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  1. Comment on My relationship feels like it's collapsing and I don't know what to do in ~life

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    Thank you for sharing, I feel for you, and this is a bit overwhelming for me, so I can't imagine what it's like for you. Here are some thoughts I had while reading. Take them for what they are and...

    Thank you for sharing, I feel for you, and this is a bit overwhelming for me, so I can't imagine what it's like for you. Here are some thoughts I had while reading. Take them for what they are and don't put too much weight on them, I'm just a stranger on the internet:

    1. First of all, I get the impression that B (and you) have been functioning much better before, that means that there may be a way back to that. Don't stare at it blindly if the current situation is swallowing you whole, but I thought I'd mention that I don't think this is necessarily hopeless even if the rest of my comments are talking about the problems.
    2. Is B able talk about not being able to talk, or at least acknowledging that she's shutting down? I'm thinking of this as a completely separate discussion, disconnected in time from talking about any other problems while assuring her that you won't bring anything else up during that discussion (we don't want her to feel ambushed).
    3. Therapy, together or separate, or even just you. Is this something you have considered? I understand that the budget is tight, both for time and money, but it feels like you could do very well with an outside perspective, someone that's used to talking about these kind of problems in a way that might be easier for B to handle. EDIT: When I read through your post again I saw that you did bring this up. I'm gonna leave this here as a gentle poke that I think you should try to get it in some way.
    4. Marriage, going forward into marriage if you can't even talk about your problems seems very scary to me.
    5. Marriage party. It's quite possible to postpone the party without cancelling the marriage completely. You seem to have plenty of reasons that you could list if that's something you'd want to do.
    6. Screen time for B. I understand that you're not the parent of B, so solving this issue shouldn't be on you. However doomscrolling is probably hurting more than helping if she finds herself doing that for longer periods of time. I.e. if she's spending every evening doomscrolling for more than a week, then it's probably causing more issues than it solves.
    7. Your children (maybe not, but it's not all about blood). I don't know nearly enough about children with diagnoses to say anything concrete here, but I think you should really talk to a professional if that's an option. It sounds like you have more than you can handle.
    7 votes

  2. Comment on Why there's no European Google? in ~tech

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    I'm not talking about a lack of cloud hosts, I'm talking about the services they offer. I also think it's a problem that the services are not standardized making it hard to move from one provider...

    I'm not talking about a lack of cloud hosts, I'm talking about the services they offer. I also think it's a problem that the services are not standardized making it hard to move from one provider to another, I think that should reasonably be caught by antitrust laws. But it's a different problem from the services being not being offered in eu at all.

    8 votes

  3. Comment on Listing for GOG Galaxy developer cites Linux as “next major frontier” in ~games

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    Wine/Proton integration like Steam has would be very useful and imho the first logical step. (I know that's a bit philosophical if games should ported or use wine, but personally I'm of the...

    Wine/Proton integration like Steam has would be very useful and imho the first logical step. (I know that's a bit philosophical if games should ported or use wine, but personally I'm of the opinion that we need a solid userbase in linux and once we have that the native versions will come on their own).

    12 votes

  4. Comment on Listing for GOG Galaxy developer cites Linux as “next major frontier” in ~games

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    Cool! I gave up on GoG because they had so bad linux support compared to Steam. I hope this is a general linux push for them.

    Cool! I gave up on GoG because they had so bad linux support compared to Steam. I hope this is a general linux push for them.

    20 votes

  5. Comment on Terry Pratchett’s novels may have held clues to his dementia a decade before diagnosis, our new study suggests in ~books

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    I didn't notice the difference before Snuff, and I don't think I would've finished Raising Steam and The Shepherd's Crown if they hadn't been written by Pratchett. It's fascinating that it was...

    I didn't notice the difference before Snuff, and I don't think I would've finished Raising Steam and The Shepherd's Crown if they hadn't been written by Pratchett. It's fascinating that it was noticeable so early, I think some of his best books are in that list.

    2 votes

  6. Where to buy mp3s legally?

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    Recently I bought a mp3 player and I want to know the best place to buy mp3s (or similar). Biggest priority is things that are in Swedish and stories for kids . Maybe the things I want there...

    Recently I bought a mp3 player and I want to know the best place to buy mp3s (or similar). Biggest priority is things that are in Swedish and stories for kids . Maybe the things I want there counts as audio books, some of it, but not all I think? All input is good :).

    22 votes

  7. Comment on Why there's no European Google? in ~tech

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    I would not use mastodon as a success story, but outside of that nitpicking (throwing in curl as a replacement) I think a lot of the reasoning holds true. It is good that we're not building tech...

    I would not use mastodon as a success story, but outside of that nitpicking (throwing in curl as a replacement) I think a lot of the reasoning holds true. It is good that we're not building tech giants in that way. I think we are lagging behind in some important ways. E.g. for cloud hosting there are no alternatives inside eu that are even close to aws or gcp when it comes to features and maturity.

    14 votes

  8. Comment on No knives, only cook knives in ~hobbies

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    Thanks! That makes sense, in my mind I was thinking Damascus != Sweden, but I guess damascus steel has not necessarily been made in damascus for a long time =).

    Thanks! That makes sense, in my mind I was thinking Damascus != Sweden, but I guess damascus steel has not necessarily been made in damascus for a long time =).

    1 vote

  9. Comment on No knives, only cook knives in ~hobbies

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    Sidenote: Looking at that "other knife", if you know, what is it that makes it swedish? I don't see anything in the description that references sweden in any way.

    Sidenote: Looking at that "other knife", if you know, what is it that makes it swedish? I don't see anything in the description that references sweden in any way.

  10. Comment on What’s a point that you think many people missed? in ~talk

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    Or it's a loss lead, where they expect to make more money on other things. Or they need to move a lot of items to compensate for a fixed cost. Or another reason. I think the actual...

    Or it's a loss lead, where they expect to make more money on other things. Or they need to move a lot of items to compensate for a fixed cost. Or another reason.

    I think the actual misunderstanding here is that prices are set based on the expenses of the seller. Prices are set based on what the market can bear. Sometimes that's a direct loss where you need to get rid of stock to make room for something more profitable, but mostly it's not, because store owners have the store to make a living or make money. There's also not a direct connection between individual items in the store and profitability. The total amount of money made is what should compensate for fixed costs like staffing and rent etc.

    7 votes

  11. Comment on ‘Sell America’ returns to Wall Street after Donald Trump ups the ante against Jerome Powell and the Federal Reserve in ~society

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    Isn't that the key to Trumps whole governing model, where loyalty to him is more important than anything else? Regardless of it has direct effect or not. Trump wants people to know that its best...

    Isn't that the key to Trumps whole governing model, where loyalty to him is more important than anything else? Regardless of it has direct effect or not. Trump wants people to know that its best for you to do what you think will make him happy, other orders, procedure or legality be damned.

    19 votes

  12. Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society

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    Thank you! Looks like it's still thriving. I was indeed looking at wikipedias lists of individual movies which was very lacking. I don't know how complete it is, but imdb/nigeria/2024/movies has...

    Thank you! Looks like it's still thriving. I was indeed looking at wikipedias lists of individual movies which was very lacking. I don't know how complete it is, but imdb/nigeria/2024/movies has numbers and individual films, around 800 per year, at least at a glance.

    3 votes

  13. Comment on Awesome Games Done Quick 2026, a week-long charity fundraiser featuring speedruns, is live (runs January 4 - January 10) in ~games

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    Cavern of Dreams was a great run. I hadn't heard about the game before, but it was really fun to watch. Great commentary as well.

    Cavern of Dreams was a great run. I hadn't heard about the game before, but it was really fun to watch. Great commentary as well.

    3 votes

  14. Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society

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    Where did you find that number? I tried to look it up yesterday as I know about Nollywood, but haven't heard anything the last couple of years. English Wikipedia has nowhere near that number, but...

    Where did you find that number? I tried to look it up yesterday as I know about Nollywood, but haven't heard anything the last couple of years. English Wikipedia has nowhere near that number, but it varies a lot from year to year, so their data is probably not great.

    1 vote

  15. Comment on Request for help: Backing up NASA public databases in ~space

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    Thank you. (maybe mark this comment as noise =) )

    Thank you. (maybe mark this comment as noise =) )

    1 vote

  16. Comment on Request for help: Backing up NASA public databases in ~space

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    Hello again, I just wanted to know how this venture went, both with the backup of your own needs and backing up Nasas public data at large? And if it didn't pan out, are there any other large...

    Hello again, I just wanted to know how this venture went, both with the backup of your own needs and backing up Nasas public data at large? And if it didn't pan out, are there any other large scale efforts of accomplishing the same?

    1 vote

  17. Comment on PostNord to stop letter deliveries in Denmark in ~society

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    Sounds like a great example of "privatize the winnings, socialize the costs".

    According to Danish law, the option to send a letter must exist. This means that if Dao were to stop delivering letters, the government would be obliged to appoint somebody else to do it.

    Sounds like a great example of "privatize the winnings, socialize the costs".

    3 votes

  18. Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative

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    I've tried sewing a dice bag for my significant other. It's gone ok-ish but I realize there are some things that could have been much better as I'm not that experienced when it comes to sowing....

    I've tried sewing a dice bag for my significant other. It's gone ok-ish but I realize there are some things that could have been much better as I'm not that experienced when it comes to sowing. There's really no time to do another bag when I'm alone before christmas, so I'll have to patch up the current one the best I can. But I think it's good enough that they'll be happy =).

    5 votes

  19. Comment on A faster-than-light spaceship would actually look a lot like Star Trek's Enterprise in ~space

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    That "actually" is doing some heavy lifting there. =)

    That "actually" is doing some heavy lifting there. =)

    18 votes

  20. Comment on How Europe is gearing up to follow Australia's teen social media ban in ~tech