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  1. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I had a similar reaction to Stanley Parable. I tend to enjoy nontraditional games (Firewatch and Superliminal are favorites of mine), but Stanley Parable didn't do much for me. I did enjoy the...

    I had a similar reaction to Stanley Parable. I tend to enjoy nontraditional games (Firewatch and Superliminal are favorites of mine), but Stanley Parable didn't do much for me. I did enjoy the first hour or so of play, but then it got so repetitive (by design, admittedly) and I just didn't have any desire to chase down obscure alternate endings or anything like that. The humor was on point though, I'll give it that.

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  2. Comment on What's something that's changed for you as you've gotten older? in ~talk

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    In retrospect I realize almost all of the issues I had with Christianity were largely because I grew up in a fundamentalist congregation. More liberal denominations are substantially more inline...

    In retrospect I realize almost all of the issues I had with Christianity were largely because I grew up in a fundamentalist congregation. More liberal denominations are substantially more inline with my views and had I discovered those first, I think there's probably a good chance I'd still be a Christian. But as it stands, I just put it all behind me and went on with my life under the assumption that there is no higher power. And nothing in life has happened to challenge that view for me, so agnostic I remain.

    2 votes
  3. Comment on What's something that's changed for you as you've gotten older? in ~talk

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    Definitely my views on religion. I grew up southern baptist. Very religious, constantly felt guilty about not being "Christian enough", recommitted my life to Christ countless times alone as a...

    Definitely my views on religion. I grew up southern baptist. Very religious, constantly felt guilty about not being "Christian enough", recommitted my life to Christ countless times alone as a child/teen in my bedroom at night because I thought I was a horrible person, etc. By the time I reached my late teens, I was sick of it. Began questioning it all and decided I was an atheist.

    And so I heavily leaned into making atheism a part of my personality. Got super into the atheism subreddit, got angry about my upbringing, hateful about Christians, basically just turned into an ass hole. Honestly a really embarrassing chapter of my life. I was the poster child for annoying college atheists, basically.

    Eventually as the anger and frustration cooled I started to have a more nuanced view. I still don't believe in a god, but that's like the least important part of who I am. If religion makes other people happy, then more power to them. It just made me feel like garbage and like I was never good enough. That doesn't mean others can't find joy, purpose, or meaning in it. I'd consider myself agnostic at this point.

    In the last few months I've started to dip my toes into Unitarian Universalism to help give me some of the things I liked about church (community, fellowship, etc.) without any of the things I hated. It's a super progressive creed-less religion, so it doesn't conflict with my agnosticism. Lots of Christians, Buddhists, atheists, agnostics, etc. all fall under the UU umbrella.

    16 votes
  4. Comment on Amazon shared Ring security camera and video doorbell footage with police without a warrant in ~tech

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    The annoying thing is that even if you personally don't want or have one, your neighbor across the street can and then your entire house is on camera 24/7. And you can't really do anything about...

    The annoying thing is that even if you personally don't want or have one, your neighbor across the street can and then your entire house is on camera 24/7. And you can't really do anything about it either.

    4 votes
  5. Comment on Good review sites for everything? in ~life

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    The more obscure the topic, the better the subreddit usually. /r/greendawn is my go-to example. Just a fun wholesome subreddit of people making little scenes with their green army men.

    The more obscure the topic, the better the subreddit usually. /r/greendawn is my go-to example. Just a fun wholesome subreddit of people making little scenes with their green army men.

    3 votes
  6. Comment on Good review sites for everything? in ~life

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    I just did this with paint. I had zero idea what paint I needed for a project and the paint cans are confusing as hell and vary wildly in price ($30-$70/gal). Did a quick search for "is <paint...

    I just did this with paint. I had zero idea what paint I needed for a project and the paint cans are confusing as hell and vary wildly in price ($30-$70/gal). Did a quick search for "is <paint brand/type> good? reddit" and quickly found out that it's good enough, so I got the $30 can.

    Although it's good to remember that astroturfing (ads/PR presented as authentic comments) is a thing on reddit, so always check a few different threads across a few different subreddits, if possible.

    4 votes
  7. Comment on I need career advice in ~life

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    I accepted the offer this morning, but I've heard that as well. I made sure to ask a lot about the company culture from the people I was interviewing with and I got nothing but positive feedback....

    I accepted the offer this morning, but I've heard that as well. I made sure to ask a lot about the company culture from the people I was interviewing with and I got nothing but positive feedback. Then I found out one of the guys I spoke to was leaving the company, so he really had nothing to lose. Glassdoor reviews also hyped up the company culture and vacation benefits. So there's always a chance that they're weird about people actually taking vacation, but I've at least done my research about the company culture and think it'll be okay.

    4 votes
  8. Comment on I need career advice in ~life

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    I'll definitely learn more at the new job (which I accepted this morning after a lot of thinking this weekend). I basically work in a vacuum at the current job with zero input from other...

    I'll definitely learn more at the new job (which I accepted this morning after a lot of thinking this weekend). I basically work in a vacuum at the current job with zero input from other developers to push me to do better or to learn from. New job will have a whole team dedicated to the same project I can pull experience from.

    Both jobs are remote, but technically the commute will be longer because coincidentally the new job will line up with my planned move of my home office from inside the house to inside a shed out back.

    4 votes
  9. Comment on I need career advice in ~life

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    I spoke to both my connection at the company (previous manager) and the hiring manager and they're not able to budge. According to my previous manager he pushed really hard to get me as close to...

    I spoke to both my connection at the company (previous manager) and the hiring manager and they're not able to budge. According to my previous manager he pushed really hard to get me as close to my asking salary as possible and where they settled is as high as he could get them to go. Hiring manager basically confirmed that in a roundabout way. So that's unfortunately a dead end.

    4 votes
  10. Comment on I need career advice in ~life

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    No matter what I'm taking a decent sized hit. It doesn't really recoup the 12% base cut. It's definitely a step backwards, but it would position me better for future promotions/raises than where...

    No matter what I'm taking a decent sized hit. It doesn't really recoup the 12% base cut. It's definitely a step backwards, but it would position me better for future promotions/raises than where I'm currently at. So after thinking on this for a day or two now I feel like I need to decide if it's worth taking a risk for a better long-term at the expense of the short-term. And I'm still super conflicted. Probably won't know until I send the text to the hiring manager one way or the other.

    2 votes
  11. Comment on I need career advice in ~life

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    Yeah I wasn't sure if I should share the actual salary or not. But I will say that a year ago when I worked at my previous job, I was making less than I'd be making at this potential job and we...

    Yeah I wasn't sure if I should share the actual salary or not. But I will say that a year ago when I worked at my previous job, I was making less than I'd be making at this potential job and we managed fine. We may need to drop some "nice to haves", but we won't be going broke by any means.

    3 votes
  12. I need career advice

    Long story short I am a web developer that currently makes more money than I've ever made in my life to this point. The downside is that my benefits package is sub-par. Very few vacation days, no...

    Long story short I am a web developer that currently makes more money than I've ever made in my life to this point. The downside is that my benefits package is sub-par. Very few vacation days, no health insurance (though we do get $ on our checks to go toward costs), fairly bare-bones retirement plan, etc. I also feel kind of aimless at this job. There is no clear path for raises or promotions. It's too small of a company for that.

    I got an offer today for a job with a company that a former manager of mine works at (We both left our previous jobs around the same time, so no poaching concerns there). It's an opportunity to change my specialty from backend development (databases, server-side code) to frontend development (HTML, CSS, JS). I've always enjoyed frontend development more than backend. Feel free to giggle about this terminology because it's definitely ridiculous. The job basically resolves all of my benefits issues. Unlimited vacation, pretty good health insurance, and a more robust retirement plan. There are also very clear paths for raises/promotions. In fact one of the first things you do when you get hired is sit down with your manager and department head and plot out a career track for yourself. So in my case I'm aiming for team management or something along those lines in a few years. So they would cater my training and promotions around that. There's a guaranteed yearly raise, plus a nice 5% bonus at end of the year.

    So what's the problem? Because the second job seems perfect, right? Well the second job pays nearly 12% less a year. So what's the problem? Because that's an insane drop in pay, so clearly stay where I'm at, right? Well I was told by my former manager (and potentially new department head) that the plan would be to fast-track me into something closer to my current salary once I'm there for a few months and start excelling at my job. And I trust this guy because he fought for me to get raises twice when I worked under him before. It's rare to work under someone who will go to bat for you, and he was always that guy for me and I've no reason to think he wouldn't be again.

    Because the way I see it, once I get a raise or promotion under my belt I should be pretty close to where I'm at now, but with substantially better benefits. And in a place with more of a future for me than my current job.

    I just really don't know what to do here. I've "made a decision" in my head about a dozen times today, going back and forth between options. I kind of feel like it's worth taking the hit in the short term to be working at a place that will pay off better in the long term. Not just financially, but I'll get to broaden my skill set and actually have a concrete plan for progressing in my career.

    Looking for any advice, or opinions, or whatever. I'm completely torn here.

    edit -- Just wanted to thank everyone here. I decided to accept the job offer. My wife and I are working on a plan to weather the loss of income. Next step is writing the resignation letter....which always sucks. I hate disappointing people and it's a small company that I'm leaivng so my departure will be felt.

    14 votes
  13. Comment on What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out? in ~talk

  14. Comment on What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out? in ~talk

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    I didn't realize there was a difference between "miss" and "mizz" titles for women until a few years ago. I just assumed they were the same title, just pronounced differently because of different...

    I didn't realize there was a difference between "miss" and "mizz" titles for women until a few years ago. I just assumed they were the same title, just pronounced differently because of different accents.

    Also I just (in the last 10 minutes) learned that my original pronunciation of "crayon" as "crown" is totally valid in the state I grew up in. For years I thought it was some childhood mispronunciation because my wife (from a different state) pronounced it "Cray-on" and poked light fun at me for saying it that way. For years now I have had to manually slow down and pronounce that word counter to how I learned it.

    6 votes
  15. Comment on What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out? in ~talk

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    Shows that presented themselves as kid-run (like Zoom, All That, etc.) really made that confusing. Also it wasn't until my teens that I realized that wasn't Michael Jordan's actual family, dog, or...

    Shows that presented themselves as kid-run (like Zoom, All That, etc.) really made that confusing. Also it wasn't until my teens that I realized that wasn't Michael Jordan's actual family, dog, or house in Space Jam

    5 votes
  16. Comment on What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out? in ~talk

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    I was probably too old when I realized that The Wonder Years wasn't a show from the 60s/70s, but rather a show from the 80s/90s about the 60s/70s. I think my dad telling me that he grew up when...

    I was probably too old when I realized that The Wonder Years wasn't a show from the 60s/70s, but rather a show from the 80s/90s about the 60s/70s. I think my dad telling me that he grew up when the show took place is part of what tripped me up. Plus a lot of the shows I watched as a kid were genuinely from the 60s/70s because that stuff made up the bulk of Cartoon Network's lineup in the 90s.

    What's weird to think abut is that if the show aired today with the same time gap, it'd start in 2002, when I was around Kevin's age.

    7 votes
  17. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2022) in ~talk

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    I'm exhausted. I took on a big project at home, turning a shed into a home office, and it's so tiring. The shed came like 80% of the way complete (it was the old office of the company I bought the...

    I'm exhausted. I took on a big project at home, turning a shed into a home office, and it's so tiring. The shed came like 80% of the way complete (it was the old office of the company I bought the shed from), but there's just so much work that needed to be done to get that last 20%. Running electric/internet from the house, replace the flooring, getting the damn thing level, painting, gutter work, replacing some exterior panels, etc. And the contractor I hired to help with some of that has been doing garbage work and is insanely inconsistent with communication and showing up. My dad and I have ended up redoing some of the work, which annoys me because we could've just done that from the get-go and i'd have saved a lot of money. I will say that at the very least the last few weeks have been very fulfilling because I have something productive to do after work that benefits us as a family.

    And then on top of that I'm juggling two projects at work and for some reason decided now was a good time to get a new job with better pay/benefits. So I've been doing interviews and all the prep work required there. I'm super stressed out about the thought of having to give a 2 weeks notice because of how involved I am in the two aforementioned work projects. I don't dislike my current job or the people I work with at all, so I can't even do a "take this job and shove it". It's just a better opportunity presented itself that would allow me to work with a couple of former co-workers I really like.

    And then my twins just turned 3 and I'm waiting for that to hit me. 3 years of parenthood...it's insane. Baby fever is hitting us because we're insane people who miss having a baby. And then our daughter had some really cute interactions with a baby at her birthday party the other day. She kept running over to check on the baby and make sure he was okay and just idk. Terrible reasons to have a third child, especially when we're just starting to get to a state of normal with having kids.

    All while dealing with the usual mood swings and anxiety that comes with my ADHD and depression. I'm not in a particularly bad mental state or anything, but sometimes I just realize how big the hole I've dug for myself is and I'm just waiting for the water to start pouring in, ya know?

    4 votes
  18. Comment on ‘Minions: Rise of Gru’ smashes July 4th box office records with $127.9M opening in ~movies

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    Here's the thing, it's not for you and nobody's forcing you to watch it. It's for children, like entirely. They throw in some tame adult humor here and there to keep the parents from gouging their...

    Here's the thing, it's not for you and nobody's forcing you to watch it. It's for children, like entirely. They throw in some tame adult humor here and there to keep the parents from gouging their eyes out, but it's absolutely for children. And children love it. My 3yo twins are freaking obsessed. I've watch the first Minions movie about three dozen times at least. It's on right now in the other room, in fact. God help me.

    I really enjoyed Despicable Me, but haven't really enjoyed anything that came after it. That being said, I'll probably end up taking my kids to see it in a week or two once we can get a nearly empty theater to ourselves since it'll be their first movie. But again, it's not for me. It's not for you, it's really not for any adult. Some adults like it, but I am not one of them and neither are you. And that's okay.

    4 votes
  19. Comment on What is the most pedantic, arrogant, obnoxious answer for the sentence "Good morning!" you can think of? in ~creative

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    "Yeah? What's so 'morning' about it?"

    "Yeah? What's so 'morning' about it?"

    6 votes
  20. Comment on Slow Social networking thread in ~tech

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    I missed the previous thread, but this looks interesting, so I'll give it a shot. Username is Hamstergeddon_. As for what I'll be writing about...well I'm currently turning a shed into a home...

    I missed the previous thread, but this looks interesting, so I'll give it a shot. Username is Hamstergeddon_. As for what I'll be writing about...well I'm currently turning a shed into a home office and progress is slow enough that a weekly post wouldn't be too infrequent, so maybe I'll go with that. First post will be some background on the project thus far.

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