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  1. patience_limited
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    Speaking as a person who identified as non-binary (and that may not be the same thing as genderfluid) before there was a word to describe the status and community, my best wish for you is that...
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    Speaking as a person who identified as non-binary (and that may not be the same thing as genderfluid) before there was a word to describe the status and community, my best wish for you is that you'll never be lonely.

    That's always the toughest thing, when you (at whatever age) wake up and realize that you don't fit in the neat territories of gender that have been carefully fenced in for your safety. It may seem like you've become incomprehensible, alien, to your immediate family and friends, your community, the people you've trusted all your life.

    Never let go of the idea that we're out here, we're willing to provide advice, companionship, love, and support, wherever you find yourself.

    Declaring that you own the territory of your body, that you're capable of specifying the identity it occupies, is always going to threaten some adherents of ideologies where people pledge themselves, body and soul, to an external dogma of gender. Be aware of your surroundings (that includes deciding whom to disclose your status to), and decide what risks you're willing to accept when you can't safely live as you wish to where you are.

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    poweruserplus
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    i mean, does anyone need to be notified really? no one is 100% anything, i think a lot of people have figured that out and live their lives. unless you want to make it part of your social identity...

    i mean, does anyone need to be notified really? no one is 100% anything, i think a lot of people have figured that out and live their lives. unless you want to make it part of your social identity or whatever, that's your prerogative.

    but anyway, glad you seem to have settled on something, i suppose i just don't prioritize sexual labeling as much as other types.

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  3. StellarV
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    That's wonderful, congrats! :)

    That's wonderful, congrats! :)

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  4. clerical_terrors
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    Glad you were able to find yourself. Hopefully you will eventually have more people in your personal life you can share this with.

    Glad you were able to find yourself. Hopefully you will eventually have more people in your personal life you can share this with.

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  5. Parameter
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    Figuring out yourself can be challenging and strenous. I'm glad you've made a move towards that.

    Figuring out yourself can be challenging and strenous. I'm glad you've made a move towards that.

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  6. meghan
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    congrats on fully realizing that part of yourself 💜 I'm trans myself and dms are always open if you ever wanna talk 😄

    congrats on fully realizing that part of yourself 💜 I'm trans myself and dms are always open if you ever wanna talk 😄

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  7. Staross
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    How does that manifest itself ?

    How does that manifest itself ?

  8. river
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    Can you go into more detail please

    Can you go into more detail please