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Comment on Tips for becoming a tea person in ~food
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Comment on 'Intentional' explosion at Harvard medical campus under investigation in ~news
ShroudedScribe Link ParentAre the locks on those explosion grade? And wouldn't that risk damaging the contents? With the prevalence of lock picking knowledge online that seems a bit unlikely to me.Are the locks on those explosion grade? And wouldn't that risk damaging the contents? With the prevalence of lock picking knowledge online that seems a bit unlikely to me.
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Comment on What are your favorite low cost main dishes/meals? in ~food
ShroudedScribe Link ParentSurprised to see that people hate on the mild one. Admittedly it's all I've tried, but me and my partner love it. I like spicy and she does not, so I haven't wanted to risk it.Surprised to see that people hate on the mild one. Admittedly it's all I've tried, but me and my partner love it. I like spicy and she does not, so I haven't wanted to risk it.
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
ShroudedScribe Link ParentSounds like you haven't missed anything. If your relationship requires significant change for you to be happy, and your partner refuses to discuss it seriously, then it's likely not going to work out.Sounds like you haven't missed anything. If your relationship requires significant change for you to be happy, and your partner refuses to discuss it seriously, then it's likely not going to work out.
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Comment on Is there a postman alternative without the bloat? in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentI've used this one at a basic level and am happy with it. It's a Textual app, meaning it both has mouse support and can be run in a web browser. So worth a shot even if you don't live in a terminal.I've used this one at a basic level and am happy with it. It's a Textual app, meaning it both has mouse support and can be run in a web browser. So worth a shot even if you don't live in a terminal.
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Comment on What diagramming tools do folks use? in ~comp
ShroudedScribe Link ParentDon't worry, you're only the 5 millionth person to use excel beyond what it is intended to do. (I am guilty of this in other ways due to past enterprise shenanigans.)Don't worry, you're only the 5 millionth person to use excel beyond what it is intended to do.
(I am guilty of this in other ways due to past enterprise shenanigans.)
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
ShroudedScribe LinkTo focus on a couple of points I've yet to see others do: Two big issues here - the hoarding, of course, but also having to do anything secretly while in a relationship, with the exception of...To focus on a couple of points I've yet to see others do:
It isn't helped by the fact that my partner is a hoarder. I have to gut things from the house in secret. I haven't seen the corners of my walls in ages. I spent a week while they were away cleaning the home top to bottom last year. Within a day it looked like a bomb went off.
Two big issues here - the hoarding, of course, but also having to do anything secretly while in a relationship, with the exception of things like gifts, is a huge red flag to me.
For the hoarding, it wouldn't hurt to quickly skim the DSM-V diagnostic criteria, but it sounds like a match from your description (assuming the underlying cause is not another health condition). It's a very difficult disorder to apply an effective treatment plan to, and you would want to find a therapist who specializes in it. This is assuming you can get your partner to be "on board" with this at some point.
I highlight this specifically as I've seen my parents split over addiction. It's not as cut and dry as people make it sound - my mom's own words were "he's a great guy when he isn't drunk - but he's almost always drunk." This line of thinking even led to them "retrying" the relationship years after a divorce, but it didn't work out. If someone either denies having an addiction or refuses to seek help, they are not magically going to get better. But it is worth extending this offer a few times, in a few different ways, with as much compassion as possible. It sounds like you have supportive family - bring them in if you think it could help. If they are not ready to work on themselves after this, you can't put hope into them changing their mind one day, because it is not up to you - it's up to them.
Perhaps I'm connecting dots that don't exist, but I could see how this ties into the financial issues caused by their overspending. Maybe even some excessive spending on the kids in an attempt to create more of these "magical moments" you continue to observe and feel excluded from.
Most infuriating to me is "I don't know what you want me to say." I want you to say what's in your heart, what you feel! Don't tell me something you think I want to hear, be honest.
This is something I have struggled with a lot. I was raised in a way that led to me feel like everything needed to be solution oriented, and that "touchy feely stuff" will get you nowhere. So I went through a lot of occurrences where I would tell my partner "I don't know what I'm supposed to say/do." My partner helped me with this by explaining her side in a calm moment. That she just wants to understand the "why" and that I should stop skipping straight to fix it mode. Even though I now know this, it's a difficult pattern to break. So while it may seem obvious to you, it may not be as straightforward for someone else.
All this said, while it sounds like this post is stating you've made up your mind, I don't think you would have shared it if there wasn't some hesitation. (And of course there is - an 8 year relationship is a very long one!) But I guess I'll end with a couple more points:
- Kids can tell when parents aren't doing well together, especially as they get older. From personal experience, it can really put a strain on their emotional development, as they aren't seeing a healthy model to follow. And they're also trying to work their own lives out as they get through teenage years, but will have less time to focus on figuring themselves out if they're trying to figure out how to handle their parents' relationship too.
- The "deciding moment" may never come. Life is not a coin flip - especially when it comes to emotions and relationships. You will always have thoughts about "what if", regardless of your decision. This does not make you a bad person or suggest you made the "wrong choice."
Finally, since I know my responses can sometimes come across as cold - I am genuinely sorry you are going through this. It is a shitty situation and your emotions and thoughts are valid. I hope you are able to get to a point where you enjoy a relationship again- regardless of how you get there.
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Comment on What diagramming tools do folks use? in ~comp
ShroudedScribe Link ParentSeeing the mentions for Exalidraw compared to draw.io made me scratch my head for a minute because it's so much more limited. But then I saw that you can use Ctrl+↓ (or any arrow key) when focused...Seeing the mentions for Exalidraw compared to draw.io made me scratch my head for a minute because it's so much more limited.
But then I saw that you can use Ctrl+↓ (or any arrow key) when focused on a shape to generate flowcharts. That's huge, since I use draw.io for that a lot. I might still export to draw.io (one way or another) to add finishing touches if I'm making something for formal presentation, but what a time saver for general use.
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Comment on At least twenty-five US states plan to cut off food aid benefits in November in ~society
ShroudedScribe LinkDoes anyone have suggestions on where someone with a bit of extra time and money could help out those who are hurt the most by this? Not on a political level, but at a personal level that is...Does anyone have suggestions on where someone with a bit of extra time and money could help out those who are hurt the most by this?
Not on a political level, but at a personal level that is likely more local. Are there some food pantries more reputable than others that would benefit from a donation of goods?
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Comment on Not sure if coincidence or I should give up (on USB flash drives) in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentYeah, that's perhaps the biggest gamble of all. There's even been some instances where the same SKU has some like this and some not. But people always find some identifier to determine if this is...It was a soldered PCB with Micro USB connection instead of having a SATA to USB converter
Yeah, that's perhaps the biggest gamble of all. There's even been some instances where the same SKU has some like this and some not. But people always find some identifier to determine if this is or isn't the case - as you said, just depends on how much research is worth the potential savings.
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Comment on Not sure if coincidence or I should give up (on USB flash drives) in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentAh yes, the art of "shucking" - this was quite a phenomenon at one point, and perhaps still is. I bought a stack of external drives (6x 8TB iirc) from Best Buy to load up a NAS. Some manufacturers...A few years ago when I built my latest desktop PC I managed to get a WD 12TB platter drive for it for significantly less money than it would normally cost by buying a WD Elements external that had the drive inside it, then taking the enclosure apart. ;)
Ah yes, the art of "shucking" - this was quite a phenomenon at one point, and perhaps still is. I bought a stack of external drives (6x 8TB iirc) from Best Buy to load up a NAS. Some manufacturers would even honor the HDD warranty after this.
But there were all kinds of shenanigans, unfortunately. On the manufacturer side, sometimes it was roulette as to what the internal drive would actually be. On the consumer side, some assholes would put their old drives, or literally bricks, into the newly purchased external enclosure and return it as if it was broken (or sometimes "unused" if they did the DIY shrink wrap trick).
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Comment on Not sure if coincidence or I should give up (on USB flash drives) in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentWhat manufacturers would you trust for low-end M.2 drives? Looking at PC Part Picker, the first semi-reputable option I see is a WD Green 240GB for $28. But does WD even make their own SSDs or...What manufacturers would you trust for low-end M.2 drives? Looking at PC Part Picker, the first semi-reputable option I see is a WD Green 240GB for $28. But does WD even make their own SSDs or just relabel someone else's?
Intel and Samsung models pop up around the $35 mark, but I think most of their product line is higher end and will be way on the other side of the spectrum.
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Comment on Scripts I wrote that I use all the time in ~comp
ShroudedScribe LinkA lot of cool ideas here, I especially like nato bar - I feel there's been a handful of occasions lately where I'm trying to read a string of letters and numbers verbally and it's been difficult....A lot of cool ideas here, I especially like
nato bar- I feel there's been a handful of occasions lately where I'm trying to read a string of letters and numbers verbally and it's been difficult. It may just be a better web app for my use case though - since it's often a phone call issue, having it on my phone would be the most beneficial. -
Comment on 'This is definitely my last TwitchCon': High-profile streamer Emiru was assaulted at the event, even as streamers have been sounding the alarm about stalkers and harassment in ~games
ShroudedScribe LinkSince this thread is now a running list of TwitchCon issues from this year... Posted by ironmouse on twitter/x:Since this thread is now a running list of TwitchCon issues from this year...
Posted by ironmouse on twitter/x:
I deeply apologize to all the vtubers and the fans who had meet and greets at the vtuber booth this year. It breaks my heart to know staff threw out all the gifts. I should have known better than to trust them and taken care of everything ahead of time. I am so sorry everyone.
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Comment on Looking for feedback on a homelab design in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentWell, the RAID I mentioned above that resulted in hardware damage was actually a Linux software RAID. It's very possible the same outcome would not have occurred with ZFS, but just providing extra...Well, the RAID I mentioned above that resulted in hardware damage was actually a Linux software RAID. It's very possible the same outcome would not have occurred with ZFS, but just providing extra context there.
(I've done hardware RAID prior and I would agree that it at least should be on the way out. So many issues.)
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Comment on US President Donald Trump has begun demolishing the east wing of the White House, without approval in ~society
ShroudedScribe Link ParentIf this is something that isn't law but just common decency, then that explains why it's being ignored. That's something we've discovered more and more of throughout both Trump administrations.all recent administrations have had any changes to the WH and its extensions approved by the Committee
If this is something that isn't law but just common decency, then that explains why it's being ignored. That's something we've discovered more and more of throughout both Trump administrations.
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Comment on Looking for feedback on a homelab design in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentI am. I admittedly am not as well versed in ZFS. I opted against it in my setup for a couple reasons, mostly not wanting/having the RAM required to operate optimally on my NAS. I think it depends...Are you thinking of non-ZFS filesystems when you're talking about RAID?
I am. I admittedly am not as well versed in ZFS. I opted against it in my setup for a couple reasons, mostly not wanting/having the RAM required to operate optimally on my NAS.
I think it depends on your particular data set. My collection of "not personal media" is something I have no problem re-downloading if catastrophe strikes. I use the rather primitive mergefs approach to split this collection across a couple drives. So if one dies, I don't lose the entire collection at once. But as said, data integrity is not a concern there.
It's nice because if one drive dies, I can replace it with whatever size, etc I want. Or even choose to not replace it and not have everything be down.
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Comment on Using NFS mount with docker containers in ~comp
ShroudedScribe LinkThe way I do it at this point is to have the majority of my containers' data (excluding things like media and other files with large sizes) stored on the same machine that runs the docker...The way I do it at this point is to have the majority of my containers' data (excluding things like media and other files with large sizes) stored on the same machine that runs the docker containers. I use a filesystem directory mount instead of a docker volume. I then just back these up regularly to my NAS.
For large data, I create an NFS mount on the docker host, mapped to my NAS. I then still use local file system directory mounts for the containers, but they are at risk of having issues if the network connection to the NAS dropped.
There's a handful of ways to address this, most involve response vs mitigation. Containers have health check capabilities, and you could code in a check that makes sure a file is accessible, and shut down the container (exit the main process) otherwise. For container creation (existing containers back or up recreation from a pre-defined source like a docker-compose file), if you use ansible or something with access to the host as well, you can test the file share before starting the container. Some tools may even let you try to remount the share on the host, wait a delay until network comes back, etc.
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Comment on Looking for feedback on a homelab design in ~tech
ShroudedScribe LinkOpinionated response: Separate (hardware) NAS is always a good idea, in my opinion. Being able to access files if your primary server craps out is very nice. Especially if you're doing a lot of...Opinionated response:
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Separate (hardware) NAS is always a good idea, in my opinion. Being able to access files if your primary server craps out is very nice. Especially if you're doing a lot of things you're unfamiliar with that could compromise the integrity of your systems.
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Consider if you truly need RAID. This is an unpopular opinion, but I have had nothing but issues with RAID setups. The most devastating was a power event that killed two separate software RAID1 volumes, and their respective drives. So I lost 4 actual hard drives as a result. Just consider that there's other ways of backing up files that are truly considered backups (even rsync to another drive in a JBOD setup), other ways for versioning, etc.
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Consider the M.2 setup and necessity. I used a solid M.2 drive (moderately pricey Samsung model) but a perhaps questionable PCI adapter. It overheated and I was sad.
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While VMs are cool (and I'm currently setting one up myself to use as a devbox vs ssh'ing into separate systems on my network), containers can do so much. You mentioned docker experience so I won't ramble too much, but I use podman for just about everything and there are nearly zero cases I need a VM anymore.
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Start from the bottom doing infrastructure as code with ansible or another tool of your choice. It's a lot of overhead to get started, but I wouldn't want to kick off my containers any other way (works like docker-compose on steroids), and setting up the previously mentioned devbox VM this way gives me confidence I will be able to recreate it from nothing in a few minutes should my house go up in flames.
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With the concept of infrastructure as code, you may not need the overhead of something like proxmox. I just directly interface with KVM with that ansible script.
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Comment on Microsoft warns that Windows 10 reaches end of support today in ~tech
ShroudedScribe Link ParentWell, MS enables bitlocker by default on Windows 11. Bitlocker requires TPM unless you overwrite a group policy. So this alone could go haywire in a windows update.The Tpm requirement is mostly for 3rd parties.
Well, MS enables bitlocker by default on Windows 11. Bitlocker requires TPM unless you overwrite a group policy. So this alone could go haywire in a windows update.
As a coffee person (but nowhere near as enthusiastic), I find most teas very light in flavor.
For something very, very different that impressed me, try spearmint tea. We cold brew it sometimes and it's wonderful on ice for a refreshing drink.