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Comment on How to handle a breakup? in ~life
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Comment on Microplastics are infiltrating brain tissue, studies show in ~health
Nefara Link ParentBefore the boom of plastic packaging there was glass, foil, cardboard, waxed paper, and cloth. These things are all still used but to lesser degrees because of how light and cheap and variable oil...Before the boom of plastic packaging there was glass, foil, cardboard, waxed paper, and cloth. These things are all still used but to lesser degrees because of how light and cheap and variable oil based plastics can be. So do alternatives have to be inorganic? There are plastics made from corn, pineapple leather, algae and all sorts of biological matter. Unfortunately, these are all more expensive options to oil plastics which means that public demand and support for alternatives needs to overwhelm the profit motive and spur governments to do the right thing.
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Comment on What are your ten favourite movies of all time? in ~movies
Nefara LinkI have favorites that I will always watch if I have the opportunity, and favorites that resonate with me on an emotional level. I feel deeply connected to: The Fall by Tarsem Singh, it's...I have favorites that I will always watch if I have the opportunity, and favorites that resonate with me on an emotional level.
I feel deeply connected to:
The Fall by Tarsem Singh, it's stunningly beautiful in multiple ways.
The Barbie Movie for message and nostalgia
Moana, beautiful and optimistic
The Muppet Christmas Carol, for nostalgia and timelessnessI will always watch:
The Princess Bride
5th Element
Puss in Boots: The Last Wish
D&D: Honor Among Thieves
Pirates of The Caribbean: Curse of the Black Pearl
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Comment on What are your ten favourite movies of all time? in ~movies
Nefara Link ParentI love Song of the Sea. It's so beautiful and does such a good job illustrating a sibling relationship.I love Song of the Sea. It's so beautiful and does such a good job illustrating a sibling relationship.
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Comment on What shampoo/conditioner do you use? in ~life.style
Nefara (edited )Link ParentHave you ever considered using henna to color your hair? It's very limited in the shades it produces but it's truly permanent hair color. The hennotanic acid reacts with and binds directly to the...Have you ever considered using henna to color your hair? It's very limited in the shades it produces but it's truly permanent hair color. The hennotanic acid reacts with and binds directly to the keratin that makes up your hair, so it doesn't ever fade or bleed color. When my grays got too much for me I gave it a shot and I'm so glad I did. 100% natural henna will tint whatever your natural hair color is with a warm orangey red. In my case my hair becomes a medium dark saturated auburn. It's a beautiful color that I love and don't have to think about until my roots and grays start peeking. There are also formulations of henna with indigo that give you darker browns and blacks but I can't speak to those personally. It's much gentler on your hair than chemical hair dyes so it might be a good option for you. Let me know if you want more info, I'm happy to share.
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Comment on What shampoo/conditioner do you use? in ~life.style
Nefara Link ParentThat would be nice to try, I've been using what's available at the grocery store. Thanks for the suggestion.That would be nice to try, I've been using what's available at the grocery store. Thanks for the suggestion.
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Comment on What shampoo/conditioner do you use? in ~life.style
Nefara Link ParentI've tried the dusting thing, using it like a dry shampoo, and it does not work without rinsing unfortunately. It just kind of sits in the hair and is even harder to get the grains out. You asked...I've tried the dusting thing, using it like a dry shampoo, and it does not work without rinsing unfortunately. It just kind of sits in the hair and is even harder to get the grains out. You asked how my hair looks, well not to brag but it looks great. Lustrous and shiny, not greasy but it has a healthy "weight" to it and moves like the hair in conditioner commercials. The woman who cuts my hair complimented me on how soft and tangle-free it is. I credit the health of my hair to the rye flour "shampoo" and it's definitely worth it, to me at least, to deal with its quirks and inconveniences for the results.
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Comment on What shampoo/conditioner do you use? in ~life.style
Nefara LinkI used to have trouble with my hair being a cloud of frizz around my head like a nimbus. I have fine, thin, wavy hair that I keep short with a long fringe. I stopped using traditional shampoo...I used to have trouble with my hair being a cloud of frizz around my head like a nimbus. I have fine, thin, wavy hair that I keep short with a long fringe. I stopped using traditional shampoo about 8 years ago and have been using rye flour. You take it in a small bowl or container with you in the shower, wet it into a yogurt-like consistency, and then smear it onto your scalp and into your hair. You would probably be amazed how well it works to clean hair, it's weird to use and hard to rinse out, but my hair finally looks how I've always wanted it to. On top of that it's inexpensive for an all natural, sulfate free, ph balanced shampoo. It works by gently absorbing excess scalp oils but it doesn't strip any from your hair.
I don't know if someone with a lot of volume, length, or curls would like the experience, seeing as I find rye flour grains in my hair even when I rinse thoroughly. It gets on my towels and on my shirts after a shower. However, I only use it when my hair gets greasy, and since it doesn't interfere with your body chemistry that can take anywhere between 3 days to a week depending on the weather and my activity level. If anyone has trouble with frizz or their hair drying out it's definitely worth a try.
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Comment on How much space do you need to live comfortably? in ~talk
Nefara LinkI was very comfortable in an 1100sq ft one bedroom apartment with 11ft ceilings. However I didn't have a place to do projects, and now that I have a kid it would not be enough space for the little...I was very comfortable in an 1100sq ft one bedroom apartment with 11ft ceilings. However I didn't have a place to do projects, and now that I have a kid it would not be enough space for the little cannonball. I'm tall, my husband is tall, and we have a very energetic future tall person so I'll be honest I like having a lot of space. I'll say about 1800sq ft to be comfortable and 2400sq ft to be happy haha.
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Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk
Nefara LinkI find Sikhism to be beautiful. Its core beliefs of equality, honesty, serving community, fighting for justice and radical acceptance resonate with my own values. I also appreciate the aesthetic...I find Sikhism to be beautiful. Its core beliefs of equality, honesty, serving community, fighting for justice and radical acceptance resonate with my own values. I also appreciate the aesthetic (turbans are cool!) and the symbolic aspects of the articles of faith one is supposed to carry. The Sikhs I've met have all lived with conviction and been empathetic, kind and supportive people. There was a Gurdwara not far from where I lived for a while that did free community meals for anyone who was hungry nearly every night. I'm sure there must be bad Sikhs out there, no population of millions of people could be without its jerks, but I haven't met them yet.
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Comment on Steam Summer Sale 2024: Hidden gems in ~games
Nefara (edited )Link ParentI didn't call it a hidden gem, but according to MMO population counts I'd say it's certainly overlooked or underrated. Considering the amount and quality of the content, and the population...I didn't call it a hidden gem, but according to MMO population counts I'd say it's certainly overlooked or underrated. Considering the amount and quality of the content, and the population capacity of the game, it is certainly smaller than it seems to me it "should" be. A lot of people also have played it at some point closer to release and might not realize how far it's come since then. I've been playing regularly since beta (and played GW1 before that) so I know Arenanet has always sort of been that MMO dev off in a corner doing their own thing their own way, and IMO it works. Except for their marketing!
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
Nefara (edited )LinkFor summer refreshment I just made a wine cocktail with moscato and a sparkling elderflower and rose lemonade served on ice and diluted with water and wow it's the perfect thing after working in...For summer refreshment I just made a wine cocktail with moscato and a sparkling elderflower and rose lemonade served on ice and diluted with water and wow it's the perfect thing after working in the yard on a warm day. I just had three of them and I'm thinking of having another.
I've also gotten into pasta alla Alfredo the "right" way, with just three ingredients. I watched Tasting History's episode on it and holy crap it's so good and so easy. The yum to effort factor is unreal. The sauce is literally just parmigiano reggiano, butter and pasta water but it's so creamy and flavorful. We had it with chicken and broccoli and I'm tempted to make it again tomorrow because all of the leftovers are gone.
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Comment on Steam Summer Sale 2024: Hidden gems in ~games
Nefara (edited )Link ParentYou only unlock mounts if you have Path of Fire. HoT, PoF and EoD all introduce new class specializations which can change how a class plays and a bunch of new maps. The first 3 expansions are...You only unlock mounts if you have Path of Fire. HoT, PoF and EoD all introduce new class specializations which can change how a class plays and a bunch of new maps. The first 3 expansions are good value and on sale for $20 right now, but I'd still recommend just getting on again first and running around to see if you vibe with the combat and general gameplay first. Try a few different classes, even ones that don't sound that interesting, the one you like might surprise you. I thought for sure I'd like being a sneaky mobile thief but I ended up maining a guardian. There's a lot of new content out there now, raids, strikes, new Fractals, new maps and world bosses, instanced mass group fights and all sorts of things to craft and collect. Certainly no shortage of things to do but it's all based on the same general basic gameplay of the combat, movement and event systems.
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Comment on Steam Summer Sale 2024: Hidden gems in ~games
Nefara Link ParentIf you logged in today you would have access to all of the base game (all core Tyria maps) and any living story chapters you had unlocked before you went inactive. There's been a lot of content...If you logged in today you would have access to all of the base game (all core Tyria maps) and any living story chapters you had unlocked before you went inactive. There's been a lot of content and ways to interact with the world introduced since you last logged in, the most noticeable would be mounts. They came in the Path of Fire expansion and Gliding came in Heart of Thorns. They're a fun way to navigate the world and add a lot to the game but you don't need them per se. Personally for me my favorite way to chill is to do map exploration, doing world events and gathering from nodes. My favorite thing when going to a new map was finding secrets and jumping puzzles (there are some fantastic hidden areas in core Tyria and stumbling into them is incredibly rewarding). That's me though, maybe you would like running with commanders in WvW or doing Fractals (variable difficulty dungeon instances) or collecting cats (there's a "secret" scavenger hunt where you can entice certain cats around the world to join your home instance). Try a bunch of different classes, they all play differently and one that isn't right for you will be more stressful than one that "clicks". If you have fun after coming back and want to keep logging in, then the expansions are all definitely worth it.
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Comment on Steam Summer Sale 2024: Hidden gems in ~games
Nefara Link ParentIf you haven't already tried it, I like to put out the word about Guild Wars 2. It's an MMORPG that's generally been crappy at marketing itself but has some of the most user friendly gameplay and...If you haven't already tried it, I like to put out the word about Guild Wars 2. It's an MMORPG that's generally been crappy at marketing itself but has some of the most user friendly gameplay and progression in the genre. There's a ton of player hostile bullshit in other MMO's that they just don't do and they seem to care that, you know, you actually have fun while playing. No subs, there's an RMT gemstore but it's mostly cosmetic and convenience items, and there's even an in-game gold to gem conversion service. It's got 12 years of content now and still going strong, which might be overwhelming. I find it relaxing to muck about in it and live out my fantasies of being obscenely rich and flying through scenic vistas on a dragon or a griffon. I think they offer a free trial with a limited account so you can give it a try.
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Comment on Steam Summer Sale 2024: Hidden gems in ~games
Nefara Link ParentThink I'll give Rhythm Sprout a try! It's on sale for ~$3 which is hard to say no to.Think I'll give Rhythm Sprout a try! It's on sale for ~$3 which is hard to say no to.
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Comment on Discussion about asexuality, demisexuality, and allosexuality in ~lgbt
Nefara Link ParentYes, in fact quite a few people I dated weren't really familiar with asexuality as an alignment before they met me. I was selecting romantic prospects mostly from clues and vibes, and after I told...Yes, in fact quite a few people I dated weren't really familiar with asexuality as an alignment before they met me. I was selecting romantic prospects mostly from clues and vibes, and after I told them how I identified they realized they might fall on the ace spectrum as well. There is much less awareness in general for aces, the majority of dating sites don't even acknowledge it, and I think the more people that chip in and say "hey there's nothing wrong with me" the better.
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Comment on Discussion about asexuality, demisexuality, and allosexuality in ~lgbt
Nefara (edited )LinkI'll pitch in as someone who identifies as demisexual. Finding a label other than "ice queen" or "frigid" or "cold fish" helped me realize I had a queer alignment rather than something wrong with...I'll pitch in as someone who identifies as demisexual. Finding a label other than "ice queen" or "frigid" or "cold fish" helped me realize I had a queer alignment rather than something wrong with me.
Like a lot of other people in this thread I was mystified by my peers in MS and HS who had posters of celebrities and crushes they pined over while I was just... ?? Some people were more or less aesthetically pleasing and nice to look at but I had no "targeted" sexual desire.
I got into my first relationship when a gaming friend online "confessed" and made me feel wanted and desired. I was very interested in sex at first, but after we moved in together the relationship went sour and I lost all of my desire. I was celibate for something like 6 years. Sex or being sexual just didn't occur to me, but he was constantly pressuring me and guilt tripping me for "withholding" intimacy.
Eventually I got out of that relationship and started trying to date, which was a whole new challenge. How do you communicate to the average allosexual that you might be interested in dating them, but you're not currently attracted to them, but if we get along things might turn romantic, but if they do then sex might not be soon or frequent or consistent? Thank goodness for online dating. Trying to find partners that had the same life goals and values, with similar interests, with a compatible attitude towards sex in the age range and location I needed was like looking for a unicorn. I finally found my husband, who met all of my criteria (and I met his), who also identifies as somewhere on the ace spectrum. We can share life and physical intimacy, and sex is something we can have if we both feel like it, but sometimes we just don't and that's fine. Our relationship isn't perfect, no relationships are, but we both found something that works for us.
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Comment on Thoughts on VR? in ~tech
Nefara Link ParentYep this was basically how I stayed active during Covid. It's way more fun than body weight exercises and there are so many great custom maps out there it makes it easy to stay fresh and challenging.Yep this was basically how I stayed active during Covid. It's way more fun than body weight exercises and there are so many great custom maps out there it makes it easy to stay fresh and challenging.
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Comment on Sid Meyer's Alpha Centauri lovers, tell me what sets it apart in ~games
Nefara Link ParentYes, this absolutely. I think Stellaris is the only other 4x game I've played that has been able to really embrace the aspect of role playing you would usually get in other genres, but even then...Yes, this absolutely. I think Stellaris is the only other 4x game I've played that has been able to really embrace the aspect of role playing you would usually get in other genres, but even then it's not to the same extent. I found my decisions, strategies and mindset very influenced by the character I was playing, both from their mechanical bonuses and weaknesses and from the lore and story. I wasn't just going for science domination as Zakharov, I was attempting to transcend the human form and bring humanity to the next step in evolution! Why can't those uneducated primitives understand that?!
That sucks, but at least lot of people have had that experience and can chime in.
What's worked for me in the past:
Keeping busy, working on projects or playing engrossing video games or getting out with friends.
Watching Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (when you're ready)
Having some good cries and letting yourself grieve
Thinking about times in your life where a big change you were scared of/didn't want turned out for the better
And of course, as you know, the biggest one is just give yourself time. Hang in there.