it might foster embitterment if you keep feeling like you're acting in the role of boyfriend without any of the perceived benefits. I think if I was in the situation I might clarify if there is an opportunity for a romantic relationship or set some boundaries that would make me feel better about the relationship as a whole. Just my 2 cents as someone who wishes they were a bit more upfront and vulnerable when they were younger.

    Some positive news though, an apartment near me recently went on sale and I made an offer on it, which to my surprise got accepted. I'm now going through the process of applying for a mortgage.

    Also, wild ending! Congrats!!! That's really huge! I hope you celebrate accordingly!

    6 votes

  20. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental

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    Sounds like you're making great progress, I hope you find more stability and serenity when you level off on dosage strength. Getting out can be hard, more so when it's cold and dark. You should...

    Sounds like you're making great progress, I hope you find more stability and serenity when you level off on dosage strength. Getting out can be hard, more so when it's cold and dark. You should give yourself kudos for make the effort!

    Totally unsolicited, but the This American Life episode on Delights always brings me levity when I'm feeling low and is on frequent rotation during the dark winter months. It's just little vignettes where folks share small delights in their life.

    4 votes