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  1. Comment on Touch / Snerting | Official trailer in ~movies

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    Unrelated to the movie but I still can't get over how trailers have trailers now.

    Unrelated to the movie but I still can't get over how trailers have trailers now.

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  2. Comment on Meditation and mindfulness have a dark side that we don't talk about in ~health.mental

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    Interesting. I think that the idea of meditation as a band-aid solution is something that I've never considered before. Illustrating it as prayer from someone who was told what to do versus prayer...

    Interesting. I think that the idea of meditation as a band-aid solution is something that I've never considered before. Illustrating it as prayer from someone who was told what to do versus prayer from someone of devout faith works pretty well, and I think that it lends itself well to the "McMindfulness movement" of people sitting because people tell them it's good for you.

    I sit because it helps me stay sane. It may be a band-aid, but while I am still trying to find and assemble social structures that help me feel part of a real community it's important for me to find habits and grounding ritual in my life that support my well-being. I really value taking a few minutes to get an honest look at what my internal landscape looks like on a given day before I start interacting with others so that I can have a clear understanding of how different situations affect me through the day.

    I don't do breathing exercises or single pointed focus or anything like that. I tell myself that I'm going to sit still on the pillow for 15 minutes and watch how my mind and body respond to that. I am absolutely not going to "sit away the sadness", but being able to notice when I'm feeling low and taking steps to deal with that is way more effective than reacting to the sadness in a potentially harmful way (substance use, for example).

    Anyways, thank you for your perspective and I think that you have some good talking points. I hope you have a strong community to support you.

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  3. Comment on Meditation and mindfulness have a dark side that we don't talk about in ~health.mental

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    Good question. Link it when you do, I'm interested to hear your thoughts

    Good question. Link it when you do, I'm interested to hear your thoughts

  4. Comment on Meditation and mindfulness have a dark side that we don't talk about in ~health.mental

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    mindfulness is strength training for willpower. The more you do it, the better you get at addressing the root causes

    mindfulness is strength training for willpower. The more you do it, the better you get at addressing the root causes

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  5. Comment on Meditation and mindfulness have a dark side that we don't talk about in ~health.mental

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    I'm not trying to construct an argument here. If you don't want to be mindful, then don't. But nobody needs an article telling them not to do the difficult thing

    I'm not trying to construct an argument here. If you don't want to be mindful, then don't. But nobody needs an article telling them not to do the difficult thing

    5 votes

  6. Comment on Meditation and mindfulness have a dark side that we don't talk about in ~health.mental

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    I briefly skimmed this article - it's garbage. I've practiced on and off for years and it's always correlated with an improvement of mood stability. This is like saying running has a 'dark side'...

    I briefly skimmed this article - it's garbage.

    I've practiced on and off for years and it's always correlated with an improvement of mood stability. This is like saying running has a 'dark side' because if you actually go for a run then you'll realize how out of shape you are - except in this case it's literally just sitting down for a couple minutes and taking stock of where your brain and body are at.

    If practicing mindfulness makes you depressed, it's because the world we live in is depressing sometimes. This is not a problem that's going away any time soon.

    16 votes

  7. Comment on What is the most profound impact a dream has had on you? in ~talk

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    if there's something that I've learned in spending my time trying to be aware of everything that's happening in the world I inhabit... it's that the universe / God / baseline reality really gets a...

    if there's something that I've learned in spending my time trying to be aware of everything that's happening in the world I inhabit... it's that the universe / God / baseline reality really gets a kick out of reminding you that things like time and causality are just human playthings

    3 votes

  8. Comment on Elon Musk’s X sues Unilever, Mars and CVS over ‘massive advertiser boycott’ in ~tech

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    I know it's not the intended way to this headline, but for a moment I thought about the absurdity of Musk pushing to sue the fourth planet in the solar system for its inhospitability.

    I know it's not the intended way to this headline, but for a moment I thought about the absurdity of Musk pushing to sue the fourth planet in the solar system for its inhospitability.

    19 votes

  9. Comment on Loblaw says financial impact of May boycott 'minor', as sales grow and profit slips in ~finance

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    Something that I find to be an undervalued perspective is the fact that your actions are actually noticeable. If not to anyone else, then just to you. That means something though, because you get...

    Something that I find to be an undervalued perspective is the fact that your actions are actually noticeable. If not to anyone else, then just to you. That means something though, because you get to be living proof that people actually care enough to do something about it. People around you notice as well, even if they aren't going to immediately hop on the bandwagon for a better future.

    5 votes

  10. Comment on Loblaw says financial impact of May boycott 'minor', as sales grow and profit slips in ~finance

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    I'm curious - as someone that agrees with your line of questioning, what do you do to feel okay in the situation you're describing? I try and address what I see as the root causes as much as...

    I'm curious - as someone that agrees with your line of questioning, what do you do to feel okay in the situation you're describing?

    I try and address what I see as the root causes as much as possible, but I feel like that looks different for each person.

    4 votes

  11. Comment on Why does "Everything Everywhere All at Once" repulse me so much? in ~movies

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    I think about this movie sometimes. I actually watched it. While I found it fairly entertaining, there was something that bothered me about how it ended - I think it was the closing scene in the...

    I think about this movie sometimes. I actually watched it. While I found it fairly entertaining, there was something that bothered me about how it ended - I think it was the closing scene in the office, when everything had gone "back to normal" and it seemed that nothing had really been meaningfully resolved in the day-to-day life, only made worse by the experiences that they went through over the course of the movie.

  12. Comment on Avoidant personality disorder vs (covert) narcissist accusations in ~health.mental

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    I think you missed the point. I'm not speaking as someone who is unaware of the DSM-V and its diagnostic criteria, I'm speaking as someone who is aware of those criteria and their limitations. I...

    I think you missed the point. I'm not speaking as someone who is unaware of the DSM-V and its diagnostic criteria, I'm speaking as someone who is aware of those criteria and their limitations.

    I didn't deny that NPD exists, I'm saying that there's a big difference between saying someone is "a narcissist" and saying someone " is acting narcissisticly" or "has narcissistic tendencies". One is a criticism of identity, the other ones are criticisms of behaviour.

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  13. Comment on Avoidant personality disorder vs (covert) narcissist accusations in ~health.mental

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    This is, at least in part, a lesson I had to learn in my own personal journey - hopefully it helps a bit. No human is "a narcissist". It is a label that people apply when someone's narcissistic...

    This is, at least in part, a lesson I had to learn in my own personal journey - hopefully it helps a bit.

    No human is "a narcissist". It is a label that people apply when someone's narcissistic tendencies start to cause problems for others. Those tendencies exist in all people, and they're usually balanced by a mature understanding of how one's actions affect others - empathy.

    Now, on the opposite end of the spectrum is the "empath" - lightworkers and starseeds that are here to raise the collective vibration of the planet. Likewise, this is not a person. Generally it is a label that people will self-apply when they cannot reckon with or integrate their own shadow - the part of our self that protects us from harm.

    The reason why I'm explaining it in this way is that, after someone made a similar accusation to me, I couldn't bring myself to say "no I'm not a narcissist" because that is exactly what a narcissist would say. People love to hurl their own unresolved shit around, and they end up targeting the people who don't want to throw it back - 'empaths' are a great target for that.

    So, maybe instead of bending over backwards to accommodate that "friend" of yours who decided to push you down when you were drowning, recognize that what you actually need is the capacity to defend yourself from people like that. So just in case nobody has ever told you this: you're allowed to be narcissistic. You're allowed to be manipulative, avoidant, confident, and selfish. If someone hits you, you're allowed to hit back.

    Pacificism, non-violence, and empathy is a choice. It's a good choice, but a choice nonetheless. Nobody is a good person, nobody is a bad person. We're all human beings who are constantly making good and bad decisions. Strive to be the best person you can, obviously! But don't take shit from people unless they're worth it.

    And if I haven't hinted at it enough, that person who saw you self-destructing and chose to condemn you as a 'narcissist'... that is not a safe person, and I would reconsider their place in your life. People who are pathologically narcissistic will often project unhealthy aspects of themselves onto others.

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  14. Comment on Let's build a playlist! in ~music

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    +1 for the new IDLES album. I remember putting it on and being pulled away from what I was doing and into the music - that doesn't happen to me all the time

    +1 for the new IDLES album. I remember putting it on and being pulled away from what I was doing and into the music - that doesn't happen to me all the time

  15. Comment on PWA Notifications in ~comp

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    I was looking at periodic background sync (the link came up purple) but yea, experimental tech. I'll give it another look before I start implementing, though.

    I was looking at periodic background sync (the link came up purple) but yea, experimental tech. I'll give it another look before I start implementing, though.

  16. Comment on PWA Notifications in ~comp

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    It does seem relatively complicated factoring in the web-push library, but I suppose it's only as complicated as it needs to be. I tend towards rolling my own code for this sort of thing, but I...

    It does seem relatively complicated factoring in the web-push library, but I suppose it's only as complicated as it needs to be. I tend towards rolling my own code for this sort of thing, but I find that it helps a lot in the long term towards understanding how the system actually works.

    Implementing this for my current use case would be overkill if I wasn't planning on extending towards Push notifications in the future. At this point, I figure I may as well eat the biggest frog first. Thanks for the article.

    Edit: Yea there's a bunch of complexity hidden 'under the hood'. I'm not a fan of JWTs but it seems I'll have to work with them if I want to update people with notifications.

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  17. Comment on PWA Notifications in ~comp

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    Yep, been working through the MDN docs but I've found them a bit obtuse.

    Yep, been working through the MDN docs but I've found them a bit obtuse.

  18. PWA Notifications

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    Building my first Progressive Web App, it's new territory for me but I've made it installable already. I'm trying to cover a fairly simple use case, which is displaying a badge count based on the...

    Building my first Progressive Web App, it's new territory for me but I've made it installable already.

    I'm trying to cover a fairly simple use case, which is displaying a badge count based on the number of unread notifications. Intuition tells me that I'd just ping an endpoint on the server at a 5 minute interval, but I'm in new territory so I thought I'd open up the conversation to see if there's any gotchas to be aware of.

    I'd like to see if there's anyone out there on Tildes who has experience in this domain - is the service-worker always on, or is it only active once the app has been open and then backgrounded? How do I know if the app is currently open? I would like the app to query for notifications more frequently when it's opened, and only intermittently when it's closed. Any tips?

    8 votes

  19. Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk

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    Not an atheist, but: Bahai is really cool as far as abrahamic faiths go. I once went to one of their gatherings without realizing there was anything religious about it. Hermeticism and alchemy...

    Not an atheist, but:

    • Bahai is really cool as far as abrahamic faiths go. I once went to one of their gatherings without realizing there was anything religious about it.
    • Hermeticism and alchemy truly fascinating, it comes from a time where spirituality and rationality weren't seen as "at odds" but rather a unified pursuit of greater understanding about the world we live in.
    13 votes

  20. Comment on ‘We’re living in a nightmare:’ Inside the health crisis of a Texas bitcoin town in ~tech

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    Why would you consider Bitcoin a failure if there are other cryptocurrencies you consider successful?

    Why would you consider Bitcoin a failure if there are other cryptocurrencies you consider successful?