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Comment on Kings of the losers in ~life
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
ShroudedScribe Link ParentYou communicate it the best you can, from as neutral of an emotional state as possible. If your partner is kind to you otherwise, they probably aren't doing this to be spiteful. So give them the...How do you articulate this?
You communicate it the best you can, from as neutral of an emotional state as possible. If your partner is kind to you otherwise, they probably aren't doing this to be spiteful. So give them the benefit of the doubt and try to build understanding, while still openly sharing how it makes you feel. It's likely not something that will be resolved overnight (most relationship arguments aren't), so give it time, and give your partner grace if they are trying to improve but still fall into old patterns occasionally.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
ShroudedScribe Link ParentThis is the first time in this thread I've seen you admit to having faults. I'm not trying to insult you, I'm just sharing an observation. I've written or thought things slightly similar to your...This is the first time in this thread I've seen you admit to having faults. I'm not trying to insult you, I'm just sharing an observation.
I've written or thought things slightly similar to your post. And it took me too long to realize that I was also a huge part of my relationship issues, it wasn't only who I was dating that held all the blame.
You've received a lot of good advice already, but I would add that you should ensure you are communicating effectively and responding appropriately. Some things I have learned over time:
- Just stating "the facts" is not enough, you need to share your emotions. If you can't do this, perform some introspection (perhaps with the help of therapy) to figure out why. It could be an emotion buried inside of you, or it could just be ineffective communication skills.
- Taking care of a partner is usually not just doing what you would want to receive if the roles were reversed. You need to understand each others' "love languages" and learn what the other actually wants and needs.
- Relationships involve compromise, but not everything can be negotiated. I had an ex who would completely ignore my texts and calls for a week at a time, and never explain why. I think this was her way of making the space she needed, but it wasn't something that worked well for me. My current partner used to shut down when she was upset, but over time she has learned how much that hurts me, and has adapted her behavior as a result. That doesn't mean she doesn't get upset, it doesn't mean she never asks for some space. It means we found a compromise that works for us.
All that said, even if you do have a lot to work on personally, it doesn't mean this relationship is going to work out. No one on tildes can tell you with certainty, it is for you to figure out.
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Comment on Serious relationship problem, seeking advice in ~life
ShroudedScribe LinkI think these talks should include the idea of the sister moving out. You can bring it up openly, perhaps by asking if your girlfriend would want to raise kids with her sister in the house? Be...There have been talks and expectations of a proposal next month on our anniversary and discussions of having kids on the horizon.
I think these talks should include the idea of the sister moving out. You can bring it up openly, perhaps by asking if your girlfriend would want to raise kids with her sister in the house? Be prepared to share your side, but rehearse how you are going to proceed in this conversation. Perhaps "soften" it by focusing on other truths - do you wish you had more solo time with your girlfriend? Does her sister's presence limit your intimacy (however that looks in your relationship)? Do you want to have the sister co-parent (crushes/romantic feelings aside)?
The reality is that you know how to handle this situation better than any of us do - this discussion is really just a sounding board to help you identify how you already want to move forward with this.
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Comment on Who’s buying SpaceX and Anthropic? in ~finance
ShroudedScribe LinkDo you have an exit strategy? (Perhaps that's hard to say without knowing the initial price.) I think that is where opinions will strongly differ.- Exemplary
Do you have an exit strategy? (Perhaps that's hard to say without knowing the initial price.) I think that is where opinions will strongly differ.
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Comment on May 2026 Backlog Burner: Week 5(ish) Discussion in ~games
ShroudedScribe LinkWelp, I'm resigning to having only completed one bingo, even though I hit a few more games over the past two weeks. ShroudedScribe's Final Bingo Card Free Standard bingo 11/25 The TalosPrinciple...Welp, I'm resigning to having only completed one bingo, even though I hit a few more games over the past two weeks.
ShroudedScribe's Final Bingo Card
Free Standard bingo 11/25 Electronic
Super
JoyJARSDelverThe Talos
PrincipleZero Escape
The Nonary
GamesAirport
CEOLost NovaKnights of Penand Paper+1 EditionBrokenAgeSavant
AscentOverlord WanderlustRebirth★ Into
the
BreachCopy
KittyFlotsam Yuppie
PsychoYou Suckat ParkingRoundabout GemCraft
Chasing
ShadowsNot Tonight Machinika:MuseumHueUnholy
HeightsPikunikuSome highlights of the past couple weeks include finishing up and enjoying Broken Age, getting not too far but loving the music in Electronic Super Joy, and laughing at the humor in the first couple hours of Pikuniku.
I enjoyed playing bingo with you all, and am happy I spent the time enjoying some games that have been sitting in my library untouched for far too long!
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
ShroudedScribe LinkI distracted myself from Backlog Bingo by purchasing Rune Dice, which has been a lot of fun. The combining of dice with each throw is a neat enough gimmick that it feels like there's a bit of...I distracted myself from Backlog Bingo by purchasing Rune Dice, which has been a lot of fun. The combining of dice with each throw is a neat enough gimmick that it feels like there's a bit of skill involved while still having some of that roguelike randomness. And it's very satisfying to see the dice jump around, especially if you can get multiple chains going at once.
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Comment on New "old school" gadgets? in ~tech
ShroudedScribe LinkMost of the devices aren't for me personally, but Techmoan on YouTube reviews a number of products like this. Most recently a couple of newly produced Boomboxes that can play physical formats. I...Most of the devices aren't for me personally, but Techmoan on YouTube reviews a number of products like this. Most recently a couple of newly produced Boomboxes that can play physical formats.
I find most of his videos interesting but just not things I would buy. :)
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Comment on TSA announces TSA Gold+ in ~transport
ShroudedScribe Link ParentIf this is true then I'm all for it. I wish the website listed SFO as a case study or other example instead of being overly vague about everything.If this is true then I'm all for it. I wish the website listed SFO as a case study or other example instead of being overly vague about everything.
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Comment on TSA announces TSA Gold+ in ~transport
ShroudedScribe LinkThis is a very vague program description. All I'm getting from the website is that private capital and vendors will be invited to build TSA screening solutions, which is somehow subsidized at no...This is a very vague program description. All I'm getting from the website is that private capital and vendors will be invited to build TSA screening solutions, which is somehow subsidized at no cost to the airports.
Call me a pessimist, but this feels like an extension of lobbying-tied favors similar to how military contracts are won. Even though the TSA certainly could benefit from some innovation (but I have other strong feelings about that too).
What does it mean to opt-in to TSA Gold+?
TSA Gold+ will allow airports to voluntarily opt-in to a tailored security screening service unique to each airport’s needs and space configuration. Airports that opt-in will work with TSA and prospective vendors to develop and deploy solutions that leverage private-sector investment, cutting-edge technology, and human capital. This approach ensures airports meet robust federal security standards while driving operational excellence and responding to consumer needs.
Will TSA Gold+ cost money?
TSA Gold+ airports receive staffing, technology, and maintenance at no additional cost to airports. By enabling direct investment - without waiting on lengthy budget cycles - TSA Gold+ unlocks new revenue streams, empowers local decision-making, and accelerates the deployment of cutting-edge solutions nationwide.
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Comment on Does anyone use self-hosted recipe server/software like Mealie? in ~food
ShroudedScribe LinkI run Mealie, but an older version of it for now. My only word of warning about it is that the author/maintainer has introduced multiple breaking changes in updates in the past. So don't just...I run Mealie, but an older version of it for now. My only word of warning about it is that the author/maintainer has introduced multiple breaking changes in updates in the past. So don't just auto-update or blindly update your image version, be sure to read the changelog.
Other than that I do like it a lot, it's a great recipe book that translates ingredients effectively into a shopping list.
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Comment on May 2026 Backlog Burner: Week 3 Discussion in ~games
ShroudedScribe (edited )LinkGot my first bingo! ...But it felt rather unsatisfying. Let's start with my card and I'll explain. ShroudedScribe's Backlog Bingo Card Free Standard bingo 9/25 ElectronicSuper Joy JARS The...Got my first bingo! ...But it felt rather unsatisfying. Let's start with my card and I'll explain.
ShroudedScribe's Backlog Bingo Card
Free Standard bingo 9/25 Electronic
Super
JoyJARS DelverThe Talos
PrincipleZero Escape
The Nonary
GamesAirport
CEOLost NovaKnights of Penand Paper+1 EditionBrokenAgeSavant
AscentOverlord WanderlustRebirth★ Into
the
BreachCopy
KittyFlotsam Yuppie
PsychoYou Suckat ParkingRoundabout GemCraft
Chasing
ShadowsNot Tonight Machinika:MuseumHueUnholy
HeightsPikuniku I continued my bingo card with You Suck at Parking, which was a fun puzzle reflex game at first, but quickly hit a difficulty curve that frustrated me. I guess I just suck at parking. Clocked about an hour in this one and don't see myself coming back to it.
I then went for my first bingo with Delver, and this game is just... not for me. The graphics scream first-person minecraft, but that's really not what this is. And maybe it's my fault for having that slight expectation. It's more like a less intense Doom meets RPG-style inventory management and leveling. I could see myself enjoying a game like that at some point, but this was not the right time, and I didn't love the execution. Accidentally throwing away a decent weapon and blowing myself up with an explosive pot were the first two moments of frustration. Getting lost in a maze was the last straw. Ended this one with probably 45min play time, and I probably won't go back.
That made my first bingo! But feeling kind of down with how those two games went, I wanted more, so I gave the next game a try.
I tried out Wanderlust Rebirth, and this is admittedly not quite my type of game either. It's like a real-time JRPG, and meh, it just didn't hit right. The scoring system is a bit of a deterrent for me, as I generally don't like to compete with myself in that way. I also know the game can be played multiplayer co-op, but I don't think I would enjoy it any more that way. The story seems like it might be decent, but the humor wasn't my cup of tea, and this gameplay style didn't resonate with me. I bailed on this one maybe 30 minutes in.
Lost Nova is now one of my favorite gaming experiences and everyone should buy it now - it's on sale for $1.49. This game is in the "cozy" genre, featuring no combat and very little challenge. I think it's best to go in without any spoilers, so I won't say much else beyond this - it really hit me in the feels. The message is very good and something I needed to hear (and a lot of users of this site probably do as well). I played this one all the way through (only took about 3 hours), but didn't finish the post-story extras, though I might go back if I want some comfort on a later day.
Last night I started playing Broken Age, and I'm really enjoying this point-and-click. It took a bit to grab me (I started with Shay's story, if anyone is curious), but the humor is quite good once you settle into it. I'm halfway through the game and plan on completing it over the next couple days.
That gives me a couple of options for my next bingo, though it'll take at least 2 more games. I might go the Airport CEO + Savant Ascent route, but I'm trying to lean towards the games I'm feeling the most at any moment and not just forcing it.
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Comment on Energy supplier abandons Lake Tahoe residents to serve data centers in ~tech
ShroudedScribe LinkThis isn't the full story. From https://fortune.com/2026/05/12/lake-tahoe-data-center-49000-residents-power-source/ I'm all for bashing the insane growth of data centers but this isn't the reason...This isn't the full story.
Katie Jo Collier, a spokesperson for the utility, said the transition was rooted in a longtime understanding with Liberty “well before data center load growth was a consideration,” calling it “a planned transition for many years, not a reaction to recent developments.” NV Energy sold its California electric assets to Liberty in 2009 and agreed to keep supplying power temporarily. That arrangement was extended in 2015, again in 2020, and once more in late 2025, and each time because Liberty had not yet secured an independent supply, a timeline corroborated by regulatory documents reviewed by Fortune.
From https://fortune.com/2026/05/12/lake-tahoe-data-center-49000-residents-power-source/
I'm all for bashing the insane growth of data centers but this isn't the reason things are going down this way.
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Comment on I think that we won’t see any new and radical new gaming input devices or form factors anymore in ~games
ShroudedScribe LinkIn my undereducated opinion, I think we may see some stagnation here due to increased prices and reduced supply for various components. It's probably a better business decision for larger...In my undereducated opinion, I think we may see some stagnation here due to increased prices and reduced supply for various components. It's probably a better business decision for larger companies to use this time to build "more of the same" if they feel confident it's a safe seller. Taking risks that may otherwise cut sales from that group is, well, risky, and even moreso when margins get thinner.
However, this won't last forever. There will be a day when RAM prices go back down (at least somewhat, and especially when purchased at scale), and similar happens to other components.
I have no clue how input devices will evolve past where they are, but that's really the point of this conversation- predicting if there still is an unknown. And I refuse to believe the market has exhausted every possible type of input that can establish moderate success.
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Comment on Di.gg AI preview in ~tech
ShroudedScribe LinkIt never clicked for me that this site would be entirely AI articles. I thought it would be more general, and just "curated" by an AI. I did see one article about Neuralink after scrolling for a...It never clicked for me that this site would be entirely AI articles. I thought it would be more general, and just "curated" by an AI.
I did see one article about Neuralink after scrolling for a while, but that was the only non-AI one I found.
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Comment on May 2026 Backlog Burner: Week 2 Discussion in ~games
ShroudedScribe Link ParentI am almost exclusively a single-player gamer, so I'll let you know how Wanderlust goes solo (if I get there). And I've heard good things about Zero Escape and know it is a bit outside of my usual...I am almost exclusively a single-player gamer, so I'll let you know how Wanderlust goes solo (if I get there).
And I've heard good things about Zero Escape and know it is a bit outside of my usual gaming genre zone, so I thought it'd be a good fit for the bingo card.
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Comment on May 2026 Backlog Burner: Week 2 Discussion in ~games
ShroudedScribe Link ParentThe purpose of this event is for me to reduce my backlog, not add to it!! Tametsi looks like something I'd be interested in. If you want a less-challenging minesweeper variant (but with some...The purpose of this event is for me to reduce my backlog, not add to it!! Tametsi looks like something I'd be interested in.
If you want a less-challenging minesweeper variant (but with some unique twists), Coinsweeper recently came out and I've been enjoying it between playing other games.
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Comment on May 2026 Backlog Burner: Week 2 Discussion in ~games
ShroudedScribe LinkShroudedScribe's Backlog Bingo card as of 5/8. Free Standard bingo 0/25 ElectronicSuper Joy JARS Delver The TalosPrinciple Zero EscapeThe NonaryGames Airport CEO Lost Nova Broken Age Savant Ascent...ShroudedScribe's Backlog Bingo card as of 5/8.
Free Standard bingo 0/25 Electronic
Super
JoyJARS Delver The Talos
PrincipleZero Escape
The Nonary
GamesAirport
CEOLost Nova Knights of Pen
and Paper+1 EditionBroken
AgeSavant
AscentOverlord Wanderlust
Rebirth★ Into
the
BreachCopy
KittyFlotsam Yuppie
PsychoYou Suck
at ParkingRoundabout GemCraft
Chasing
ShadowsNot Tonight Machinika:MuseumHueUnholy
HeightsPikuniku Over the past week, played the following:
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Knights of Pen and Paper: This one was just okay to me. I appreciated it more this time compared to the 10min or so I played many years ago, now that I have some Dungeons & Dragons experience behind me. Even so, it just feels very grindy, moreso like a JRPG without a very compelling story. Calling it quits on this one, but played for over an hour, so marking it off.
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Machinika: Museum: I really liked this short game, where you are exploring alien artifacts in a 3D spatial puzzler format. Nothing too deep here, but it was interesting enough (and short enough) that I completed it. Admittedly, I don't see myself buying the sequel unless it's in a bundle with other items I'm interested in. Marking it off.
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Hue: Technically still in-progress, but I can tell I'm over halfway through. Very fun puzzle platformer that isn't too difficult overall (which is my preferred difficulty level). It really shines in the visuals department, proving that an indie game without detailed sprites or graphics can still be beautiful and engaging. Marking it off (even though I'm going to complete it in the next day or two before going to something else).
Next Bingo Strategy: If I take on Delver and You Suck at Parking, I will have a bingo! So probably going to focus on those next. But at this pace, I should be able to get at least two bingos.
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Comment on What's your dream job? in ~life
ShroudedScribe LinkI would love to be a Systems Administrator (SysAdmin), but I feel like I'm too far into my career to make that pivot. I love tinkering with my homelab and have leveraged that to get experience in...I would love to be a Systems Administrator (SysAdmin), but I feel like I'm too far into my career to make that pivot. I love tinkering with my homelab and have leveraged that to get experience in docker/podman, networking, ansible, and some other marketable skills. I recently obtained a Bachelor's in IT, which included relevant coursework.
But I cannot start at the bottom with help desk (again, did that at my very first job). I'm now a consultant for some specific software, have been for years now, and feel very trapped. There are other positions I'd like to pivot to, and have somewhat more of a chance to do - Business Analyst type roles, as an example - but my dream job would be SysAdmin.
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Comment on Looking for general monitor advice in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentHDR may be the difference. I got it to where I like it on Windows (set the color to Reference Mode in the NVIDIA control panel) and have used HDR since day one or two. Or maybe I just got a...HDR may be the difference. I got it to where I like it on Windows (set the color to Reference Mode in the NVIDIA control panel) and have used HDR since day one or two.
Or maybe I just got a defective unit somehow. Either way, I'll be swapping it under warranty at some point.
What I notice most from this article is that it appears incels believe women, and perhaps themselves, are static objects that never change. They seem to acknowledge physical changes, but not mental and emotional growth.
This could be short term: if you ask someone out when they're having a bad day, their response will undoubtedly be swayed by that. It could also be long-term: many of us identify feeling like completely different people between decades (teenage years, 20s, 30s, etc.), and preferences and priorities can shift dramatically.
Part of me wonders if "giving up" is a facade. There have been times in my life I wished I could give up on finding a partner, because I was so incredibly depressed when single. But personally, I don't see how that could ever transform into completely and genuinely believing I would be eternally single.
As a side note, I met my long term partner on a dating app, and I took horrible profile pictures and am not anywhere near the top 20% of attractiveness. So it's possible.