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Comment on Autistic adults: how do you stim/self-soothe in public? in ~talk
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Comment on LGBT introductions thread: What's your story? in ~lgbt
Lifeforms LinkI consider myself to be ARO/ACE. Aromantic, Asexual. I've only really slid in to this definition in the last several years, in my late 30's+. It's always been there for me though, as long as I've...I consider myself to be ARO/ACE. Aromantic, Asexual. I've only really slid in to this definition in the last several years, in my late 30's+. It's always been there for me though, as long as I've looked back to all relationships in my life, or lack of them rather, but only just in the last few years discovered that there was a label for it.
I haven't come out. I don't feel the need to. I seem to have my circle of family and friends who don't mention that I am alone, and firmly alone. They either don't want to bring it up in case of hurting me for not finding "the one", or they just accept that I am destined to be alone. I don't mind, and because I don't feel like I have to justify it, it is just I that knows. I have no fear of not being accepted in my circle, so there's no fear there keeping it quiet.
I sometimes debate with myself whether I need to celebrate that I am of a different orientation, but not being out, then the debate moves to does it matter? And I don't actually know. I know it's ok that I am what I am, but I struggle with the thought I should come out because the more who comes out, then it helps any movement out there. I am a bit lost on that aspect.
I do wonder if there are any others out there that are the same as me. Not closeted because of fear, or hate, but just because they feel no need to advertise it, or do not need to come out.
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
Lifeforms Link ParentThank you! I am more content. The days after are always better for me. Back on that even keel, and awaiting my fun brick build (a cat!).Thank you!
I am more content. The days after are always better for me. Back on that even keel, and awaiting my fun brick build (a cat!).
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
Lifeforms LinkI had a birthday. It was meh, seems to be like that for the last few years. Sure I get a couple gifts but generally nothing surprising, or nothing for me, or because I'm me. I'm always asked, and...I had a birthday.
It was meh, seems to be like that for the last few years.Sure I get a couple gifts but generally nothing surprising, or nothing for me, or because I'm me. I'm always asked, and I usually give a couple options, a necessity, and a fun item which I said I'd do like half the cost of, and I never seem to get that fun item; A just cus item from family.
I didn't even get responses from thank you from a couple of people either, or a happy birthday either.
A few days on and I struck lucky on a 30% discount for the fun item so I bought it myself. I'll be paying it off for a couple months, but sod it. Combined that with organising someone elses birthday gifts/birthday meal pretty much already, and a generally really negative person in the family being central to stuff seemingly all my time, I really just couldn't be arsed on the day. Woke up super early with the thought of this place is a mess. Then eventually get around to opening a couple gifts, then a nap later on, then being hassled to get in touch with someone to say thanks for something whilst I'm trying to fix a dinner I actually want for once. Being hassled at my age isn't acceptable, and basically it was just because said negative person was hassling the other person, so to get them off their back, they try and shove it on mine. And then more crap later on trying to get me to remember stuff for said negative person that I don't even use, or know (passwords etc, ongoing issue).
On my birthday. I did get a couple of gifts from two people whom are my friends which were "this made me think of you so much"! And one was a last min (she didn't realise it was my birthday cus I never say anything cus I just feel what's the point), and the other knew, and found it and I adored both gifts, and both actually made the day for me).
Days up to were annoyance because I knew I'd be disappointed, and days following annoyance because I was disappointed :D Super 1st world, and super entitled. I don't expect tons to be spent, just I sit and listen and watch and plot everyone elses birthdays. If they ask for something I'll get that, but find fun bits to include, or I'll make stuff for people that they need, and I just never feel that that happens back to me (negative person, not the other gift person).
Also I am super grateful for the necessity item, I do love that, and I'm not moaning about their gift honestly, because they got me a couple extra bits I liked. Person isn't the negative person.
But I had previously had a massive argument over stupid gifts and money and stupid cutting nose off to spite themselves stuff ^negative person crap again. So it'd been soured for a few weeks already.
Anyhoo. Done for another year.
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Comment on What are the XKCDs and Admiral Cloudbergs that you follow? in ~tech
Lifeforms Link ParentI got her (sorry Admiral, I do apologise!) stories originally from CatFail too, but preferred the medium reading style, so would then check them on there. Then I saw Max's were popping up there...I got her (sorry Admiral, I do apologise!) stories originally from CatFail too, but preferred the medium reading style, so would then check them on there. Then I saw Max's were popping up there too. I'd love to see more in depth stuff like that on medium.
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Comment on What was the most valuable technique you have learnt to manage or improve your mental health? in ~health.mental
Lifeforms LinkDon't sweat the small stuff. So much in life could come under the what if I did this instead. The problem with that is that it's a never ending circle. Yes some people may look at you if you dress...Don't sweat the small stuff. So much in life could come under the what if I did this instead. The problem with that is that it's a never ending circle. Yes some people may look at you if you dress differently for example, but the whole world isn't looking at you. This applies in so many things, eating, doing hobbies, working set ways.
The reality is we're all different, yet similar. Even if you could change stuff after the fact, it wont make life better, just different. So don't worry about it. The switch wont go off instantly, but you need to get into the mindset of oh well, so what? The more you do it, the easier it gets. Which is everything in life.
I mean have a groan and a grumble over stuff to yourself, but put it in a box after, and move on to the next thing. Don't miss the stuff in life that matters whilst you're focusing on the small stuff not to sweat over.
Some people really don't care what others think of them. They're happy in themselves, but that comes from acceptance of whom they are and what they do, and how they think, and act. And I don't mean that gives you the right to be an Eejit, but it means to be a nice person, the better person. You're always gunna get pillocks who want to comment on stuff, or point it out, but they're now the one obsessing over you.
The sooner people get away from the hive mindset we often see at school, and into the real world when being you matters, the better you'll feel in yourself and your achievements. A small achievement is no less than a giant one, it matters just as much. But you gotta fake that attitude and eventually it'll come natural. Like anything else, muscle memory, and eventually you'll be doing what you want with out focusing on what others think, or see, or feel at it. Your life, not theirs. So live it!
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Comment on What are the XKCDs and Admiral Cloudbergs that you follow? in ~tech
Lifeforms Link ParentAdmiral Cloudberg is a very good indepth writer of mainly Aircraft accidents and incidents. Has a reddit, but also publishes on Medium (where I've linked to). A great read, and I follow on medium....Admiral Cloudberg is a very good indepth writer of mainly Aircraft accidents and incidents. Has a reddit, but also publishes on Medium (where I've linked to). A great read, and I follow on medium. Super in depth writing from him. He's been tidying up older ones, and doing newer ones.
Also there's Max S who does a train version on Medium. Another good writer of incidents and accidents. He was banned from Reddit, and had a person post his content on there for him, but also readable on Medium, again that's the link.
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Comment on Any archery fans in here? Let's get something started! in ~hobbies
Lifeforms LinkI enjoy archery, I use a recurve bow. But I've had to bounce back and forward on poundage over the last couple years due to stuff, so I'm not overly good at it. But I still love to shoot at the...I enjoy archery, I use a recurve bow. But I've had to bounce back and forward on poundage over the last couple years due to stuff, so I'm not overly good at it. But I still love to shoot at the range.
Been doing it 4 years now, my dad tried it at a sports event and quite liked it, was reasonbly good at it, so when we randomly saw a bloke in our local shop with an archery evolution T shirt, dad started to chat and we discovered about a group locally, so dad went along and I came too for a nosy. About a month later, we both had our own bows.
I've gone from RH, to LF now, lower poundage limbs (18), but trying to work my way back up as I have a 1 piece wood bow I loved to shoot, but it's a little hard for me right now. Discovered that I can shoot either side, but LH is preferable due to eyesight. Shot 20lb last time, gunna try 24 next time. Goal is to get back up to 30 for the wood bow.
I don't shoot good, can't group very well, but I love to do it, so I still do. I am the epitome that you can like and enjoy something even if you're not good at it at all, more people need to understand that. Not everyone in life is there for medals, some of us just like to make others look better ;)
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Comment on Redditors of Tildes, which subreddits are you missing the most during the blackout? in ~tech
Lifeforms Link ParentAnd what I loved was each time in the replies someone would link to yet another cat subreddit that I had missed. sadAnd what I loved was each time in the replies someone would link to yet another cat subreddit that I had missed. sad
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Comment on Would anyone be interested in doing a community watchthrough of a show? in ~anime
Lifeforms LinkI would try to partake with this. I am narrow viewed on what I watch, but if it were something I was participating in, I'd watch stuff which I hadn't seen before just to share it with some other...I would try to partake with this. I am narrow viewed on what I watch, but if it were something I was participating in, I'd watch stuff which I hadn't seen before just to share it with some other people.
If there were scheduled watch parties I would try occasionally to join in, but outside of that I'd watch and report back type thing too.
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Comment on Redditors of Tildes, which subreddits are you missing the most during the blackout? in ~tech
Lifeforms LinkI miss the human interest stuff, the stupid not gunna be true stories by people, or the warming random stuff I came across. I miss numerous cat subs. I loved seeing my feed being full of random...I miss the human interest stuff, the stupid not gunna be true stories by people, or the warming random stuff I came across. I miss numerous cat subs. I loved seeing my feed being full of random cat photos from the random subs out there, in water packages, one brain cells, blurry cats even.
I just miss time spent where I'd be reading stuff online and learning random titbits. Then I'd go off down a rabbit hole to learn more about it, or random videos that just please to watch.
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Comment on Do you go by a pseudonym or your real name (or both) for your online presence? in ~tech
Lifeforms LinkI've used this since early internet days, from 3D worlds, to current. It's always been this due to my love of Star Trek, and that Data song. I do not pass on my username to my family. I know...I've used this since early internet days, from 3D worlds, to current. It's always been this due to my love of Star Trek, and that Data song.
I do not pass on my username to my family. I know people in it could find it as in some bits there is cross over, but I have stuff about some of my family and those people would not work it out unless I sent something with it in it. And I do not wish them to "follow" me and comment. Maybe online I live a bit more open about stuff than my offline life now. Anonymity afforded me that.
It doesn't reflect who I am, or what I think about, was purely a funny name I needed when usernames started to first be visual on things like boards, or as a "character". It used to be online was separate from offline. I didn't have a searchable presence that would lead to my name - paranoia reasons way way back; you should keep offline and online very separate and safe etc. But those lines have blurred nowadays with more and more offline content and information being available online, so I could be traceable online to whom I am now, vs back then when my real name searches were not linked in any way with my online names.
*Been online in some capacity for 20+ years.
Crochet, or knitting, cus you can use smaller needles for knitting (shorter) or a small hook for crocheting. Like crocheting granny squares are super easy to learn and you can do those quickly, and they don't take much room, wool, hook, and square at the end. Then you can use them towards a blanket at some point.