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  1. Comment on Armed doesn't mean dangerous: Black gun owners are often portrayed negatively. One photographer set out to change that. in ~misc

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    Hardly the most dangerous pet a person can get. Dog temperament is due to their training and environment, not inherent to the breed itself. It's harmful to perpetuate stereotypes about pit bulls...

    Hardly the most dangerous pet a person can get. Dog temperament is due to their training and environment, not inherent to the breed itself. It's harmful to perpetuate stereotypes about pit bulls that simply aren't true. They're great, kind dogs that have been stigmatized due to their use in dog fighting. Pit bulls are some of the nicest, most loyal dogs you can find.

    And, at any rate, I think it's fucked up (and racist) to stereotype a person in a photograph as having a "domestic abuser vibe" just because of the type of dog they have. Black men in America are constantly assailed for being "threatening," much like the pit bull in the picture, and while your statement isn't explicit, the prejudice is clear. And to further assert that you'd get harmed or killed because you saw a black person in public with a dog or a gun? God forbid.

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  2. Comment on Armed doesn't mean dangerous: Black gun owners are often portrayed negatively. One photographer set out to change that. in ~misc

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    I, for one, am glad to see a celebration of Black gun ownership. It's about damn time. And these photographs are lovely portraits, too. They're soft, intimate, and empowered. I particularly like...

    I, for one, am glad to see a celebration of Black gun ownership. It's about damn time. And these photographs are lovely portraits, too. They're soft, intimate, and empowered.

    I particularly like this quote:

    “Total avoidance of guns teaches fear,” says Datrelle Black, of Killeen. “We should inform our children of gun safety.”

    I grew up around guns all my life. Guns aren't scary. Irresponsible gun handling is scary. There is an etiquette of demonstrating a working knowledge of how to safely handle a firearm. If you are unaware of that etiquette, then sure, all guns look scary. I've been in a situation where someone "jokingly" brandished a handgun in their home at me. It was suuuper uncomfortable. He never made a show of removing the magazine, racking the slide, or locking it. That encounter was stressful because of the lack of etiquette. It's akin to being in the passenger seat as a driver decides to drift their mustang around a corner (also happened to me - college kids are stupid) without asking your consent.

    In these photos, the people featured are at their homes, holding firearms responsibly. It normalizes Black citizens owning the power structure inherent to the firearm in a positive way (as opposed to the racist label of "criminal" that has been in lock step in media portrayal of black gun owners). It's far more comforting to see a conscientious exercise of rights than someone openly carrying at Home Depot to make a statement.

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  3. Comment on What are your favourite radio stations? in ~music

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    I used to listen to a rock station in my area called "Planet Rock". They played so much good stuff and introduced me to some of my favorite bands, like Incubus and Young the Giant in the early...

    I used to listen to a rock station in my area called "Planet Rock". They played so much good stuff and introduced me to some of my favorite bands, like Incubus and Young the Giant in the early 2010s. They got taken over around 2012ish and the channel got really poor. Recently I found a Sirius station called Turbo that plays a lot of the same hard rock, which has been a big nostalgia hit for me lately.

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  4. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    I recently signed up for Today's Plan to utilize their automated training plan generator to add some structure to my cycling workouts. I have a Stages Dash bike computer, which has its website...

    I recently signed up for Today's Plan to utilize their automated training plan generator to add some structure to my cycling workouts. I have a Stages Dash bike computer, which has its website built on Today's Plan, so I was familiar with TP already. The catch for me with Stages' site is that I couldn't auto-generate workouts that exclude a power meter, since I don't have a power meter.

    I really like the Today's Plan website and their workout analytics. It's helping me make the most out of my computer and heart rate monitor, and I think the information they make avialable to self-trained athletes is invaluable.

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  5. Comment on Remora - carbon capture for semi trucks in ~enviro

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    This has me really hopeful. I grew up around 18-wheelers, mostly with their hoods up, axles off, and their leaf springs pulled apart. I've heard that the new truck controls and emissions...

    This has me really hopeful. I grew up around 18-wheelers, mostly with their hoods up, axles off, and their leaf springs pulled apart. I've heard that the new truck controls and emissions restrictions are making trucks far more difficult to repair and it's causing a lot of downtime. Many operators are opting not avoid newer trucks or are specifically getting older trucks/rebuilding engines and getting them properly tuned.

    For those that don't know, 18-wheelers used to run with sulfur in the diesel. The sulfur served as a lubricant. Nowadays, the catalytic converters on trucks work in conjunction with the computer: the computer runs the truck rich, then lean, and the catalytic converter captures pollutants in the exhaust. Sulfur poisons these converters, so it is discontinued in the US (and I'm sure in Europe too). The added complexity of the computer and rich/lean scheme makes the trucks hard to repair.

    I have no doubt that effective carbon capture would be an excellent way to reduce the complexity of big rigs, and I hope this project really makes it.

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  6. Comment on Want to borrow that e-book from the library? Sorry, Amazon won’t let you. in ~books

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    This is of interest to me because I'm extremely supportive of e-book checkouts from the library, especially in the pandemic times. Moreover, I find myself extremely frustrated when digital...

    This is of interest to me because I'm extremely supportive of e-book checkouts from the library, especially in the pandemic times. Moreover, I find myself extremely frustrated when digital equivalents to physical items are treated, regulated, or otherwise handled differently. If I buy a physical book, I can do whatever I want with it. Lend it to friends, sell it, donate it, and so on. But DRM locks, region locks, and this example of Amazon's extreme industry reach prevent me from doing the same with e-books. It's mind blowing to me that there aren't stronger rules that regulate that digital books should be treated the same as physical books.

    Edit: apologies that the article is paywalled. The gist is that Amazon self-publishes books and they are keeping libraries from buying e-books to rent to patrons. Instead, Amazon has a $10/month subscription service to have unlimited access to their library. But, because they publish so many books, it's a real problem for access. And, libraries pay more for e-books and audiobooks than we do (or for regular books), but they occasionally have expiration dates or a limit on how many times they may be loaned out.

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  7. Comment on Grammarly's predatory model and cultural biases in ~humanities

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    My boss is a non-native English speaker and she uses grammarly with great success. I wish my native English coworkers would use it sometimes too. We have messages riddled with grammar, that looks...

    My boss is a non-native English speaker and she uses grammarly with great success. I wish my native English coworkers would use it sometimes too. We have messages riddled with grammar, that looks like this, because of too many commas, in the sentence. It serves exactly the point you're making here. Useful tool, but no substitute for education.

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  8. Comment on Meghan and Harry interview: Racism claims, duke 'let down' by dad, and duchess on Kate in ~news

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    Unironically yes, poor royals. No one should be subject to the kind of vile comments levied at this couple by the tabloids. This interview highlights that racist treatment she's constantly...

    Unironically yes, poor royals. No one should be subject to the kind of vile comments levied at this couple by the tabloids. This interview highlights that racist treatment she's constantly received is no easier because of her status. In fact, Markle reveals that she was kept from seeking mental health support over suicidal ideation as a result of her ill-treatment because the optics were bad, which is just cruel. You can feel bad for the royal couple for the same reasons you'd feel bad for anyone else that was being bullied, harassed, or on the receiving end of racist remarks.

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  9. Comment on WandaVision | Episode 9 Discussion Thread in ~tv

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    I stopped watching the Marvel movies after the first Avengers. Didn't have the time or interest to make it to the theaters. But, I've finished watching WandaVision and was floored for the entire...

    I stopped watching the Marvel movies after the first Avengers. Didn't have the time or interest to make it to the theaters. But, I've finished watching WandaVision and was floored for the entire show. It gave me strong Westworld vibes without the violence. I liked WandaVision so much that I've started at the beginning of the MCU and I watching all the movies in time-line order. I'm up to the Winter Soldier, in which the Easter egg sets up Wanda and Pietro. I'm excited to get the full context of the time line leading up to WandaVision and it's a testament to how good the writing is that it stands on its own while simultaneously incorporating so many details from the movies.

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  10. Comment on What's hard about being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic? in ~talk

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    I think you can have romantic feelings for more than one person. I think that's the tough thing about feelings - you don't really decide to feel them or know when to feel them. What can be decided...

    I think you can have romantic feelings for more than one person.

    I think that's the tough thing about feelings - you don't really decide to feel them or know when to feel them. What can be decided is if you feel romatinc feelings and you're in a relationship, and they're for the wrong person, you avoid situations that precipitate those feelings.

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  11. Comment on What's hard about being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic? in ~talk

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    This is an excellent example that hits right to the point of your question. I have been thinking about this somewhat lately and think it falls, in large part, on intent. Please do not assume that...

    What is the difference, for example, between having dinner with a best friend and with a partner? Have you ever had a partner for which having dinner with them felt like having dinner with a best friend?

    This is an excellent example that hits right to the point of your question. I have been thinking about this somewhat lately and think it falls, in large part, on intent. Please do not assume that I have written the following thinking it is sacrosanct or a rationally sound concept.

    An example: I have two best friends. One is my partner, whom I am to marry, and I am in love with her. I also love my other best friend (Friend B). She will be the Best Woman at my wedding, alongside my groomsmen. I am not in love with my best friend. This is where intent plays a big part in what I think romance is. Let's assume the dinner in question is casual. No fancy clothes, no special occasion. Dinner just because.

    When I have dinner with my partner, that dinner rests atop many other moments in our relationship. These are moments that exist beyond what a close friend would know. Because of this, we aren't "catching up". Rather, we are on a date. It's an opportunity for me to express to my partner that she is the most important person in my life, and I want to do everything I can so she wants to remain in that status. To me, romance implies exclusivity and sincerity.

    When I have dinner with a friend, it is an opportunity to catch up. The topics between a friend dinner and a partner dinner may be similar, as may be the food and location. But my friendship is built on far fewer shared moments in aggregate than my relationship with my partner. So while aspects of a friend dinner may be "romantic", the dinner itself is not romance insofar as I have no intention to elevate my best friend to the same place in my life as a romantic partner.

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  12. Comment on What's hard about being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic? in ~talk

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    I don't share often, so I'm really happy you got something out of it. I thought a lot about whether I "qualified" to identify as ace, since I didn't either know if it could fluctuate either. I...

    I don't share often, so I'm really happy you got something out of it. I thought a lot about whether I "qualified" to identify as ace, since I didn't either know if it could fluctuate either. I gathered that people have lots of different individual experiences, and at the end of the day it's not something I share with people in my personal life, and for that I'm not trying to enter any irl LGBT spaces or really anywhere else on the internet (other than this thread), so I don't worry much about self-identifying.

    I look at my own personal sexuality more like a pattern of behavior as opposed to a strict binary "I am" or "I am not" something. So when I consider an overarching trend, I saw that it wasn't just missing attraction/desire to my partner, but I didn't feel it toward strangers or anyone else. The lack of desire occurred repeatedly and for long stretches, despite being quite satisfied with everything else in my life and relationship. Sexuality is nebulous and I am only somewhat more well-equipped to talk about mine. Good luck in your journey and try not to worry too much!

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  13. Comment on What's hard about being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic? in ~talk

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    Being in a long-term, committed relationship with a partner who isn't asexual. This used to be a more significant problem for our relationship in the past than it is now. During our relationship...

    Being in a long-term, committed relationship with a partner who isn't asexual.

    This used to be a more significant problem for our relationship in the past than it is now. During our relationship (~7 years), I've gone through periods of months where I felt no sexual attraction or desire, effectively stymying our sex life. Then, for a short period, my attraction would return, only to fade away once more. I consider myself in the "grey-A" space because of this. In the past, I had no concept of the asexual spectrum, so it led to feelings that made me feel emasculated and broken, and made my partner feel unwanted.

    Once I learned more about asexuality and learned more of the language regarding sexuality, I was able to have a constructive and ongoing conversation with my partner about myself. This growth has greatly improved what was once a challenging and tense aspect of our relationship.

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  14. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    There was finally a day in the 50 F temperature range, so my partner and I made a point to go ride our bikes for the first outdoor ride of the year. It wasn't a particularly long ride (6 mi/700ft...

    There was finally a day in the 50 F temperature range, so my partner and I made a point to go ride our bikes for the first outdoor ride of the year. It wasn't a particularly long ride (6 mi/700ft ascent), but about 10 of the 12 hills we rode were above 10% grade. No definitive data due to a bike computer bug, but whatever the grades were they were kicking our butt. The indoor trainer definitely can't match the intensity of the hills, but it was great to have some baseline fitness already.

    I'm really looking forward to extending the route length or riding it in multiple laps to get ready for some bigger rides in the Appalachians this summer.

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  15. Comment on 3D CAD software provider Dassault Systèmes announces Solidworks for Makers and Solidworks for Students in ~hobbies

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    I had the opposite experience in my degree, interestingly. We were taught Solidworks in a drafting class but I learned no Autodesk products. Ansys has a free student version on their site which...

    I had the opposite experience in my degree, interestingly. We were taught Solidworks in a drafting class but I learned no Autodesk products. Ansys has a free student version on their site which bundles Spaceclaim, which I think is a strong competitor to Solidworks.

  16. Comment on The story of Cajun Mardi Gras - how do you celebrate Mardi Gras/Fat Tuesday? in ~humanities

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    I ate one of those today! My friend's grandparents used to have them (they were Polish), so she had one delivered to my apartment as a cross-over gift.

    I ate one of those today! My friend's grandparents used to have them (they were Polish), so she had one delivered to my apartment as a cross-over gift.

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  17. Comment on The story of Cajun Mardi Gras - how do you celebrate Mardi Gras/Fat Tuesday? in ~humanities

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    I see @mycketforvirrad's post about Swedish Fat Tuesday celebration. It made me want to hear how everyone else that celebrates does so! The short video tells the side of the Cajun Mardi Gras, or...

    I see @mycketforvirrad's post about Swedish Fat Tuesday celebration. It made me want to hear how everyone else that celebrates does so! The short video tells the side of the Cajun Mardi Gras, or what my friends and I would call "rural" Mardi Gras, since it mainly takes place in smaller communities. It's a pretty dramatic departure from the floats and pomp in New Orleans, and while rife with its own regressive issues, it's a cultural touchstone that I wanted to share with you all.

    Louisiana Mardi Gras is double canceled this year due to an ice storm and COVID, which I'm sure has cancelled many other religious and non-religious celebrations world wide. Today is also my birthday, and at least as I celebrate from the cold north, I have strannge solace knowing my family and friends back home have the same weather on their Mardi Gras. Just another 35 years until my birthday falls on Mardi Gras again...

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  18. Comment on Sending stuff around the world in ~talk

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    Disclaimer: I am not a professional or a business person. I researched the shit out of importation to the United States when I brought in a valuable item in this summer. If you plan to send a lot...

    Disclaimer: I am not a professional or a business person. I researched the shit out of importation to the United States when I brought in a valuable item in this summer.

    If you plan to send a lot of product, it may be worth looking into hiring a customs broker? For the one-off shipment, the EMS mail service is a good way to send internationally for cheap. That's USPS for the United States, who will hand it off to another national post office or courier. FedEx and UPS seem to have different rules depending on the volume of business you do, but they have "fast lanes" that can expedite the import process for you.

    Normally your client/receiver is responsible for customs duties and whatnot. So that might not technically be your problem. Food, like coffee beans, will be interesting. It may fall under different categories depending on if it's roasted or not. In the US, you might be held up by the FDA if you're importing.

    If it's packaged mailed in a sealed bag, you'd probably be able to write a customs declaration and send it fairly straightforward. The courier can usually charge your client any customs fees at the time of delivery.

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