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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
Akir Link ParentThey do have smith machines which can do most of the things that you can do with barbells in a somewhat more safe way.They do have smith machines which can do most of the things that you can do with barbells in a somewhat more safe way.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
Akir LinkOne thing worth saying is that you cannot control how your partner thinks, feels, or acts. What you can control is how you react to those things she does. I think this is worth saying because...One thing worth saying is that you cannot control how your partner thinks, feels, or acts. What you can control is how you react to those things she does. I think this is worth saying because there is another option you didn’t list - you could open the relationship to other people.
This may end up being a terrible piece of advice, and in practice it may be one of the most painful depending on how you two feel about eachother. One thing I notice with her chat app is that you seem to be concerned about her having sex with other people. But that sounds like something she may want to do but perhaps cannot come to terms with herself.
The only reason why I think you should consider this is because you are stuck in a relationship that seems to be wanting to end but both of you have reasons holding you back from it. That doesn’t seem to be healthy for either of you. It sounds like your partner would benefit from it the most. But I think you would still benefit from being able to see sides of her you currently can’t, and it’ll potentially let you see sides of yourself you didn’t know were there as well.
It’s important to know that this a hard road that will require constant communication and cause heartache for sure. There’s a good chance this will cause your breakup. But if I’m honest I think that would probably be the best of your three options. Staying the course seems like throwing fuel onto the fire, and I think you might be too worried about her cheating on you while you’re separated. On the other hand, an open relationship might cause you to fight and hate eachother sometimes, but you’ll be closer to understanding eachother.
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Comment on The Power of Pride Bundle 2026 in ~lgbt
Akir LinkIt is very kind of them to offer a pay-what-you-can version. I am in the red right now and my work has slowed because of the summer school break - I haven’t taught any classes since last Saturday.It is very kind of them to offer a pay-what-you-can version. I am in the red right now and my work has slowed because of the summer school break - I haven’t taught any classes since last Saturday.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir Link ParentI personally loved it. It felt like a fun little adventure that let you really explore a world of absurdity that is very relatable.I personally loved it. It felt like a fun little adventure that let you really explore a world of absurdity that is very relatable.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir Link ParentIt is, but I include his series I’m a Virgo as well.It is, but I include his series I’m a Virgo as well.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir LinkI Love Boosters was everything I dreamed of. I saw it with a friend and he was so taken with the comedy he beat me up with his jovial gesticulations and almost suffocated from his uncontrollable...I Love Boosters was everything I dreamed of. I saw it with a friend and he was so taken with the comedy he beat me up with his jovial gesticulations and almost suffocated from his uncontrollable laughter. It’s also possibly the least preachy Boots Riley film.
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Comment on What change would make you quit Tildes? in ~tildes
Akir Link ParentOh, there are definitely some topics where conversation is continually upsetting. We've had people leave, and there are some topics that I and others will not touch because of the pushback....Oh, there are definitely some topics where conversation is continually upsetting. We've had people leave, and there are some topics that I and others will not touch because of the pushback. Anything relating to fat acceptance is an example I'm intimately familiar with.
Even so, Tildes is still the best place on the internet to have thoughtful forum style conversations on by quite a long shot, so it's a flaw I'm willing to accept.
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Comment on How has inflation changed your quality of life? in ~finance
Akir LinkFrom inflation specifically? Honestly nothing has really changed. I’m just poor because I have a shitty teaching job that’s basically just part time. Last Friday I was offered a summer camp class...From inflation specifically? Honestly nothing has really changed.
I’m just poor because I have a shitty teaching job that’s basically just part time. Last Friday I was offered a summer camp class from the company I work with which would have been huge because it meant three hour classes every weekday for two weeks. They told me they would let me know when they figured out schedules. Today was supposed to be the first day but it’s been radio silence.
The thing about money is that the past few weeks I’ve been putting myself out and socializing with locals (which is a major lifestyle change that has been very fulfilling), and without fail everyone I have been able to meet up with has been either very poor or unemployed. To be fair this might be selection bias because my schedule means I’m available mostly during the times people are working, but it’s still concerning.
In reality I am just really poor right now from poor financial decisions. We keep partying and even though I am not spending a lot of money at each thing I am still spending money. On top of that I owe money for my university classes and haven’t been able to register because of it.
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Comment on The big little penis panic in ~life.men
Akir Link ParentBeing naked in a locker room is very different from being naked in a club. A club is a very sexualized environment.Being naked in a locker room is very different from being naked in a club. A club is a very sexualized environment.
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Comment on The big little penis panic in ~life.men
Akir LinkI’m going to agree with the common opinion here. The solution to this is to renormalize men being naked together. I had horrible body image issues. Heck, I still did. But do you know the thing...I’m going to agree with the common opinion here. The solution to this is to renormalize men being naked together.
I had horrible body image issues. Heck, I still did. But do you know the thing that has helped me out the most? Just taking a shower at the gym. I’m still changing under my towel because if I don’t I’d literally be the only one fully nude, but just being naked in a public space, even if in a way nobody will really see it, is incredibly freeing. All of those voices in my head full of self-doubt got quiet and I was able to start loving myself.
When it comes to dicks themselves I also thought I had a small one, but I recently was told that it was big. Boy did that blow my mind. If I stayed in my little box I would have thought that way for the rest of my life. But frankly even if I hadn’t been told that, I would have still been so much better able to cope with my insecurities by simply being honest and open about it.
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Comment on Valve raises Steam Deck OLED prices by up to $300 in ~games
Akir Link ParentHonestly, if anyone isn't at least a little bit deranged from the current state of the world, I just assume they've been deranged in some other more serious way. There's a lot of frustration, to...Honestly, if anyone isn't at least a little bit deranged from the current state of the world, I just assume they've been deranged in some other more serious way.
There's a lot of frustration, to put things extremely lightly.
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Comment on An open letter to the University of California Regents requesting that standardized testing be re-introduced into admissions, >200 UC Professors signatures in ~humanities
Akir Link ParentWhen I was in high school I was part of a program called Upward Bound which not only paid for my SAT, but also offered me tutoring classes to make sure I succeeded. I got a fairly good score to my...When I was in high school I was part of a program called Upward Bound which not only paid for my SAT, but also offered me tutoring classes to make sure I succeeded. I got a fairly good score to my memory. Unfortunately I never went to university because of family issues.
That program is part a larger program called TRIO which has been under constant threats. The White House’s proposed 2026 budget removed all funding for it, but thankfully congress is slightly less
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Comment on An open letter to the University of California Regents requesting that standardized testing be re-introduced into admissions, >200 UC Professors signatures in ~humanities
Akir Link ParentThe problem is that the US government does not control education, for the most part. State and local governments do. California is fairly unique because it runs two separate college systems, UC...The problem is that the US government does not control education, for the most part. State and local governments do. California is fairly unique because it runs two separate college systems, UC and CSU. As well as CCC which organizes community colleges and is actually the country’s largest higher ed system.
While the fed does exert some control the current administration is castrating the Department of Education in an effort to completely remove it.
To put things simply and as calmly as possible, many of the governments involved are not run by reasonable or rational people and are in many cases filled with people who want to reduce and restrict access to education as well as the quality of what is offered. This is an especially shitty time to be a young person in this country.
Anyways, what I’m trying to say is that because government is all over the place, the College Board is actually performing a very needed service of ensuring that students are being objectively measured by standards that are less likely to be influenced by local politics. I think that this could be considered to be a bad thing in progressive states like California or New York, but could be a great boon to poor and/or regressive states like Wyoming or Arkansas.
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Comment on Ferrari unveils its first all-electric car, the four-door Luce in ~transport
Akir Link ParentThe original roadster literally had a body that was designed and manufactured by Lotus. It was literally the selling point of the entire company - a car, but electric.The original roadster literally had a body that was designed and manufactured by Lotus. It was literally the selling point of the entire company - a car, but electric.
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Comment on Announcing web serial support in Firefox 151 in ~comp
Akir Link ParentMost other major browsers are essentially reskinned Chrome. Google is constantly spearheading APIs that are unpopular with browser vendors and basically uses their power and influence to force...Most other major browsers are essentially reskinned Chrome. Google is constantly spearheading APIs that are unpopular with browser vendors and basically uses their power and influence to force them to be standards. Many of these APIs are not implemented by Firefox because they break through the sandbox and make the browser less secure.
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Comment on Is there a "Razor" for the idea that "If a Billionaire is against it, I'm for it?" in ~finance
Akir Link ParentI’ll believe it when I see it. In the meanwhile one “good billionaire” doesn’t invalidate the wealth (heh) of evil billionaires. But I don’t consider Gates to be good nor do I accept the premise...I’ll believe it when I see it.
In the meanwhile one “good billionaire” doesn’t invalidate the wealth (heh) of evil billionaires. But I don’t consider Gates to be good nor do I accept the premise that such a thing exists.
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Comment on Why Japanese companies do so many different things in ~finance
Akir Link ParentI feel like you might have picked a bad example with Sony's TV business, because both Samsung and LG are far from specialized companies. LG makes toothpaste and Samsung makes tanks. TCL might...I feel like you might have picked a bad example with Sony's TV business, because both Samsung and LG are far from specialized companies. LG makes toothpaste and Samsung makes tanks. TCL might actually be the only one close to being specialist company but honestly that might just be my ignorance talking.
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Comment on Is there a "Razor" for the idea that "If a Billionaire is against it, I'm for it?" in ~finance
Akir Link ParentI'll also add that his Giving Pledge does not actually promise giving away all of their money when they die, and even with that the majority of people who sign it do not actually meet that halfway...I'll also add that his Giving Pledge does not actually promise giving away all of their money when they die, and even with that the majority of people who sign it do not actually meet that halfway point which it actually promise. Quoting Wikipedia:
According to a 2025 analysis by the Institute for Policy Studies, the 32 original U.S. pledgers who remain billionaires have collectively become about 166 percent wealthier since signing on in 2010. According to the study, just 8 of 22 pledgers who had since died actually gave away enough to meet the "half of wealth" pledge by the time of their death.
There's also been a number of high profile people withdrawing from the agreement, including Warren Buffet.
Eat the rich, people, lest the rich eat you.
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Comment on Maybe just eat the bean goo in ~food
Akir Link ParentIt’s nearly any bean, but chickpeas are often preferred because of the color and neutral taste.It’s nearly any bean, but chickpeas are often preferred because of the color and neutral taste.
I’m on my second year. They’re pretty good but not the best by any means. It’s important to know that they are franchised so some can be better than others. YMMV.
The one thing to know is that for the summer break they are letting kids in for free, so that might make you want to hold off for now.