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Comment on Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll in ~life.men
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Comment on Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll in ~life.men
Lemonus Link ParentI have a simple technique for you. When people discuss the subset of men that are MRAers, or incels, or rapists, or whatever characteristic they have an issue with, and if you’re not an MRAer,...I think a lot of men would just like to stop being generalized in with the MRA and incel groups just for existing
I have a simple technique for you. When people discuss the subset of men that are MRAers, or incels, or rapists, or whatever characteristic they have an issue with, and if you’re not an MRAer, incels, rapist, etc., then assume they’re not talking about you.
Most people don’t even know what MRAers or incels are. How many people are labeling men as MRAers/incels “just for existing”?
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Comment on Why do you think that there isn't a male-led/focused feminist-style movement? in ~life.men
Lemonus Link ParentIt’s not only a women’s movement and it’s not that the issues “affect men to a high degree too”: the central idea of feminism is that it’s for everyone because the topics at issue harm women and...So while feminism is a women's movement, the problems affect men to a high degree too.
It’s not only a women’s movement and it’s not that the issues “affect men to a high degree too”: the central idea of feminism is that it’s for everyone because the topics at issue harm women and men and nonbinary folk, just in different ways.
Feminism has a branding issue. It has “fem” as a prefix so many people assume it’s only for women. This assumption might arguably have been more accurate during the first wave feminist movement of the 19th century when feminist theory focused, among other things, on women’s suffrage. Nevertheless, feminist activism is intertwined with labour activism who (in the West) secured the 8-hour workday, sick leave, limitations on child labour, and other worker protections that benefitted all workers—in this case, men most of all.
Third-wave feminism incorporated the concept of intersectionality: rather than focusing on one feature of our identities (i.e. gender) and how it informs our interactions and oppressions, this idea recognizes that our identities are formed from overlapping characteristics, statuses, group memberships, cultures. With that in mind, contemporary feminism seeks to liberate people from the oppression they experience from these intersected identities (e.g. a brown immigrant lesbian middle-class woman, a black bi working class older man, a white straight young trans-man, a white immigrant ESL nonbinary person experience different struggles, of which gender is an inextricable part, but only a part). Their experiences of oppression and power are complex, differ if they’re in Houston vs Portland let alone US vs China, so it would be woefully insufficient to focus only on the “women’s issues” involved.
For anyone who thinks “feminism” isn’t for you, I’d encourage you to think of it more as “humanism that was started by women” and dig a bit deeper.
There are countless books I could recommend, but on the topic of masculinity I particularly appreciate bell books’s insightful writing.
The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.
- bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
Finally, I’ve tried to summarize the ideas of contemporary mainstream Western feminism—like any field, it’s not a monolith: feminist theory and practice focuses on different issues in the different places and times. And different theorists and activists disagree with each other—as they should because that’s how academic fields and activist movements evolve. (Not to mention it’s field made up of imperfect humans who promote poor ideas and bad-faith assholes who push harmful nonsense: that’s what the debate is for.)
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Comment on Why do you think that there isn't a male-led/focused feminist-style movement? in ~life.men
Lemonus LinkBecause feminism exists to address issues that oppress men. I’m a man: I support the liberation of men (inclusively), so I’m a feminist. Your question suggests you think feminism is only for women?Because feminism exists to address issues that oppress men. I’m a man: I support the liberation of men (inclusively), so I’m a feminist.
Your question suggests you think feminism is only for women?
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Comment on The decline of username and password on the same page in ~tech
Lemonus Link ParentI’ve stopped using websites that only provide that login method. There’s nothing a site/app can offer me that’s worth that amount of irritation.I’ve stopped using websites that only provide that login method. There’s nothing a site/app can offer me that’s worth that amount of irritation.
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Comment on Why don't we help each other? in ~talk
Lemonus LinkWith the way OP phrased the title, I expected this thread to be the beginning of a Tildes mutual aid movement for sharing resources & knowledge, whether to help each other or provide support with...With the way OP phrased the title, I expected this thread to be the beginning of a Tildes mutual aid movement for sharing resources & knowledge, whether to help each other or provide support with local community projects.
I expect a lot of people want to do more than they do and they encounter barriers at various points. From what I’ve read so far, I bet Tildeites could help folks overcome many of those barriers.
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Comment on Microsoft is adding a new key to PC keyboards for the first time since 1994. The Copilot key will eventually be required in new PC keyboards, though not yet. in ~tech
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Comment on Poll: US President Joe Biden’s standing hits new lows amid Israel-Hamas war in ~news
Lemonus Link ParentSo your evidence for the claim that the polls are overestimating Biden’s performance is … another poll. And that’s persuasive you think?So your evidence for the claim that the polls are overestimating Biden’s performance is … another poll.
And that’s persuasive you think?
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Comment on X runs unblockable ‘timeline takeover’ ad promoting anti-trans film in ~tech
Lemonus Link ParentWhat are you, the RIAA? Adblocking ≠ piracy ≠ theft.What are you, the RIAA? Adblocking ≠ piracy ≠ theft.
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Comment on What field do you work? And do you love your work and workplace? in ~talk
Lemonus Link ParentI dig your ethical code. I'm a psychologist and I love doing psychotherapy and I love doing research, but the longer I'm in this field the more disillusioned I am by the corruption of rich white...I just can’t stand working for the profit of rich white guys
I dig your ethical code. I'm a psychologist and I love doing psychotherapy and I love doing research, but the longer I'm in this field the more disillusioned I am by the corruption of rich white motherfuckers I see. It's why I run my own practice.
It sounds like writing novels and becoming a foster parent are your ambitions but that it's still important that you continue to generate some income, so if it didn't matter how much you made so long as it was >0, what else would you want to do?
e.g. Software engineering freelance and be picky about only working with clients whose mission you believe in (e.g. NGOs, social justice nonprofits, B-corps, clever startups that take VC money but actually make things that make the world better and not worse)? Become a physician and work with underserviced communities? Write novels professionally (i.e. get an editor and an agent and set some deadlines)?
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Comment on Reddit demands moderators remove NSFW labels, or else in ~tech
Lemonus Link ParentIt’s the answer to the question: what happens when people with hyperniche specializations come together from the mutual experience of finding the seriousposting of r/credibledefense cringey and...It’s the answer to the question: what happens when people with hyperniche specializations come together from the mutual experience of finding the seriousposting of r/credibledefense cringey and wrong and decide: what if we turned the stupid up to 11? And PowerPoints about Rule 34 + A-10s.
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Comment on Trump campaign is reportedly plotting an election coup to “bypass” a Biden win in ~news
Lemonus (edited )LinkThe lawyer, Teri Kainfield, wrote a relevant counterpoint.The lawyer, Teri Kainfield, wrote a relevant counterpoint.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tildes
Lemonus Link ParentThat's a reasonable hypothesis. But 1. Do you have evidence to support those correlations? Or is it a hunch? Or is it a hypothesis that you want to test? Are "people who care about privacy" and...That's a reasonable hypothesis.
But 1. Do you have evidence to support those correlations? Or is it a hunch? Or is it a hypothesis that you want to test?
- Are "people who care about privacy" and "people who prefer default browsers" relevant to the recruitment process of Tildes (or whatever the explicit purpose of the survey is)? And if that is important, is asking about browser preference the best way of inferring that information versus, say, just asking "how important is privacy to you?"
I'm not saying browser use may not be an interesting demographic question. I'm more commenting on the fact that with any survey you pick questions that serve the overall purpose of that survey, and when you design a survey you do not need to worry about trying to include every possible question that might or might not be relevant.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tildes
Lemonus Link ParentThe questions you include should be determined by the purpose of your survey and its theoretical foundation. If you're interested in, say, representation for the purposes of recruitment then it...The questions you include should be determined by the purpose of your survey and its theoretical foundation. If you're interested in, say, representation for the purposes of recruitment then it makes sense to inquire about demographic characteristics, political orientation, even OS use since that can represent certain subcultures. But I wouldn't expect browser use to be representative of any group. On the other hand, if you're surveying UX then browser use is a useful question. Of course, you may also include experimental questions based on a hunch or to test a hypothesis.
Anyway, I wouldn't worry too much about not including every potentially useful question if you didn't already have a good reason to include that question.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tildes
What’s your evidence that it’s feminism that it’s feminism “never compromising” that’s radicalizing young men?
As opposed to the rise in popularity in fascist movements in the broader culture, economic and political instability, isolation due to a pandemic, social media algorithms tuned to push radicalizing content because research shows that generates greater revenue, all of which there is supporting research for?