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  1. Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music

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    Trance mixes for the gym since I went back. It is helping to get in a zone. I am digging it in a functional way.

    Trance mixes for the gym since I went back. It is helping to get in a zone. I am digging it in a functional way.

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  2. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

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    I know it has been a while since you posted this, but just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. It's a very tough time, and just wishing the best for you. <3

    I know it has been a while since you posted this, but just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. It's a very tough time, and just wishing the best for you. <3

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  3. Comment on What are some things you do "the old fashioned way," which might come with unexpected benefits over the modern, "improved" way of doing things? in ~talk

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    Yard sales too! And they tend to run even cheaper in my experience.

    Yard sales too! And they tend to run even cheaper in my experience.

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  4. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

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    Awww. Thank you for what you are doing too! We are on a break since our last little gal passed. Too hard to think of another just yet. But we plan to keep doing this. They really have so much to...

    Awww. Thank you for what you are doing too! We are on a break since our last little gal passed. Too hard to think of another just yet. But we plan to keep doing this.

    They really have so much to give, don't they? Super rewarding in that regard.

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  5. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

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    More than you realize when you start asking. I don't know what the reasoning is. My mom learned it first in our family. Our childhood cat went in for a visit, they found out he was terribly sick,...

    More than you realize when you start asking. I don't know what the reasoning is. My mom learned it first in our family. Our childhood cat went in for a visit, they found out he was terribly sick, and they made the decision to put him down. They didn't even ask or explain that when they took him back that was it... she thought she was going to be able to go back or see him again, but no. :'(

    Even when we took our dog in, my vet said that they do allow you to be in the room. But they didn't explain it. What they actually did is, took him, heavily sedated him, brought him back to us, then came in to do the final injections. So we didn't have the goodbye we thought we were getting.

    Our at home service people were awesome. They explained very clearly, and did a progressive sedation, with us getting alone time with our pup each step until the end. They also handled the cremation, paw print, and even bringing back the ashes (found out that many don't do that - you have to go to the crematorium).

    There are so many factors and every place does things differently. That's why I recommend checking beforehand. It's not fun, but if you wait until it is necessary it is overwhelming at best, and can be an emergency decision at worst, and you don't know what you might end up with.

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  6. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

  7. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

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    Get a lot of tissues, soft ones. There is no way around it, it fucking sucks. But we go through this pain is to lessen the pain that our buddies are going through. A peaceful send off for them is...

    Get a lot of tissues, soft ones. There is no way around it, it fucking sucks. But we go through this pain is to lessen the pain that our buddies are going through. A peaceful send off for them is the main goal. And just keep in mind this is why you are doing this - for them.

    A lot of the home services take Care Credit. If you don't have it yet, it is a credit card that you can use for vet and medical expenses, and you get a certain number of months interest free. Some may even have financing options they work with as well. All the more reason to make the calls today.

    3 votes

  8. Comment on Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment? in ~life.pets

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    First off, so very sorry that you are going through this. My boyfriend and I have adopted old pups from the shelter, so unfortunately we have been through the process a couple of times now. It...

    First off, so very sorry that you are going through this.

    My boyfriend and I have adopted old pups from the shelter, so unfortunately we have been through the process a couple of times now. It never is easy, but we have learned some things along the way.

    This one is from my vet (who also adopts old pets, ones with health issues at that) - make a list of what your dog loves/loved to do that means "quality of life". Once your dog can no longer do those things, it is time.

    For ourselves, we had trouble drawing the line both times. I am fearful of waiting too long (saw a tough grizzled coworker break down sobbing on the shop floor once because he waited too long for his dogs - the stakes are high), and both times I think we cut it about as close as we could. I'm uncomfortable that it worked out that way, but it's hard on your own sometimes to know.
    What helped both times was to take them in to the vet, explain what we are seeing, show video of areas of concern for our pup, and tell them that we think the time is getting close and get their thoughts. That professional outside opinion helped us a ton, even when they just confirmed we were on the right path.

    Start thinking now how you want this done. One dog we took to the vet. The other hated the vet, so we did a home service. Plan it now, call around now to see where you want to go. Each has its considerations. Not all vets let you be in the room when they euthanize. If that matters to you, start asking now. The home services give different levels of what they do before and after. If you want to go that route, look at the ones in your area, and see what options best fit what you want. This is the last thing you are doing for your buddy, so best to do it a way you are both as comfortable as you can be.

    Other than that, spoil your dog until the time. Give them lots of love.

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  10. Comment on Great audiobooks that come to mind because the narrator is amazing and NOT Ray Porter? in ~books

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    I really enjoyed "Infinite Jest" as narrated by Sean Pratt. It is such a journey of a book, and I absolutely think he enhanced it for me. He made the funny parts more funny, and the tender parts...

    I really enjoyed "Infinite Jest" as narrated by Sean Pratt. It is such a journey of a book, and I absolutely think he enhanced it for me. He made the funny parts more funny, and the tender parts more heartfelt.

    The only tricky thing - I'm not sure if they have resolved this in another edition, but the endnotes were in a separate audiobook. So I was bouncing back and forth.
    It made it rougher, but was worth it. One endnote in particular was probably one of my favorite narrated parts in the whole book.

  11. Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books

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    For the film for "The Warriors", I grew up with the understanding that it was supposed to be a cheesy movie. When I finally saw it, it definitely had some of those elements. But one of the things...

    For the film for "The Warriors", I grew up with the understanding that it was supposed to be a cheesy movie. When I finally saw it, it definitely had some of those elements. But one of the things that surprised me was how immersive it felt to me. At the end I felt like I had been up all night traveling through NY home with them. It struck me because I wasn't expecting that.

    YMMV though, I don't know how common my experience of the movie is.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Mortal Kombat 1 | Official Banished trailer in ~games

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    My boyfriend is in the room and commented that, "whatever you are listening to just sounds like wet meat slapping sounds". He wasn't wrong.

    My boyfriend is in the room and commented that, "whatever you are listening to just sounds like wet meat slapping sounds".

    He wasn't wrong.

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  13. Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music