seila's recent activity
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Comment on Daily Tildes discussion - banning for bad-faith/trolling behavior in ~tildes.official
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentPeople who fetishize trans or nonbinary invididuals.People who fetishize trans or nonbinary invididuals.
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila Link ParentResearch on the nature of censorship is not looking up the dictionary definition of the word. That way leads to an argument of semantics. I did not recommend that. I suppose if I mention using...Research on the nature of censorship is not looking up the dictionary definition of the word. That way leads to an argument of semantics. I did not recommend that. I suppose if I mention using Google I should say I don't mean just using the "I Feel Lucky" function.
You've already accepted my premise that freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from criticism. You have not given an argument that says that criticism is censorship. You have instead discarded my suggestion that censorship requires a systematic or institutional enforcement to have any meaning in this argument by conflating systems and institutions with governments. That is incorrect and misrepresenting my argument, intentional or not.
You can reject the request to avoid words that others perceive as hurtful and enforcing a historical system of oppression. That's your choice. I'd say it's insensitive and tone deaf, but that's your choice. You cannot- in the same breath- conflate criticism with censorship, decry censorship, admit that you are doing the same thing, and elsewhere use "slippery slope" arguments, without putting on display an argument that appears to either be in bad faith or so incoherent that it's indistinguishable.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentThat's kinda my point. You do you, basically. Anyone in the queer community who tries to tell you how to be is not really a positive part of the community.That's kinda my point. You do you, basically. Anyone in the queer community who tries to tell you how to be is not really a positive part of the community.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentI tend not to attend LGBT* social gatherings. I've never felt terribly welcome by the cis LG section of it and since there's a lot of gate-keeping in queer spaces I just sort of do my own thing. I...I tend not to attend LGBT* social gatherings. I've never felt terribly welcome by the cis LG section of it and since there's a lot of gate-keeping in queer spaces I just sort of do my own thing. I understand the importance of political action and I do engage in discussion and awareness stuff; there's just a lot of problems with how the community as a whole handles things- especially with prescriptivist categorizing of people, telling them how they should identify, etc. It's hard to participate when that's the case.
But that's okay! You don't have to participate in the community to be valid in your identity. You don't have to restructure the framework of your personal experience to "count". Existing as a queer person in this society is inherently a political act unfortunately but the amount that you engage with those identity politics is your choice.
All that being said, the queer community is not a monolith. Some places are super welcoming, validating, and just nice to be in. It's nice to have spaces where you're just accepted for who you are and can see people like yourself just existing. I try to cultivate that kind of experience whenever I get a chance.
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila Link ParentYou have a fundamentally different understanding of what "supervising" means I guess. I'm not interested in arguing semantics though.You have a fundamentally different understanding of what "supervising" means I guess. I'm not interested in arguing semantics though.
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila Link ParentCriticism is not censorship. You could use Google to discover this. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom from criticism. You'll also notice that censorship is exclusively related to...Criticism is not censorship. You could use Google to discover this. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom from criticism.
You'll also notice that censorship is exclusively related to institutional or systemic modes of censorship, involving people in authority who may regulate speech. People in authority do not ask nicely. Free speech is not threatened by people who simply ask nicely.
No one has mentioned a ban except you. No one who has participated in the thread so far has the authority to enforce a ban. There are far bigger threats to free speech than people asking nicely.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentI don't think the anecdotal opinion of one person has much merit for this conversation.I don't think the anecdotal opinion of one person has much merit for this conversation.
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila Link ParentI do agree it'll be a long, hard slog. If the rule of law doesn't win in November, I'll just be working that much harder with the DSA.I do agree it'll be a long, hard slog. If the rule of law doesn't win in November, I'll just be working that much harder with the DSA.
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Comment on I was Jordan Peterson’s strongest supporter. Now I think he’s dangerous in ~humanities
seila Link ParentI have met my share of crank professors. In my view being involved in academia does not give someone special credentials that elevate them. The strength of his arguments might be more powerful for...I have met my share of crank professors. In my view being involved in academia does not give someone special credentials that elevate them. The strength of his arguments might be more powerful for those that respond well to appeals to authority but that sense of authoritarian power would work as well for any daddy figure that his following would choose.
If it's not this professorial preacher act it's a "fantastic alpha negotiator" or a "transgressive anti-PC truthsayer" or your choice of the grab bag of troll archetypes. The common denominator is the figurehead gives these people justification for their feelings of betrayal and frustration. Added bonus: successfully trolls the media into awarding him their attention and ire. The mask of the figurehead might change but the play remains the same.
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila Link ParentYeah, midterm elections. If we get some new folks, even more reasonable Republicans, we might see Congress actually enforcing the law and reigning in this stuff.Yeah, midterm elections. If we get some new folks, even more reasonable Republicans, we might see Congress actually enforcing the law and reigning in this stuff.
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Comment on I was Jordan Peterson’s strongest supporter. Now I think he’s dangerous in ~humanities
seila LinkJordan Peterson isn't dangerous. There's nothing special about him. He's a dime a dozen. You can find a thousand other shlocky trolls espousing the same demagogic bullshit on YouTube. He's just...Jordan Peterson isn't dangerous. There's nothing special about him. He's a dime a dozen. You can find a thousand other shlocky trolls espousing the same demagogic bullshit on YouTube. He's just lucky because Milo is out of favor and he happened to be in the right place at the right time to become the new darling.
His following would exist without him, they'd just pick another Peterson. We should be talking about them, the danger they represent, and not lionizing this troll with more free press.
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Comment on On NSFW Content Rules in ~tildes
seila Link ParentI mean, it's a free website. Deimos doesn't have to include anything or allow any discussion. I just think it would be ethically wrong to ban NSFW discussion. Also, you're either intentionally...I mean, it's a free website. Deimos doesn't have to include anything or allow any discussion. I just think it would be ethically wrong to ban NSFW discussion.
Also, you're either intentionally using terms to be inflammatory or ignorant that there's A. Proper terms to use and B. More than one kind of sex worker. I'd appreciate it if you didn't do that.
I'm suggesting that tildes can have NSFW categories, some of which could be for sex workers to discuss the industry, their rights, whatever. As for it being a place for their work- I said in another post, if we allow one kind of creative or self promotion why not the others? If a smut author wants to post and share their work, shouldn't they be as welcome as any other creative?
There's more types of support than financial support. Being welcomng to sex workers is something that is actually rare- especially with FOSTA/SESTA right now. https://www.engadget.com/2018/04/11/fosta-sesta-silencing-sex-workers/
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Comment on Rudy Giuliani says US President probably can pardon himself in ~society
seila LinkThey're gunning to kill the rule of law. The argument from the memo that the NYT recently published showed their argument was that the president couldn't obstruct justice because he IS justice....They're gunning to kill the rule of law. The argument from the memo that the NYT recently published showed their argument was that the president couldn't obstruct justice because he IS justice.
November can't come soon enough.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentBisexuality is often erased by Gay/Lesbian folks. Pansexuality is a term that is sort of obscure and also gets used (from my experience) by people trying to sound sexually progressive and...Bisexuality is often erased by Gay/Lesbian folks. Pansexuality is a term that is sort of obscure and also gets used (from my experience) by people trying to sound sexually progressive and enlightened.
I use Bi because we're still in a situation where people can't or won't believe bisexuality exists.
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Comment on US President Donald Trump says June 12th summit with North Korea's Kim Jong Un is back on in ~news
seila Link ParentIt's a shitty negotiation tactic that might work in egoistic "powerplay" business deals but does not benefit a country who has to maintain a reputation. Madman theory didn't work.It's a shitty negotiation tactic that might work in egoistic "powerplay" business deals but does not benefit a country who has to maintain a reputation. Madman theory didn't work.
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Comment on On NSFW Content Rules in ~tildes
seila Link ParentThis argument works for anything anyone thinks is weird or annoying. You don't have to subscribe to hypothetical ~kink. I would back (financially support via patreon) tildes if it supported sex...This argument works for anything anyone thinks is weird or annoying. You don't have to subscribe to hypothetical ~kink.
I would back (financially support via patreon) tildes if it supported sex work, sex positive discussion, and was a welcoming space for the "weird". I do that in other places; I don't see why this should be an exception.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentThat's a good question. It varies from person to person. Some folks know pretty much as soon as they're aware it's possible - some folks don't know until late in life. I finally put a name to...That's a good question. It varies from person to person. Some folks know pretty much as soon as they're aware it's possible - some folks don't know until late in life. I finally put a name to being NB in my mid twenties, but I had known something was up since a young age.
Very basically there are two hallmarks, but these are by no means definitive and some trans folks don't experience either of them:
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Gender dysphoria: When one feels uncomfortable being assigned or identified as a gender. This can be an intense feeling of shame, or it can be as simple as just feeling something is off.
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Gender euphoria: The flip side! Has someone gendered you and you got a rush of excitement? Imagine being on the phone and someone Sir-ing or Ma'am-ing you. If one of those makes you smile, that's probably the one you feel gender euphoria for.
A person may be uncomfortable with the pronouns people call them. Or maybe their name. Or even their physical body. It's important to remember that gender is a spectrum. So if you feel uncomfortable with what you're assigned as, it doesn't mean you're necessarily the binary opposite. Sometimes people are a bit over in between the binaries, sometimes they're completely unrelated to them. So you could be uncomfortable with your current pronouns but completely okay with your anatomy. You could be fine with the pronouns but maybe want to change your name. Maybe you're fine with your body over all but would prefer voice training. There's a whole lot of variation and this is by no means an exhaustive or authoritative post on the matter.
If you are questioning (you or anyone else reading this) it's a good idea to do some research on the subject and read other people's experiences. There might be stuff there to connect to.
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Comment on Queer 101 - Ask your questions here in ~lgbt
seila Link ParentIf you feel comfortable with heteroflexible, that's an option. Polysexual is another term I've seen used, as it can mean "Attracted to more than one gender expression but not all". I would avoid...If you feel comfortable with heteroflexible, that's an option. Polysexual is another term I've seen used, as it can mean "Attracted to more than one gender expression but not all". I would avoid appending hetero to skoliosexual or ceterosexual as those terms are questionable- folks are kinda uncertain about specifying that one is attracted to nonbinary genders since chasers are a thing.
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Comment on Hey tilders, how many of us are queer? in ~talk
Good ban. I think allowing people to show themselves for having a poor method of engagement online is enough to establish the need for removal from a community, especially when the focus is on not forcing people to sift through the chaff.