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Comment on Is there an estimate of when sub-tildes are going to start being added? in ~tildes
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Comment on How Charlottesville forced Reddit to clean up its act in ~tech
BunnicusRex Link ParentTBF, "started doing a bit more than 'fuck all' about a clear problem" leaves plenty to be desired. I appreciate that an idealogical shift away from not our problem, bro is significant; but the bar...TBF, "started doing a bit more than 'fuck all' about a clear problem" leaves plenty to be desired.
I appreciate that an idealogical shift away from not our problem, bro is significant; but the bar was so low, I also get why most of us are still cynical about actual cleanup.
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Comment on The 'football' tag in ~sports.football
BunnicusRex Link ParentThanks for that! Def helps explain why so many commonalities in modern football-ish sports. I've caught Gaelic Football and Hurling games (matches?) on BBC World or something & thoroughly enjoyed...Thanks for that!
Def helps explain why so many commonalities in modern football-ish sports.I've caught Gaelic Football and Hurling games (matches?) on BBC World or something & thoroughly enjoyed them.
Knew nothing about the rules except what could be inferred while watching, but as a big fan of rugby & "American rugby"... it's fascinating comparing/contrasting what're clearly siblings of games I like. -
Comment on "Where were you radicalized?" in ~talk
BunnicusRex Link ParentAlright, I don't understand what you're saying at all (or how things could reasonably be set "right" without gutting modern society & all its current assumptions), but I'm not going to argue for...Alright, I don't understand what you're saying at all (or how things could reasonably be set "right" without gutting modern society & all its current assumptions), but I'm not going to argue for the sake of arguing. Be well.
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Comment on "Where were you radicalized?" in ~talk
BunnicusRex Link ParentI'm not sure how this thread turned into a debate on health care. It's an interesting debate, just seems like it might be better in another thread. As far as middlemen or personal freedoms go, I...- I'm not sure how this thread turned into a debate on health care. It's an interesting debate, just seems like it might be better in another thread.
- As far as middlemen or personal freedoms go, I think you may be missing the reality that in modern society, there is no reasonable option to simply opt out of treatment in many cases, if you suddenly have a medical emergency. In the clearest moral case, an injury to a child can't be met with "well, they should just suck it up, I haven't found a marketplace solution that suits me." Of course the broken bone should be set, they should get whatever treatment will at least alleviate suffering or prevent lasting damage. Somebody has to pay for that, and in the absence of adequate insurance it falls to the public anyway - usually local taxpayers. To use your illustration, if you can't find insurance without a liking-burgers surcharge, and you suffer a heart attack uncovered... the EMTs/hospital are still duty-bound to treat you, and the costs for that often will be borne by the public. The notion that there are true, reasonable choices about that seems to overlook that modern society is already roped in to being responsible for you (and that's not even considering the clear state interest in public health issues). None of that is "shallow" - it's just realistic.
- Again... none of this is really on topic anymore. Not sure on this platform, if we're supposed to keep wandering down this road despite being so far from OP's question, or relocate this to another topic/group.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~humanities
BunnicusRex (edited )Link ParentWell this article is from almost a year ago now, so................ (I know it's a joke, just... if this were a news sub I'd report it for old news, but I can't [*edit: and I guess since it's...Well this article is from almost a year ago now, so................
(I know it's a joke, just... if this were a news sub I'd report it for old news, but I can't [*edit: and I guess since it's ~humanities not ~news, the date's not as important anyway, except for clarity]. So I'll content myself with pointing out that this article is at least considerably older than the tildes announcement post. Perhaps Deimos is simply trolling the French?) -
Comment on "Where were you radicalized?" in ~talk
BunnicusRex LinkRadicalized? Really, really early. Lots of religious-right propaganda at church, dinner-table discussions the few times we ate dinner as a family, constant lectures while watching TV or when I...Radicalized? Really, really early. Lots of religious-right propaganda at church, dinner-table discussions the few times we ate dinner as a family, constant lectures while watching TV or when I wanted to do much of anything fun. I was largely a "good kid" (til I wasn't), so I bought it all hard for a while. It's kind of insane how many things were absolute sins & should be feared & looked down on. (For scope, my stepdad was incensed that GASP this great show about a novel was pushing "the gay agenda." A broadway musical, The Scarlet Pimpernel, was a tool of Satan, pushing the gay agenda because.. the heroes dolled themselves up to save people from the French Revolution, or something, IDK, I can't make sense of it either anymore.)
Naturally I rebelled against that as a teenager, but I still thought he was right - I wanted to piss off my parents like most of us, but I was still bought in to the idea that everything fun was a sin, people who didn't think that way were hurting America, blah blah blah.
To get away from that, I took the kind of dumb measure of trading that authoritarian system for another: joined the Army. Got me away from home anyway, with some financial independence. At first I really fit in there, bought in all the way, got in great shape, accepted the ideology since it wasn't that far off what I'd grown up with.
Getting de-radicalized is the thing I have a harder time explaining. Most of it was reading, learning, questioning, & meeting different people who weren't that scary & seemed moral/grounded/awesome, despite not being evangelical or far-right. Critically studying history is enough to shake anyone's faith, and a summer in Israel/Palestine made me realize very little was as simple as it'd been portrayed. I was pretty much questioning everything on my way out of school, though had a hard time getting all the way "deprogrammed" because... reasons. Then I got deployed to Iraq, and obv that changed my perspective a good bit.
So now I'm kind of a sad trope from too many bad movies, the vet who believed in The Cause until too late & now loathes the war, the reasons for it, the system that enabled it, the insane assumptions required to still think it was a wonderful thing (which many of my family still do - for America & whatever End Times nonsense, it's hard to explain).
I miss being certain of anything. Really. It's nice, that pure sense of purpose & assurance that you're on the side of the angels - literally or figuratively. I can't say I'm happier now. But I'd rather be miserable & skeptical, than voluntarily be used serve whoever's weird agenda anymore.
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Comment on What kind of community do you want this to be? in ~tildes
BunnicusRex LinkIlluminating - if this is "the social media platform that's about more than cat gifs and beaten-to-death memes, I want insights & facts & perspectives I wouldn't necessarily get anywhere else. Not...Illuminating - if this is "the social media platform that's about more than cat gifs and beaten-to-death memes, I want insights & facts & perspectives I wouldn't necessarily get anywhere else. Not in one place at least. And here it seems it's possible those viewpoints & various people's expertise will be able to come through, because it won't get lost in shouting or slapfights or other dumb noise that plagues many platforms.
Accepting - almost cheating since people have hit on aspects of this already, but... I want to be able to discuss with people who are different from me, not shout at each other. I want to be able to see where others are coming from, and trust that they'll try to do the same for me, even though my background may be very different from theirs. Obviously not accepting of assholes & hatey "opinions (blah blah Paradox Of Tolerance etc), but where each of us brings something and won't be attacked or laughed off just for having a different view.
Fun - This seems to easily fall by the wayside when trying for "quality," but it's important! Taking oneself too seriously is seldom helpful; if anything, it tends to build walls instead of knocking them down. I know this place is finding itself with respect to "quality" and self-policing vs unhelpful-gatekeeping... but in the end we're all here on our free time, exploring. A bit of fun shouldn't be considered unworthy, if anything it'll likely keep people coming back.
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Comment on Discussion: fostering inclusiveness on Tildes in ~tildes
BunnicusRex Link ParentTrue. Though not allowing bullying or abuse based on "differentness" seems like it's foundational for anything else. It's a huge part of why I could eventually see getting more comfortable here...True. Though not allowing bullying or abuse based on "differentness" seems like it's foundational for anything else. It's a huge part of why I could eventually see getting more comfortable here than reddit (which is a big part of my life still). I consciously avoid even indicating I'm a woman on reddit because of the lack of such safeguards. My fellow mods know of course, but why would I target myself with a "Hey, troll I just banned, please PM me really extra graphic & creepy shit!" invite in my user history, letting my guard down in 2XC?
Knowing that's not tolerated here, I'm going to try to be more open, and see how it goes. At worst, I delete this account & beg a friend for another invite code. Don't imagine I'll need to though ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ At best, I get comfortable & invite other women/minorities who've avoided other sites because of the hate & bullying.@dubteedub had mentioned inviting more minorities, and I agree that's huge for making sure multiple voices & POVs are represented. As there become more women & POC & other minorities here, I'd think demand for specific/tailored ~ spaces would be likely to bubble up organically.
I suppose there might be something else that could help, but i'm leery because too many "inclusivity" efforts (beyond invites & welcoming environment) come off as weird or pandering.
Example: I went to an overwhelmingly white, male military school that had a "minority outreach program" that only seemed to draw attention to the women & POC's other-ness. It was well-intentioned but strange & awkward. Then it started catering so hard to one minority (with special events, dinners, etc) that other minorities felt alienated even from that minority-outreach program. Now it was run by the Army, so of course it was about as clunky in execution as possible... but it still a cautionary tale to me about how good "inclusivity" measures can go wrong.All most people want, no matter who we are, is to be able to express ourselves without getting shit on for who we are (provided we're not shitting on others). I don't feel I need something tailored for me or "minority women." Just someplace where it's ok to be one. As this place gets bigger, sure a ~women or something might be a nice space (or whatever ~s for various minority experiences). But more important for the site RN, seems fostering trust we could really use those without the headaches that come from using their parallels on other platforms.
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Comment on Choosing to not have children in ~life
BunnicusRex LinkI've been past 30 for a while now, and still nothing has changed here either. Getting older might make one start thinking about different considerations, sure ("legacy" or "last chance" panic or...Now as I'm past the ever so major gate of 30 (that crucial age where everyone says you'll change your mind), nothing's changed.
I've been past 30 for a while now, and still nothing has changed here either. Getting older might make one start thinking about different considerations, sure ("legacy" or "last chance" panic or who knows), but I firmly believe age doesn't change who we are.
I will never understand the accusations of "selfish" for not adding to our planet's overpopulation crisis. It may have made sense in a tribal society where having enough farmers & warriors (especially in the face of horrid infant/child mortality rates) meant survival as a people... but that's not been the case for a long while. If anything, I could argue that insisting on consuming resources to make a bunch of little "me"s in my image, to bear my mark & carry my personal flame... that that's more selfish than opting out. Though I wouldn't make that argument to anyone with kids, because not my business any more than my choices are theirs. Well... maybe if they start shit, it might slip out. Especially if I weren't quite sober. But only as a "kindly STFU, please... thanks."
I'm getting to the age where it won't be an option anymore, and I'm still happy about my choices. God knows, there are so many pre-made kids out there in need of guidance, mentorship, & love... there'll still be the opportunity to contribute meaningfully that way if/whenever the urge strikes. I kind of get enough of that in my job though, so don't even see wanting an informal "parent-ish" role in the foreseeable future.
TL;DR you're definitely not alone, and I wouldn't expect things to change as you near future milestones :)
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Comment on Reddit's u/GallowBoob here in ~talk
BunnicusRex Link ParentWell here's some positive noise to balance out the negative noise. Glad to see you here. I like what they're trying to build here, tho am still only beginning to explore. I get that this place...Well here's some positive noise to balance out the negative noise.
Glad to see you here.
I like what they're trying to build here, tho am still only beginning to explore. I get that this place isn't reddit, but it'd be silly to pretend that we don't recognize names we've grown to like/respect/other there. Hopefully that good stuff can continue here w/o the toxicity that's driving some of us away from reddit - a platform we otherwise have liked & often invested time trying to improve.
(& reacting negatively to something just because the OP is [InsertNameHere] def seems like one of those things that ought to be left behind.)
FWIW news subs are often different than casual local subs. A place for local news is great, but it can be overly specific if a community is too small to support both "local news" and "local other stuff."
~Local seems a reasonable idea for including questions, asking for recommendations, and starting more general discussions about local culture. Obv those could also happen in the ~news equivalent, but users could also be annoyed with such things as off-topic for a news space.