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A bit tangent, but polyamory!

Hey everyone. I'm a Brazilian polyamorous bisexual man, in a loving relationship with a polyamorous bisexual woman.

I'm uncertain if polyamory is usually covered by LGBT groups, but I think it's the closest here in tildes!
I just wanted to see if there are more poly people around here, get the ball rolling about the subject in this forum and all.

So, some questions to make some conversation happen:

Are you poly?

What does your family/friends think about it?

Are you in a relationship right now? Is that relationship open/poly? Tell us about your polycule, gush about your partner(s) a bit ;)

If you're not poly, what do you know and what do you think about polyamory?

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  1. meme
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    I don't think polyarmory should be a part of LGBT groups. That's not a knock on it or anything, it's just not in the history of the group and really has no political, social, or legal connection...

    I don't think polyarmory should be a part of LGBT groups. That's not a knock on it or anything, it's just not in the history of the group and really has no political, social, or legal connection to it. It is not a sexual orientation or a gender identity.

    Bisexuals of course have a place in LGBT (right in the name!) but the way you phrase the question is as if straight poly people and their straight poly groupings have some place in LGBT, which to be honest does not sit well with me. Like... that makes Warren Jeffs LGBT which literally no one has ever thought.

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  2. TrialAndFailure
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    I really hate that polyamory is looked down upon for no good reason. I'm not into that, but there's no reason it should be shunned.

    I really hate that polyamory is looked down upon for no good reason. I'm not into that, but there's no reason it should be shunned.

    5 votes
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    1. Kiloku
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      Yeah! Poly-mono relationships are probably the greatest example of understanding and good communication in the poly community.

      Yeah! Poly-mono relationships are probably the greatest example of understanding and good communication in the poly community.

      2 votes
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    Eva
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    No & N/A I know...more or less what there is to know. I was in a poly relationship for a while (not really willingly, mind), and it's not my thing. More power to you, but it makes me fairly...

    Are you poly?

    What does your family/friends think about it?

    No & N/A

    If you're not poly, what do you know[?]

    I know...more or less what there is to know. I was in a poly relationship for a while (not really willingly, mind), and it's not my thing.

    and what do you think about polyamory?

    More power to you, but it makes me fairly uncomfortable for reasons that are in no way your fault/anyone around you's fault.

    3 votes
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      Kiloku
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      Oh no... People who use polyamory as an excuse to lie to others really make it worse for everyone. Consent and clear communication are necessary in any relationship, poly or not. I hope things are...

      not really willingly, mind

      Oh no... People who use polyamory as an excuse to lie to others really make it worse for everyone. Consent and clear communication are necessary in any relationship, poly or not.

      I hope things are better for you now!

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      1. Eva
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        They are, luckily, and the future looks bright! Good luck with your relationship(s)!

        They are, luckily, and the future looks bright! Good luck with your relationship(s)!

        3 votes
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    MaybeElse
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    Yep! My close family is generally supportive, though I don't make much of a point of it. My extended family doesn't know, because it hasn't really been relevant any of the times I've seen them....

    Are you poly?

    Yep!

    What does your family/friends think about it?

    My close family is generally supportive, though I don't make much of a point of it. My extended family doesn't know, because it hasn't really been relevant any of the times I've seen them.

    Are you in a relationship right now? Is that relationship open/poly? Tell us about your polycule, gush about your partner(s) a bit ;)

    I'm in relationships with four people right now. In a triad with two of them, and in a few months I'm going to move across the country to live with those two and some metamours. The entire polycule is somewhere around 10-15 people, ignoring tendrils linking it to other groups.

    It's sort of impossibly wonderful to be in love with so many amazing people.

    3 votes
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      TrialAndFailure
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      It would be interesting to hop into your mind to see exactly how it feels. ...But the same could be said for any feeling, really. We need consciousness-swapping technology yesterday!

      It would be interesting to hop into your mind to see exactly how it feels.

      ...But the same could be said for any feeling, really. We need consciousness-swapping technology yesterday!

      2 votes
      1. MaybeElse
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        We really do, yeah. Words can only capture so much, even in the hands of people far more eloquent than me. I could talk about how it feels natural for me, or compare it to a dance with many...

        We really do, yeah. Words can only capture so much, even in the hands of people far more eloquent than me.

        I could talk about how it feels natural for me, or compare it to a dance with many partners, or share anecdotes about times when I've been overwhelmed with how beautiful the web of relationships is and about times I've felt small and afraid and insecure, but the picture will always be incomplete.

        2 votes
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      Kiloku
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      Damn right. There is a trio I'm shipping so hard in a webcomic I read. There are hints that it might happen, but maybe the author is just teasing the readers.

      Damn right. There is a trio I'm shipping so hard in a webcomic I read.

      There are hints that it might happen, but maybe the author is just teasing the readers.

      1 vote
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          Kiloku
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          I actually don't know of the ship name itself, as I haven't been going to the forums a lot, but the characters would be Grace, Sarah and Tedd from El Goonish Shive

          I actually don't know of the ship name itself, as I haven't been going to the forums a lot, but the characters would be Grace, Sarah and Tedd from El Goonish Shive

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          1. starchturrets
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            Let me have a crack at this... Grashedd Tarahace Seddace Raceddah

            Let me have a crack at this...

            Grashedd

            Tarahace

            Seddace

            Raceddah

            1 vote
  7. musicotic
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    Yes Haven't told them Not in a relationship RN

    Are you poly?

    Yes

    What does your family/friends think about it?

    Haven't told them

    Are you in a relationship right now? Is that relationship open/poly? Tell us about your polycule, gush about your partner(s) a bit ;)

    Not in a relationship RN

    2 votes