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What's the worst person you've ever had to deal with for an extended period of time?
Mine would definitely have to be my sister in law, who I live with. I daily wake up to headaches from her yelling, once a week she threatens to leave with my brothers children for irrational reasons, and she claims to be a "prisoner in the house" when she can literally leave at any time and nobody will care.
Example: Today I asked my brothers if they wanted me to fire up my hookah. She came out yelling about smoking weed around her kids and then left out front to vent to someone loudly on the phone for half an hour. There was no weed, the hookah was in a different room, and they smoke cigarettes around their kid all the time.
Damn. I see hints of this in my own mother, but not to the extent you described. My mom drinks, and she used to drink a lot more when I was younger, but now that the walls are closing in on her she seems to be slowing down.
She divorced my step dad years ago and finally is being forced to work her way through life now that he's no longer paying her rent for her. The thing is I never even realized how bad she was until I moved away for college. Then every time I came back home the reality of the situation hit me more and more. The tipping point was when I had to call my grandma on her when she got heavily intoxicated one night while watching her 12 month old baby.
That was a wake up call I'll never forget. Worst part of all was that she repeatedly threatened me the day after for doing so. It's almost 6 months later now and anytime that incident gets brought up it's my fault for remembering it incorrectly. Any negative comment is perceived (often falsely) as an attack on her and she will hardly ever admit any fault on her end. If she does admit some blame it's never towards the person she wronged either. It'll be to another family member but I suppose I should be grateful because I know other people in similar situations don't even have that.
Anyway, due to some unfortunate circumstances in my own life, I'm forced to live with her for the time being. Despite the situation, I'm still hopeful that something is getting through to her. She seems to be drinking less but there's no telling what happens on the days when I'm not home so I don't really know for sure. I just hope that my optimism is correct here and that I don't have that hope dashed like so many other's with narcissistic or semi-narcissistic mothers do.
My MIL once took my nephew for a drive while blackout drunk to get some food. That was 4 years ago and the last time she took anyone as a passenger in her car. According to her she was/is totally okay to drive. I’ve learned to never trust anyone but myself
My father was also abusive, though in a much different way than your mother. A few months ago, I realized that it had been nearly ten years since I last talked to him. His brother requested I contacted him, so I handwrote a ten page letter talking about how he had hurt me and that I was willing to give him another chance to have some sort of relationship. I just asked that he would give me the same respect and write me a letter back.
What he did instead was type a letter, put it in a PDF for whatever reason, and emailed it to his mother, which she forwarded to me. It only had three sentences. One was a greeting. One was asking if I had any grandchildren for him (in spite of the fact that I am gay). The last one was asking if I had any questions about his life. There was no farewell or any form of signature.
I wanted to share this story because there is a lesson in it. It doesn't matter if the person in question is a blood relative; if they aren't willing to give you their effort or care, they are not worth being in your life. Some people simply aren't good.
Err, myself?
What a coincidence, I'm in contact with the same person
The most evil human I've ever met!
Should probably write a song about that, it’s always worked for me.
Whoa there partner. You are one of my favorite contributors here. Please keep it coming. I am still thinking about one of your previous posts about which piece to put to music, but I lost it now...
Comparatively speaking, I've had a pretty good life, without any truly terrible family or friends. I've dealt with some narcissistic people, but they've all come and gone, so in the grand scheme of things, I don't really have a bad person that I've had to deal with for a long time.
With that said, my current roommate for the past few years is pretty self-centered, whether he realizes it or not. I dated one of his friends (before we were roommates) and he constantly invites her over, even after we broke up and there's some bad blood. I confront him about it and his response is always, "well she's my friend too." He also smokes a ton of weed despite my complaints about the smell and the smoke. Like all shit roommates, he also expects me to do all the cleaning, but the second I confront him about doing literally anything, it becomes, "why are you so passive-aggressive?"