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  1. Comment on Column: Cal-Mex is having a moment in New York. But how does it taste? in ~food

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    True, I was just trying to get at why Mexican food would be different in CA vs NY.

    True, I was just trying to get at why Mexican food would be different in CA vs NY.

    1 vote
  2. Comment on Column: Cal-Mex is having a moment in New York. But how does it taste? in ~food

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    Hot take inbound. It doesn't matter who is in the kitchen, it matters who is in the dining seats. Almost every Mexican restaurant in California has mexican or central american cooks in the...

    Hot take inbound.

    It doesn't matter who is in the kitchen, it matters who is in the dining seats. Almost every Mexican restaurant in California has mexican or central american cooks in the kitchen, some are incredible and some are terrible. My indicator for a good Mexican restaurant is if Mexican families are eating at the restaurant, they cook for the audience. Mexican food in New York is largely for non-Mexican audiences and I'd guess largely white audiences and I think the quality/style would reflect that.

    12 votes
  3. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    The starting hump is the hardest. It's so much easier to do things you 1. are good at and 2. do consistently. What kind of exercise did you get into and are do you enjoy doing it? I only ask...

    The starting hump is the hardest. It's so much easier to do things you 1. are good at and 2. do consistently. What kind of exercise did you get into and are do you enjoy doing it? I only ask because for me exercise is very positive reward based - like I'm much more primed to take my bike than my car to get around town because I love cycling; whereas going to the gym always feels like a chose so I skip it more often.

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  4. Comment on US literary magazine retracts Israeli writer’s coexistence essay amid mass resignations in ~books

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    I think it's important to highlight why some folks are calling for its retraction:

    I think it's important to highlight why some folks are calling for its retraction:

    Joshua Gutterman Tranen, an anti-Zionist Jewish writer who has published in Guernica in the past, specifically pointed out a passage he found objectionable in which Chen briefly pauses her volunteer work after October 7, writing, “How could I continue after Hamas had massacred and kidnapped so many civilians, including Road to Recovery members, such as Vivian Silver, a longtime Canadian peace activist? And I have to admit, I was afraid for my own life.”

    “The moment in the Guernica essay where the Israeli writer — who never considers why Palestinian children don’t have access to adequate healthcare b/c of colonization and apartheid — says she has to stop assisting them getting medical support because of ‘Hamas,’” Tranen tweeted. “This is genocidal.”

    7 votes
  5. Comment on Creation of a European Environment Authority -- Thoughts / Opinions? in ~enviro

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    While I agree they aren't doing a lot, they are doing more than nearly anywhere else. I work in creating tools for biodiversity assessments and to be honest the only companies we hear from...

    While I agree they aren't doing a lot, they are doing more than nearly anywhere else. I work in creating tools for biodiversity assessments and to be honest the only companies we hear from regularly are those working in European markets - even if the majority of their supply chain is in non-European places.

    5 votes
  6. Comment on Show recommendations for my parents (pt 2) in ~tv

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    Glad to hear it! I forgot one more: A Very Secret Service - A genuinely hilarious french series about the french secret service and their international exploits. I finished it in about 3 days and...

    Glad to hear it! I forgot one more:

    A Very Secret Service - A genuinely hilarious french series about the french secret service and their international exploits. I finished it in about 3 days and wished I had drawn it out more I enjoyed it so much!

    2 votes
  7. Comment on Show recommendations for my parents (pt 2) in ~tv

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    Ah, that is true, some of those episodes are pretty frenetic.

    Ah, that is true, some of those episodes are pretty frenetic.

  8. Comment on Game recommendations, specifically (round 2) in ~games

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    Seconding A Short Hike. One of best short, cozy games I've ever played.

    Seconding A Short Hike. One of best short, cozy games I've ever played.

    5 votes
  9. Comment on Game recommendations, specifically (round 2) in ~games

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    Oh man I am so excited to hear you say that! I picked it up during a Christmas sale and have yet to play it!

    Oh man I am so excited to hear you say that! I picked it up during a Christmas sale and have yet to play it!

  10. Comment on Show recommendations for my parents (pt 2) in ~tv

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    Looking through your last post I have a few suggestions that may fit the bill and I'll list the caveats for each. The Bear - A young, Michelin star chef returns home to Chicago and starts...

    Looking through your last post I have a few suggestions that may fit the bill and I'll list the caveats for each.

    The Bear - A young, Michelin star chef returns home to Chicago and starts revamping his deceased brothers restaurant. Great character building, engaging story, unique episodes, all in all a good watch. Should fit the bill for packaging modern values into a more conservative feel.

    Rita - A Danish series about a teacher navigating her teaching relationships (students/other teachers), home life, and romantic life. Her sense of humor and the way they navigate serious topics and humor is fantastic. She is blunt, no bullshit, but very compassionate. Again, an interesting perspective of exploring more modern values and taboo subjects - life after divorce, bullying, extramarital affairs.

    Caveat It gets a bit raunchy. There are quite a few sex scenes, though ones made for mixed family audiences so not much is actually seen, but you know they are having sex.

    Queen's Gambit - The story of an orphan who learns to play chess and joins the world circuit. I binged the hell out of it when it came out and so did most folks I know. It has a really engaging story and - outside of Thomas Brodie-Sangster (who cast him for that role!?!?!) - a phenomenal cast.

    Caveat It follows her life from being a child to young adulthood so it may strike out for the "kids stuff" issue, though those sections are quite heavy.

    Yellowjackets - Honestly I don't want to give too much away but I will give the strong caveat that there are some horror like elements - it deals with cannibalism - and there is some mysticism. That said it's my favorite show of the last 5 years but may not fit the bill for your parents. Still wanted to shine a light on it.

    2 votes
  11. Comment on Game recommendations, specifically (round 2) in ~games

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    Re-uping my request for cozy, narrative driven games. Last time I was suggested Wytchwood and A Night in the Woods and was a big fan of both, though I think I preferred Wytchwood. I also recently...

    Re-uping my request for cozy, narrative driven games. Last time I was suggested Wytchwood and A Night in the Woods and was a big fan of both, though I think I preferred Wytchwood. I also recently enjoyed A Short Hike, Haven Park, and Mail Time. All had a really nice, cozy/warm vibe.

    If anyone has any additional recommendations I'd love to hear them!!!

    1 vote
  12. Comment on Can European carmakers stop China’s electric behemoth BYD? in ~transport

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    Is the comment box in relation to your own comment or the article?

    Is the comment box in relation to your own comment or the article?

  13. Comment on Are there any watch enthusiasts on Tildes who could help me out with a few questions? in ~hobbies

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    That's really cool! Sounds like an incredibly interesting job!

    That's really cool! Sounds like an incredibly interesting job!

    1 vote
  14. Comment on Are there any watch enthusiasts on Tildes who could help me out with a few questions? in ~hobbies

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    This may be too personal, so feel free not to answer, but what do you do that this is a requirement of the job? I'm so interested now.

    This may be too personal, so feel free not to answer, but what do you do that this is a requirement of the job? I'm so interested now.

    6 votes
  15. Comment on Who's in your corner? in ~talk

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    Hell yeah Jake! And also I hope you're easier on yourself, it's called brain washing for a reason. You should be proud that you made your way out and have folks that you made such strong...

    Hell yeah Jake! And also I hope you're easier on yourself, it's called brain washing for a reason. You should be proud that you made your way out and have folks that you made such strong connections with inside the cult that they support you unconditionally outside of it!! Thanks for sharing!

    3 votes
  16. What is the "bible" of your hobby or activity?

    Last weekend I took an avalanche safety course to get more comfortable with backcountry skiing. During the course the instructor told us to get The Tahoe Skiing Atlas and couched it as "the bible...

    Last weekend I took an avalanche safety course to get more comfortable with backcountry skiing. During the course the instructor told us to get The Tahoe Skiing Atlas and couched it as "the bible for backcountry in Tahoe". It made me think about the other "bibles" I had, like All the Rain Promises and More... for mushroom foraging or Tartine Bread for making sourdough. The folks on Tildes have such an amazing assortment of interests and I'd love to hear about your "bibles" and the activities, crafts, or hobbies they help with!

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  17. Comment on Who's in your corner? in ~talk

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    I have a number of folks in my corner but I'd like to highlight the newest member of my support crew, Samuel. Samuel is the freaking man. Spending time with him is an absolute joy and it's hard to...
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    I have a number of folks in my corner but I'd like to highlight the newest member of my support crew, Samuel. Samuel is the freaking man. Spending time with him is an absolute joy and it's hard to imagine you can fit that much stoke into one human being. We jokingly call him the mayor of our little town because it doesn't matter where we are or what we're doing, no less than 5 people will flag him down or shout from their cars at him. Everyone loves Samuel.

    We've been friends for about a year and it's such a good match up. I have this every so often where I just click with someone. Samuel is the first person in the last few years that I've just clicked with. We have a similar level of deference and enthusiasm which makes outings very fun, flexible, and high energy. I met him at a party at our house and we quickly bonded over our love of bikes. My partner and I have 8 bikes stuffed into our little one bedroom house (all live inside like indoor cats) and when he saw them he yelled to his wife "Eva, they're weird like us!!!" And he was right! I was training up for a 200 mile race at that point and he, being in much better shape at the time and forever, asked if I'd like to train with him. Cue some of the most fun rides of my life! When we decide where to go it's always very open and we spend most of our time panting or laughing. He's a big proponent of off road riding so we'll often come home covered in mud and ending up weird places and having to figure out how to get home. He's also an absolute machine on a bike so there are many times I'm just watching is butt from 200 feet back, but he'll always be waiting at the top of the hill with a big smile, high five, and maybe chocolate.

    About 6 months ago I finally cracked and started joining him for open ocean swims in the morning. I used to life guard and teach swimming, but I've always been apprehensive about swimming in the sea. Last summer we had 3 shark attacks, one at the location we swim, one 200 yards away, and one about 500 yards away so I was pretty on edge about going out. And for some reason it doesn't bug him at all! When we initially started going out he took us pretty deep and pretty far out and I'd spend most of the swim just calming myself down and would be glued to his side, like constantly running into him, because I was so freaked out. Since then we've talked about it and we follow the cliffs now. On mellow days I'll be in amongst the rocks of the intertidal with anywhere from 2-10 feet of clearance. On wavier days we'll swim around the outside but still keep within sight of the ocean floor (usually anyway). There is no way I'd be doing this without him and his encouragement and stoke mean the world to me. So much so that I went from being an ardent non-morning person (I threatened to quit a job in the past when the floated 8:30am start times) to waking up at 6am to go swim at sunrise. Some days we even combine riding and swimming into a 2-3 hour fun fest.

    I was really active and fit when I was an early adult (22-28) and then a middling adult as I neared 30 (I'd still climb and set routes, but lifting/running/biking took a backseat). This new era has been an amazing return to feeling like myself again. I'm more high energy, I'm in a better mood, I'm just excited to be well... alive. And Samuel has played a really big part in that. Getting a morning of high fives as we cruise through rafts of otters, naked swims after grueling rides, 50 mile night trail rides through the forests and valleys with just headlamps, just an incredible amount of life being lived. All of those things are thanks to the encouragement, camaraderie, and enigmatic energy of Samuel.

    Getting older is weird because friends become more transient. I have an amazing community where I live, but most of my best friends live scattered across the globe. My best friend is in Venice, another is in Taipei, another in San Francisco, followed by Charleston, Munich, San Diego, and Lima. It's great to catch up with those guys and while we still connect on a deep level they don't know much about my day to day experiences. I'm not frequently making new memories with them. So having Samuel here, to push me into the more engaged, harebrained, light version of myself and be able to share all of these incredible experiences with is amazing. It's incredible just how many amazing people are on this planet.

    23 votes
  18. Comment on Framing everyday life with Ryutaro Nakamoto in ~arts

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    I came across this article on the photography of Ryutaro Nakamoto and just couldn't share. His photos are whimsical and fun, the subjects are just delightful, and there is an extra dash of bikes...

    I came across this article on the photography of Ryutaro Nakamoto and just couldn't share. His photos are whimsical and fun, the subjects are just delightful, and there is an extra dash of bikes thrown in for good measure. A real treat of a read!

    3 votes
  19. Comment on Living day to day with the weight of existing in ~talk

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    I think others here have dove into some pretty good hypotheses on why you might be feeling the way you are so I'm going to push the boat out and ask about one that hits closer to home for me and...

    I think others here have dove into some pretty good hypotheses on why you might be feeling the way you are so I'm going to push the boat out and ask about one that hits closer to home for me and my loved ones. Take this with a big ol' grain of salt.

    Did you get conditional love growing up where praise, affection, and love were based on you being successful or excelling at something?

    This was the case for my partner and she was quite successful at it until the end of college. Well she still is but doesn't see it that way. She graduated 9th in her high school class. She was track captain from sophomore year on. She went to the #1 public university in the US with a partial ride scholarship. She excelled at the things most suburban parents push - academic, sports, music, and extracurriculars. Fast forward to today, over a decade outside of university, and she feels unsatisfied with her life. She has had the jobs of her dreams (eg. NASA), lives less than a mile from the beach, makes a very healthy salary, and still she wants more.

    When we talk about how content we are in our lives, we are on two completely different wavelengths and it took nearly 4 years of couples counseling to get a better understanding of why. When she was growing up her parents gave her conditional love and she now assumes that is how everyone will behave. That if she messes something up I'll be upset or if she fails at something I'll be embarrassed or ridicule her. It's lead to friction because I couldn't understand why she wouldn't own up to little accidents or problems that would happen around the house. I was never mad, just confused. Same with most things in our life, the current iteration is sold as the best. It's a really hard place to be because it requires constant improvement, and that's not really how life works. She ran a marathon in 2023, and was so proud, but then she got injured after the race training she fell into a depression about her fitness. She's always looking for the bigger and badder thing and for a couple of folks staring headlong at middle age, I don't think it's a maintainable perspective.

    I could be completely off base but try to just marinate in where you are at and the little things that delight you and bring you joy. There is an awesome episode of This American Life that talks about that feeling. The story on the tomato and coming to the US for the first time are my favorites. If you can find little things in your life that make you happy - and not just the traditional ones that we're "supposed" to derive happiness and meaning from - you might feel a bit lighter.

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