Tukajo's recent activity
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Comment on Meet in Minneapolis? in ~talk
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Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life
Tukajo Link ParentI'm right there with you buddy. I sort of reflexively clicked on this and did not expect to enjoy the read so much, but I was cackling with my wife at the absurdity of this. I would have never...I'm right there with you buddy. I sort of reflexively clicked on this and did not expect to enjoy the read so much, but I was cackling with my wife at the absurdity of this.
I would have never known this existed in such form. I feel so completely lost and in the dark.
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Comment on Looking for feedback on a homelab design in ~tech
Tukajo Link ParentI missed this, what did TrueNAS due with regards to Kubernetes?I missed this, what did TrueNAS due with regards to Kubernetes?
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Comment on Turtle WoW's open letter to Blizzard in ~games
Tukajo Link ParentI'll probably just stop playing wow. Retail doesn't interest me, for a thousand reasons (from Blizzard's ineptitude, to their cruelness to their employees, etc). While I don't dislike the other...I'll probably just stop playing wow.
Retail doesn't interest me, for a thousand reasons (from Blizzard's ineptitude, to their cruelness to their employees, etc).
While I don't dislike the other private servers, I never was that into Warmane (don't really like wotlk that much) Ascension WoW (not that into classless style of gameplay).
I will probably just pursue other games or hobbies honestly.
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Comment on Looking for feedback on a homelab design in ~tech
Tukajo LinkI don't have much to offer in terms of the specific questions you asked as I have not messed with TrueNAS/ZFS, but I have 5 machines running a proxmox cluster at the moment. If you wanted to...I don't have much to offer in terms of the specific questions you asked as I have not messed with TrueNAS/ZFS, but I have 5 machines running a proxmox cluster at the moment.
If you wanted to bounce ideas off each other, or use one another as an off-site backup, let me know! I would not mind dedicating some space for you to replicate to within reason!
I've done a lot of work on it and I have a 2 gigabyte fiber connection that is symmetric.
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Comment on I could use recommendations for an ultrawide monitor in ~tech
Tukajo LinkI picked up a IPS S2721QS to be a side-monitor for coding/forums while I game. It does a good job, but the price has nearly doubled since I bought it a year ago. It's a fairly decent monitor.I picked up a IPS S2721QS to be a side-monitor for coding/forums while I game.
It does a good job, but the price has nearly doubled since I bought it a year ago.
It's a fairly decent monitor.
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Comment on Ferry Halim - Orisinal: 62 flash games in ~games
Tukajo Link ParentThere's an emulator for flash, https://ruffle.rs/ which has also done a good job of bringing these games back.There's an emulator for flash, https://ruffle.rs/ which has also done a good job of bringing these games back.
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Comment on Turtle WoW's open letter to Blizzard in ~games
Tukajo LinkI've played for about 3 years now on Turtle WoW. My take is, it will get shut down inevitably, and when that happens it happens. I think I've sort of stopped playing wow with an expectation of...I've played for about 3 years now on Turtle WoW.
My take is, it will get shut down inevitably, and when that happens it happens.
I think I've sort of stopped playing wow with an expectation of permanence. I'm not really interested in playing official versions of wow after what blizzard has basically done to the game.
Furthermore, they (blizzard) refuse to provide any form of quality and consistency that these private servers are somehow capable of doing.
It is what it is, really.
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Comment on This site is fast in ~tildes
Tukajo Link ParentHonestly I just clicked the first item I saw. If I buy from them in actuality, it's usually a part that I 3d printed first (which, they give free 3d print files out so you can test!). I'm usually...Honestly I just clicked the first item I saw.
If I buy from them in actuality, it's usually a part that I 3d printed first (which, they give free 3d print files out so you can test!).
I'm usually buying things like furniture screws and whatnot lol. Or special gearings for projects.
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Comment on This site is fast in ~tildes
Tukajo LinkMcMaster-Carr's website is the gold standard for this sort of stuff as well. If you wanna see another snappy website check them out. https://www.mcmaster.com/products/magnetic-separators/McMaster-Carr's website is the gold standard for this sort of stuff as well. If you wanna see another snappy website check them out.
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Comment on At the end of our ropes in ~health.mental
Tukajo Link ParentSure, there are two things my therapist suggested that really stuck with me. One of them did not work great for me as I am pretty bad at controlling "meta-thinking", the other was a little more...Sure, there are two things my therapist suggested that really stuck with me. One of them did not work great for me as I am pretty bad at controlling "meta-thinking", the other was a little more active of an approach.
For the first exercise (which did not work great for me) it entailed sitting somewhere that was not too distracting and closing your eyes. You would then place yourself in a space to "separate" yourself from your thoughts. The ask was to essentially imagine any thought you had as floating down a river and to simply "acknowledge" the thought and move on. This was difficult to me as I often found myself trapped in "thinking about thinking" (e.g., meta- thinking). So I did not have much luck with this exercise, but I encourage people to try it as it can be relaxing. Suggestions also included adding a chime, or something, that periodically happens, to bring you back into the meditation should you stray.
The second exercise, which I am much better at, entailed selectively going through each and every muscle group. Tensing your muscles, and releasing the tension; one-by-one. This worked for me quite a lot because the emphasis was on the action and the feeling after tensing and releasing each muscle. It kept my mind from the "meta-thinking" trap, and grounded me much more. This enables me to be much more "present" with things I otherwise would not pay any attention to.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Tukajo LinkBeen doing a lot of Turtle WoW, especially their "freshly"-released Ambershire server. It's been fun, but it's hard for me to really put a lot of time into it. I have done the grind 5,000 times. I...Been doing a lot of Turtle WoW, especially their "freshly"-released Ambershire server. It's been fun, but it's hard for me to really put a lot of time into it.
I have done the grind 5,000 times. I have not found a new game that has really peaked my interest so I have been reading and programming more, which is probably a healthier thing!
But I would love something really interesting to sink my teeth into from the video game industry.
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Comment on At the end of our ropes in ~health.mental
Tukajo (edited )Link ParentOne proven approach (I don't have the papers handy, it's been so long) was making oneself more aware of time. For me, when I get lost in something time basically skips forward. By forcing myself...One proven approach (I don't have the papers handy, it's been so long) was making oneself more aware of time.
For me, when I get lost in something time basically skips forward. By forcing myself to be more aware of time (more clocks, alarms, gentle automated lights changing), I found myself much more capable of moving on to the next task.
Removing distracting things that interest me also helps, such as keeping my phone in another room if I want to read a book. Or locking it away at night if I want to get something done that night.
Another thing that has helped, which I have not perfected yet, is mindfulness meditation. I'm talking cognitive behavioral therapy type stuff, not any sort of woo-woo stuff. I could specify some more of the specific exercises here if it would be useful.
Both my therapist, and psychiatrist, had provided some sources surrounding exercises like forcing myself to sit with my thoughts for ~15 minutes a day. I find that this allows me to prioritize well but also it allows me to sort of break from whatever I am fixating on.
It's really hard, and I don't think anyone should be avoidant of getting medicine for a legitimate need as well.
This is all to say that nothing is ever perfect for everyone when it comes to these sorts of things. I've had some luck with those, but I do take medication which is definitely the nuclear option and works very well. I do not take medication every day as I do not need it every day.
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Comment on Do other people who grew up with an anonymous internet feel a bit hopeless at the moment? in ~society
Tukajo (edited )LinkYou're not the only one. I'm in relatively the same boat as you. I'm a technical person with a decade and a half or so experience of software engineering. I don't do anything I would deem as...You're not the only one. I'm in relatively the same boat as you. I'm a technical person with a decade and a half or so experience of software engineering.
I don't do anything I would deem as interesting either, but the invasiveness of privacy practices here is jaw dropping. I live in the United States, and I feel like I'm crazy for feeling as if I need to take my photos off of Facebook and Google Photos.
I self host my images behind Immich these days. And I've had a lot of discussions with friends about how privacy is not a matter of "you have nothing to hide" but of "what if something you do today, is something deemed unacceptable tomorrow?".
I find framing it this way really hits home for people more and helps me relate. I do my best to have good privacy practices in place. Encryptions, etc, but like another poster stated in this thread. When push comes to shove, there's nothing we can really do to stop something like a nation state backed with unlimited resources from profiling everybody.
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Comment on ‘Tron: Ares’ stumbles with $33.5 million debut in ~movies
Tukajo LinkI like most of the tron movies, and maybe I live in a box... But I didn't even know this was in the works. I have seen no advertisements or announcements. Maybe I'm inattentive, but why is this...I like most of the tron movies, and maybe I live in a box... But I didn't even know this was in the works.
I have seen no advertisements or announcements. Maybe I'm inattentive, but why is this post the first I'm hearing about this film?
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Comment on At the end of our ropes in ~health.mental
Tukajo (edited )Link ParentRight. I am diagnosed, was diagnosed later in life, (well into my 20s). My doctor noted specifically my ability to function in areas extremely well if I innately find them interesting. But ask me...Right. I am diagnosed, was diagnosed later in life, (well into my 20s).
My doctor noted specifically my ability to function in areas extremely well if I innately find them interesting.
But ask me to do something I don't want to do, even if I "know how" and it's like pulling teeth.
Getting my diagnosis, and receiving treatment has helped tremendously. There are also non-medication based approaches that have worked well for me.
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I would like to add, when I first went in for a diagnosis early on in college, I was rejected. I understood that the rejection sort of came with the insinuation that college-aged students are seeking for the sake of re-selling medications, which made it frustrating but understandable at the time. I sort of "knew" something was not normal with me. College was a tremendous struggle but I was able to get myself through it. When I was out of college for several years, married, and had a child. My wife had encouraged me to revisit the topic with a new doctor. They had stated essentially immediately that it was obvious I had been dealing with ADHD my entire life. The diagnosis has helped tremendously with just day to day life.
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Comment on What are some good influences for kids today, both online and offline? in ~life
Tukajo Link ParentI am a parent and I provide media for my kid and the space for him to bow out if something is "too scary". I usually probe if I have a sneaking suspicion, but I don't really allow my child to...I am a parent and I provide media for my kid and the space for him to bow out if something is "too scary". I usually probe if I have a sneaking suspicion, but I don't really allow my child to watch things like game of thrones or saw.
To add some light, I'm not a stickler either. I grew up on unfettered access to the "wild west" internet that was the 90s and early 2000s. I don't want my kid to go through that, but I have let him sit down with me to play World of Warcraft. He's made a character and it's a "controlled" environment. It was very cute, last time we played (which is very infrequently), he wanted to not "fight" anything because the quest said to slay pigs. But he stated "pigs are friends!".
All of this is to say, nothing about early wow is overly graphic or scary. He seems to enjoy it occasionally and it lets him practice interacting with a mouse and keyboard.
I think it's all about being attuned to what you think your kid can handle and asking frequently what they think and going with that flow. I didn't force my kid to slay the boars! Instead, we explored the dwarven cities around us, and had a blast.
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Comment on Help choosing a new linux computer? in ~tech
Tukajo Link ParentFair point, I should clarify pretty much all of the ones I use regularly have been the same.Fair point, I should clarify pretty much all of the ones I use regularly have been the same.
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Comment on Help choosing a new linux computer? in ~tech
Tukajo LinkIf I can offer my two cents. I switched from windows 11 to Linux mint about ~4 months ago permanently. I haven't needed to use windows for any of my applications. They've all worked, out of the...If I can offer my two cents. I switched from windows 11 to Linux mint about ~4 months ago permanently.
I haven't needed to use windows for any of my applications. They've all worked, out of the box. Even windows executables running through WINE.
If you need some specifics, I can provide them, but I'm using an Intel/Nvidia combo, and had zero issues.
Key bindings are all the same which is nice. This means things like CTRL-ALT-DEL still opens the "task manager" (they call it system monitor).
I game, do software programming, video transcoding, and other interesting tasks that span a broad set of "use cases", all with zero issues.
I am a little more "technically inclined" than most people, as my day job is a software engineer, but I've found the OS surprisingly intuitive and pleasant. I'm amazed that they aren't eating Microsoft's lunch more.
I'm happy to enter private chats with you and offer more advice or answer more questions if you'd like!
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Comment on Microsoft is plugging more holes that let you use Windows 11 without an online account in ~tech
Tukajo LinkI know it's not a "smart man's Linux", or at least it's portraited as such, but I switched to Linux Mint about 4 months ago now and it's been amazing. I had been in between using windows as a...I know it's not a "smart man's Linux", or at least it's portraited as such, but I switched to Linux Mint about 4 months ago now and it's been amazing.
I had been in between using windows as a daily driver and Linux shells for several years now, but the crap Microsoft has been pulling, which is too much to list here, has had me out the door.
I've had a surprisingly amazing experience on Linux Mint, things just work. Even every single windows app I used before, right out the box.
I am in Minneapolis. My wife is not yet a regular user but everytime I show her things off here she is interested.
I will figure some details out as we have a small child and might have plans. Regardless if not this exact time, a meetup would cool to do!