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Comment on Best options for domain registrar and static site hosting in 2026? in ~comp
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Comment on Avatar: Seven Havens | Official trailer in ~tv
Paul85 Link ParentOh damn! Not so wholesome after all, is it? Yikes!Oh damn! Not so wholesome after all, is it? Yikes!
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
Paul85 Link ParentEverything you said rings true. I had a laugh at the Pokemon comment! I tried to treat my sister as much as an equal as possible and respect her freedom of choice, even when I didn't necessarily...Everything you said rings true. I had a laugh at the Pokemon comment! I tried to treat my sister as much as an equal as possible and respect her freedom of choice, even when I didn't necessarily like her choice of boyfriend. I kept a professional distance so to speak. I was there for her if she needed me, but otherwise didn't get involved. She's entitled to her own life experiences. My parents on the other hand did freak out over at least one of her relationships in the past and I know it strained her relationship with them ever since. Sorry about your sister who was assaulted. That's tough, and it likely fuelled some of the overprotective behaviour in your family.
Funny that you mention your mom's opinions about your beard. For me it was the hair. I always preferred a shorter haircut because it's faster to wash and groom. My parents both hated it each time I got a short haircut and praised the longer hair when I delayed haircuts. As an adult, and even as a youth, I found this so bizzare. It is just hair and everyone chooses how they want to cut it. Does it really matter so much? I think it wasn't until my 30s that they finally stopped commenting on it.
Parents fighting or, like you say, mental games (true in my case too - mix of arguments and mental games - luckily no physical violence) are indeed theirs to figure out. But I do feel that it's not easy to fully separate or disconnect when you live under the same roof. Even if they said "don't worry, this is normal" as a family member it does get to you. You are not just a bystander who can shrug and walk away. You see them for days after still affected by the argument. It's just not the most positive (or even neutral) environment. Worse, some of the behaviour I noticed in them and swore not to repeat "when I'm older" did subconsciously become part of me (and my sister). I fully realized this about 6 years ago when I was visiting my sister and her husband, and I saw the way she spoke to him in a couple of situations. It was the exact same tone of my dad talking down to my mom (and vice versa, depending on the day!). So it made me think, "if my sister does this and doesn't realize it, do I do it too with my wife?" Sadly the answer is yes. I learned a lot since that day and am much better now, better at spotting the pattern, but sometimes especially when I'm upset or in a bad mood, that behaviour sneaks in before I can stop it.
Congrats on all the work you did on yourself and therapy. These things take years to fully work through, in my opinion. But it's important that we acknowledge things and keep working on them. I liked your last paragraph as it summarizes it in a positive, hopeful message. Thank you!
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Comment on Firefox is releasing an enterprise offering soon in ~tech
Paul85 LinkHappy to see this. Firefox seems to be one of the few “good guys” left around.Happy to see this. Firefox seems to be one of the few “good guys” left around.
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Comment on In search of the hypothetical iPhone Duo buyer in ~tech
Paul85 LinkI’ve bitched about it enough in the other thread about the Duo, but wanted to add a thought. I find the very language around these devices, not just the Duo, a little sad. I see comments like...I’ve bitched about it enough in the other thread about the Duo, but wanted to add a thought. I find the very language around these devices, not just the Duo, a little sad. I see comments like “it’s better for consuming media”. Doesn’t that sound terrible? To me when I read that I think of something like a blender used to blend 5 Big Macs because my mouth is inadequate for consuming 5 Big Macs at once, but in juice form, now I can!
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Comment on In search of the hypothetical iPhone Duo buyer in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentVery cool! And you can also add a poisoned dart to slay your enemies between works of art. Very whimsical! I create, I destroy; the cycle of life! :-)Very cool! And you can also add a poisoned dart to slay your enemies between works of art. Very whimsical! I create, I destroy; the cycle of life! :-)
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Comment on In search of the hypothetical iPhone Duo buyer in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentI don’t think I actually liked my iPhone after my mini. I buy iPhone because now my whole family is on this platform and it makes things easier (family plan, tech support for my aging parents)....I don’t think I actually liked my iPhone after my mini. I buy iPhone because now my whole family is on this platform and it makes things easier (family plan, tech support for my aging parents). But do I actually like it? Nah. The other phones I remember actually liking were some old android phones back when each manufacturer made something somewhat unique. Sony had some cool ones. Some of the early Pixels were awesome. There was a Motorola with a curved back that was my staple for a long time. Now I’m a slave to Apple’s whims. How depressing.
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Comment on Avatar: Seven Havens | Official trailer in ~tv
Paul85 LinkSeven Heavens was a TV show in the 90s about a big family and their experiences. I was a young kid but I recall it was wholesome, feel good type of show. It played before Married With Children,...Seven Heavens was a TV show in the 90s about a big family and their experiences. I was a young kid but I recall it was wholesome, feel good type of show. It played before Married With Children, which was another wholesome TV show about a small family and the struggles of our hero, Al Bundy, in his saga to survive daily middle class life. I don’t know why my parents kept sending me to bed for that one tho. Was it not equally wholesome?
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentThat’s not a bad idea, actually! Yes, fewer things would be great. New iPhone every 5 years.That’s not a bad idea, actually! Yes, fewer things would be great. New iPhone every 5 years.
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentThis is a great approach and given how high these prices are getting, I think I'll be adopting this route too.This is a great approach and given how high these prices are getting, I think I'll be adopting this route too.
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentI do realize and frankly I don't care. The way I see it the big corporation will use any excuse - this one included - to make us pay ten-fold for their shitty gadgets.I do realize and frankly I don't care. The way I see it the big corporation will use any excuse - this one included - to make us pay ten-fold for their shitty gadgets.
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Comment on I made a chill minimal 3D golf game that fits in 13 kilobytes - Sunshine Golf Classic in ~creative
Paul85 LinkI never played golf nor am I a fan of it in general, but your game is fun! It took me back to the 90s when I seem to remember some very old golf game on Windows 3.1 maybe? I remember for sure my...I never played golf nor am I a fan of it in general, but your game is fun! It took me back to the 90s when I seem to remember some very old golf game on Windows 3.1 maybe? I remember for sure my screen was not color yet. It was on a 386 computer my mom got 2nd hand from work, and I was trying some random games on it. Thanks for the neat game and nostalgia trip!
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentI think they gave up on smaller phones. I, too, have been waiting and hoping. We’re just not enough of the market share to make it worth their time. It’s onwards to bigger, shinier and more...I think they gave up on smaller phones. I, too, have been waiting and hoping. We’re just not enough of the market share to make it worth their time. It’s onwards to bigger, shinier and more expensive across the board.
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 Link ParentAbsolutely absurd. A little sad seeing so many comments saying “oh this is fine, it’s just like other folding phones”. IF smartphones were more optional these days, and one could buy an OK...Absolutely absurd. A little sad seeing so many comments saying “oh this is fine, it’s just like other folding phones”.
IF smartphones were more optional these days, and one could buy an OK smartphone for say $200, I’d say, sure! Apple, Samsung, are luxury items for those who want the ultra top end and have all the cash to spend. But it’s not like that. You can barely find anything decent for under $700-$1000. Half the brands disappeared. Motorola used to have good options. Sony had so many cool affordable Android phones early on. The Pixel used to be more affordable. Etc.
A smartphone is practically mandatory these days. They created a product that is mandatory and now they keep making it more and more expensive. I’m very curious what the regular iPhone 18 will be “starting at” come spring. $2000?
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
Paul85 LinkI don’t hate the idea of this tho I’d want to feel it in my hands and play with it at a store before any final opinions. I’ll even go as far as saying it looks pretty cool. But the price point to...I don’t hate the idea of this tho I’d want to feel it in my hands and play with it at a store before any final opinions. I’ll even go as far as saying it looks pretty cool. But the price point to me is an automatic hard pass. Come on… $3000+ CAD for this? If this is what they price it at, it means people are willing to pay this. I don’t know what’s worse: the blatant corporate greed or the fact that people keep accepting this type of money grab and opening their wallets just to see Instagram and YouTube bigger.
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Comment on Apple announces iPhone Duo, its first foldable iPhone in ~tech
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
Paul85 Link ParentThanks for sharing your experience. Must not have been easy living with your parents into you 30s. Like you, I would have loved to move as early as university days. I dis not have the financial...Thanks for sharing your experience. Must not have been easy living with your parents into you 30s. Like you, I would have loved to move as early as university days. I dis not have the financial means so my parents straight up said “pick a school in town because we don’t have the money to pay for accommodations elsewhere”. In the last year of studies I got a teaching assistant position at school that paid ok for what it was. Enough to afford a cheap place with a room mate. But, like you, I had to go back to the parents place as I lost that role when I graduated and it took me a while to find a job that allowed me to pay rent on my own. So I was back for maybe a year and a half or so. One of the most unpleasant periods of my life. Unemployed and back with my parents. I thought they would be happy to hear I’m moving out when I landed a job that paid enough for rent.
I think a lot of men have to deal with the effects left behind by overbearing mothers. Sorry to sound rude but I find a lot of moms have this obsession with their boys more so than with their girls. And grandmothers too while we’re at it. Give these young men some room to breathe for crying out loud! I missed a LOT of traditional young man / boy experiences during to overprotective older women in my family. It’s wasn’t until a few years ago with some self help work that I’ve realized just how deep those effects run.
Let’s not give dads a free pass either tho! Fair is fair. If my dad were nicer to my mom and fought less, perhaps I wouldn’t have made it my singular goal to get the F out of the house as soon as I could.
Hey on the bright side we both seem to have figured things out for ourselves. Better late than never! My parents are into their 70s now and have generally accepted the distance and my choices in life. Soon the tables will be turned and I’ll probably have to be their caretaker in one form or another. If not directly hands on, perhaps financially. That’s going to be a hard period in life.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (September 2026) in ~health.mental
Paul85 LinkA short one from my end. Since last Monday, I resumed my morning exercise routine, and one week in I am yet again reminded how closely health-dot-mental it tied to health-dot-physical. Major...A short one from my end. Since last Monday, I resumed my morning exercise routine, and one week in I am yet again reminded how closely health-dot-mental it tied to health-dot-physical. Major improvement in mood. Nothing external changed in a week, but my own capacity to deal with things in a way that they don't feel overwhelming or blown out of proportions increased. Not sure what it is. All those juicy good chemicals from working out? Anyway it creates a positive domino effect. Morning exercise means I have to wake up earlier, means I have to set my alarm for 5:30, means I exercise and feel better even before heading to the office, I get there earlier, I leave earlier, hit that check-mark on my fitness app that's a little pat on the back, means better sleep at night, and a desire to make sure I eat well to feed my muscles good quality nutrients. Week 2 after about a 4-6 week lazy stint. Hope to keep it up!
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
Paul85 Link ParentThat's pretty wild! Good to know I am not alone, sorry to hear you went through some of the same experiences. Did you have any "a-ha!" moments? Any positive realizations or - the opposite - any...That's pretty wild! Good to know I am not alone, sorry to hear you went through some of the same experiences. Did you have any "a-ha!" moments? Any positive realizations or - the opposite - any regrets as you got older? Part of me wishes my parents and sister lived a little closer. As they are getting older, it will be difficult for me to help with anything other than money from this far away. Not sure I'd love having them in the same city, but maybe a city within driving distance vs. flying distance would be good.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Paul85 Link ParentI agree. It already feels like a very repetitive process for me for the first 2 floors.I agree. It already feels like a very repetitive process for me for the first 2 floors.
I don’t know if this qualifies for what you’re after but I’m using Hover. It was easy to setup and trouble free for a few years since I signed up. But my use case is very basic. I just redirect a .ca domain name to a blog.