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  1. Comment on Is fascism back? in ~society

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    Given how emotionally taxing the topic is with the current state of the world, can I get a TL;DW?

    Given how emotionally taxing the topic is with the current state of the world, can I get a TL;DW?

    2 votes

  2. Comment on Fix your hearts or die: The path to liberation for lonely men is feminism in ~life

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    I’m a man, but I’ve never felt very connected to the more traditional “man” side of things. Because of that, it’s always been hard for me to relate to a lot of the modern discourse around men. At...

    I’m a man, but I’ve never felt very connected to the more traditional “man” side of things. Because of that, it’s always been hard for me to relate to a lot of the modern discourse around men.

    At the same time, I consider myself an extremely lonely person. Last year I told two of my closest friends that I felt really lonely, and they looked at me like it was my problem, something I needed to fix on my own. I’ve been trying. I’ve gone to therapy, meetups, and improv classes with the goal of improving my social skills, but I feel like I’m reaching the point where I want to give up. It feels like I’ll never be able to connect like a “normal” person.

    And I know there’s something contradictory about saying I’m lonely while also saying I have at least two friends. But the truth is they’re there because I message them first. Nobody ever takes the initiative to reach out to me. That’s what really messes with me. It makes me feel like I could die at any moment and that would be it. In the best case, people might take weeks to notice something happened.

    What I want to say is that both men and women have internalized expectations about how men should behave. When men don’t meet those expectations, they get ostracized. One of those expectations is that you’re never supposed to talk about how hard it is for you to connect with people. Society also needs to think about how little room it gives men to express themselves, but nobody seems willing to have that conversation. It's easier to just blame them for struggling and let them fall behind.

    33 votes

  3. Comment on Resist and Unsubscribe in ~society

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    I wish the site was in Spanish so I could share it with my friends.

    I wish the site was in Spanish so I could share it with my friends.

    3 votes

  5. Comment on I am kinda curious about the demographics of Tildes in ~talk

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    Mid 30s. Mexico. Software developer but currently unemployed.

    Mid 30s. Mexico. Software developer but currently unemployed.

    2 votes

  6. Comment on I feel that Destin (SmarterEveryDay on Youtube) is straying from the path in ~talk

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    I'm a native Spanish speaker, and let me say that there's nothing conservative about calling someone Tia or Tío because it literally means Aunt and Uncle.

    In the same way that referring to older adults as Tia or Tio or something like that is conservative.

    I'm a native Spanish speaker, and let me say that there's nothing conservative about calling someone Tia or Tío because it literally means Aunt and Uncle.

    1 vote

  8. Comment on Road map of the Roman Empire in ~humanities.history

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    My last name is Ledesma, it comes from a Spanish town of the same name that dates back to Roman times and was originally called Bletisama. It’s really cool to see it on this map. (lon: -5.9986,...

    My last name is Ledesma, it comes from a Spanish town of the same name that dates back to Roman times and was originally called Bletisama. It’s really cool to see it on this map. (lon: -5.9986, lat: 41.0911)

    5 votes

  9. Comment on You need to be bored in ~life

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    I didn't know that's possible. I started carrying a dumb phone for the same reason.

    I didn't know that's possible. I started carrying a dumb phone for the same reason.

    2 votes

  11. Comment on What does a newcomer moving to your town/city/state/country need to know? in ~life

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    Sweet potatoes cooked with steam, which is connected to a whistle. As someone who grew up hearing it and was never bothered by the sound, I found it funny to learn that foreigners often hate it...

    Sweet potatoes cooked with steam, which is connected to a whistle. As someone who grew up hearing it and was never bothered by the sound, I found it funny to learn that foreigners often hate it and find it disturbing.

    The food is actually not that special, but it’s also a kind of lost art. They use wood, so it’s probably not very practical in modern times. Still, it makes me sad to see them disappear.

    4 votes

  12. Comment on What does a newcomer moving to your town/city/state/country need to know? in ~life

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    The infernal sound you can hear at night is coming from a street food vendor. And the food is delicious, you should try it!

    The infernal sound you can hear at night is coming from a street food vendor. And the food is delicious, you should try it!

    8 votes

  13. Comment on Canadian VPS providers? in ~comp

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    That's funny. I'm from Mexico and I had to verify my ID, but didn't pay anything in advance.

    That's funny. I'm from Mexico and I had to verify my ID, but didn't pay anything in advance.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on TRMNL - Open source e-ink "companion" device in ~tech

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    Wow! Thanks for sharing. I was looking for something exactly like this a couple of months ago.

    Wow! Thanks for sharing. I was looking for something exactly like this a couple of months ago.

    8 votes

  15. Comment on Non-Americans: How's it going? in ~society

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    As a Mexican software developer, working for an American company. I feel that now, more than ever. My job can suddenly disappear one day, and there's nothing I can do to prevent it.

    As a Mexican software developer, working for an American company. I feel that now, more than ever. My job can suddenly disappear one day, and there's nothing I can do to prevent it.

    10 votes

  17. Comment on You should have a website in ~tech

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    I understand where you're coming from. I have a website that I built from scratch but never update because I hate how amateurish it looks. Every now and then, I get the urge to improve the design...

    I understand where you're coming from. I have a website that I built from scratch but never update because I hate how amateurish it looks. Every now and then, I get the urge to improve the design and start writing articles. However, as a developer, I always want it to have a "wow" factor, and that's where I get stuck.

    That said, the article isn't suggesting you must have a blog. Your website can be a simple page with links to your social media and a few projects you'd like to showcase. This way, you won't feel the pressure to constantly add new content.

    I could help you to set it up if is something simple.

    8 votes

  18. Comment on 100 Days To Offload in ~tech

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    The whole point of #100DaysToOffload is to challenge you to publish 100 posts on your personal blog in a year.

    6 votes

  20. Comment on You should have a website in ~tech

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    I'll be honest—maybe it's because I agree—but I don't think there's anything particularly noteworthy in the manifesto. I'm sharing it just to remind you (yes, you!) to create your own website.

    I'll be honest—maybe it's because I agree—but I don't think there's anything particularly noteworthy in the manifesto. I'm sharing it just to remind you (yes, you!) to create your own website.

    7 votes