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Comment on Halloween night! in ~talk
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Comment on Growing number of families in Denmark are taking children with special needs out of regular schools, saying the system fails to accommodate neurodivergent students in ~life
winther Link ParentThis has definitely been a driver for a huge increase in Danish children moving to private schools, as the Danish school strategy for the last decade has been to have as many special needs...This has definitely been a driver for a huge increase in Danish children moving to private schools, as the Danish school strategy for the last decade has been to have as many special needs children in the public school as possible. This has resulted in many teachers needing to spend about 80% of their effort on 1-2 children in each class, thus negatively affecting the education for everyone else.
Of course every child should be offered the education that best suits them, but it is also both puzzling and concerning that the number of children in need of special schools have been on the rise in recent years. Either our society is somehow fostering more neurodivergent children or the system has become so narrow that fewer children can fit inside the "normal" system - whatever normal means.
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Comment on Patrick Stewart dead: 'Star Trek' captain, 'X-Men' superhero was 86 in ~movies
winther LinkOh man, this is one of the few celebrity deaths that really got to me :/ Countless hours have I watched him being the best captain of the Enterprise. I will take the time to listen to him...Oh man, this is one of the few celebrity deaths that really got to me :/ Countless hours have I watched him being the best captain of the Enterprise.
I will take the time to listen to him narrating his own autobiography again. I can highly recommend it to everyone. His life story is all kinds of amazing and he narrates it well.
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Comment on Why are there so many topics about Denmark? in ~tildes
winther Link ParentAnd your name sounds Swedish. It is all very confusing.And your name sounds Swedish. It is all very confusing.
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Comment on Manifestos, fear, and ‘loser thinking’: inside Proton’s AI reckoning in ~tech
winther Link ParentGeez, I am not a Proton user but that isn’t exactly reassuring from a company that markets themselves as the high priest of security. Many mistakes in software development leads back to something...Geez, I am not a Proton user but that isn’t exactly reassuring from a company that markets themselves as the high priest of security. Many mistakes in software development leads back to something being done too fast.
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Comment on Proposal: For sensitive topics, if a thread is intended for a particular demographic, there needs another thread open for everyone to discuss without having to join the targeted thread in ~tildes
winther LinkIn general I think it would help quite a bit to just add a small comment when posting a link to something in these kind of topics. When only a link is posted, there is nothing steering the...In general I think it would help quite a bit to just add a small comment when posting a link to something in these kind of topics. When only a link is posted, there is nothing steering the discussion in any direction from the start. Just a few lines like “I found this video/article and my experience is xyz. What are yours?” I would guess be sufficient over creating two threads at once.
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Comment on We are excited to announce that the Iceland DLC for Euro Truck Simulator 2 will be released on 10th November 2026 in ~games
winther LinkI have played both ETS2 and ATS since release and have couple of hundred hours in each. SCS Software really has become a stable trustworthy company in that regard, in how they keep updating the...I have played both ETS2 and ATS since release and have couple of hundred hours in each. SCS Software really has become a stable trustworthy company in that regard, in how they keep updating the game with new maps and upgrades to existing older parts of the map. Currently really enjoying Road Trip in ATS, as the game has ended up being more a less a podcast game for me - the trucking aspect has become less important over the years. Just driving around is enough. Can't wait for Coaches to release for ETS2, because the simplicity of just taking one vehicle from A to B is something I welcome after many years hauling trailers around. Iceland would be the perfect location for driving tourist busses around.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
winther (edited )LinkI have been rewatching some old favorites the last week. Goldeneye was my first Bond movie and Brosnan will always be the Bond I grew up with, and I played the heck out of the Nintendo 64 game, so...I have been rewatching some old favorites the last week.
Goldeneye was my first Bond movie and Brosnan will always be the Bond I grew up with, and I played the heck out of the Nintendo 64 game, so the whole vibe of this film is pure nostalgia. It is very 90s cheesy and Brosnan hasn't quite settled into the character yet, that came with the next film, but it is still a classic.
Also revisited The Fifth Element and that is still wildly entertaining. I love the whole comicbook look and feel of everything. There is tactile sense to the set designs, the costumes, the world building. Bruce Willis is okay as the straight man here, but the real highlight was in the over the top colorful cast of Gary Oldman, Ian Holm, Chris Tucker and Brion James.
Death Wish 3 was sort of a guilty pleasure, though I tend to hate that term. The views on vigilantism and solving gang problems with a big handgun is deeply problematic in every imaginable way. It is just also ridiculous entertaining with how over the top everything is, and the whole shootout scene at the end plays out like a shooting gallery video game.
The first time I watched Friday the 13th Part 2 I wasn't properly in tune with that style of slasher yet, but I have improved my education and mindset, so it was much better this time around. RIP Alice, long live Ginny! That I have since fallen in love with Teenage Sex and Death at Camp Miasma, also made this much more enjoyable with many more references falling into place. Like with Death Wish 3, I can respect and appreciate how committed the film is to its trashiness so to speak. There is no shame in its commitment to T&A, male gaze and overall hornyness.
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Comment on #YesAllMen #NotAllMen #MaybeSomeMen How to be better? in ~life.men
winther Link ParentI think it is a shame that any sort of nuanced perspective gets buried in hashtag wars. The #metoo was the exception that I personally think worked really well, because it was just one person...I think it is a shame that any sort of nuanced perspective gets buried in hashtag wars. The #metoo was the exception that I personally think worked really well, because it was just one person stating something about their own experience and the power of that movement came from numbers alone - with how many could say the same. The various "#all" hashtags inevitably just ends up being weaponized one way or the other.
The more we don't like being lumped in with the "bad" men, the more we nheed to think about how we can help to destroy the culture they (we?) thrive in.
While I mostly agree with this in principle, I also believe it does have a downside that we somehow only accept that rhetoric when in comes to men. Saying #AllMuslims, #AllImmigrants, #AllBlackPeople or whatever is rightfully not accepted in the same shared responsibility. It depends on where you are in life as well, as if you are a relatively successful man with a stable job and maybe a partner and so on, it is easier to not get too hung up on this. But maybe if you are still young, struggling financially and lacking good relationships and generally not feeling life is as easy as some tell you you have it simply by being a man, then rhetoric that indirectly - or at least can be experienced as such - blames you for all kinds of problems you don't do simply because you have a specific gender, then it isn't exactly surprising that some people get picked up by the manosphere. Not sure what, but I would hope there is a less counterproductive way of talking about these things.
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Comment on #YesAllMen #NotAllMen #MaybeSomeMen How to be better? in ~life.men
winther Link ParentI agree with that and I think the video in question is great as it is and not unwarranted or anything. It is her experience and it needs to be shared and listened to, as it is more common than we...I'm kind of confused about all the folks getting up in arms about the video. Have people really not sat on the sidelines of a pretty problematic group chat thread? I mean I'd say if you managed to grow up without doing even that, kudos, but also there may be some memory editing going on. I think the sentiment is true. It doesn't have to be you right this instance, but I would wager that, yes, all men at some point have been at best problematic and at worst - well pretty fucking awful.
I agree with that and I think the video in question is great as it is and not unwarranted or anything. It is her experience and it needs to be shared and listened to, as it is more common than we might think is comfortable to realize. People also learn things differently and I can't speak for everyone of course, but I can understand the initial gut reaction if you see something about how men are still sexists and the examples are very far from your own experience, then it is easy to dismiss it quickly as "not my problem". Depending on personal maturity and experience. And it doesn't help to just say "just educate yourself", because as we have seen women saying in many of these kinds of threads, they often encounter men who clearly have no clue they are doing anything wrong. We can't know our own blind spots. Unknown unknowns are hard to track, obviously. Sometimes someone need to tell you straight to your face about something concrete you are doing for it to land.
Problem is, when women do share their experiences with what I for lack of a better term can call "milder sexism", experiences that aren't outright assault or being called a whore, then they sadly very often gets completely dismissed as overreacting, complaining about stupid things or worse. Maybe men need to be better at sharing personal learning experiences for it to be better recognized and not immediately dismissed.
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Comment on #YesAllMen #NotAllMen #MaybeSomeMen How to be better? in ~life.men
winther Link ParentTrue, but I think it is also a bit of a shame that the framing is something most can't outright recognize and thus easily dismiss it. The framing is someone calling her a whore, and I suspect many...True, but I think it is also a bit of a shame that the framing is something most can't outright recognize and thus easily dismiss it. The framing is someone calling her a whore, and I suspect many will just think "Okay, I don't do that", but then misses that they maybe also can have blind spots in like how they treat pull requests from different developers and if there could be an unconscious bias working there. I think that is why these type of topics often goes off rails, because the framing of the sexists examples that make people go quickly on the defense as "that is definitely not me".
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#YesAllMen #NotAllMen #MaybeSomeMen How to be better?
I am honestly not sure making this post is a good idea, but I want to at least make an honest attempt at this topic and putting it in ~life.men - because it seems silly that this topic tends to...
I am honestly not sure making this post is a good idea, but I want to at least make an honest attempt at this topic and putting it in ~life.men - because it seems silly that this topic tends to get more discussed in ~life.women - and it obviously rarely ends well.
Please approach this with the best good faith intent and lets be civil.
I am 100% in the target group for that video, though I hope this doesn't end up being just another discussion of the same video but the topic in general, as I am a straight white man having worked in tech for two decades. And I am manager with women on my team, and I have been rightfully called out on certain biases and can recognize having glossed over problematic behaviour in the past.
I personally don't take much offense on the #YesAllMen thing, but I can understand why it can be irksome and there is a part of the me where it doesn't quite feel right to me, even though I know it isn't intended that way. It can feel like being lumped together in a "guilt by association" type of way, that we generally don't accept with other groups in society. And what I often have a problem with in these types of discussions, is how a very wide range of problems with very different severity is being lumped together - and I don't think that is fruitful. We see examples of open hostile sexism like "you fucking whore" or outright sexual assault, and most men of course don't recognize themselves in those sort of examples, and thus get defensive. Instead we should be more open to look at all the seemingly "minor" things that aren't as severe, but from what I think I understand from women on being a minority in a workplace is the "death by a thousand cuts"-effect. A constant reminder of seemingly minor things that just adds up, and is rightly being experienced as part of more severe forms of sexism.
Not sure where I am going with this - as I didn't write this as a well thoughtout thesis - just a quick way to try to start a hopefully healthy discussion in the right space, but I assume no men here on Tildes are outright sexually assualting women, but I would 100% believe that most of us still have blind spots that could be improved and is indirectly part of the problem.
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Comment on A deep sense of ease – what the Danes call ‘tryg’ – is a collective responsibility that allows individuals to flourish in ~health.mental
winther LinkInteresting to read an outside perspective on this as a Dane, though I wish the piece was a bit more concrete in what exactly it is we apparently do to make everything tryg. I don't think it is...Interesting to read an outside perspective on this as a Dane, though I wish the piece was a bit more concrete in what exactly it is we apparently do to make everything tryg. I don't think it is much of a conscious effort as such, it is more ingrained and thus harder to explain. And I would wager also harder for many of us to really appreciate, because Danes can complain about everything going to shit in our society as much as everywhere else, but a wider perspective on how things really are comparatively to many other countries can often be lost.
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Comment on Denmark government hack leaked 8.7 million citizen's ID's: the password was "123456" in ~tech
winther (edited )LinkIn case the title is not clear, it is not the CPR system that had that password. It was the admin system of the small private company where their access was misused through. The real problem is...In case the title is not clear, it is not the CPR system that had that password. It was the admin system of the small private company where their access was misused through. The real problem is how lenient access to the system has been given and how little monitoring of usage anomalies there is.
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Comment on Danish government confirms its Central Person Register was hacked – data breach affects eight million citizens and includes names, addresses, and social security numbers in ~tech
winther Link ParentI honestly don't think our IT systems are as such much worse than in other countries, but Denmark is one of the most heavily digitalized countries, so there are more systems and integrations where...I honestly don't think our IT systems are as such much worse than in other countries, but Denmark is one of the most heavily digitalized countries, so there are more systems and integrations where things can go wrong. Haven't gotten any uptick in scams, but everyone should definitely be more aware for weird things now.
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Comment on Danish government confirms its Central Person Register was hacked – data breach affects eight million citizens and includes names, addresses, and social security numbers in ~tech
winther (edited )LinkI consider my social security number (CPR) to be practically public by now. This is just one more big breach among several, though it does seem to be the biggest. Some years ago the motor register...I consider my social security number (CPR) to be practically public by now. This is just one more big breach among several, though it does seem to be the biggest. Some years ago the motor register was breached, so basically everyone with a drivers license. This seems to cover almost everyone, as the breach is larger than the living population of Denmark - as it also includes deceased people.
We should really stop using this number as both an identifier and a password at the same time. To be fair, you can do a lot less with the number alone than before. But it certainly doesn’t help as now attackers have more information to make even more precise phishing attacks and identity thefts.
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Comment on Digital Detox (formerly Screenless Day) discussion: October 2026 in ~life
winther Link ParentThanks for the mention of Foqos. Looks like a really interesting way to deal with it by utilizing something physical. I didn't have a NFT tag around, but just using the barcode from a book that is...Thanks for the mention of Foqos. Looks like a really interesting way to deal with it by utilizing something physical. I didn't have a NFT tag around, but just using the barcode from a book that is on a bookshelf upstairs is enough extra hassle that it just might work. Setting it up to try and limit my needless compulsion to check work stuff in the weekend.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
winther LinkI watched The Vanishing (Spoorloos) from 1988 and it is one of the most unsettling films I have seen in quite a while, though I didn't get there immediately. Apparently Stanley Kubrick has stated...I watched The Vanishing (Spoorloos) from 1988 and it is one of the most unsettling films I have seen in quite a while, though I didn't get there immediately. Apparently Stanley Kubrick has stated it was "the most terrifying film he had seen".
As the title suggests, the premise is pretty straight forward. A married couple on a vacation in France stop at a gas station, the wife goes to buy some soda and disappears without a trace. Rest of the film is how the husband become increasingly obsessive in founding out what happened to her.
In the beginning of the film there is a small detail that kept me puzzled for the entire runtime, and it never becomes resolved - unlike most of the rest of the narrative, and it turns out to be a vital key. It ended up being the type of film that needed to roam around in my head for a while before I could see how deeply unsettling and disturbing it really is. Because right after finishing it, it definitely felt like a fully resolved closed thing.
The detail I am talking about is when Rex leaves the tunnel to get gas, leaving his scared wife behind in the dark, there is a very brief sinister smile on his face. It is a small insertion of doubt on his motivations for the rest of the film. His obsessive search would logically be motivated by love for his wife, but there is a nagging feeling that is not really it. He shares some of the inner darkness with the murderer, cannot deal with the not knowing as he isn't driven by love, but guilt and shame of what he did and perhaps his own deeper darker nature.
This was really a film that needed time for me, as I didn't thought that highly about it while watching it, as everything gets foreshadowed and resolved quite cleanly in the narrative sense. The vital minor details only materialized the day after sealing it is a unique piece of psychological horror. The mystery of the vanishing may be solved, but the inner darkness of everyday men is left without a safe explanation.
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Comment on How has your career changed you? in ~life
winther LinkWorking in IT for about two decades was a comfortable way to not really challenge my stereotypical introverted computer geek persona, but in the last handful of years moving into more management...Working in IT for about two decades was a comfortable way to not really challenge my stereotypical introverted computer geek persona, but in the last handful of years moving into more management and team leader position has definitely reduced my shyness and opened up general social needs. Big social gatherings still drain me, but that is not the same as inherently anti-social. I like working close with people, I enjoy going to the office everyday rather than stay home in a quiet bubble. I can better appreciate and love the un-decidiability and illogical reasoning human beings possess, rather than being annoyed they don't fit into deterministic computer logic. If I should do a big career change, I might even make an attempt at HR.
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Comment on With most information hidden, the game Stratego had stumped AI—until now in ~games
winther Link ParentIt is definitely played widely in Denmark. I played it as a kid and my own kids found it as well from school. Still a great game, easy to learn and hard to master with a great balance of strategy,...It is definitely played widely in Denmark. I played it as a kid and my own kids found it as well from school. Still a great game, easy to learn and hard to master with a great balance of strategy, tactics, luck and poker like bluffing.
Halloween has become decently big in Denmark and very much a yearly tradition in the neighborhood for all the kids to go door to door for candy.
I was home while my wife was out walking around with the kids, and in the span of 2 hours around 150 kids came to our house for candy. We have a decent decorated driveway, various props and sounds effects, but still very low ball compared to some in the neighborhood who go all in and make almost a theme park ride.