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Mental health support & discussion thread (May 2019 edition)
a couple of people have commented on this thread being helpful for them since tildes is a pretty welcoming community and this thread seems like something that would be nice to make regular anyways, so let's do that. this is pretty straightforward, i think: vent your experiences or things you need to get off your chest/share whatever you've found helps you mentally/etc.
resources that might also be of some benefit to you, since i have a list i informally maintain (s/o to cfabbro also for supplementing this list):
- there is, as always, the invaluable list of country hotlines maintained by /r/SuicideWatch
- https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ ("an online source of information for persons seeking treatment facilities in the United States or U.S. Territories for substance abuse/addiction and/or mental health problems")
- https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/ (probably one of the best resources for finding a therapist)
- https://psychiatrists.psychologytoday.com/rms (ditto, with finding a psychiatrist)
- https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/index.shtml (covers some of the major mental disorders, their symptoms and treatments, and general topics like that)
- https://www.mentalhealth.gov/what-to-look-for (what symptoms to look for for major mental disorders)
- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-yourself/ (US specific, but also covers ways you can help yourself and a bunch of ways to seek treatment or support)
- there's also some stuff over at /r/SWResources that might be worth checking out which is consistently updated.
For general muscle aching due to stress I recommend yoga. There are also specific yoga to help releive sinus pressure. Just search around on YouTube for there's plenty of good videos there. A 10-15 minute session usually takes care of back/hip pain for me.
Hey, I'd just like to state that I'm interested in joining but the invite appears to be invalid.
Dysphoria has been wracking my brain for the past week or so. I try really hard to be accepting of all of my features and the body I do have and will get further into HRT, but the facial hair is getting really hard for me to deal with. I'd love to get laser, but at the point I'm at, I have a lot of monetary obligations and priorities that I should place in front, especially given the cost. I can't shave every day, either, as my skin is too soft to be able to take it after 6 months on hormones.
BUT -- I am 6 months on hormones a few days ago, so there is at least that much to celebrate. Slowly, but surely, I'm getting there.
I'm glad you're finding your way. Best of luck to you.
Turned down a job offer. I am working in a call center that I am frustrated with, and the offer was a contract position for $3.50 more an hour, but it was only until September, didn't cover insurance, up to 40 hours a week but scheduled in advance and twice the commute time, plus traffic. I get that logically I made a good decision, but I still emotionally like the idea of leaving my job, getting paid more, and working on new things.
You made a good choice. I had the option to go to a far less stressful job but for less money, and I turned it down. Few months later, that company closed down. Good bloody call!
Idk if this is a mental health issue or not, but this seems like a good place to ask.
Has anyone else ever just like erased a day? Like a memorable one, not the kind that blends into every other day.
This Thursday things were slow, like they usually are, but this one really stood out. Next day things were back to normal. But halfway through that day I found out it was actually Saturday, not Friday like I thought. Which means our obscenely slow yesterday must have been Friday (normally our busiest day) which I even noticed was super weird.
Later after work I made the comment that we made up a little for yesterday's slowness, but someone pointed out that yesterday I made the same comment, I must have been thinking of Thursday. Thursday was the real slow day, Saturday was normal, and I had somehow erased an absolutely insane Friday from my mind.
I've picked a few scattered memories of it since then but. Just been kind of eating at me a little.
late response but yeah. this happens to me from time to time, especially when i'm not paying attention to what day it is and it's weird. of course, ironically, it's hard to name and explain times where it's happened because you just don't remember it! off the top of my head i know it does, but giving it deep thought leaves me nothing because the memories just aren't there beyond that.
I'm exhausted, my job is not only unfulfilling, it also leaves me with no chances or time to even start looking for another job and I can't risk losing it. I feel like I'm trapped here. Thanks for making this thread, I'm not looking for help but I wanted to get this out.
Fucking tired of taking medication that I don't really believe works. It may work, and so I keep taking it because it's better than doing nothing. I find myself self-medicating with weed far too heavily and far too often. Anyone have any experience with multiple antidepressants? What has worked for you?
I've been taking psychiatric medications for the last 15 years. You must understand that, in comparison with "regular" medicine, we know very little about how psychiatric medications work. One hypothesis is that some medications help by "teaching" our brain to work correctly, and that's why they take so long to become effective.
It's also very hard to find the ideal dose and medications, and most patients will radically change their treatment a few times before getting it right. To sum it up: psychiatric drugs sucks balls, but the symptoms they treat are frequently much worse than their side effects.
Also: most of side effects tend go away with time. When they don't, you can always switch medications or adjust the dosage.
And, please, tell your doctor about your weed use. Medication balancing is a delicate science, and by self medicating you're basically torpedoing your entire treatment.
Thanks for this response. My doctor knows about weed use. I've been on different combinations of drugs for around two or three years now. It's hard having patience.
I know... but the alternative (no treatment) is usually much worse. Hang in there, buddy!
Every antidepressant I ever tried I had much worse side effects than they were worth. The only real thing that worked for me was regular vigorous exercise.
I'm worried that my current relationship is crumbling. I think my love is falling for someone else. I'm not looking forward to "the depressive phase" looming in my life, either. Best of luck to you, my friend. Know that there's a good chance I'll be there with you. I pray not, but only time will tell.
I've been struggling with a problem where a friend often interrupts me or tries to complete my sentences for me while I'm still talking. It's happened so much that it's upsetting me more now, and I don't think I can spend time with that person anymore. Have talked about it to them twice but they were argumentative (which is not something I deal with) and the second time they tried to make themselves the victim and deny that it happened. It's been kind of hitting on my mental health the way they tried to deny it, and also the way it makes me feel like I'm not good to be around.
in general this month has been fine, but i wish i could actually feel like... not fucking tired for once. it doesn't matter how much i sleep or don't sleep--i always end up with basically the same feeling in varying degrees. hopefully, getting back into the swing of exercising and actually having a routine will start making that less of an issue, but it genuinely feels like i haven't had a good night of sleep in a year and it sucks intensely, lol.
The health service here has been rather unhelpful when dealing with depression problems I had. In the past few years, I've had one doctor recommend I find a new job, another suggest I lay off the caffeine and just one other recommend I get in touch with a non-profit that only works with under 25s. I did try art therapy and counselling with them but they were so stretched for resources that I could only book one slot of sessions with them.
I think I could request for CBT treatment on the NHS but I'm willing to bet they have a massive waiting list. So realistically my only option is to go private and pay up to £50 a session with a therapist.
Thing is, my depression is more circumstantial and stems from failures in my love life. Why am I bad with dating? Maybe it's the fact that I have Asperger's, since autism is pretty much a social death sentence.
I've commented about it before in the past but all I've really had people tell me is "Yes, online dating is bad but I can't think of a solution to help." At this rate, I feel like my only recourse is to put my gym membership to good use, get really jacked through rigorous exercise, increase the amount of food I eat, and mask my social flaws through obtaining a good body.
This is a terrible idea, and has potential to cause great harm.
if you could explain your objection in a bit more detail, that would be more helpful than a vague, blanket condemnation, tbh.