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Comment on Arch User Repository compromised, 1500+ packages affected in ~tech
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Comment on Any fellow software engineers using paid GitHub copilot? in ~comp
Akir Link ParentHas Codex gotten dramatically better recently? When I use it for work, it seems to make dumb decisions very confidently, and it takes forever to deliberate stupid things before it actually does...Has Codex gotten dramatically better recently? When I use it for work, it seems to make dumb decisions very confidently, and it takes forever to deliberate stupid things before it actually does what you want it to do.
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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
Akir LinkI’ve had lots of interruptions in my routine so I am really happy that I have finally had the need to increase the weight on my seated rows. Finally, I’m back on track on increasing my strength!...I’ve had lots of interruptions in my routine so I am really happy that I have finally had the need to increase the weight on my seated rows. Finally, I’m back on track on increasing my strength! This is the first actual increase I’ve managed since I figured out that I was doing all the exercises wrong, so it’s pretty landmark for me.
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Comment on "The therapeutic industry is platonic prostitution" in ~health.mental
Akir LinkYou are right that society is sick and our independence is leading people to become mentally ill and spiritually tortured. The focus on self-reliance and emotional detachment is making people...You are right that society is sick and our independence is leading people to become mentally ill and spiritually tortured. The focus on self-reliance and emotional detachment is making people sick, and the fact that people seem unwilling to help or create bonds that would help you is a major problem.
But I have to say that your distaste with therapy is misguided. Frankly it seems like your problem is simply that you’ve had bad therapists who have either been guiding you the wrong way or who have simply been unable or unwilling to meet you where you were. Probably all of these things. Therapists aren’t great at communicating this, but when you notice that therapy isn’t helping, it’s really up to you to speak up and find a solution - either let them know or fire them and find someone who can actually help you. There are many therapists out there who simply will not have the ability to empathize with you enough to be able to guide you to where you need to go. That’s just how things are.
One thing that particularly stood out to me is the idea that therapists are only able to see you once every two weeks, and that seems particularly odd to me. The last time I went to a therapist one of the things we did in our intake was to determine how often I should come, and after that they actually adjusted the frequency several times. It changed from once every two weeks to once a week, and at a point we considered if I needed to go more than once a week. Towards the end we spaced things out again as I was better able to adapt to the situation I was dealing with. There are some forms of talk therapies which do not do well with frequency changes, but the most common forms do.
With that being said I have to say that while society is sick, that doesn’t mean everyone around you is sick in the head. It sounds to me that you need good friends. Even if society around you is broken, making friends is a micro-society in and of itself. By making friends you start to fix society itself. And no, therapy can’t do much to help you with finding and making good friendships.
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Comment on Queer joy - Share what makes you happy, proud or loved in ~lgbt
Akir LinkA bit over a month ago my husband and I went on a cruise through Virgin Voyages which had a lot of gay people on it. Talking and meeting with them made us realize how insulated we were and how it...A bit over a month ago my husband and I went on a cruise through Virgin Voyages which had a lot of gay people on it. Talking and meeting with them made us realize how insulated we were and how it was affecting us. Even though we both had eachother and we were happy in that, we realized we had a different kind of loneliness from living in a society in which people were tolerant and sympathetic, but not completely understanding of our life experience.
Since then we have actually found ourselves hanging with the wilder crowd. We’ve gone to bars, we’ve gone to clubs, we’ve gone to Palm Springs, we’ve gone to a circuit party… just about the only thing we haven’t done yet is an orgy. And through it all I am happy to say that it has made my relationship with my husband stronger than ever. It’s made both of us communicate in new ways and has triggered a tremendous wave of personal growth for both of us. For me personally it has made me much more confident, especially in terms of my body image, which is something I had been working on constantly for the past few years. My husband confided his fears of being broken for not making friends and now he’s facing that part of himself head-on.
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Comment on "Teachers are going to hate it": How social media apps hooked teens at school in ~tech
Akir Link ParentWe really shouldn’t be limiting the damages to children. Adults can be and are harmed by social media addiction. I deleted TikTok because I could see that it was having negative effects on me, and...We really shouldn’t be limiting the damages to children. Adults can be and are harmed by social media addiction. I deleted TikTok because I could see that it was having negative effects on me, and just imagine how much worse things could be if I had an addictive personality. Even without the addiction aspect there is the fact that they will push the more sensational stories because they increase engagement, which encourages reactionary thought, anger, and depression. I honestly believe that we would not have our current fascist movements if it were not for social media algorithms fucking with society.
The shitty thing is that the reason why these companies are pushing engagement so hard is because of advertising dollars. Advertising is fucking evil and making it illegal to market to children is literally the least we could do to rein it in.
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Comment on Apple unveils their new operating systems for 2027: iOS 27, macOS 27 Golden Gate, and more in ~tech
Akir LinkThis all sounds really great. I have been wishing for Siri to become smart - particularly, conversationally smart - for a while now, and I would be oh-so-happy for it to be able to do so as...This all sounds really great. I have been wishing for Siri to become smart - particularly, conversationally smart - for a while now, and I would be oh-so-happy for it to be able to do so as locally as possible.
I’ve also been really nervous about Rosetta 2 being discontinued and it looks like 27 will keep it around for the time being. Until I bother to update some stupid tools I still use I will be sticking to 27.
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Comment on Persona 6 | Teaser trailer in ~games
Akir Link ParentTo my knowledge basically every Persona game since 3 has done this. 3 had the original release, then Persona 3 Portable with extra content, then Persona 3 FES which had the extra content ported...To my knowledge basically every Persona game since 3 has done this. 3 had the original release, then Persona 3 Portable with extra content, then Persona 3 FES which had the extra content ported back to PS2. And of course there’s the new remake.
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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
Akir Link ParentI’m on my second year. They’re pretty good but not the best by any means. It’s important to know that they are franchised so some can be better than others. YMMV. The one thing to know is that for...I’m on my second year. They’re pretty good but not the best by any means. It’s important to know that they are franchised so some can be better than others. YMMV.
The one thing to know is that for the summer break they are letting kids in for free, so that might make you want to hold off for now.
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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
Akir Link ParentThey do have smith machines which can do most of the things that you can do with barbells in a somewhat more safe way.They do have smith machines which can do most of the things that you can do with barbells in a somewhat more safe way.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
Akir LinkOne thing worth saying is that you cannot control how your partner thinks, feels, or acts. What you can control is how you react to those things she does. I think this is worth saying because...One thing worth saying is that you cannot control how your partner thinks, feels, or acts. What you can control is how you react to those things she does. I think this is worth saying because there is another option you didn’t list - you could open the relationship to other people.
This may end up being a terrible piece of advice, and in practice it may be one of the most painful depending on how you two feel about eachother. One thing I notice with her chat app is that you seem to be concerned about her having sex with other people. But that sounds like something she may want to do but perhaps cannot come to terms with herself.
The only reason why I think you should consider this is because you are stuck in a relationship that seems to be wanting to end but both of you have reasons holding you back from it. That doesn’t seem to be healthy for either of you. It sounds like your partner would benefit from it the most. But I think you would still benefit from being able to see sides of her you currently can’t, and it’ll potentially let you see sides of yourself you didn’t know were there as well.
It’s important to know that this a hard road that will require constant communication and cause heartache for sure. There’s a good chance this will cause your breakup. But if I’m honest I think that would probably be the best of your three options. Staying the course seems like throwing fuel onto the fire, and I think you might be too worried about her cheating on you while you’re separated. On the other hand, an open relationship might cause you to fight and hate eachother sometimes, but you’ll be closer to understanding eachother.
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Comment on The Power of Pride Bundle 2026 in ~lgbt
Akir LinkIt is very kind of them to offer a pay-what-you-can version. I am in the red right now and my work has slowed because of the summer school break - I haven’t taught any classes since last Saturday.It is very kind of them to offer a pay-what-you-can version. I am in the red right now and my work has slowed because of the summer school break - I haven’t taught any classes since last Saturday.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir Link ParentI personally loved it. It felt like a fun little adventure that let you really explore a world of absurdity that is very relatable.I personally loved it. It felt like a fun little adventure that let you really explore a world of absurdity that is very relatable.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir Link ParentIt is, but I include his series I’m a Virgo as well.It is, but I include his series I’m a Virgo as well.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Akir LinkI Love Boosters was everything I dreamed of. I saw it with a friend and he was so taken with the comedy he beat me up with his jovial gesticulations and almost suffocated from his uncontrollable...I Love Boosters was everything I dreamed of. I saw it with a friend and he was so taken with the comedy he beat me up with his jovial gesticulations and almost suffocated from his uncontrollable laughter. It’s also possibly the least preachy Boots Riley film.
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Comment on What change would make you quit Tildes? in ~tildes
Akir Link ParentOh, there are definitely some topics where conversation is continually upsetting. We've had people leave, and there are some topics that I and others will not touch because of the pushback....Oh, there are definitely some topics where conversation is continually upsetting. We've had people leave, and there are some topics that I and others will not touch because of the pushback. Anything relating to fat acceptance is an example I'm intimately familiar with.
Even so, Tildes is still the best place on the internet to have thoughtful forum style conversations on by quite a long shot, so it's a flaw I'm willing to accept.
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Comment on How has inflation changed your quality of life? in ~finance
Akir LinkFrom inflation specifically? Honestly nothing has really changed. I’m just poor because I have a shitty teaching job that’s basically just part time. Last Friday I was offered a summer camp class...From inflation specifically? Honestly nothing has really changed.
I’m just poor because I have a shitty teaching job that’s basically just part time. Last Friday I was offered a summer camp class from the company I work with which would have been huge because it meant three hour classes every weekday for two weeks. They told me they would let me know when they figured out schedules. Today was supposed to be the first day but it’s been radio silence.
The thing about money is that the past few weeks I’ve been putting myself out and socializing with locals (which is a major lifestyle change that has been very fulfilling), and without fail everyone I have been able to meet up with has been either very poor or unemployed. To be fair this might be selection bias because my schedule means I’m available mostly during the times people are working, but it’s still concerning.
In reality I am just really poor right now from poor financial decisions. We keep partying and even though I am not spending a lot of money at each thing I am still spending money. On top of that I owe money for my university classes and haven’t been able to register because of it.
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Comment on The big little penis panic in ~life.men
Akir Link ParentBeing naked in a locker room is very different from being naked in a club. A club is a very sexualized environment.Being naked in a locker room is very different from being naked in a club. A club is a very sexualized environment.
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Comment on The big little penis panic in ~life.men
Akir LinkI’m going to agree with the common opinion here. The solution to this is to renormalize men being naked together. I had horrible body image issues. Heck, I still did. But do you know the thing...I’m going to agree with the common opinion here. The solution to this is to renormalize men being naked together.
I had horrible body image issues. Heck, I still did. But do you know the thing that has helped me out the most? Just taking a shower at the gym. I’m still changing under my towel because if I don’t I’d literally be the only one fully nude, but just being naked in a public space, even if in a way nobody will really see it, is incredibly freeing. All of those voices in my head full of self-doubt got quiet and I was able to start loving myself.
When it comes to dicks themselves I also thought I had a small one, but I recently was told that it was big. Boy did that blow my mind. If I stayed in my little box I would have thought that way for the rest of my life. But frankly even if I hadn’t been told that, I would have still been so much better able to cope with my insecurities by simply being honest and open about it.
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Comment on Valve raises Steam Deck OLED prices by up to $300 in ~games
Akir Link ParentHonestly, if anyone isn't at least a little bit deranged from the current state of the world, I just assume they've been deranged in some other more serious way. There's a lot of frustration, to...Honestly, if anyone isn't at least a little bit deranged from the current state of the world, I just assume they've been deranged in some other more serious way.
There's a lot of frustration, to put things extremely lightly.
This is one of the reasons why developers and distro maintainers are going big on containerized applications like Snap and FlatPack.